Threesomes

[juicywet21]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years. We are best friends and really love eachother. We also have amazing sex, and we have done almost everything there is to do to some extent. Weve called in sick to work and spent entire days in bed, weve roleplayed, and about six months ago he brought up the idea of having a threesome. I wasnt crazy about the idea but it seemed like something he really wanted, so of course I said yes. Weve done it a few (10ish) times since then. Every time its been another woman. Recently the thought popped into my head of having a threesome with him and another man. I asked him about it Friday and he was kind of shocked. He told me he wasnt into men (with a joking tone). Then he was quiet for a minute and asked me how much I wanted it. I said it wasnt that important, but would like to try a man next time. He told me he needed to think about it, and tell me what he thought when he was done.
Now a few side notes
*I asked him at dinner, alone at our place, not at a resteraunt, or when he was watching TV, or before bed
* That night we didnt have sex; just TV and then bed. Since then hes been wanting it a lot more often- 3 times a day most of the time- more on the weekend


Now to my questions: (to guys)
1. As a guy, would being in bed with your woman and another man make you feel gay? If a girlfriend had a threesome with you in another girl, would you think she was bi?
2. If a girlfriend/lover told you she wanted you and another man at the same time would feel inadequate and try to make up for it by trying extra hard to give her 'enough' sexually?

Also any opinions or imput from you guys would be great, especially if you have ever had a guy/ 1 girl threesome, or have asked or been asked to.

Thank you so much.​

 

[Let_it_come]

I'll get my b/f to post for you when he comes home.
We've only ever had girl/boy/boy threesomes, although I'd be interested in playing with another woman one day.
We both like double the spunk, double the fun to be honest.
The boys never play with each other just with me and I love it when they try to out-do each other and show off.
I don't think the Gay side of it really comes into it with us. It's all Het sex just doubled up.
I especially love to hear our 'guest' telling my boy what he's going to do to me (make me squirm etc) and how I feel as he does it.
It's just hot.
The boys DO show-off though... I think you can get a better performance out of your boy this way... Well, a different performance is maybe a better way of putting it. It's all good!
Just my 2c.
Good Luck to you both!
LIC

 

[elrod]

Hummm seems like he is having the goose and the sauce lol. Well 3 somes are a male fantasy and you have been a sexy co-operative woman. You have not said if you enjoyed it - I do hope you did.

The question is are you both realy into threesomes and if so a threesome with another guy - sounds only fair on you - I think its time for your reward.

You could discuss ti more - fro example - woul dyou both be realaxed about hving a twosome with someone else as a first step - kinda open relationship.

Another thought is to explore in role play say on yahoo and see how he feels with that. If you seek a volunteer - look no further lol.

 

[juicywet21]

For the record...

Yes, I have enjoyed almost ecerythng we have done together (there have been a couple oopses, which we laugh at now.). At first when he said it, I didnt really want to because Im not bi, but since it wasnt that important to me one way or another and it meant a lot to him, I agreed to do it. I do enjoy our threesomes (probably mostly because of how excited he gets), but think I would like them even more with another man.

And not to fool around with him. Just me

The 'open relationship' really isnt for us at this point, Im not trying to replace him or anything like that. Just trying to sex up what we already have that much more.

 

[RuReal]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years. We are best friends and really love eachother. We also have amazing sex, and we have done almost everything there is to do to some extent. Weve called in sick to work and spent entire days in bed, weve roleplayed, and about six months ago he brought up the idea of having a threesome. I wasnt crazy about the idea but it seemed like something he really wanted, so of course I said yes. Weve done it a few (10ish) times since then. Every time its been another woman. Recently the thought popped into my head of having a threesome with him and another man. I asked him about it Friday and he was kind of shocked. He told me he wasnt into men (with a joking tone). Then he was quiet for a minute and asked me how much I wanted it. I said it wasnt that important, but would like to try a man next time. He told me he needed to think about it, and tell me what he thought when he was done.
Now a few side notes
*I asked him at dinner, alone at our place, not at a resteraunt, or when he was watching TV, or before bed
* That night we didnt have sex; just TV and then bed. Since then hes been wanting it a lot more often- 3 times a day most of the time- more on the weekend


Now to my questions: (to guys)
1. As a guy, would being in bed with your woman and another man make you feel gay? If a girlfriend had a threesome with you in another girl, would you think she was bi?
2. If a girlfriend/lover told you she wanted you and another man at the same time would feel inadequate and try to make up for it by trying extra hard to give her 'enough' sexually?

Also any opinions or imput from you guys would be great, especially if you have ever had a guy/ 1 girl threesome, or have asked or been asked to.

Thank you so much.​

From my point of view to the first question no! I know I am not gay. I know I like women, but on the same note I would not want the other guy to touch me. Then again I do have issues with personal space so that could be just me.

As for the multiple woman part of that question I guess that depends. What kind of action happened with the two women. Did they touch and fondle each other, or was it just attention on the guy? If it was just focal point on the man then the woman is not bi, or bi curious. If there was contact between the two women I would say bi curious. That one is a bit harder to answer because for the most part of what I have seen women are more sensual than men. Plus there may not be that space issue.

Second question about a threesome with another man. For my mind set if I asked my other half to have a threesome and bring in women, then I just have to assume that at some point she would ask for a man to be brought in.
We have discussed this very thing a few times and it is a hard step to take on both accounts.

The thing with sex is that it is at heart a very personal thing. Our society has made it like that. This means a lot of attachment seems to go with having sex with someone. Does not mean we are not going to do it, just means a little exploration is in order to get it done.

If you don't mind me asking how long has it been since you asked him now? He may be still mulling it over and excited by the idea as well. Give him a chance to work it out in his head. Did you not find it a bit hard when he actually entered the other woman? Maybe he is picturing the same thing in his head and it scares him a bit. Give him a little time is my suggestion.

Good luck

 

[juicywet21]

RuReal
If you don't mind me asking how long has it been since you asked him now? He may be still mulling it over and excited by the idea as well. Give him a chance to work it out in his head. Did you not find it a bit hard when he actually entered the other woman? Maybe he is picturing the same thing in his head and it scares him a bit. Give him a little time is my suggestion.

I asked him Friday night, so its been about 5 days. I havent mentioned it since- and wont until he is comfortable enough to bring it up. Honestly, we havent spent a lot of time together lately between work and friends etc., but now when we are together its pretty much like were either sleeping or havng sex (I dont mind all the sex but the thought that its because I hurt his ego is what kills me).
When he asked I was a little hesitent. I said yes the first night (half hour later maybe) but everytime he wanted to pick 'someone out' I made an excuse why I couldnt do it that night, so it was about two weeks later when we actually did it.

 

[Let_it_come]

Can I ask you Juicywet (I love that name!) what you are hoping for from your threesome?
Great sex, obviously, but is it the idea of being between two men being played with? Or being 'spit-roasted'? Or all of the above plus more!
Do you like the mulitple loads of cum aspect (like me)?

Done with care a threesome can be an incredibly powerful excercise in trust which can bring you and your b/f closer.
I really hope it happens for you, if it is right for you both, and I promise you that you will find no shortage of attractive and respectful men who are interested in joining you. The Gay aspect won't occur to the 'right' sort of man.
LIC
(Your b/f should talk to my b/f)

 

[josephanthony69]

LIC - you are so right about the trust/comfort level of a good 3 some!! My personal favorite is to spit roast the woman!! nothing better than seeing her eyes roll back in her head in ecstasy!

Can I ask you Juicywet (I love that name!) what you are hoping for from your threesome?
Great sex, obviously, but is it the idea of being between two men being played with? Or being 'spit-roasted'? Or all of the above plus more!
Do you like the mulitple loads of cum aspect (like me)?

Done with care a threesome can be an incredibly powerful excercise in trust which can bring you and your b/f closer.
I really hope it happens for you, if it is right for you both, and I promise you that you will find no shortage of attractive and respectful men who are interested in joining you. The Gay aspect won't occur to the 'right' sort of man.
LIC
(Your b/f should talk to my b/f)

 

[Let_it_come]

My kinda guy josephantony!
I love to be spit-roasted. I love my b/f in my mouth while I'm fucked. I love looking up at him looking down at me (if I can get the angle right!).
He loves to pull out and feel me panting on his balls as he rubs his cock all over my face...
Sorry I'm rambling here!
LIC

 

[phoenix1224]

As a guy, would being in bed with your woman and another man make you feel gay?

It wouldn't consider it "gay" unless the two guys were engaging in sexual activities with each other. (Of course, I would personally NEVER allow another man into my relationship.)

If a girlfriend had a threesome with you in another girl, would you think she was bi?

Only if she were engaging in sexual activities with the other woman.

2. If a girlfriend/lover told you she wanted you and another man at the same time would feel inadequate and try to make up for it by trying extra hard to give her 'enough' sexually?

Perhaps.

 

[Eilan]

It would make my husband feel gay--if by "gay" you mean happy.

I don't know why there's an assumption that MFM-style threesome has to include guy-guy sexual contact. Perhaps because there's often girl-girl contact when another woman joins a couple?

My husband and I have done MFM threesomes, and there wasn't any sexual contact between the men. It was mostly about me, which is how I like things.

There's always the possibility that the guys might have some incidental contact, and unless they're taking turns and the other guy's sitting across the room when it's not his turn, that's going to happen. Doesn't make anyone gay.

Gotta love those double standards.

 

[Snowman5933]

I've had a MFM with my SO and a significant friend of ours several times. We set ground rules about whats ok early on, so there were no problems. Basically, myself and the other man really like to pleasure my SO, we do not engage in male on male activities. If you are looking for more specific information on this topice check the GBLT boards (great information over there). Good luck!

Snowman

 

[juicywet21]

It would make my husband feel gay--if by "gay" you mean happy.

I don't know why there's an assumption that MFM-style threesome has to include guy-guy sexual contact.

Me either.

It was mostly about me, which is how I like things.

Thats how I'd want it in a MFM threesome.

 

[jerseyman1963]

The timing of this post is interesting for me. I was just having a conversation with a female friend about this very subject the other day. Maybe my thought process will give you some insight into your own man's thoughts.

We've each had great sex, and been experimental, so our minds and bodies are open, but neither one of us has ever had a threesome. I of course would like to experience a MFF, but she has no real interest in either a MFF or a MMF. One at a time for her. But we have great, free wheeling coversations, so we've been going back and forth on it anyway. Like, what if it were with this person? Or that person? We've done the, "Which Hollywood star/starlet," conversation, and also talked about real people we each know.

It's the, "Which of the real people we both know" conversation that's been interesting. I am your basic straight guy. Not homophobic, but nor do I feel any physical attraction to men. It doesn't scare me, it just doesn't do anything for me. When my friend suggests another women we both know, and I think, "Wow," once I get past the turn on, it's also very sweet to think that she might do it for me just because I'd want to try it, even though it's not her preference or desire.

But when it comes to talking about which guy, and I have to think, "Well, she'd do it for me, and I'd therefore have to step up to the plate too," it gets a little more complicated. Like, "Could I really be naked in a sexual situation with another man? Potentially someone I already know?" I know that it's more than a 95% chance that it would be weird and uncomfortable for me. So I really have to think, "Could I do it, and how would I handle it?"

Someone here said something about how she really gets turned on when she and her man get with another man, and one of them describes her reactions to what the other's doing to her. (Whoever said that, that was darn hot by the way!) But that made me think about this in a different way. Like, what are the ground rules? What are the expectations? The two guys do not necessarily have to have contact with each other, which is what I think many men automatically think about when they think about MMF threesomes.

The old cliche about guys always wanting to see two women getting it on is a cliche because it's so true a lot of the time. You say, "MFF threesome," and we think about watching two chicks getting it on before we think about two women doing us. So when you say, "MMF," our first thought is, "Sexual contact with another man" before we think about two guys pleasing the woman. (OK guys, before you all pile on me for making broad generalizations, I do realize that not EVERY guy is like this.) So next time you talk about it, you might want to specify what you're thinking about, for example, that it might not mean that your man has to have bodily contact with the other guy.

By the way, I think it's great that even though he was obviously brought up short when you turned the tables on him, he didn't flip out. I am guessing that the whole idea makes him uncomfortable, at the least, but he does seem to be giving it some thought, which probably means he understands turn about is fair play. I wouldn't push it too hard. I wouldn't let it go either, but I wouldn't push it to hard. If it's gonna happen, it'll happen when the time is right.

You mentioned having tried things and looking back and laughing about it now, so it sounds like you would survive as a couple if you tried it and it went bad, so the question is how you two as a couple will have to deal with is what it if he decides he just can't, or doesn't want to? Would you be OK with it if he said something like, "Look, I know I am being unfair, but I just can't (or don't wan to) go there on this one."

I'd just suggest to try and let the conversation take its own course, and give him the time to think about it in his own way on his own terms, and see what happens.

 

[Werfalke]

Now to my questions: (to guys)
1. As a guy, would being in bed with your woman and another man make you feel gay? If a girlfriend had a threesome with you in another girl, would you think she was bi?

No, if there is no intentional contact between the men


2. If a girlfriend/lover told you she wanted you and another man at the same time would feel inadequate and try to make up for it by trying extra hard to give her 'enough' sexually?

No, particularly, if this was going to help her recover her sex drive[/FONT

Also any opinions or imput from you guys would be great, especially if you have ever had a guy/ 1 girl threesome, or have asked or been asked to.

Cannot help, never done it.

Thank you so much.
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I wish you all the best with your MFM.

 

[Eilan]

So when you say, "MMF," our first thought is, "Sexual contact with another man" before we think about two guys pleasing the woman. (OK guys, before you all pile on me for making broad generalizations, I do realize that not EVERY guy is like this.

Actually, MMF does imply some bi-male action. MFM does not.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm not a man, but have talked with my husband and other men about this topic at length, and have some MFM experience.

My hubby is far from homophobic, but for a long time the thought of being naked in a sexual situation with another guy kind of gave him the creeps. He explained that a lot of his negative feelings came from growing up and the whole locker room mentality: 'NEVER look, touch, have a sexual thought or erection while you're in a state of undress with other guys, or you'll be accused of being gay. Get in and out and pray nothing embarrassing or horrible will happen.'

He said it's very difficult for him to get past those and the 'Naked men are just wrong' and 'What if something "gay" happens?' thoughts. What changed this was experimenting little by little with a guy he felt comfortable with on multiple occasions. We started with being naked in a hot tub together, progressed to some playful comments and touching, and eventually my hubby didn't have a problem with MFM stuff in the bedroom. Going slowly both gave him an out if he started to feel uncomfortable and allowed him to confront and change his negative thoughts as they popped up.

When we started considering MFM, his libido jumped up significantly. When I asked what exactly was making the difference, he said it was the idea of competition that seemed to get him going, though it was on a instinctual, not cognitive level. Some men and women do feel insecure and fearful enough to try to 'make up' for whatever they think their partner might be seeking in another though.

I'd suggest asking him about some of his initial impressions and peripheral thoughts. I don't think that's pressuring, just communicating about a subject that should be thoroughly discussed.

 

[jerseyman1963]

Actually, MMF does imply some bi-male action. MFM does not.

Oops! Thanks for clarifying the distinction! See, you learn something knew every day.

 

[Eilan]

Oops! Thanks for clarifying the distinction! See, you learn something knew every day.

I didn't know it at first, either.

 

[Exciteher]

Juicywet21, after FMF's I think your interest in an MFM is only natural, ummm is not whats good for the gander is good for the goose?? You will probably get as many answers about this as there are people who have experienced this! lol! Also your questions have been much discussed on the swingers board, a great resource.
http://www.swingersboard.com/

*....Since then hes been wanting it a lot more often- 3 times a day most of the time- more on the weekend

Hummmm... his is a great starting point about a discussion with him about the questions you have asked. " Hey baby, I noticed you are in quite the randy mood since the idea of a MFM came up....what is turning on so much right now?..."

1. As a guy, would being in bed with your woman and another man make you feel gay? If a girlfriend had a threesome with you in another girl, would you think she was bi?

Speaking for myself, No, definately not...and No. I have had relationships with women who are straight... who enjoyed sharing me with another girl, and having sex with the girl too. Even in couples foursomes or moresomes, "crossing over" is not that uncommon... these labels don't mean much.

As many have pointed out, communication is key... it is important that people considering any sort of group situation all be on the same page, and discuss and agree to each others boundarys up front and have great respect for individual diferences. In MFM, unless things are really scripted or structured, usually there will be incidental contact between the males! The more experience you get in group situations, the less meaningful the "labels"...or the NEED to try to define "who is what"... becomes IMHO. Just be clear, go slow and everyone treat everyone with respect.

We started with being naked in a hot tub together, progressed to some playful comments and touching, and eventually my hubby didn't have a problem with MFM stuff in the bedroom. Going slowly both gave him an out if he started to feel uncomfortable and allowed him to confront and change his negative thoughts as they popped up.

Yes, this is perfect advice, as usual! The "giving an out" is really really important I think, for everyone involved actually. This is what respect is all about. Slow=time to explore old and new feelings.

You know, I feel in a group situation if you try to gauge things by the sexual rules and definations formed by the more or less antisexual (or hypocritical?) society at large, things will get very confusing. So much of what is in your head comes from that. Listen to your body instead, if whatever you are doing with whomever turns you off...or on..listen to that. And be honest about what your body tells you, do not force yourself to feel a way you do not. If the mind says yes, and the body says no...listen to your body. If your body says yes... and your mind says no... listen to your body. Be aware that there will be surprises... something you never thought could turn you on ...or off...might. And remember... one always has the option of doing nothing, stopping, backing off and thinking about things if one runs into a conflict between the messages coming from ones mind and the messages coming from ones body. bSlow down and soirt it out. And no matter how one sorts out those conflicts, one has the choice of what one will do..and not do!

Actually these "discoveries" is one of the things about group situations that can be transformative and enriching if dealt with honestly.

If I have to make a distinstion between Straight or Gay, I think about it this way. I think that if you really want a SO of the opposite sex, you are straight. If you really want one of the same sex... you are gay. If it really does not matter what sex SO you would like to have...you are bi. But all of these definitions start to become non-useful in a highly sexually charged situation.

For instance... many "straight" couples that like MFM also like MMF. First of all, both scenes are all about the girl. Hell, all scenes are about the girl! Some "straight" women really get turned on seeing their guys playing with each other... some really get turned off, just like some women get really turned on playing with another woman... and some get turned off even thinking of that! All combinations of inclinations can and do occur in group situations, what actually happens just depends on what everyone agrees on. Have it your way!

2. If a girlfriend/lover told you she wanted you and another man at the same time would feel inadequate and try to make up for it by trying extra hard to give her 'enough' sexually?

Again no, but I understand the concern. I remember once having exactly these sort of feelings. Along with a lot of internal dialogues about straight and gay, and how being naked with other guys would be, would my dick measure up, all sorts of crap like that..lol! When I have felt inadequate, it tends to turn me off and pull away.

I remember having a little dance with myself about that until, in my body, I truly felt I had learned what win/win was all about. And it was group sex where I really learned that. I understood win/win in my mind, but did not up till then in my body. This key knowledge has served me well in all aspects of my life ever since. I realized that pleasuring my girl with other males ( and females too!) not only took her to a particular zenith and a "space" I could not have alone, but it was intensely pleasurable to me, all on its own, seeing her get that, as has helping others give such pleasures to their partners. At first I had thoughts like "Am I not enough for her?" but these were soon vanquished. (But not everyone is like that, have heard of people or either sex suggesting MFM, FMF and even couples and then flipping out when it really happened.) One thing I loved was "focusing" where everyone concentrates on one person... helping with giving that is intense...and being on the receiving end of that I learned that I was quite beyond concerns about definitions in the heat of the moment...lol! We are all different, have unique talents and attributes.. and if we chose to, can have such delightful fun with each other because we are each so unique.

Also any opinions or imput from you guys would be great, especially if you have ever had a guy/ 1 girl threesome, or have asked or been asked to...

Group fun can really add to your relationship if you are so inclined, and of the many rewards I will explain one with a metaphor. Imagine you had a beautiful bird, you loved it dearly but you felt bad about keeping in a cage. One day you decided to let it fly free. Then it came back to you, invigorated. No matter what happened, where it went, who was where it went, how great it felt when it went there... it always came back! Because, even though it needed to live free in the world and experience all life had to offer, it chose to be with you. And you saw the object of your love was now happier than ever. Get my point? Getting to that space with your partner is the reward that is beyond all the horny fun, and is the biggest thing I think for couples that make a practice of these activities. For a guy that is part of a couple (is like this with me anyway) in an MFM this "feeling" was particularly accentuated. So... it is not about adequacy... it is more about choices, diversity and abundance.

As for being the "third wheel", the other M in an MFM, I am often struck by the phenom that while a women can be almost too much for any one guy, more than one guy seems to never be too much for one woman. Thats one reason I like MFM, think it is my fav, sensually less distracting than couples scenes. Knowing I am helping a woman go into deep bliss is bliss itself. Also, besides for the obvious pleasures, the feeling of being accepted into a couples sexual world is hard to describe. And knowing the how the couples fun will be heightened after I am gone is such a turn-on. LOL! One thing, the second guy is always just that. Just because you let some guy in your bed, it gives him no special claim of any sort. Ditch any playmate who does not understand that, and make that clear up front.


A caviet.. if there are problems in the relartionship group sexual activities can amplify these problems. This may or may not be a difficult thing, depending on how fundamental the existing problems are, how honest everyone is, how well they can communicate, and how committed they are to working on the relationship. As issues come up... work throught them one by one until proceeding any further. Everyone goes through that... issues always come up.

Well there is my 2 cents. Good luck! Enjoy!

 

[Let_it_come]

Hi all -
Paul here. not Jen.
Why not try with this as a fantasy to start?
You, your B/F & mix in a dildo?
Talk over what you both want from it & see if you want to make it real.
For us this worked as an intro - A great fantasy we used to wank each other over, then very nervously we made it real and it worked for us.
The gay thing never struck me - both me & him were focused on her - 2 at once, one after the other etc.
The point was her pleasure which we both got off on.
The whole competion thing is odd. it's more like we're each trying to be her best. It's all to do with her not me & him.
I can say that its brought us closer & that there is more between us now because of MFM threesomes. Giving your girlfriend's pussy to another man is a really powerful thing, her choosing him for first fuck so you can both enjoy the cum together afterwards is really powerful too.
Like I've said it's all about her & her pleasure & the fact that you never own your girlfriend.
Any help?

 

[countrygent36]

Hi all -
Paul here. not Jen.
Why not try with this as a fantasy to start?
You, your B/F & mix in a dildo?
Talk over what you both want from it & see if you want to make it real.
For us this worked as an intro - A great fantasy we used to wank each other over, then very nervously we made it real and it worked for us.
The gay thing never struck me - both me & him were focused on her - 2 at once, one after the other etc.
The point was her pleasure which we both got off on.
The whole competion thing is odd. it's more like we're each trying to be her best. It's all to do with her not me & him.
I can say that its brought us closer & that there is more between us now because of MFM threesomes. Giving your girlfriend's pussy to another man is a really powerful thing, her choosing him for first fuck so you can both enjoy the cum together afterwards is really powerful too.
Like I've said it's all about her & her pleasure & the fact that you never own your girlfriend.
Any help?

I'm glad to see you worked thru this and brought your relationship to a new level.
A previos GF and I had just gotten to the "dildo phase" , when we broke up over other aspects of life. But I do know that little trick, her idea, was definitely helping me get beyond the overpowering feeling of inadequacy that I felt. At any rate, glad to see things worked out.

 

[Let_it_come]

Make your boy know you love him and that you're not thinking of replacing him.
Make him understand you just want to add to what you've got together. Make it about the two of you.The other guy is just an add-on.
Always let your boy know what you enjoyed and why you enjoyed it, never let him imagine the other man was a better fuck than him, always let him understand that fucking with the other man was only good because he was there too.
Male egos are hard work, we all know that.
I told my B/F that it was because he was so good that I wanted more (True). It was never about him not being good enough to keep me happy.
Jenny

PS: Paul, You can't type for sh*t, honey!

 

[smudgy]

JuciyWet21,

My personal opinion on this as a man is a bit split.

1.> I honestly believe that if you love each other and are dedicatd to each other then there should be no reason why you should not bring another man into your joint bed especially if you have already taken another women to your bed a few times (10ish).

2.> I personally would be feeling a little aprahensive of the situation, I know that it would be petty of me and not the case but I would be worried that I would suffer by comparison in both size and techneque.

3.> And also yes I would be feeling a bit gay.

Again this is only my opinion on this situation although I have in the past discussed this with my wife (as a general discussion nothing more) and she has said the same things about the coparison thing, although interestingly not about the gay bit!!!

The only other thing I would say is that if he is really concerned about it there could be a possibility of ruining an obviously great relationship.

Hope this helps.

TTFN

 

[masterWNY]

Now to my questions: (to guys)
1. As a guy, would being in bed with your woman and another man make you feel gay? If a girlfriend had a threesome with you in another girl, would you think she was bi?
2. If a girlfriend/lover told you she wanted you and another man at the same time would feel inadequate and try to make up for it by trying extra hard to give her 'enough' sexually?

Also any opinions or imput from you guys would be great, especially if you have ever had a guy/ 1 girl threesome, or have asked or been asked to.

Thank you so much.​

Any guy going in to a threesome with a girl he loves and another man, will have to deal with the issue of infidelity if he and his partner are in an 'exclusive' relationship. This is the same for even the female partner engaged in f/f/m sex.

That being said- it seems clear to me that he thought long and hard at the prospect of watching a girl he loves take another man's cock. If it were simply a disembodied cock, much easier scenario. But this is a male animal thing.

He left you alone for that night, and now is banging you all the time. This clearly means to me that he thought about it, and is now pumping you full of cum to mark his territory; or even trying to impregnate you at the thought of you being with another man- he might never admit this, or even be aware of it.

My guess is he will continue to pump you full of cum, and hope that you never bring it up again. I bet he even looked at his own guilt of fucking another woman differently when the tables were turned on him.

So ultimately its the two of you having to make that decision of whether or not you value the monogomous relationship, or risking it being dissolved by introducing others.

It's classic swinger problems- nothing new.
Youre either a player and a slut or the happily bonded couple. Your choice- having both will never last naturally.