the right girl

[recon]

there is this girl at my work that i really like a lot and she is so nice and funny. me and her joke around a lot and have fun but sometimes she is a big tease. see im from kentucky and she is not like any girl i have known at home. also i am in the Marine Corp so dating is a little differnt for me im not so good at it. i want to wright her a letter telling her how i feel but im afraid she will laugh at me. this friday she is having a party and she invited me. please anybody help me, tell me how to make her like her please

 

[Classical_Wizard]

Be your self no need to pretend that you are someone else. If she doesnt like you for being yourself then its not even worth it.

 

[car nut]

If shes flirtinga ndjoking with you and inviting you to her party shes intrested in you. Your doing something right so keep it up and maybe push the flirting a lil more and see how she reacts. Letters not a bad idea, woman dig that mushy stuff. Just dont get too into the letter or you might scare her thinking your some kinda cray stalker lol. Just tell her you like her and why and some lil stuff like that. Stuff like "i can see myself marrying you" and " i can see us having kids one day" are the kinda stuff you want to elave out.

 

[Marsipanne]

woman dig that mushy stuff

This might be just me, but I only like the mushy stuff if it's exceeding well-written. Otherwise, I just cringe. Also, some girls think it's cheesy.

And I wouldn't write a letter. I'd set up email correspondance. This way you can get to know each other in a 'faceless' medium (hence less embarrassment and you can think about what you're about to say) so when you meet each other you know what you can talk about.

 

[SweetErika]

My 2 cents...

Marsipanne is right on. Save your letters for when the relationship is established, otherwise it could cause a lot of embarassment for both you and her. If you're determined to write, go for it, but don't give it to her. Sometimes writing how you feel or practicing what you'll say to her can reduce your nervousness and make the real conversation go a little smoother. You can also make a list of questions in advance mentally so you can keep the conversation going.

Go to the party, flirt like crazy, don't get too drunk, talk to other people (especially women) and then come back and spend more time talking with her. Make it clear that you like her (smile a lot, eye contact, subtly mirror her movements, compliment her, say her name, ask her questions), but don't follow her all night or get into desperate...there's nothing more unattractive than a guy who's desperate or passed out because he can't control himself!