This may seem like a mess

[viperguy987]

Okay. So here we go. I am quite confused, quite lost, but I have heard this is the place to come for honest answers to sex-related questions:

1) my gf really wants to have sex, but i am not completely ready. how do i break this to her? (altough this may make question 3 irrelavant, if possible, answer it any way?...)

2) my gf has never trimmed her pubic hair. i have read a number of posts saying its still great to perform oral on a hairy pussy, but can anyone explain how? I have, literally, come up with hair between my teeth... (a strand or two..)

2a) is there (and if so, what is) a way to ask her to shave/trim. It came up before and she said it would hurt too much (and she is, at times, quite stubborn)

3) i am not circumcised, anything I should know before having sex?

4) my gf continually tells me she will do anything for me... but at one point eluded to the fact that she wouldn't give head. do i ask her to (and if so, how)...

 

[rcuhljr]

1. Well I hate you but thats your choice, discuss it with her and talk about alternative ways to share physical intimacy.

2.(and a) It's just personal preference, some people love hairy people, other don't. If you'd really like to, why don't you talk to her about it generally, suggest you both shave, and make a night of it, pamper her and do it for her, have some fun playing together.

3. Just the standard advice, don't expect to be perfect, or even great make sure you are clean and have fun.

4. Discuss it openly with her, she seems to expect or at least lets you give her oral, but doesn't want to reciprocate. Talk to her about why she feels this way and decide how important this is to you, is it a deal breaker or just a pet peeve if she doesn't.


5. Take all of this with a grain of salt, I have no real experience

 

[Moxon4]

Okay. So here we go. I am quite confused, quite lost, but I have heard this is the place to come for honest answers to sex-related questions:

1) my gf really wants to have sex, but i am not completely ready. how do i break this to her? (altough this may make question 3 irrelavant, if possible, answer it any way?...)

2) my gf has never trimmed her pubic hair. i have read a number of posts saying its still great to perform oral on a hairy pussy, but can anyone explain how? I have, literally, come up with hair between my teeth... (a strand or two..)

2a) is there (and if so, what is) a way to ask her to shave/trim. It came up before and she said it would hurt too much (and she is, at times, quite stubborn)

3) i am not circumcised, anything I should know before having sex?

4) my gf continually tells me she will do anything for me... but at one point eluded to the fact that she wouldn't give head. do i ask her to (and if so, how)...

Most importantly try to sit her down and talk to her about it, communicating is the key.
1) Just be honest with her, and tell her that it's something you want to wait to do
2) Just suggest that you would be more apt to please her if she trimmed it some, make it so that she benefits in some way
3) Keep it clean
4) Ask her to, but don't badger her about it. If she does, tell her how great it was, she'll be more inclined to do it again

Those are my two cents....

 

[5pintshefound]

Okay. So here we go. I am quite confused, quite lost, but I have heard this is the place to come for honest answers to sex-related questions:

1) my gf really wants to have sex, but i am not completely ready. how do i break this to her? (altough this may make question 3 irrelavant, if possible, answer it any way?...)

2) my gf has never trimmed her pubic hair. i have read a number of posts saying its still great to perform oral on a hairy pussy, but can anyone explain how? I have, literally, come up with hair between my teeth... (a strand or two..)

2a) is there (and if so, what is) a way to ask her to shave/trim. It came up before and she said it would hurt too much (and she is, at times, quite stubborn)

3) i am not circumcised, anything I should know before having sex?

4) my gf continually tells me she will do anything for me... but at one point eluded to the fact that she wouldn't give head. do i ask her to (and if so,
how)...

ok, first off... if you really feel like your not ready, then your not ready... with sex {especially your "first time" } comes loads and loads of emotions. it can be a lot to deal with....

2> you have to be compeletly up front about stuff like that... and shaving doesnt hurt. why would it hurt.. it only hurts if you shave skin off... if shes careful {or you, if you do it together} it wont hurt. BUT when the stubble starts to grow back, it willitch like a bitch...

3> same as regular bathroom ettiquette for an uncirc-ed male.. keep it clean.. and from what i understand, its a little different putting a condom on, but since im a gal, and my SO is circ'ed i really dont know about that part...

4> talk to her about getting head-- when your not haivng sex. tell her that you would like it.. but dont pressure her.. shoot, it took me 7 years to get to the point that im comfortable giving my so head.

there ya go... just some more opinions to your post....

~5PHF

 

[TBKahuna123]

Okay. So here we go. I am quite confused, quite lost, but I have heard this is the place to come for honest answers to sex-related questions:

1) my gf really wants to have sex, but i am not completely ready. how do i break this to her? (altough this may make question 3 irrelavant, if possible, answer it any way?...)

2) my gf has never trimmed her pubic hair. i have read a number of posts saying its still great to perform oral on a hairy pussy, but can anyone explain how? I have, literally, come up with hair between my teeth... (a strand or two..)

2a) is there (and if so, what is) a way to ask her to shave/trim. It came up before and she said it would hurt too much (and she is, at times, quite stubborn)

3) i am not circumcised, anything I should know before having sex?

4) my gf continually tells me she will do anything for me... but at one point eluded to the fact that she wouldn't give head. do i ask her to (and if so, how)...

First off, you're in the right place.

1.) If you aren't ready, don't do it. If she can't accept that, then let her go. I say this from personal experience dude, don't let her push you into it. If you do you'll regret it. Contrary to popular belief, this kind of sentiment is not restricted to the females of our species. There's nothing wrong with feeling that way. Just be honest with her and she can either accept it or not.

2.) OK, this is a really easy one. First off, you're gonna get hair in your teeth, just go with it. A technique that helps though is to use your hands. If you spread her outer lips with your fingers you'll expose her inner, hairless bits. Not only does this get the hair out of your way, but it will increase the sensitivity for her. I don't really have trouble with hair in my teeth, but with it tickling my nose. Makes me sneeze.

2a.) This is a tough one. Anytime you try to tell someone there is something about them that you don't like, be it hair growth, hygiene, etc., you have to be careful. If it comes up, maybe don't ask her to shave, but just to trim it a bit. Using a beard trimmer with a guide is safe and painless. Even shaving doesn't hurt if done right, but baby steps, you know?

3.) Being cut myself, I can't offer much practical advice, but I haven't heard anything here that would lead me to believe you have to do anything different.

4.) Defintely ask her. Find out why, find out what she doesn't like about it or why she won't. If she will blow you but doesn't want you to cum in her mouth, don't cum in her mouth. Don't push her though, whatever you do. If she does it just to shut you up, it's not going to be good anyway.

 

[tryptamine]

Not being circumcised isn't a problem. I mean, human beings come with foreskins...would it make sense for us to be built in such a way that you have to chop them off before you can have sex?

I'm not cut and there's no real problems whatsoever you have to deal with. If you use lube it might be worth washing under your foreskin (as you should do every day in the shower anyway) afterwards otherwise it might itch.

Are you American? It seems only Americans have this cut/uncut issue...here in Australia most guys these days aren't cut and it's not an issue.

 

[SweetErika]

First off, you're in the right place.

1.) If you aren't ready, don't do it. If she can't accept that, then let her go. I say this from personal experience dude, don't let her push you into it. If you do you'll regret it. Contrary to popular belief, this kind of sentiment is not restricted to the females of our species. There's nothing wrong with feeling that way. Just be honest with her and she can either accept it or not.

2.) OK, this is a really easy one. First off, you're gonna get hair in your teeth, just go with it. A technique that helps though is to use your hands. If you spread her outer lips with your fingers you'll expose her inner, hairless bits. Not only does this get the hair out of your way, but it will increase the sensitivity for her. I don't really have trouble with hair in my teeth, but with it tickling my nose. Makes me sneeze.

2a.) This is a tough one. Anytime you try to tell someone there is something about them that you don't like, be it hair growth, hygiene, etc., you have to be careful. If it comes up, maybe don't ask her to shave, but just to trim it a bit. Using a beard trimmer with a guide is safe and painless. Even shaving doesn't hurt if done right, but baby steps, you know?

3.) Being cut myself, I can't offer much practical advice, but I haven't heard anything here that would lead me to believe you have to do anything different.

4.) Defintely ask her. Find out why, find out what she doesn't like about it or why she won't. If she will blow you but doesn't want you to cum in her mouth, don't cum in her mouth. Don't push her though, whatever you do. If she does it just to shut you up, it's not going to be good anyway.

TBK's right on the money on all of this. Follow this advice, and you'll do well.

Also, I'd like to commend you on listening to yourself and asserting your needs. Sex shouldn't be something you regret, and it sounds like you and your gf have quite a bit of communicating to do before you're ready to take it to the next level. Waiting until you and the relationship are ready is always the way to go.

 

[sunandshadow]

It really can be painful to shave your pussy, but it doesn't hurt at all to trim it with scissors or a razor with a guard to about 1/4" long, like a buzz cut.