To be seen

[nutoseen]

Is exhibitionism a critical part of the bdsm thrill for submissives?

i love to be on display/seen/ revealed while being engaged in lite SPH

 

[jodiesfuntoo]

For me it's about exposure, vulnerability and people seeing the dirty little slut that I am.

This is my kink exactly.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

This is my kink exactly.

Mmmm. I love that. Does your husband know that you show off???

 

[40sBiCuckCple]

It is for my wife and I but for somewhat differing reasons. I like the humiliation, she loves the reputation…..we kind of feed on each other.

 

[Erosfan]

I once told my late wife that she had two ways to get me naked. 1. Undress me. 2. tell me to strip. I did caution her to choose when and where cautiously, because I would never refuse her. I never did and we had some really good times.

 

[PleasureDaddy]

As a dominant I love to watch everything. One of the hottest things a gf did for me was masturbate for me while I watched and rubbed her thighs and tits. I let her close her eyes and told her she was a whore and needed to rub harder for me or I would spank her.

 

[CEOescape]

for me it is not critical but it is a special bonus

 

[Smoothshavendad]

for me it is not critical but it is a special bonus

Tell me more….

 

[cascadiabound]

I don't believe exhibitionism is a requirement for BDSM or submissiveness, but it is an element some people enjoy, crave or need.

I think it's important that if you get a thrill out of exposure /exhibitionism, that you consider the consent of the person to whom you are exposed.

For me, the idea that I *might* be exposed is as hot as actually being exposed. So... nakedness in the full length windows of a high rise building where it feels like the whole world can see you, but they'd actually need a telescope to see much at all. Or, being exposed in a place that is theoretically risky, but no one is actually around - outdoors situations, etc.

I don't generally think of myself as having an exhibitionist fetish, but I do get off on him taking control of that away from me and creating risk of exposure scenarios. Easy fantasy fodder is having him expose my beasts for a long car ride or having my skirt ride high enough that someone trying to look would see I'm not wearing panties as he tells me what a naughty girl I am...

 

[Worzel550]

I don't believe exhibitionism is a requirement for BDSM or submissiveness, but it is an element some people enjoy, crave or need.

I think it's important that if you get a thrill out of exposure /exhibitionism, that you consider the consent of the person to whom you are exposed.

For me, the idea that I *might* be exposed is as hot as actually being exposed. So... nakedness in the full length windows of a high rise building where it feels like the whole world can see you, but they'd actually need a telescope to see much at all. Or, being exposed in a place that is theoretically risky, but no one is actually around - outdoors situations, etc.

I don't generally think of myself as having an exhibitionist fetish, but I do get off him taking control of that away from me and creating risk of exposure scenarios. Easy fantasy fodder is having him expose my beasts for a long car ride or having my skirt ride high enough that someone trying to look would see I'm not wearing panties as he tells me what a naughty girl I am...

Not naughty but able to share your assets

 

[HarleyQuim]

Is exhibitionism a critical part of the bdsm thrill for submissives?

Critical? No. Enjoyable? Yes! But the trick here is consent, which applies to the audience as well.

 

[Erosfan]

I never would've imagined that it was, until I saw the thrill and mischievous satisfaction on my Lovely Wife Domme's face as She was whipping my slave cock, while caught up in a thick traffic jam.... Now I crave it to the point that I gladly let Her whip me on the town square or run me up a flagpole, naked and spread-eagle...
IOW, anything that is pleasing to Her, is absolutely intoxicating and thrilling to me!

I am so much like you! "IOW, anything that is pleasing to Her, is absolutely intoxicating and thrilling to me!" I've told my lady, many times, that she could drag my naked ass out in public and have her way with me and I would not even attempt to stop her.

 

[Ciceri]

I went to SF with my Dom and wore nothing but a leashed collar and jockstrap at Folsom. I’m closeted but the thrill of being seen had me hard most of the time

 

[Boat1]

I am so much like you! "IOW, anything that is pleasing to Her, is absolutely intoxicating and thrilling to me!" I've told my lady, many times, that she could drag my naked ass out in public and have her way with me and I would not even attempt to stop her.

Lol... I've seen the commonalities between us in many, many posts!

 

[CEOescape]

Lol... I've seen the commonalities between us in many, many posts!

what do you enjoy

 

[Boat1]

what do you enjoy

I enjoy my Lovely Wife Domme and everything we share... I'm a masochist and well cared for by Her!

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

I'm an exhibitionist at heart but I can't say it is a critical component for me.

We have a rule that we do not impose our lifestyle on others so no collars or the like in general outings. And these days we don't have any close friends that are comfortable with the life and that we'd feel okay engaging. But, if we did, it absolutely would be a thing for me.

Like others, for me, it is about the humiliation. I'm not well endowed and that just adds to it all. Like many others, CFNM is a common fantasy for me.

One of my strongest fantasies is for Mistress (wife) to invite some friends over and make me strip to my frilliest panties and cook for them and then when it is time for service, to strip to a cock ring and serve them dinner and be at their service, in whatever way that would mean, the rest of the evening. Even to the point of being teased about my dick and patted and spanked on my ass. Yummy!

And did I mention I'm an outwardly very alpha male so this goes really deep for me.

 

[bisissyhusband1]

Being pegged by my wife as one of her girl friends watched was exciting. So were the next 3 pegging shows in front of other girl friends. The subsequent pegging party where my wife and four of her girl friends took turns pegging me while the others cheered us on was exceptional!

 

[Samantha47]

It is for me!

Me too

 

[liqueur]

I should have said "can.....be part of the thrill for some submissives?"
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Absolutely. I would think that when a humiliation or degradation kink is tied into the submission, the frequency of exhibitionist thrills increases significantly.

 

[liqueur]

I went to SF with my Dom and wore nothing but a leashed collar and jockstrap at Folsom.

I would love that. Or better yet, no strap. A cock cage, and the leash attached to my balls.

 

[Ciceri]

That would be awesome being led by the balls

 

[40sBiCuckCple]

That would be awesome being led by the balls

Amen!

 

[Ciceri]

We were from out of town so I really shouldn’t have been so inhibited. My Dom should have said no to the clothes

 

[Erosfan]

I'm an exhibitionist at heart but I can't say it is a critical component for me.

We have a rule that we do not impose our lifestyle on others so no collars or the like in general outings. And these days we don't have any close friends that are comfortable with the life and that we'd feel okay engaging. But, if we did, it absolutely would be a thing for me.

Like others, for me, it is about the humiliation. I'm not well endowed and that just adds to it all. Like many others, CFNM is a common fantasy for me.

One of my strongest fantasies is for Mistress (wife) to invite some friends over and make me strip to my frilliest panties and cook for them and then when it is time for service, to strip to a cock ring and serve them dinner and be at their service, in whatever way that would mean, the rest of the evening. Even to the point of being teased about my dick and patted and spanked on my ass. Yummy!

And did I mention I'm an outwardly very alpha male so this goes really deep for me.

"One of my strongest fantasies is for Mistress (wife) to invite some friends over and make me strip to my frilliest panties and cook for them and then when it is time for service, to strip to a cock ring and serve them dinner and be at their service, in whatever way that would mean, the rest of the evening. Even to the point of being teased about my dick and patted and spanked on my ass. Yummy!"

"And did I mention I'm an outwardly very alpha male so this goes really deep for me."

This pretty much describes me. My strongest fantasy is to be naked for my wife and a few of her friends. I would be their entertainment, in whatever way my wife desired. She would set the pace and establish the rules. Ultimately, I would cum for them, however she would want that to happen. After cumming, I am made to remain naked and be at their disposal.
My late wife and I had so many discussions about this type of scenario. She was so willing to listen to me and talk to me. She was very supportive, and would even tell me who she might invite and what she might want me to do for them. She always ended our chats with "I just don't think I can go through with it." We never did go there, but she would take care of me in very special ways that played to my exhibitionist and CFNM kinks. She called me her "slut" and I wear that proudly.

I too am alpha in my day to day life. My friends and coworkers have no clue and would be shocked to learn of my proclivities.