Trouble With Keeping It Erect and 'Up'

[Shiznit69]

Well, little embarassed to be talking about this but I'm 21 years old and me and my girlfriend have been together for 9 months as of last night. The thing is, I have one hell of a time trying to myself erect and when it does get erect, it gets right back down as fast as it came up and sometimes it doesnt get erect at all. She has possibly everything she can think of but it hasn't worked.

I have no clue what the problem is, I've had hernia surgury close above that region but I dont think thats the problem. Any help will be greatly appriciated. Thanks.

 

[ReadyOne]

Actually, there is a modest possability the the surgery han an effect. Talk to your doctor.

 

[CelticFrog]

I'll second the doctor thing.

Even if the surgery didn't have an effect, there are still physiological problems (not always psychological ones) that can hinder your ability to get and stay erect.

If you really can't handle going into a doctor's office, call one of the hospitals' nurse care line thingies and ask them. They will likely tell you to go in and be examined, but then again you have to remember when you do that, generally either the people in the waiting room are there for the same reason or worse ones than you.

Get seen. For your sake and your girlfriend's. She's probably worrying that she's doing something wrong. At least I would.

Ang

 

[DuckLover]

The big question is whether you can sustain an erection when you're alone, masturbating for example. If so, than the problem isn't physical.

If you have trouble maintaining an erection both when alone and when with your gf, than seeing the doctor is probably your wisest move.

Since you and your gf have been together for 9 months, it seems unlikely that the problem is embarassment. That said, you should be cautious about a self-fulfilling prophecy-- if you get stressed about not getting it up, it won't come up. One possible aid would be to go buy a cock ring. I strongly recommend a snap or velcro based model, something that's quick and easy to remove. (Overly tight cock rings can cause serious physical damage... permanent damage.) There are already a couple threads on the subject of cock rings if you want more info on them.

Good luck!

 

[quickfoot]

Even if you can sustain an erection when masturbating assuming you are generally healthy extra cardio will help you.

Viagra would not be needed for most people if they had good cardio health.

Distance running, swiming, other non anarobic workouts will help build cardio strength.

You should check any and all medication you are on or have been on recently and if you feel you need to go to a doctor, also think about life changing events.

Stress can be a big factor, I'm 22 and I've had problem on occasion when particurarly stressed.

The other question I would have would be are you aroused? You might try some other forms of stimulation and see what happens, there are lots of good ideas on the boards.

 

[WildRose40DDD]

???

Are there other things you are nervous about: like pregnancy or pleasing her, that could be having an effect?

 

[Shiznit69]

I have absolutely no problem maintaining an erection when I am by myself, it's only when I am with her...so maybe it is from stress or the fact that I think about it not getting erect so much that it bothers me. I'm aroused all the time when Im with her when we do stuff but it just never works :S...Im not nervous about pregnancy and without a doubt not about pleasing her cause I do get the job done...but maybe its the stress..I'll try a few things.

I won't try the cock-ring idea right now, first I'll see if I can get my mind of this when we are together and try and not be too stressed. Thanks a bunch ppl!