how to get into the bsdm scene later in life?

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There are far more subs than Dommes, you can have a stable of them if you want. Go to a munch, you can find them on FetLife or just an internet search. What you’ll find is people who want you to be part of their community as long as you’re not creepy, don’t rush, and are polite.

that is very encouraging to hear! out of curiosity, would you say that people at a munch are more or less polite than normal society?