This might seem paranoid, but…

Lenny Henry used to do a bit about his first time visiting New York. People had warned him about walking by himself at night, and told him to find people to walk with. So one evening he's walking back to his hotel and remembers the advice. Seeing a group walking ahead, he hurries to catch up with them. Except they see him, and keep walking faster and faster. "I called out to them to stop, and they started throwing money down behind them!"
Must just be a comedy bit. Rodney Dangerfield used to do a lot of them about his neighborhood (the West Side I think). "I live in a really tough neighborhood. Last week, somebody stole a police car - with the cops still in it." Another variation: "I went to my local police precinct. The front door had a peephole."
 
Except teen-age boys can cause quite a bit of havoc among other teen-age boys. At that age, I was more wary of them than I am as a geezer. Although maybe I'm just becoming careless - or is it indifferent? - as a geezer.
I did have my share of run-ins. Most ended up as staring contests, but I did learn to recognize when it was turning serious; then it was time to strike first. Fear was always a losing strategy. Our Brooklyn national character joke:

A Londoner, a Parisian, and a Brooklynite were shipwrecked and washed up on an uncharted island. There they were captured by cannibals and brought to the village. The headman explained that they were ecologically conscious cannibals, and didn't waste any parts of their prey. Skulls became bowls, intestines were musical instrument strings, skin was used to cover their sea-going kayaks, and so on. He also explained that they were very humane cannibals and had developed a plant which, with a few chews of a leaf, would kill the victim in perfect peace and ecstasy.

He offers a leaf to the Londoner, who takes a bite, chews a little, and falls to the ground with a smile on his face. A powerful orgasm shudders his body as he takes his last breath.

The headman offers a leaf to the Parisian, who takes it and experiences the same result.

He turns to the Brooklynite and offers him a leaf.

"Keep your shitass leaf," he says sharply as he pushes it away. "Get me a fawk."

"A fawk?" the headman asks in confusion.

"Yeah, a fawk. Like ya eat meat wit," the Brooklynite explains. "The biggest damn fawk ya got."

The Headman says, "Oh, you mean a fork," and he has a large fork brought over.

"Fuck your goddamn boat," declares the Brooklynite as he stabs himself repeatedly with the fork.
 
I did have my share of run-ins. Most ended up as staring contests, but I did learn to recognize when it was turning serious; then it was time to strike first. Fear was always a losing strategy. Our Brooklyn national character joke:

A Londoner, a Parisian, and a Brooklynite were shipwrecked and washed up on an uncharted island. There they were captured by cannibals and brought to the village. The headman explained that they were ecologically conscious cannibals, and didn't waste any parts of their prey. Skulls became bowls, intestines were musical instrument strings, skin was used to cover their sea-going kayaks, and so on. He also explained that they were very humane cannibals and had developed a plant which, with a few chews of a leaf, would kill the victim in perfect peace and ecstasy.

He offers a leaf to the Londoner, who takes a bite, chews a little, and falls to the ground with a smile on his face. A powerful orgasm shudders his body as he takes his last breath.

The headman offers a leaf to the Parisian, who takes it and experiences the same result.

He turns to the Brooklynite and offers him a leaf.

"Keep your shitass leaf," he says sharply as he pushes it away. "Get me a fawk."

"A fawk?" the headman asks in confusion.

"Yeah, a fawk. Like ya eat meat wit," the Brooklynite explains. "The biggest damn fawk ya got."

The Headman says, "Oh, you mean a fork," and he has a large fork brought over.

"Fuck your goddamn boat," declares the Brooklynite as he stabs himself repeatedly with the fork.
Hah, this brings up the topic of which is - I don't how to put this - which is more something, Brooklyn or The Bronx. I lived in the former for three years in Sunset Park. That was an interesting era, 1981 to 1984, when it was still possible to find affordable housing in New York.
 
Hah, this brings up the topic of which is - I don't how to put this - which is more something, Brooklyn or The Bronx. I lived in the former for three years in Sunset Park. That was an interesting era, 1981 to 1984, when it was still possible to find affordable housing in New York.
And were you atop the terminal moraine of the Wisconsin Glaciation? Bay Ridge, itself? Also known as 6th Avenue? How close to the park were you? I lived there until I was 18, but that was in the 50s and 60s. By your time, the Norwegian community had largely left (did you ever eat at the Atlantic Restaurant?), the Irish and Italian, too, I believe, and the neighborhood was shifting to Asian after the 60s-70s expansion of the Puerto Ricans.
 
This might seem paranoid, but no matter how sure I am that I've removed every scrap of metal from my person, someone always slips something into my pocket at the last possible moment that sets off the airport metal detector and forces me to endure the wand of shame.

A corollary:

This might seem paranoid, but even though I've never shoplifted, I hold my breath every time I walk out of a department store because I'm sure someone has slipped something into my bag that will set off the anti-theft alarm and result in a security guard hitting me with a flying tackle while the other customers shake their heads in disdain.



Just a random story: I was a Foot Locker Manager for almost a decade. In the entire time I worked for the Locker, My boss only wrote me up for a discipline issue once... It was because I had a guy do a "try on and run for the parking lot" theft. I chased him down and tackled him in the parking lot.

My boss wrote me up for endangering myself. He looked at me and said, "what if he had a gun? I'm not that upset about a pair of shoes, I'd be way more upset if one of my people got hurt."

He wasn't my favorite boss, but he was absolutely right in this case. Even if you tried to go pure cold-hearted profit/loss idea, the cost of a single pair of shoes, even Jordans at a $150 price point, is absolutely nothing compared to the medical bills if I had gotten attacked.
 
Whenever I go for a walk at night one or more streetlights will go out as I pass by.
My colleague who's an electronics engineer told me that always happened to him. I didn't believe him, until he proved it to me when we were walking late at night after a drinking session in my local pub. He then when on to explain the phenomenon to me in technical terms, but I was too drunk to listen. I do remember he mentioned Van Der Graff generators at one point, and we started singing prog rock songs at the top of our voices
 
I may be paranoid, but I think the guy in the house across the street may be suffering from paranoia -- he's always staring at me with a really suspicious look on his face
 
And were you atop the terminal moraine of the Wisconsin Glaciation? Bay Ridge, itself? Also known as 6th Avenue? How close to the park were you? I lived there until I was 18, but that was in the 50s and 60s. By your time, the Norwegian community had largely left (did you ever eat at the Atlantic Restaurant?), the Irish and Italian, too, I believe, and the neighborhood was shifting to Asian after the 60s-70s expansion of the Puerto Ricans.
I was on 59th Street between 4th and 5th Avenue. Much of the block was homeowners who had those three-story row houses. It was a mixture of whites and a few Latinos. I was there 1981-84. Not familiar with the Atlantic Restaurant; there was a nice Pizzeria on 5th Avenue near 87th I think. I shouldn't have moved but my ex-wife was eager to move to New Jersey. She could talk me into anything. But the guy who owned my house and lived downstairs paid $40,000, which would be about $120,000 today. Except, it's probably going for at least a million nowadays.

We used to go the the Fortway Theater, which closed years ago.
 
I was on 59th Street between 4th and 5th Avenue. Much of the block was homeowners who had those three-story row houses. It was a mixture of whites and a few Latinos. I was there 1981-84. Not familiar with the Atlantic Restaurant; there was a nice Pizzeria on 5th Avenue near 87th I think. I shouldn't have moved but my ex-wife was eager to move to New Jersey. She could talk me into anything. But the guy who owned my house and lived downstairs paid $40,000, which would be about $120,000 today. Except, it's probably going for at least a million nowadays.

We used to go the the Fortway Theater, which closed years ago.
The Atlantic was a few blocks up from you, on 8th Avenue. It became a Chinese restaurant, but the new owner had the old chef teach him Norwegian cooking so he could offer the older Norwegians who remained in the neighborhood their traditional dishes. My first trip to the Fortway was when they were still giving out dishware as a bonus. I was up on 6th Avenue, about a half-mile closer to Sunset Park itself.
 
Back in 2010, when I moved to the City and had about 1000 friends on Facebook, I acquired a stalker. He made my life miserable. Figuring out the apartment building I lived in and the apartment. Flowers delivered every day, little gifts, along with odd notes. It all turned more and more creepy until he was arrested and went bye-bye for a time. I still have a restraining order on him, but he hasn't bothered me since he got out. Of course, I'm no longer on Facebook other than a page as a writer under my pseudonym. We don't live on the same side of town or even close to where we did. I saw him at a distance one day when I was a PI, and my little heart did flitter-flutter and I seriously thought about drawing my gun and shooting his sorry ass. But that would've been wrong, and I was being paranoid as the nasty fucker didn't even see me.
 
The Atlantic was a few blocks up from you, on 8th Avenue. It became a Chinese restaurant, but the new owner had the old chef teach him Norwegian cooking so he could offer the older Norwegians who remained in the neighborhood their traditional dishes. My first trip to the Fortway was when they were still giving out dishware as a bonus. I was up on 6th Avenue, about a half-mile closer to Sunset Park itself.
Brooklyn once had 404 theaters (all-time) and now has 22. The Bronx only has one left, the AMC in Co-op City. This site answers all theater questions:

https://cinematreasures.org/theaters/united-states/new-york/brooklyn?status=all

I did mention the Fortway in this essay about movie theaters. It had a difficult audience to please.

https://classic.literotica.com/s/movies-and-memory-ch-02

https://cinematreasures.org/theaters/5876
 
Back in 2010, when I moved to the City and had about 1000 friends on Facebook, I acquired a stalker. He made my life miserable. Figuring out the apartment building I lived in and the apartment. Flowers delivered every day, little gifts, along with odd notes. It all turned more and more creepy until he was arrested and went bye-bye for a time. I still have a restraining order on him, but he hasn't bothered me since he got out. Of course, I'm no longer on Facebook other than a page as a writer under my pseudonym. We don't live on the same side of town or even close to where we did. I saw him at a distance one day when I was a PI, and my little heart did flitter-flutter and I seriously thought about drawing my gun and shooting his sorry ass. But that would've been wrong, and I was being paranoid as the nasty fucker didn't even see me.
Unfortunately, stalking is a sign of a serious mental illness. It's not just celebrities who are the targets, although they get the most publicity. It's truly the downside of being famous. I have my real name on Facebook (it goes back years) but no photos of me or my family. I was a bit sloppy when I joined Lit six years ago, and my location is not that well hidden. I assume it would be hard to find my building in this dense neighborhood, and I haven't heard from anybody yet. Since Facebook is older, people were not that careful when it was created.

I hate to think about what goes on with all these dating apps.

P.S.: I don't add friends on Facebook unless I know them from real life. People use it as a dating site, and I was getting friend requests from women who were much younger than I am. I got suspicious when one asked to see a photo of me.
 
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I never post my picture online anymore. My eye is here, and me in a leather jacket is at a sight somewhere, but I'm not sure where that site is or if it is now. I continued to use my picture at a few sites till 2017 or 18, and Jo had a hissy fit that I shouldn't do that. If she knew my eye was here, I'm sure she'd freak out.
Unfortunately, stalking is a sign of a serious mental illness. It's not just celebrities who are the targets, although they get the most publicity. It's truly the downside of being famous. I have my real name on Facebook (it goes back years) but no photos of me or my family. I was a bit sloppy when I joined Lit six years ago, and my location is not that well hidden. I assume it would be hard to find my building in this dense neighborhood, and I haven't heard from anybody yet. Since Facebook is older, people were not that careful when it was created.

I hate to think about what goes on with all these dating apps.
 
I never post my picture online anymore. My eye is here, and me in a leather jacket is at a sight somewhere, but I'm not sure where that site is or if it is now. I continued to use my picture at a few sites till 2017 or 18, and Jo had a hissy fit that I shouldn't do that. If she knew my eye was here, I'm sure she'd freak out.
Dating sites, when they were new over twenty years ago, actually didn't have photos of everyone because digital photography was just getting started. I was - dumb enough? - to scan a photo. I met a few people for coffee or lunch, but I got a creepy feeling that I didn't know anything about them. "Cat-fishing" does happen a lot. One woman in British Columbia, I think, asked me to buy her a plane ticket to New York. I wonder if she found someone who would do that.
 
Mum and Pops met online. Both sets of parents were very skeptical of the person their kid (though they weren't kids) was meeting. However, once they met their future son or daughter-in-law, they fell in love with them as well. I've never been on a dating site. I think these days, a lot of hookers use local dating sites. However, the streets haven't dried up either.
Dating sites, when they were new over twenty years ago, actually didn't have photos of everyone because digital photography was just getting started. I was - dumb enough? - to scan a photo. I met a few people for coffee or lunch, but I got a creepy feeling that I didn't know anything about them. "Cat-fishing" does happen a lot. One woman in British Columbia, I think, asked me to buy her a plane ticket to New York. I wonder if she found someone who would do that.
 
My colleague who's an electronics engineer told me that always happened to him. I didn't believe him, until he proved it to me when we were walking late at night after a drinking session in my local pub. He then when on to explain the phenomenon to me in technical terms, but I was too drunk to listen. I do remember he mentioned Van Der Graff generators at one point, and we started singing prog rock songs at the top of our voices
I never heard that one before. I assume he must have chosen when and where to turn them off; it couldn't have just been random?
 
Some stalkers are mentally ill, some are just entitled bastards. I had a stalker at college for a while, but luckily college porters are all ex-military or ex-wrestlers for a reason, and it was politely demonstrated what would happen if he was seen again. Which was as well, as it turned out four of my male friends had gone round the day before to his, to try to be threatening, only they were individually as threatening as a noodle and not much more in quadruplicate. But as far as they were concerned, it looked like it had worked.

Made lots of friends over the internet in the 90s and 2000s, never had any problems. I've been IDd online a few times - usually from sharing an anecdote or particularly niche detail - and IDd a couple people on Lit, because if you use the same username in multiple places it's rather obvious. I'm sure someone could ID me here if they tried, but I try to leave sufficient plausible deniability.

Though on the subject of paranoia, I hadn't realised how much I tensed up going through part of town where an ex-friend, a serial rapist, lived, until I got the news he'd died. Even a few years later, I feel so much more relaxed, every time I remember.
 
When I was a kiddo, I was waiting for the elevator at an apartment building. I saw a person get in the elevator and I got creepy vibes from them. I told them that I was waiting for my dad and grandpa to come back from the tennis court, so they should go on ahead without me. It turns out that they were a creepy maintenance
 
When I was a kiddo, I was waiting for the elevator at an apartment building. I saw a person get in the elevator and I got creepy vibes from them. I told them that I was waiting for my dad and grandpa to come back from the tennis court, so they should go on ahead without me. It turns out that they were a creepy maintenance
Oops sorry, I meant to say, a creepy maintenance person who tried to SA my mom.
 
That's where they came from! If you're looking for any of them, they're all in North Dakota
That was the only Norwegian neighborhood I knew about in New York. I'd have to look up why they settled there.
 
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