The LGBT rambling thread!

[DustyWolfe]

damn.. I feel like doing a poll but I am afraid it will get all confused with the general board.
Instead I am going to ask the question and tally it up myself.
Who do you think is the best gay/lesbian performer (musician)
Who is the best gay/lesbian actor
Who is the best gay/lesbian author

*prepares to tally the votes*

 

[babyboo]

Who do you think is the best gay/lesbian performer (musician)

* Melissa Etheridge wins this category hands down for me. Both her and her music are filled with a passion that consumes me whenever I listen to it.

Who is the best gay/lesbian actor

* Well, the lesbian in me wants to say Ellen Degeneres because I think she's hilarious but I'll have to go with Rupert Everett who is super handsome and even more talented

Who is the best gay/lesbian author

*Not sure on this one... suggestions anyone?*

 

[HotXBunz]

Hope you don't mind me bustin up in your space with some heavy stuff. This thread is a great idea.

I read where you had asked for our own forum. How is that coming?

Back a few pages ago someone was discussing bi sexuality and how some folks don't like bisexuals. I do not subscribe to this line of thought but as a GLBT activist I understand it and want to share it with ya'll. Prepare for boring political rhetoric. LOL

The straight community often thinks our lifestyle is a chioce. They see us as sick, selfish, sexually motivated and perverted. Harsh but true. Listen to any Christian broadcasting and you will get an ear full.

Anyway, bisexuality is regarded as political suicide. It feeds the BS the straight community hears about what we are all about. We are trying to find genetic links to our sexuality and all of a sudden it is chic to be bi-curious. This puts us back light years politically. The moral majority uses this to prove and support their position that we can choose this lifestyle and can be "cured".

Personally I wish we could do without labels because all they do is separate people, although I really like "cupcake", LOL but in today's society where every group has to be counted in order to be recognized, numbers equal power. Grants and studies are approved because of numbers and the more out folks there are the less of an aberation we will be.

Do I reccommend everyone jumping out of the closet? NO! For some it could be death. That's me, always the drama queen LOL however, danger is a reality in our world. Everyone has to make those choices based on their own situation.

This is a great space and I am happy to have found it. Sorry I busted in on your fun topics and delightful flirting but it appeared some of you were wondering what the big deal was in the community regarding bisexuality. I figured I could shed some light. Wish I had found this space sooner. I agree with the consensus, labels are BS.

Now on with your regular scheduled programing.

 

[DustyWolfe]

damn.. I feel like doing a poll but I am afraid it will get all confused with the general board.
Instead I am going to ask the question and tally it up myself.
Who do you think is the best gay/lesbian performer (musician)
Who is the best gay/lesbian actor
Who is the best gay/lesbian author

*prepares to tally the votes*

To answer my own survey...
Musician- Kristie Stremmel
actor- Chloe Sevingy (runner up would be Clea Duvall)
author- Nevada Barr

 

[DustyWolfe]

Hope you don't mind me bustin up in your space with some heavy stuff. This thread is a great idea.

I read where you had asked for our own forum. How is that coming?
I agree with the consensus, labels are BS.

Your not busting up anything, that is why this forum is LGBT
Your bi so you are welcome to post.

I PM'd Laurel but have heard nothing back from her yet, so I don't know what is up yet.

Yes, labels are BS... Some people use them as descriptors and I guess if that suits them then that is fine. I personally don't like labels though, because like you I agree that it causes us to seperate ourselves.
Unfortunately in the gay community especially with lesbians it is how we are defined. And yes seperated. If you look up clubs on yahoo there are seperate clubs for butches and femmes.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Life is grand

It's amazing how a few things can change your whole outlook.
I moved and have been trying to pull things together. I found a counselor to help me with some issues that I am working on and she herself is gay. I told her I would have trouble paying for the first few sessions so she is giving me a discount.
I went to a wonderful bookstore today as well. It's called Book Woman and I found it absolutely delightful. As I paid for a book that I bought I noticed that they were hiring. So as soon as I figure out what the heck a cover letter is I am going to do that and resume and hopefully get a job there.
Life is good.... Really good...

 

[JenJ]

Yes that is amazing and such good luck things are falling into place for you since you moved home.

 

[DustyWolfe]

I know.. I guess I really was meant to be here. There is such a large gay community. Even a gay realestate agency. And several women's groups. I think I am going to do just fine. Now just gotta get the parents to accept me.

 

[JusticeLupus]

Wow... that is really cool. You said you are in Austin right? There is a really large lesbian community there. You just need to find out about some of the meetings. I see that you like soccer? I know that there used to be a gay soccer league there run by various bars. Check it out grrl!

 

[JenJ]

Yes you were really meant to be here.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Wow... that is really cool. You said you are in Austin right? There is a really large lesbian community there. You just need to find out about some of the meetings. I see that you like soccer? I know that there used to be a gay soccer league there run by various bars. Check it out grrl!

Mmmm soccer.........

 

[DustyWolfe]

Yes you were really meant to be here.

I sure as heck hope so lol

 

[JenJ]

everything will work out just fine

 

[DustyWolfe]

*grins* as long as I have wonderful people to support me I know I can accomplish anything

 

[DustyWolfe]

So... I was driving down one of the busier streets in south Austin today and listening to a lesbian band called Bitch and Animal...
It's nice and cool out today and I had my windows rolled down, with my music moderately loud.

I stop at a light and a girl in this convertable pulls up. The song "Scrap Metal" is playing and while I am waiting for the light to change colors the lyrics get to the part that says "I wanna go down on you, drive my fingers round on you, open four lanes wide with you..." I turn my head and look over at her and start to blush because I know she is looking at me after that.

Yes, she was looking at me, then she starts messing with a remote to her cd player and cranks up "Best Cock on the Block" from the same cd I was listening to and gives me a thumbs up. LOL then the light changed, she waved and took off.

It was fucking funny

 

[JenJ]

lol that is kinda funny

 

[DustyWolfe]

*giggles* What are the chances of that happening again? LOL

 

[DustyWolfe]

I was just wondering how old everyone around here was when they first realized that they were Bi- or gay and what made them realize this. Of course, I am not going to post my own story until at least one other person does lol.. Cause I don't know if anyone is interested in this topic.

 

[JenJ]

I was probably 15 or so when I figured out I was bi I had a huge crush on the co captain of my cheerleading squad. First crushes you never forget.

 

[DustyWolfe]

I was probably 15 or so when I figured out I was bi I had a huge crush on the co captain of my cheerleading squad. First crushes you never forget.

Oh wow..
I was about 16... When my friend Jamie wasn't around I typically ate lunch in the student center with some other friends or bought something from one of the vendors and went to one of my teacher's classrooms. I've never really been surrounded by friends.

One day I was sitting in the student center alone studying and this beautiful girl comes and sits next to me. (mind you I was very skinny and very feminine back then) Some guys walk over to the table and act like they want to sit down. I start to get up and she puts her hand on my shoulder then sits down in my lap and smiles at me. "Hiya, I'm Christy but most of my friends call me Christ "What's your name?" I introduce myself and she gets up and asks me if want to go to talk. We walk out to her car and listen to music for awhile. I can't take my eyes off of her and she notices. "Like what you see baby?" I nod my head and she leans forward and kisses me on the lips. I never saw her again but I was never the same after that. I thought that I liked women before this but wasn't sure. THis just made it more recognizable. I considered myself bi at this point.

 

[JenJ]

oh wow

 

[DustyWolfe]

*giggles* Yeah.. it was amazing....

 

[DustyWolfe]

Has anyone out there ever been to MCC? A Metropolitan Community Church? I found one here in Austin and I am thinking about trying it. I am not sure what to expect though. I guess it has to be better than going to a straight church and be put into singles classes and be all awkward lol

 

[DustyWolfe]

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately. For some reason this song just really touches me. It's about Matthew Shepard. I don't understand how any human can kill another. Hate is such a poisonous thing.
And yes... Hate crimes are committed in the name of love. Because we love differently from straight people.

This is Scarecrow by Melissa Etheridge.

Scarecrow

Showers of your crimson blood
Seep into a nation calling up a flood
Of narrow minds who legislate
Thinly veiled intolerance
Bigotry and hate

But they tortured and burned you
They beat you and they tied you
They left you cold and breathing
For love they crucified you

I can't forget hard as I try
This silhouette against the sky

Scarecrow crying
Waiting to die wondering why
Scarecrow trying
Angels will hold carry your soul away

This was our brother
This was our son
This shepherd young and mild
This unassuming one
We all gasp this can't happen here
We're all much too civilized
Where can these monsters hide

But they are knocking on our front door
They're rocking in our cradles
They're preaching in our churches
And eating at our tables

I search my soul
My heart and in my mind
To try and find forgiveness
This is someone child
With pain unreconciled
Filled up with father's hate
Mother's neglect
I can forgive But I will not forget

Scarecrow crying
Waiting to die wondering why
Scarecrow trying
Rising above all in the name of love

 

[DustyWolfe]

Why is it that people can't just accept us for the way we are. I'm in counseling now because of what I have been through, but my parents are hinting around that I really need it because I am gay. They won't come out and say it but I know they are thinking it. My brother told them "I'm glad she is sticking with her therapy so she can get things straight" HA... yea... whatever. I used to want to be straight but not anymore... I'm happy with who I am. Now I just have to figure out how to tell my family that I am in love and getting married to the kindest, sweetest, most understanding beautiful on the face of the earth within the next two years. Mom already knows I am moving up north to go to school, she just doesn't fully know why. She knows that Jen is coming down in August and has offered to babysit for us so we can go to dinner and such. Who knows what they are thinking?

Does anyone actually read this thread?