They say there are no stupid questions....

[Sweet_Candi]

so based on that, Im gonna ask a stupid question anyways. Ive been married to wonderful man for 16 1/2 years. Our sex life has always been really good, but for MANY years, I avoided giving him a blowjob....for two reasons. One was my lack of knowledge. I didnt want to look "stupid" trying to do something for the first time, so I just avoided it. The second reason was the fact that my husband rarely showers before bed, and I find that ANYONE who hasnt had a shower for several hours, tends to get a little "ripe" if ya know what I mean.....

Over the last couple of years, I have been doing it more and more often. Im actually starting to enjoy it and want to be better and better at it.

I know I am not doing it as well as he'd like, because I rarely get to the point of making him cum. He seems to be enjoying it, but I usually get stiff (or sore jaws) before bringing it to completion.

Last night, he finally started offering some "assistance" by telling me what he likes...and what doesnt float his boat. That was great. But I still have a few problems Id love to get some help on.

First off, I cant seem to suck as hard as he would like me too.....and Im not sure how to improve on that. If I had my thumb in my mouth, I can suck it quite hard....but his cock is thicker (duh..id hope so) and I cant suck nearly as hard. Also....I tend to naturally cover my teeth with my lips....which might even be the cause of this problem, but I tried NOT doing that last night and there is even less suction that way? Im starting to think that there is something wrong with my mouth.....lol

Secondly, I would LOVE to be able to swallow....but between the salty taste, and the slimy texture....it just wont go down my throat!! Ive tried a few times now....and end up running to the bathroom to spit it out. lol. He doesnt care all that much (or so he says), but I know that most guys enjoy seeing a woman swallow and Id love to learn how to do that (without barfing all over his balls afterwards) for him.

I really hope this doesnt sound as lame to you as it does to me...but after reading another thread by a woman wondering how to finish a blowjob....I thought you might be able to help me as well.

I would appreciate any help at all.

 

[capricious_chic]

I am sure others will have great advice on the first issue, but it won't be me.

On the second issue, the best way to avoid the taste and texture (since it doesn't appeal to you), is to make sure that his cock is deep in your mouth/throat when he cums. You will swallow automatically, and very little cum will come into contact with your tongue. He won't necessary get to "see" you swallow (depending on the angle), but he will feel it. You can actually "suck him dry" and not once have to taste him.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

First off - if he wants a blow job talking him into a quick shower shouldn't be that hard. Jump in there with him and make sure its all really clean! Soap can be so much fun. Secondly - honey quit working so hard! Put one hand around the base of his cock, cup his balls with the other hand. Get him nice and wet and slippery, slowly (and look into his eyes while you do this) suck the head of his cock into your mouth. Keep nice even sucking on the head and slide your hand up and down the shaft. Take the rest of your ques from him. If your mouth gets tired take a break and just use your hand. Or slip him between your tits and fuck him that way for awhile. Don't like the taste? Try dripping honey or chocolate sauce over him before and during. yummmmmmm

 

[wait2play]

Reading the last post, crazybbw knows her stuff. Follow her example and your man should be happy and you will be fulfilled (I should say full and filled). I can only wish to find someone with crazybbw's experience. If I had crazy waiting to service me, I'd gldly jump in the shower first, or least use a wash cloth in the appropriate area. Sweet_candi's response makes sense as well.
Now I have a stupid question. I looked at your MSN site. How does a mother of three stay so damn sexy?

Crazy, you're my goddess of carnal pleasures!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Why thank you Wait! Having kids keeps you sexy! (of course having them almost grown helps alot!) I did forget the most important thing Candi ---- you've got to at least LOOK like you are enjoying it. For me - hell I'd rather give it than get it. I have an orgasm from giving head.

 

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[wait2play]

Why thank you Wait! Having kids keeps you sexy! (of course having them almost grown helps alot!) I did forget the most important thing Candi ---- you've got to at least LOOK like you are enjoying it. For me - hell I'd rather give it than get it. I have an orgasm from giving head.

I'm "heading" to northern Ohio right now. Or, should I say "cumming" Pardon the puns, nothing but fun intended my dear. Rather give than receive, enjoys it, has an orgasm during the act, and knows what you're doing! I'm gettin a woodie right now>

 

[crazybbwgirl]

And still single after all these years! lol

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

AMEN

 

[Medboy]

Why didnt they teach this stuff in school? I thought that's the reason they gave the boys and girls separate sex ed classes!

 

[Amfrigger]

I know that your husband wants blowjobs, but does he know how to receive one? My ex wanted bj's in the worst kind of way, but every time I went down on him he positively manhandled me. It was never fun. Too much thrusting and hairpulling-or at least head driving. When Amfig and I got together I wanted to blow him, but I felt like I didn't really know how. I'd had bad experiences. And I wanted it to be the best for him. Sure, he told me to "try this" and "not so much that" but I loved it. And got to ejoy giving bjs to my man real quick.

 

[betman33]

so based on that, Im gonna ask a stupid question anyways. Ive been married to wonderful man for 16 1/2 years. Our sex life has always been really good, but for MANY years, I avoided giving him a blowjob....for two reasons. One was my lack of knowledge. I didnt want to look "stupid" trying to do something for the first time, so I just avoided it. The second reason was the fact that my husband rarely showers before bed, and I find that ANYONE who hasnt had a shower for several hours, tends to get a little "ripe" if ya know what I mean.....

Over the last couple of years, I have been doing it more and more often. Im actually starting to enjoy it and want to be better and better at it.

I know I am not doing it as well as he'd like, because I rarely get to the point of making him cum. He seems to be enjoying it, but I usually get stiff (or sore jaws) before bringing it to completion.

Last night, he finally started offering some "assistance" by telling me what he likes...and what doesnt float his boat. That was great. But I still have a few problems Id love to get some help on.

First off, I cant seem to suck as hard as he would like me too.....and Im not sure how to improve on that. If I had my thumb in my mouth, I can suck it quite hard....but his cock is thicker (duh..id hope so) and I cant suck nearly as hard. Also....I tend to naturally cover my teeth with my lips....which might even be the cause of this problem, but I tried NOT doing that last night and there is even less suction that way? Im starting to think that there is something wrong with my mouth.....lol

Secondly, I would LOVE to be able to swallow....but between the salty taste, and the slimy texture....it just wont go down my throat!! Ive tried a few times now....and end up running to the bathroom to spit it out. lol. He doesnt care all that much (or so he says), but I know that most guys enjoy seeing a woman swallow and Id love to learn how to do that (without barfing all over his balls afterwards) for him.

I really hope this doesnt sound as lame to you as it does to me...but after reading another thread by a woman wondering how to finish a blowjob....I thought you might be able to help me as well.

I would appreciate any help at all.

what you can do is also get flavored lubes.... as well take him to an adult sex shop and see what happens look at the flavored lubes.... i know my gf likes it seems like we go thru a bottle of lube bout 1 a month or there abouts..... chuckle doesnt take that long at all either and she enjoys it more so cuz she doesnt like the taste that much but it flavors it and she enjoys it more so with the flavor of it at least with the strawberry kiwi.....

 

[CrowSingsOver]

A natural

I guess I'm a natural at oral sex, heh. The first time I had sex I went down on my bf and he went nuts. I guess it's due to a lot of fantasies.

Anyway, it's important to know about the penis itself. The head is actually the most sensitive part, so that's where you need to keep your attention. A lot of women do get soar after a long time, but there's no rule that you have to only use your mouth. First slick him down with saliva or a water based lubricant. Explore the sides, teasing the head every once and a while. When you want to really start his engine, begin giving him a hand job while licking and sucking the head. This will keep your jaws from aching later and he'll enjoy it as well. There is also a certain indention between the anus and his testicles, if you can find it and rub it, it's like a male g-spot. The truth is that experimentation is the best way to go about things. He may find out that he likes things he never knew about. Another thing to do is if you put his penis in your mouth as far as possible without gagging, close your lips around it, and hum. They love the vibrations. Try also bringing a cup of hot tea and cold water to bed next time. Sip one and then suck on his penis, and then try the other. Switch from one to the other, it's very stimulating.

If you're worried about odor, you really should tell him how you feel so you don't feel like you have to hold back. You can try taking a bath with him or even washing his penis and giving it a slow massage (look up lingham massage). It could be a ritual, and he can return the favor (look up yoni massage).

Enjoy!

 

[babydoll_73]

Why thank you Wait! Having kids keeps you sexy! (of course having them almost grown helps alot!) I did forget the most important thing Candi ---- you've got to at least LOOK like you are enjoying it. For me - hell I'd rather give it than get it. I have an orgasm from giving head.

I am like you would rather give it then get it and can get off from giving it. I love to give oral. Sucking a dick or going down on a girl. Either way.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I am like you would rather give it then get it and can get off from giving it. I love to give oral. Sucking a dick or going down on a girl. Either way.

My lover is the same way - we often struggle over who gets to give first. god that's great!

 

[Sweet_Candi]

Wow. First of all, let me say that I was pleasantly surprised to hear from so many of you (male and female). Quite a bit of the advice you've given me, were things I knew already and use, but others were completely new and Im definately going to give them a try (like the flavored lubes...and the hot and cold drinks).

Someone said something about dont they teach sex ed in school....although that made me feel a little stupid at not knowing something that according to some of you should be natural, we definately did NOT learn how to give head in class...lol....what they teach is the very basics...and i mean BASICS.....some things you just have to learn through trial and error....with communication (feedback) and built up experience being the key.

I "practiced" again last night....tried NOT pulling my lips over my teeth...got much better suction after awhile....and there seems to be a point where, if you want to take it to the back of your throat, the suction lessens....kinda reminds me of driving a standard car.....gotta find that "perfect" spot between letting go of the clutch and pressing the gas.....and if you dont, it stalls. Found that spot last night...now its just a matter of practicing so that I can do it smoothly and without hesitation.

Again, thanks for all your comments (if hubby were here he would be thanking you too....hehehe).

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Yeah - it IS just like driving a stick! lol

 

[Carnus]

From the male point of view,,


FIrst,, use your hands, squeeze, and stroke his cock,, getting it nice and wet, reach down and tease the area around his ass. To be honest most guys love to be played with that way after they get over the "uh uh, nothing goes in my ass" thing,

Talk to him, ask him how he likes see your lips stretched around his hard cock, or comment on full his balls feel as you squeeze them. Let him know how excited you are from doing it (even if your not)

Swallowing thing, yeah,, knowing a woman wants to swallow your cum is a big turn on. I had a woman who while we were talking once I asked her about how she got over it, cause she told me that earlier in life she never would do that. She told me that the easiest way was to get the tip of it all the way back, not hardly any taste at all that way, then over time of doing it she got used to it and realizing the amount of excitement it caused she slowly began liking it.

The best blowjob I have ever had involved a woman using a small dab of mint toothpaste in her mouth as she started, she said it numbed her tounge where she didn't taste me as much and the mint feeling was ummm to say the least incredible.

Best advice I can tell you,,, have fun with, do something silly like grab your lipstick and paint a face on it, or any thing else you an think of, and remember you don't have to finish him off every time, they do call it foreplay after all

Patrick

 

[NippleMuncher]

My ex wanted bj's in the worst kind of way, but every time I went down on him he positively manhandled me. It was never fun...

One word for you SPALDING! LOL A bat upside that lump on his shoulders would have taken care of that!

Candi - While sometimes it is difficult NOT to move too much, being sensitive to the one whose got "Mister Tall Man" down her throat is a priority that any man worthy of being with would respect. My g/f cums while performing it on me, which means by the time I'm "ready", I don't often get the chance to return the favor before she's got me scratching HER itch.

After 16 years, you guys should be comfortable enough to talk about it so that he tells you what and how, and you tell him WHEN (after a shower only!) In my opinion, if he doesn't care enough about you to at least knock off the days dust, he's lucky you're willing to be in the same room with him.

 

[MrsStacyJ]

I am so ready to go home right now and just throw my husband on the bed and have my way with him! I love to suck him and drive him crazy. Damn, but I'll have to wait until I put the kids to bed first.

I also know that I get incredibly wet when I give him a bj. We hardly ever make it to him licking me at all. I just climb on and ride until there is nothing left in either of us. (He better hope I cum first or he's going to be hurting in the morning!) OMG, and playing with his ass just makes me wetter.

Damn, I wanna go home!

 

[Sweet_Candi]

From the male point of view,,


FIrst,, use your hands, squeeze, and stroke his cock,, getting it nice and wet, reach down and tease the area around his ass. To be honest most guys love to be played with that way after they get over the "uh uh, nothing goes in my ass" thing,

Talk to him, ask him how he likes see your lips stretched around his hard cock, or comment on full his balls feel as you squeeze them. Let him know how excited you are from doing it (even if your not)

Swallowing thing, yeah,, knowing a woman wants to swallow your cum is a big turn on. I had a woman who while we were talking once I asked her about how she got over it, cause she told me that earlier in life she never would do that. She told me that the easiest way was to get the tip of it all the way back, not hardly any taste at all that way, then over time of doing it she got used to it and realizing the amount of excitement it caused she slowly began liking it.

The best blowjob I have ever had involved a woman using a small dab of mint toothpaste in her mouth as she started, she said it numbed her tounge where she didn't taste me as much and the mint feeling was ummm to say the least incredible.

Best advice I can tell you,,, have fun with, do something silly like grab your lipstick and paint a face on it, or any thing else you an think of, and remember you don't have to finish him off every time, they do call it foreplay after all

Patrick

Thank you Patrick for taking the time to give me your comments and advice. Im gonna try the toothpaste thing.

 

[Sweet_Candi]

One word for you SPALDING! LOL A bat upside that lump on his shoulders would have taken care of that!

Candi - While sometimes it is difficult NOT to move too much, being sensitive to the one whose got "Mister Tall Man" down her throat is a priority that any man worthy of being with would respect. My g/f cums while performing it on me, which means by the time I'm "ready", I don't often get the chance to return the favor before she's got me scratching HER itch.

After 16 years, you guys should be comfortable enough to talk about it so that he tells you what and how, and you tell him WHEN (after a shower only!) In my opinion, if he doesn't care enough about you to at least knock off the days dust, he's lucky you're willing to be in the same room with him.

Thanks for your feedback! About the shower....yeah....hes always known that it aint going near my mouth unless hes clean...but the insensitive bastard used to make jokes about not getting blowjobs in front of his friends anyways.....now that I do it...and OFTEN I might add.....I dont hear him joking about how often he gets it now......some guys you just cant please no matter WHAT you do.....

 

[Sweet_Candi]

I am so ready to go home right now and just throw my husband on the bed and have my way with him! I love to suck him and drive him crazy. Damn, but I'll have to wait until I put the kids to bed first.

I also know that I get incredibly wet when I give him a bj. We hardly ever make it to him licking me at all. I just climb on and ride until there is nothing left in either of us. (He better hope I cum first or he's going to be hurting in the morning!) OMG, and playing with his ass just makes me wetter.

Damn, I wanna go home!

Mrs Stacy...I love your attitude chickie!! I know what you mean about it being a turn on though....the other night, we were in the 69 position.....he was so turned on by what I was doing to him....that I actually came in just a few minutes.....it was awesome the way that HIS pleasure added so much to my own.....

 

[Lust Engine]

From what I understand, it usually results in a better orgasm.

From this male's point of view AND having personally experienced it ...I totally agree!