Unusual fetishes

[Raine D8]

How does the BDSM community feel about a diaper fetish? If someone had one, and I am particularly interested in a Dom/Domme persepective, though all are welcome ... would you encourage it or what would be your reaction if a sub wore diapers, or asked you to change their diaper?

 

[Betticus]

http://understanding.infantilism.org/

 

[Sir_Winston54]

How does the BDSM community feel about a diaper fetish? If someone had one, and I am particularly interested in a Dom/Domme persepective, though all are welcome ... would you encourage it or what would be your reaction if a sub wore diapers, or asked you to change their diaper?

I didn't enjoy changing my son's diaper when he was a child, and doubt seriously I'd enjoy doing it for a pyl now. I know there are people in the community who practice infantilism, sometimes as a form of humiliation, but it's not my cuppa tea.

 

[Vixandra]

Not my kind of kink.

Now a girl in cat ears acting feline-ish, that's hot. Pony and puppy play aren't otuside the realm of possiblities either.

But diapers? I truely did NOT enjoy that as a medic, don't see how I could enjoy or participate in that kind of fetish with a pyl.

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Not my kind of kink.

Now a girl in cat ears acting feline-ish, that's hot.

Agreed

infantilism is not my cuppa, but I have met someone for whom it was, and she was cool. To each their own kink.

 

[Xelebes]

Furries, all of you.

Hah.

 

[Master Sensei]

How does the BDSM community feel about a diaper fetish? If someone had one, and I am particularly interested in a Dom/Domme persepective, though all are welcome ... would you encourage it or what would be your reaction if a sub wore diapers, or asked you to change their diaper?

It's not my cup of tea either, as I prefer Daddy/daughter play. However, if I had a girl I loved and she wanted to do this occasionally, I would oblige.

There is very little I won't do when I treasure a girl.

 

[His_pita]

I love being my Daddy's little girl but no way would I want to do infantilism. I have done child care for over 20 years and diapers hold no appeal to me whatsoever.

 

[graceanne]

I'm with Pita on this. I've been changing diapers since I was 9. I have no interest in it as a fetish.

 

[Killishandra]

I would do it if it were a really strong desire of my sub, and I loved him/her, but I am sure I could not see it in any sort of sexual context in my own mind. It would be awkward for me to go from changing a diaper to a sex scene. I would want a transition time inbetween. Also, it would be easier for me to handle a sub who wanted me to change a diaper than a Dom who wanted me to wear one.

All in all, NOT a kink I am really interested in trying either as sub or Dom. Recently I've become marginally interested in watersports as an aspect of humiliation, but anything to do with feces or diapers crosses the "interest/no interest" line for me. *shrug*

Of course, (and I know I'm repeating others' sentiments here) "To each their own."

 

[shy slave]

I was really interested in the replies.
Most of you associate diaper play with some form of scat.

I have read fantasies about it and they have all centred on the actual wearing and odd moment of wetting. Not scat.

Its not a fetish I have an interest in. I was given the opportunity about two years ago to meet a man who wanted me to wear a diaper to the meeting; I decided then it was not a place that mentally felt ok for me.

To me, it is a just a place one step further out of a role play and like any role play its only going to be a success if both people have that interest.

I am not a fan of role play so I have many steps to get through before I am ready to wear a diaper.

However I do admire people who can explore things outside of their limits.

 

[graceanne]

I was really interested in the replies.
Most of you associate diaper play with some form of scat.

I have read fantasies about it and they have all centred on the actual wearing and odd moment of wetting. Not scat.

Its not a fetish I have an interest in. I was given the opportunity about two years ago to meet a man who wanted me to wear a diaper to the meeting; I decided then it was not a place that mentally felt ok for me.

To me, it is a just a place one step further out of a role play and like any role play its only going to be a success if both people have that interest.

I am not a fan of role play so I have many steps to get through before I am ready to wear a diaper.

However I do admire people who can explore things outside of their limits.

I don't personally care if it's got anything in it. I've changed four diapers just today (we're potty training - yay! ) and I don't want to change CLEAN diapers. If I never see another diaper it'll be too soon.

Beyond that, the first time I got sick - the time I almost bled to death - I had such bad diarhea that I had to wear a diaper (my sister was getting baptized - no way I was gonna miss that). I got such a bad rash that I was bleeding. So any chance of it ever being in the slightest bit erotic for me is non existant.

 

[Raine D8]

http://understanding.infantilism.org/

Thanks for the link. I have read the site I am after a general opinion from the BDSM community, particularly dominants since ABDL might often suggest more submissive tendancies.

I seriously felt there may be a more positive, if you will, response regarding 'any' unusual fetish from a group that is more fetish in nature, than say a republican group. lol .

For example, in my experience. If you have a lover who has a fetish, and you participate in that fetish, not because you get turned on by it, but rather because the person you love does - would it matter what the fetish object was?

How different is a pair of panties from diapers, when it comes to fetish?

Maybe it is ... the mindset toward diapers? (I think I saw a later post, and I will respond to that one.)

Thanks though.

 

[Raine D8]

I would do it if it were a really strong desire of my sub, and I loved him/her, but I am sure I could not see it in any sort of sexual context in my own mind. It would be awkward for me to go from changing a diaper to a sex scene. I would want a transition time inbetween. Also, it would be easier for me to handle a sub who wanted me to change a diaper than a Dom who wanted me to wear one.

All in all, NOT a kink I am really interested in trying either as sub or Dom. Recently I've become marginally interested in watersports as an aspect of humiliation, but anything to do with feces or diapers crosses the "interest/no interest" line for me. *shrug*

Of course, (and I know I'm repeating others' sentiments here) "To each their own."

Just for information purposes, infantilism is not DL, although there are adult babies who closely resemble infanilists, but it is also not the same thing. DL comes in many forms. As per my previous post, it is the object of diaper that is the fetish. Scat and watersports are quite different, and a DL, while some may, do not necessarily aspire sexually to these.

You say, "It would be awkward for me to go from changing a diaper to a sex scene. I would want a transition time inbetween. Also, it would be easier for me to handle a sub who wanted me to change a diaper than a Dom who wanted me to wear one." I think we all understand why. A diaper is associated very closely with children, and it is the mindset to think of any object associated with children as being in the vicinity of pedophilia. Perhaps this is what turns most off of DL more than other fetishes?

Not sure, there may be mor to it. Just a question.

 

[Raine D8]

To me, it is a just a place one step further out of a role play and like any role play its only going to be a success if both people have that interest.

I am not a fan of role play so I have many steps to get through before I am ready to wear a diaper.

A fetish is not necessarily a role play, nor does there need to be a role to play to get off on a fetish if you have one. Nonetheless, I am interested in all opinions. Thanks for yours.

 

[Raine D8]

I don't personally care if it's got anything in it. I've changed four diapers just today (we're potty training - yay! ) and I don't want to change CLEAN diapers. If I never see another diaper it'll be too soon.

Beyond that, the first time I got sick - the time I almost bled to death - I had such bad diarhea that I had to wear a diaper (my sister was getting baptized - no way I was gonna miss that). I got such a bad rash that I was bleeding. So any chance of it ever being in the slightest bit erotic for me is non existant.

Funny story. Thanks for you add, and thanks to everyone who did, and hopefully will respond.

 

[Quint]

For example, in my experience. If you have a lover who has a fetish, and you participate in that fetish, not because you get turned on by it, but rather because the person you love does - would it matter what the fetish object was?

Yes. There are neutral fetishes and there are distasteful fetishes. This will obviously differ by the individual, but I would be much more willing to join T in expressing his love of a fetish I find sexually neutral, such as panties, than I would for a fetish I find negative appeal in, such as diapers. There are lots of levels: the aesthetic, the sensory, the mental/emotional associations. I think panties are cute, so I'd be much more likely to accept and participate in my partner's joie de underwear, despite having no sexual attraction to them myself. Nobody has tried to say that it's morally wrong or anything, just that on the afore-mentioned levels, they aren't interested.

Not to say that one's perception of the erotic can't change...I used to be turned off by watersports and gradually grew to see erotic potential. But I'm no more aroused by scat than when I first learned of the fetish (although my shock has decreased in a huge way), and I suspect that diapers falls into this "not likely to change, regardless of what my partner desires" category for me.

 

[Raine D8]

Yes. There are neutral fetishes and there are distasteful fetishes. This will obviously differ by the individual, but I would be much more willing to join T in expressing his love of a fetish I find sexually neutral, such as panties, than I would for a fetish I find negative appeal in, such as diapers. There are lots of levels: the aesthetic, the sensory, the mental/emotional associations. I think panties are cute, so I'd be much more likely to accept and participate in my partner's joie de underwear, despite having no sexual attraction to them myself. Nobody has tried to say that it's morally wrong or anything, just that on the afore-mentioned levels, they aren't interested.

Not to say that one's perception of the erotic can't change...I used to be turned off by watersports and gradually grew to see erotic potential. But I'm no more aroused by scat than when I first learned of the fetish (although my shock has decreased in a huge way), and I suspect that diapers falls into this "not likely to change, regardless of what my partner desires" category for me.

I love the 'joie de underwear', and just wanted to quote it again. lol. I understand what you are saying. I am not getting angry, as I simply have a neutral interest, and am writing something about it. I just wanted to get a general feel for an attitude, although I also realize an attitude does not sum up a whole group.

I do believe, as Shy Slave points out, and having talked to a number of ABDLs, that scat is not the fetish issue of being a DL, but rather like a foot fetish ... the feel, the taste, the smell, and the touch. Hell, if someone has a foot fetish and wants to massage my feet or suck my toes, you think I am going to deny it? Even though it does not turn me on?

In this way, there is the realm of acceptable fetish and unacceptable fetish, not simply on a personal level, nor in BDSM, but among society as a whole, I think. I can't stand golden showers, but I will do it for a sub because I can and thats the pleasure of a gift. (just don't ask me to kiss your lips afterwards).

I could accept a diaper fetish, but as a boundry, have no desire to participate in that fetish, for example. Nonetheless, if my sub wanted to wear diapers, and wanted to masturbate to them, then that would be his/her choice.

This is the attitude that I hoped for from the BDSM community. I see that this is neither an easy fetish for those who live it, nor those who think about it.

I hope my opinion and purpose is much clarified now.

 

[FurryFury]

Probably wouldn't be going there.

Not that I am judging anyone else mind you.

Just not loving the idea of it.

Fury

 

[Lilith]

I was looking at adult baby clothes on eBay just a little while ago. I am curious about this sort of play. I must admit I have always associated diapers with infantilism and for me I don't see me in that scene. I'm a Domme not a Mommy type. I want to be served/serviced not spend my play time in service. For me it would be almost the opposite of my usual role.

 

[cati]

re: diaper fetish

At a Fet night a couple of years ago, I noticed a guy wearing only a diaper. In all honesty, I felt a little embarrassed for him, but he seemed happier than a lark prancing around in his "nappy. While infantilism and diaper wearing is not something that turns me on, I more or less respect our differing kinks and fetishes.
...on that note I have to add my own..."mild" GRUNGE.

 

[CutieMouse]

How does the BDSM community feel about a diaper fetish? If someone had one, and I am particularly interested in a Dom/Domme persepective, though all are welcome ... would you encourage it or what would be your reaction if a sub wore diapers, or asked you to change their diaper?

I'm an oddball. I've changed diapers for 10+ years (similar to Gracie and others ); several of those years were cloth diapers with gold 'ol Gerber plastic pants over little padded bottoms. My history of diaper-dom (hehe- I made a funny) would be about as far from a fetish as one could seek; thus one might expect to hear this little mouse roaring from the roof tops "ENOUGH OF THE DIAPERS ALREADY! YEESH!".

However- I look at this from a Love standpoint rather than a "kink" or fetish standpoint. If I *Love* (note capital 'L') my Partner/Signifigant Other/Lover, why would I deny them pleasure? Why would I deny myself the opportunity to know their very soul? It might not actually be my cuppa' when first approached about the subject, but how on earth could I deny something so simple to someone I Love? How could I not grow to *want* what they enjoy simply because I'm feeling uncomfortable with the idea? I'm sure as an act of Love there are things a Signifigant Other would learn to enjoy for my pleasure... don't I owe said Lover the same in return?

 

[cati]

..... absolutely !

 

[blackpenblueink]

Have no interest in diapers. I have had a beautiful woman stand over me and piss her wine filled bladder out on me while I jacked off.
I could do that again.

 

[sharon_2005]

I like to be humiliated quite seriously as i am a sub but not as far as wearing a nappy.

I am relieved my youngster is out of them so i just wouldn't fancy doing it again lol