Twelve Step sex

[sirhugs]

Never been to a tweve step program (AA, NA, Sex anonymous, etc.) but seems to be a good place to meet people for sex (SA is joking assumed to be great for this).
But i dont recall seeing any Lit stories built around this...

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

I’d say maybe instead of a support group for sex addiction, maybe make it a support group for fetishes and acts. That way the characters having sex isn’t a failure, falling to their oddly specific or dangerous fetish is

You could still have supports and that’s how you could get odd pairings

For example: one guy really gets off on warming up peanut butter in the microwave and then fucking it (I once heard of someone doing this…people are weird)…only he has roommates or sometimes can’t wait to get home.

He gets paired with a woman who really likes cutting her clothes off with scissors, especially if someone is watching. So one day, they both are having a crisis: they are in Walmart and he’s got a jar of Skippy and she’s got a pair of scissors so they call each other and instead fuck in the bathroom so neither one of them indulge in public…they still get in trouble but it’s a process

 

[sirhugs]

I’d say maybe instead of a support group for sex addiction, maybe make it a support group for fetishes and acts. That way the characters having sex isn’t a failure, falling to their oddly specific or dangerous fetish is

You could still have supports and that’s how you could get odd pairings

For example: one guy really gets off on warming up peanut butter in the microwave and then fucking it (I once heard of someone doing this…people are weird)…only he has roommates or sometimes can’t wait to get home.

He gets paired with a woman who really likes cutting her clothes off with scissors, especially if someone is watching. So one day, they both are having a crisis: they are in Walmart and he’s got a jar of Skippy and she’s got a pair of scissors so they call each other and instead fuck in the bathroom so neither one of them indulge in public…they still get in trouble but it’s a process

is it reatistic enoughto be believable to think that the organizers would mix fetishes like that?

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

The thought process could be that by mixing them they are less likely to try doing it together

 

[Rob_Royale]

My best friend lost his wife about twelve years ago and he was involved with the widows/widowers support group in his area. He later told me that hook ups were pretty common within the group.

 

[sirhugs]

My best friend lost his wife about twelve years ago and he was involved with the widows/widowers support group in his area. He later told me that hook ups were pretty common within the group.

I can imagine that as an infertile hunting ground.
(I'll show myself out now...)

Seriousy, though, I think this version would find a good audience in the Mature category.

 

[liliput1]

The SAA people have to be pretty careful about starting new things, but IIRC thats generalized to other *A meetings as well.

The shit part of that is if you’re dealing with booze, drugs, or to a lesser extent food, you may have had to cut some people out of your life who would undermine your sobriety. So the meetings provide some of that social support you’re now missing in your other circles.

I couldn’t find anything specific to AA but I did find this:

“The first year of sobriety is fraught with challenging issues,” says Anne Lewis, a psychologist and clinical addiction counselor at Indiana University Health, based in Indianapolis. “It will be easy for many to find replacement addictions, such as a love addiction, to replace the high the drug or alcohol provided. Many people enjoy the honeymoon phase of relationships, feeling euphoria from the new love, making it more challenging to address issues that underlie the addiction. Typically these underlying issues are related to our negative core beliefs, a difficult thing to uncover when we are viewed as ‘perfect’ by our new partner.”

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But you can’t stay celibate forever. I think it would be plausible for two people, one celebrating their 1 year chip and the other a similarly long time (eg, 9 months) to celebrate together and end up with a spark.

The problem is always of course that if one falls off the wagon it might pull the other,

AlAnon is a support group for family and loved ones of alcoholics. There’s more fertile ground there to find a healthy relationship amongst the rubble. A good slow burn and some dramatic tension would be easy.

 

[anthrodisiac]

I’d say maybe instead of a support group for sex addiction, maybe make it a support group for fetishes and acts. That way the characters having sex isn’t a failure, falling to their oddly specific or dangerous fetish is

You could still have supports and that’s how you could get odd pairings

For example: one guy really gets off on warming up peanut butter in the microwave and then fucking it (I once heard of someone doing this…people are weird)…only he has roommates or sometimes can’t wait to get home.

He gets paired with a woman who really likes cutting her clothes off with scissors, especially if someone is watching. So one day, they both are having a crisis: they are in Walmart and he’s got a jar of Skippy and she’s got a pair of scissors so they call each other and instead fuck in the bathroom so neither one of them indulge in public…they still get in trouble but it’s a process

I cannot tell you enough how much I love this idea.

Not the peanut butter thing, that's fucking weird.* But the story idea!

*Said the anthro porn writer.

 

[sirhugs]

I cannot tell you enough how much I love this idea.

Not the peanut butter thing, that's fucking weird.* But the story idea!

*Said the anthro porn writer.

I'm sure that there is an anthro twist. there is always an anthro twist.

And it's "erotica", not "porn".

 

[anthrodisiac]

If you have a smoking fetish story, this could actually play well with any number of AA/NA/Rehab-style stories. People who are giving up drugs, especially harder drugs, tend to smoke/vape A LOT.

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

“look, I’ve been sober for about 2 months now.”

“That’s great!”

“Only problem is I need a less bad habit to replace the one had and I chose smoking”

1A. “Only problem is, I only feel like smoking after sex so…can you be my support booty call?”

2A. “But smoking and vaping are also bad for me. But my sponsor said maybe just having the feeling of something in my mouth will do the job, but cinnamon sticks and flavored air don’t work so…”

He was pretty sure she was lying, but as he felt her lips slide down to the base of his shaft and felt his mushroom tip press against the back of her throat…he really didn’t care to call her on it.

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

Course taking the title in a different direction:

Woman has reached the part of her recovery where she needs to apologize to the people she’s wronged the most, which is her stepfamily. And somehow the only way to make it up is through sex.

“Aaron, I’m sorry for that time while I was on a bender and I stole your car…and your senior prom date who was in the car. I’m sorry I then had hot drunken sex with your prom date, and your best friend, and your date and best friends’ moms multiple times. Therefore here is a number to my private cell. Call it and I will be there to rock your world your friend’s mom’s world…your mom’s world, your sister’s world…pretty much your whole part of the family.”

 

[liliput1]

I cannot tell you enough how much I love this idea.

Not the peanut butter thing, that's fucking weird.* But the story idea!

*Said the anthro porn writer.

You do anthro porn and… you haven’t worked peanut butter into a scene yet?

 

[Annabelle1990]

Never been to a tweve step program (AA, NA, Sex anonymous, etc.) but seems to be a good place to meet people for sex (SA is joking assumed to be great for this).
But i dont recall seeing any Lit stories built around this...

I hope twelve steps is more than twelve pumps.

 

[anthrodisiac]

You do anthro porn and… you haven’t worked peanut butter into a scene yet?

I bring shame upon my clan...

 

[Annabelle1990]

I hope twelve steps is more than twelve pumps.

I might have been buzzed when I wrote that.

 

[liliput1]

I hope twelve steps is more than twelve pumps.

Oh. You’re not allowed to finish until I’ve done twelve different things to you.

 

[Annabelle1990]

Oh. You’re not allowed to finish until I’ve done twelve different things to you.

That's more like it!

 

[liliput1]

I bring shame upon my clan...

Did I just kink shame you? Or unkink shame?

 

[anthrodisiac]

Did I just kink shame you? Or unkink shame?

Somehow both. I've been a bad, bad archaeopteryx. I definitely deserved to be spanked.

 

[MountainLakes]

Sign on the church basement door:

"Due to a scheduling conflict, next week's AA, NA, SA, and GA meetings will all be held on Tuesday at 7 PM."

Well, that could be fun.

"Hi, I'm Don, I've been sober for 2 years. But, I have blow and a raging hard-on. Anyone want to take a chance?"

 

[Britva415]

seems to be a good place to meet people for sex

A lot of people do hook up there. There's a cliché name for it: the thirteenth step.

They almost always are shit-shows. Someone experienced is taking advantage of someone who's fragile and new, and maybe not even sober, or else, both of them are still just neurotic wrecks with shitloads of baggage, even if they have been sober for years.

But yeah, as long as one is really good at setting and holding boundaries, it can be a great place to meet fuckbuddies! Or more.

 

[Carnevil9]

I've had several girlfriends who were "Friends of Bill."* The thing that all alcoholics have in common is that they have addictive personalities. When they are doing their best to kick one addiction, the usual way is to latch on to a different addiction to replace it. Going to meetings is one. Coffee is another. Cigarettes are another. And sex, well, that's the best addiction substitution of all. I've been blessed to help a few of them out with that. Lots of good story fodder there.

*I'm not sure what this says about me. I guess I have "a type."

 

[sirhugs]

I've had several girlfriends who were "Friends of Bill."* The thing that all alcoholics have in common is that they have addictive personalities. When they are doing their best to kick one addiction, the usual way is to latch on to a different addiction to replace it. Going to meetings is one. Coffee is another. Cigarettes are another. And sex, well, that's the best addiction substitution of all. I've been blessed to help a few of them out with that. Lots of good story fodder there.

*I'm not sure what this says about me. I guess I have "a type."

"And sex, well, that's the best addiction substitution of all"

THIS.

A perfect key line in a story.