thoughts on man hitting a woman

[1sexylady]

This is a sore subject for myself as well.... I lost six teeth because a man hit me. He also put a gun to my head. What did I do? Nothing.... I was too scared to move or talk to anyone. Then one day I woke up and said I am worth more than this and left the cowardly fucker in the dust and took everthing with me. I was in my early 20's then. He came back years later to say he was sorry but I didn't give him the time of day or the chance. I did hand him the bill from the dentist and he paid it.

I don't tolerate anyone disrespecting me today and if any man ever raised a hand to me now, I would make Loraina Bobbit look like a saint. There is no reason on this earth to hit another person.

 

[Ammo44]

This is a sore subject for myself as well.... I lost six teeth because a man hit me. He also put a gun to my head. What did I do? Nothing.... I was too scared to move or talk to anyone. Then one day I woke up and said I am worth more than this and left the cowardly fucker in the dust and took everthing with me. I was in my early 20's then. He came back years later to say he was sorry but I didn't give him the time of day or the chance. I did hand him the bill from the dentist and he paid it.

I don't tolerate anyone disrespecting me today and if any man ever raised a hand to me now, I would make Loraina Bobbit look like a saint. There is no reason on this earth to hit another person.

Your points...and attitude is right on Sexy One.........

 

[MT_Pitcher]

I"ll take just a slightly different point of view only because of my own experiences
I've been a bartender, a bouncer and worked security.
I've had knives and guns pulled on me, bottles and chairs swung at me, and seen a lot more happen to others.
Of course it was mostly by men (idiots) but some were women.
If a man or a woman was to threaten someone I care for, or under my care, I wouldn't hesitate for a second to do anything I had to, to stop it.
Man or woman makes no difference in this case.

Amended to add:
I have really only struck a woman once.
And that was to prevent her from stabbing someone else.

 

[dino1958]

NEVER

No Man should ever hit a woman. If a man hits any women in my family I will be the Judge and Jury.

 

[Dirty_Angel26]

The last mistake a man will ever make is deciding he has the right to hit me. And in the same sense.. its not right for a woman to hit a man eiether. And as funny as that may be to some... it does happen.There is no excuse for a man or a woman to hit someone.

 

[Angelofsex]

my friend called me a few minutes ago and told me that her brother hit her after they were arguing ....someone said that she probably deserved it but in my opinion no man has the right to hit a woman


opinions??

I don't care who the man is...........a woman should never get hit.......even if she might deserve it.........and sorry but a woman should never hit a guy too.......it gets me man when I see that.

 

[biggbear8]

The last mistake a man will ever make is deciding he has the right to hit me. And in the same sense.. its not right for a woman to hit a man eiether. And as funny as that may be to some... it does happen.There is no excuse for a man or a woman to hit someone.

bravo dirty angel your right hug and soft kiss

 

[Dirty_Angel26]

bravo dirty angel your right hug and soft kiss

Thanks darlin

 

[biggbear8]

Thanks darlin

just a note to say you write very well , I loved reading your stories and yes I also voted for them

 

[Dirty_Angel26]

just a note to say you write very well , I loved reading your stories and yes I also voted for them

Thank you!

 

[Woodmiester]

This is one of those threads where as I read the post I agree with some, disagree with some, laugh at some and am amazed at a few to boot, so as try as I did to not reply I must.

First let me say bashful, welcome to the world of a cop and why they hate domestics and most are injured and killed responding to domestic calls. You were damn lucky you weren't killed and only hope you never get yourself into that position again.

Okay now for the root question with what was laid out. No the brother was wrong and she (the sister) is a self-promoting dweeb for allowing it. Not only should he be charged with assult on her but for child endangerment also, but so should the sister for not reporting it.

Then the questions/comments started to expand and things became in general, so .....

Should a male ever hit a female? So many varied possibilities it's hard to say. If it's a domestic thing lets be honest, we (males) in most cases don't need to. In the heat of the moment when hands touch another in a fist or slap, it's to cause hurt, not so much the phy side but the emotinal, so why would a man feel the need to hit when a smile or grin packs a lot more punch, and ladies you can't say this way of thinking is wrong, cause you all know if you hit a man or are pushing his buttons which to many women seem to get off doing, you know that when we say nothing, cross are arms in that "are you fucking done yet" look and grin, that really pisses you off and you lose it, so who wins the fight then?

As for the other comments of No, never ....... as was said if a female wants to fight like a man she should be ready to take the lshit right back, that's not saying I'd do it, in fact when I was a cop and had to take control of a female that was resisting arrest she kicked the daylights out of me and punched me more than once. I too was raised to never hit a female so even though she was kicking my ass I didn't hit back, well not till she planted a heel hard into my balls and even then it was a fast knock to the temple that ended that shit, but I still ended up in the ER for nerve damage to a never in my arm from her repeated kicks and I took a lot of shit from other cops for allowing me to get hurt, but fuck'em.

Finally the question of should family members (brother - sisters ) ever hit. My sister also would punch me, slap and use words like a knife but I never hit her, even when she twisted her hands in my hair once ( teenager in the 70's ) which was long at the time and rolled it up trying to pull it out. Again comes that smile. I asked if she had a good grip and she leered yes, so I used one hand to pick her up as I began to turn in a circle which I did a few times till I stepped towards the wall of which she slammed into thus releasing her hold on me. Problem solved, I didn't hurt her, she hurt herself.

Oh yea, I grinned at her then too.

 

[angel_of_love67]

wood you are absolutely right and ty so much for your point of view it makes alot of sense and there are alot of people who really should read that and learn from it.....sorry im rambling,.... anyway ty and keep posting

 

[done_got_old]

I'm a teacher in an urban middle school. Our boys have been taught not to hit girls. It's considered unmanly to do so.

Several years ago we had to call an ambulance for a boy who refused to hit a girl. She hit him and before she could be stopped she had hit him over the head with a chair. The girl had been threatening boys for weeks and the counselors, administrators all thought the boys were over reacting........ This girl never threatened girls who would have taken her challenge. She was quite ordinary, not the bullying type.

This boy had been taught by his dad that real men don't hit girls.......

 

[capricious_chic]

I think that most people would agree that in ordinary situations that it is not ok to hit another person.

The question in my mind would be - why allow this behavior to continue? Why put yourself in a situation where you will be abused?

A side note: Yelling, screaming, etc. is NO better than hitting. Abuse is abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse can be as damaging as physical abuse.

I can't really answer your question as I don't know the people involved. How do we know that what she was yelling wasn't as vile as him hitting her? Violence doesn't solve violence, but it often begets it. Why wouldn't she remove herself from this before it got to this point?

 

[done_got_old]

I think that most people would agree that in ordinary situations that it is not ok to hit another person.

The question in my mind would be - why allow this behavior to continue? Why put yourself in a situation where you will be abused?

A side note: Yelling, screaming, etc. is NO better than hitting. Abuse is abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse can be as damaging as physical abuse.

I can't really answer your question as I don't know the people involved. How do we know that what she was yelling wasn't as vile as him hitting her? Violence doesn't solve violence, but it often begets it. Why wouldn't she remove herself from this before it got to this point?

I agree with you capricious_chic, but it seems that many women who tolerate abuse won't or can't leave. They feel trapped. Those of us who don't understand their thinking rarely find themselves in that situation.

 

[capricious_chic]

I agree with you capricious_chic, but it seems that many women who tolerate abuse won't or can't leave. They feel trapped. Those of us who don't understand their thinking rarely find themselves in that situation.

Your comment sparked another thought:

I can logically understand the trapped idea. However, I can not emotionally understand it.

I have seen scores of women in abusive relationships (my mother included)- the common demoninator would seem to be a combo of low self-esteem and/or a "woe is me" mentality (those that thrive on being a victim).

As quick as we are to condemn men who hit - we rarely look at the other side of it. I have known men who have never hit a woman or been the type to be violent who get involved w/a certain type of woman who "moves" them or pushes them in this direction.

 

[angel_of_love67]

that is true to some extent however when a guy drinks and does drugs and things of that sort he doesnt really have to be proked to do damaging things ...i know this because my dad used to drink alot and though he never hit us he took it out on us verbally and of course on the walls

my friend prolly should have been smart enough to just get out of the room before it went that far but the reality is she didnt because she might not have seen it coming...there is an old saying hide sight is 20/20.......wouldnt life be great if we all knew what was going to happen before it did........

 

[1sexylady]

Your comment sparked another thought:

I can logically understand the trapped idea. However, I can not emotionally understand it.

I have seen scores of women in abusive relationships (my mother included)- the common demoninator would seem to be a combo of low self-esteem and/or a "woe is me" mentality (those that thrive on being a victim).

As quick as we are to condemn men who hit - we rarely look at the other side of it. I have known men who have never hit a woman or been the type to be violent who get involved w/a certain type of woman who "moves" them or pushes them in this direction.

It is not easy to understand why one would stay and not leave because you have to be in THEIR shoes to do so. Now a days they have shelters, hot lines and classes. Back when it happened to me it was shame that kept me there. See he was not a violent person outside of our home. He never got into a fights with friends etc. He made it all look good. I NEVER laid a hand on him even when he was hitting me. He also NEVER showed this side when we were dating. I divorced him and never looked back. Why did it happen I still don't know but today I don't give a fuck either. Like I said in my earlier post I am alot better than a punching bag. If I see anyone abusing someone else physically or mouthing I do speak up I don't turn and look away.

One last thing to add......he was a cop that is how he got a gun to put to my head. That has now changed...

 

[1sexylady]

that is true to some extent however when a guy drinks and does drugs and things of that sort he doesnt really have to be proked to do damaging things ...i know this because my dad used to drink alot and though he never hit us he took it out on us verbally and of course on the walls

my friend prolly should have been smart enough to just get out of the room before it went that far but the reality is she didnt because she might not have seen it coming...there is an old saying hide sight is 20/20.......wouldnt life be great if we all knew what was going to happen before it did........

Your friend should say something to someone else or have someone talk with this brother. If he hits her he will hit another woman that is not his sister.

Remember Girls look at how they treat their family because that is just how they will treat you....

 

[Woodmiester]

Your friend should say something to someone else or have someone talk with this brother. If he hits her he will hit another woman that is not his sister.

Remember Girls look at how they treat their family because that is just how they will treat you....

While I agree with this I think I also have to differ just a little, and I know theirs no set mold and each situation is different, but I was extremely shy as a youth and stayed that way till now (far from being a youth now) and I kept to myself at school and within my family. In a way I did carry this over once I got married to a point. I made friends slow but once they were friends I'd bleed for most and die for a few if needed. Also coming from an abusive family ... my dad was a drunk and would knock my mother around but years later I finally saw that most times she'd push him and push till he reacted, it just sucked how he did, but I vowed then to never hit a women and except for that one time during an arrest I never have.
SexyL it's a dman shame your Ex felt the need to do those things to you and if it were dug into I think you might have found he had a huge fear within him and was scared of his job and the only way he could feel good about himself was to hurt you where he knew he might not be able to command respect from his job, sucks but I'd lay odds that would be close. Just know that not all cops, either current of former are like he was.

 

[1sexylady]

While I agree with this I think I also have to differ just a little, and I know theirs no set mold and each situation is different, but I was extremely shy as a youth and stayed that way till now (far from being a youth now) and I kept to myself at school and within my family. In a way I did carry this over once I got married to a point. I made friends slow but once they were friends I'd bleed for most and die for a few if needed. Also coming from an abusive family ... my dad was a drunk and would knock my mother around but years later I finally saw that most times she'd push him and push till he reacted, it just sucked how he did, but I vowed then to never hit a women and except for that one time during an arrest I never have.
SexyL it's a dman shame your Ex felt the need to do those things to you and if it were dug into I think you might have found he had a huge fear within him and was scared of his job and the only way he could feel good about himself was to hurt you where he knew he might not be able to command respect from his job, sucks but I'd lay odds that would be close. Just know that not all cops, either current of former are like he was.

I agree with you Woodmiester. I think somewhere in his life he didn't have control and needed to have it with me and took it out on me. I don't look at cops or a man with fear or compare them to him. I don't think that would be fair. I have grown so much since then.

 

[69forever]

I have to admit there was one time that I hit my first wife....

Came home from an afternoon that turned into late evening with the guys drinking. She was sitting in the corner in the dark dining room and stepped up and tried to crush my skull with a pool cue.
I caught the cue on my forearm protecting myself and slapped her. It should have never happened. I felt badly about it until she told me if she would have found the ammo for my pistol she would have shot me.

Having owned a bar, I have stopped guys from hitting their woman...and usually got jumped then by the woman..."protecting her man". ~sighs~ I don't want any part of a domestic go around between a guy and gal.

Woman beaters/rapists and child molesters set me off....no matter the consequence. I'll fight to defend and retaliate for such lowlife actions. It happened to family. VERY bad memories, and it fucked up my daughter big time.

Bad subject for me.....

 

[slowndeep]

What her brother did... so not o.k. Violence between anyone shouldn't happen.

However, this is what I believe and I hope I don't get ragged on too much for say this, but I believe if a woman has enough balls to strike a man then she should be prepared to get hit back. If you wanna fight like a man, the do it. Don't go around hitting men and then act surprised when they hit back. Just my opinion.

Valid point ! There are abused men who've experienced serious beatings from their women - and that's way out of order too. My daughter is a detective and has first hand experience of men having awful wounds from domestic violence.

I'd never raise a hand to a woman - that goes against everything I was taught - women , all women , deserve respect and should be cherished. But let's not forget there's some mighty powerful women out there too nowadays (watch WWF !! ) and they should show some restraint to the little guys too .

.....(whispers to wife..."that okay love?")

 

[Gil_T2]

my friend called me a few minutes ago and told me that her brother hit her after they were arguing ....someone said that she probably deserved it but in my opinion no man has the right to hit a woman


opinions??

NEVER EVER IS IT OK but in saying that I'm not talking about MASTER/sub play where spanking etc takes place & is mutually accepted & in fact many ladies I've known enjoy it more than they will admit to....I'm talking about anyone MALE or FEMALE who strikes anyone.It is ABUSE & there is NEVER a reson to abuse anyone.

 

[angel_of_love67]

everyone has a different point of view and so far everyones is right men shouldnt hit women but alot women sho9uldnt dive right in an start pounding on a man and expect him not to retaliate...and there is a big difference in sexual spanking and deliberately provoking violence.

ty all for your input keep posting