The New Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[LallyH]

I don't like my new avatar much.....

I hope whoever changed it puts the old one back soon...

Thank you

 

[Endless_Night]

I don't like my new avatar much.....

I hope whoever changed it puts the old one back soon...

Thank you

Like.

And like.

 

[MeekMe]

I'm sorry. This does not compute.

It's typically in the high 60s low 70s for us this time of year. I can't handle much colder than that. (>_<)

 

[LallyH]

You're on a campaign to confuse me, aren't you?

I'm not that clever!

Someone who is clever, though, managed to change my avatar for a while, but has since relented and changed it back. And I cannot begin to tell you how much that confused me...

 

[midwestyankee]

I'm not that clever!

Someone who is clever, though, managed to change my avatar for a while, but has since relented and changed it back. And I cannot begin to tell you how much that confused me...

Ah, I see. I hadn't noticed the changed av. I certainly hope it's not that teenager who thinks that the relationship in 50 Shades is abusive.

 

[LallyH]

Ah, I see. I hadn't noticed the changed av. I certainly hope it's not that teenager who thinks that the relationship in 50 Shades is abusive.

I think the person responsible is no longer a teenager...

 

[cfuhrer]

What I really came here for...

(>_<) I can't work in the cold! 50F is too cold!

This time of year that is t-shirt weather in these parts, if the wind isn't blowing.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

My daughter (13) posted on her FB status - 'if you think there's nothing wrong with 50 Shades of Grey, delete me immediately'.....not quite sure what she's thinking there and I don't like to ask

But then one of the responses from another 13 year old was - ' it doesn't correctly depict a BDSM relationship there are signs of abuse and forced intercourse in the book'

In one way, I'm pleased that they don't see it as a good influence, but I must admit I'm a bit gobsmacked by their level of knowledge about the whole thing.

And I'm dreading the influx of media attention about that film.....

In a similar vein, Dan Savage's latest column offers support for the next generation of young sadists.

While this kid is obviously more open and socially skilled than I was at 15 (and yes, that isn't a high bar), I wish I'd had anyone in my experience saying anything as remotely supportive and humane as the stuff in the discussion. The mom is freaked, but she's trying.

 

[LallyH]

In a similar vein, Dan Savage's latest column offers support for the next generation of young sadists.

While this kid is obviously more open and socially skilled than I was at 15 (and yes, that isn't a high bar), I wish I'd had anyone in my experience saying anything as remotely supportive and humane as the stuff in the discussion. The mom is freaked, but she's trying.

That's a really good article, and hopefully will help to calm mum down a bit

I've always had fairly open discussions about sex with my kids - they started asking questions when they were quite small and I was always quite happy to answer, in the typical no-nonsense, blunt, factual way that mums talk about anything But I've noticed as they've got older that they are now way more uncomfortable than me about any conversation where sex is concerned!

Until this film, that is....daughter has been waxing eloquent about how it is anti-feminist and promotes domestic violence, all opinions garnered from the infallible source known as 'the internet'. But it's the one area where I don't feel I can pitch in without betraying a lot more knowledge about the whole thing than 'boring old mum' should have. Hubby has already made warning noises about not encouraging any discussions on this subject in case one of us lets something incriminating slip.

It's tricky, and it's going to get worse, I know.

 

[ShyMaleSub]

.....

But it's the one area where I don't feel I can pitch in without betraying a lot more knowledge about the whole thing than 'boring old mum' should have. Hubby has already made warning noises about not encouraging any discussions on this subject in case one of us lets something incriminating slip.

It's tricky, and it's going to get worse, I know.

Maybe she's more aware of your activities than you think, and she's using talk about the film to get you to let something slip. Teenagers are sly, and much more aware than we care to admit.

 

[MeekMe]

Maybe she's more aware of your activities than you think, and she's using talk about the film to get you to let something slip. Teenagers are sly, and much more aware than we care to admit.

This is a hot topic right now. Everyone is talking about it. I can't get through a single day without 50sog or BDSM being mentioned. She's most likely talking about it because she has been made aware that such things exist and it's highly talked about. I doubt she wants to know anything about her parents private life. I know I sure as hell didn't and honestly I still don't.

 

[LallyH]

Maybe she's more aware of your activities than you think, and she's using talk about the film to get you to let something slip. Teenagers are sly, and much more aware than we care to admit.

This is a hot topic right now. Everyone is talking about it. I can't get through a single day without 50sog or BDSM being mentioned. She's most likely talking about it because she has been made aware that such things exist and it's highly talked about. I doubt she wants to know anything about her parents private life. I know I sure as hell didn't and honestly I still don't.

I'm pretty sure she is aware at some level, but like Meek says, it's really not something that I feel is a topic for conversation between parents and kids unless there are very special circumstances.

It's one thing to talk about sex in general terms that can be made relative to the world at large, but I really don't feel that a discussion about BDSM, with the inevitable inference that I have learned what I am telling her from personal experience, is really suitable or beneficial. I am going to have to continue to let her remarks pass without any comment at all, and hope that the all-knowing 'internet' will tell her the things that I can't.

 

[poppadog]

I'm pretty sure she is aware at some level, but like Meek says, it's really not something that I feel is a topic for conversation between parents and kids unless there are very special circumstances.

It's one thing to talk about sex in general terms that can be made relative to the world at large, but I really don't feel that a discussion about BDSM, with the inevitable inference that I have learned what I am telling her from personal experience, is really suitable or beneficial. I am going to have to continue to let her remarks pass without any comment at all, and hope that the all-knowing 'internet' will tell her the things that I can't.

Do you think if you were a Domme/Mistress/top/dominant partner you might think differently given the anti feminist/female argument??

Irrespective of where her views come from, at least she has views and isn't afraid to air them.

Not in the lifestyle myself but doesn't the dungeon rather give it away??

 

[MeekMe]

Do you think if you were a Domme/Mistress/top/dominant partner you might think differently given the anti feminist/female argument??

Irrespective of where her views come from, at least she has views and isn't afraid to air them.

Not in the lifestyle myself but doesn't the dungeon rather give it away??

I don't believe the anti feminism bit was directed specifically at BDSM. It was pointed out that the book portrays BDSM in a very negative light and encourages rape and abuse not usually found in a fully consented BDSM relationship.

I can't speak for Lally, but I don't see why being a domme or sub would make a difference in whether I talked about such a topic with anyone. I keep my private life private. I don't hide it because I'm ashamed of being submissive. I wouldn't flaunt it if I were the top half either.

 

[ultramarineblue]

I'm sad and lonely.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I'm sad and lonely.

*tickling you and talking like Gollum*

 

[seela]

Watching Master Chef always makes me want to cook and bake something really elaborate and fancy.

Today there's only osso bucco on the menu, so scratching that elaborate cooking itch has to wait for another day. Should taste good, though.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Watching Master Chef always makes me want to cook and bake something really elaborate and fancy.

Today there's only osso bucco on the menu, so scratching that elaborate cooking itch has to wait for another day. Should taste good, though.

Mmm, osso bucco with risotto milanese is one of my absolute favourites!

 

[ultramarineblue]

*tickling you and talking like Gollum*

hang in there.

Thanks for noticing.

 

[midwestyankee]

I just saw a thread titled "whose's wife?" I don't have words for this. I just don't.

 

[ultramarineblue]

I want to go see a traveling Broadway production; I want to go to they symphony; I need some culture that speaks to my soul.

 

[cfuhrer]

I want to go see a traveling Broadway production; I want to go to they symphony; I need some culture that speaks to my soul.

Do you have a nearby community college?

 

[ultramarineblue]

Do you have a nearby community college?

Nothing that offers what I want. There are things happening within 2 hours of driving that I desperately want to attend but I don't have the money right now. I just want to be lost in the sound. I was planning on going to a free orchestra concert but as luck would have it I already have 2 things that night. I must learn to manage my money better.

 

[midwestyankee]

Nothing that offers what I want. There are things happening within 2 hours of driving that I desperately want to attend but I don't have the money right now. I just want to be lost in the sound. I was planning on going to a free orchestra concert but as luck would have it I already have 2 things that night. I must learn to manage my money better.

When I was in graduate school I got a gig as a volunteer usher for the city's symphony orchestra. I had to arrive early, dress in a certain way (jacket and tie, as I recall) and help out prior to the concert, during the intermission, and for a short while after the final curtain. But I got to see the concerts for free. You might want to see if something like this is a possibility.

 

[ultramarineblue]

When I was in graduate school I got a gig as a volunteer usher for the city's symphony orchestra. I had to arrive early, dress in a certain way (jacket and tie, as I recall) and help out prior to the concert, during the intermission, and for a short while after the final curtain. But I got to see the concerts for free. You might want to see if something like this is a possibility.

That would be fantastic if I lived closer to a city. I love where I live for the most part but it does lack culture. I would adore being an usher. I live 2 hours from where I could do that though.