Valentine's day

[DarkestNyte]

So you felt he was wrong in his choice.

And to fix it, you did something that he did not seem to be too pleased with, which just might qualify as wrong from his point of view.

Now I'm no high-faluting big-city maths guy (I'm a high-faluting big-city economics guy in training), but wrong + wrong, as people have said, =/= right. Sorry dear, but that's just not the way it works.

I disagree. I didn't like his choice but it wasn't wrong. And he was pleased and not pleased.

I'm not going to defend myself on the subject any more, you either get it or you don't. Those who get it here and in PM far out weigh those who don't. As it's been said by you already it really doesn't matter what any of you think. It was for Him.

And by the way, condescension isn't wit...

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Wow.

I didn't know a slave being selfish was a good gift to give a Dom.

Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

 

[satindesire]

You started a thread with a story in which you used manipulation to get what you wanted, and played coy regarding "payment" and "punishments", and you're accusing people of putting their "own hang ups" on your story?

From your OP/following posts:

Thank you, Mousie. Exactly my point.

 

[DVS]

I don't understand some of the posts in response to your valentine's bondage date. I'm coming from the "without a partner" category. And I would never go out on a submissive of mine, so this sort of thing would never happen to me. I'm just one of those devoted people, I guess.

And by saying that, I'm not saying someone who doesn't approve or your actions isn't within their rights to say so. Everyone has their own opinion of such actions. It just goes to show that everybody is not the same.

Maybe someone who is in a relationship and has been for a long time can't fully understand someone who has been without for a long time (and visa-versa). To say they'd dismiss a submissive for such action...to me that seems pretty harsh. A bird in the hand is just that, and she seems to have wanted to remain there.

Dismiss her, and you are both without. And who knows when that next bird will come around and for how long will she be there? And will she be as compatible and willing as you desire? I've never been so lucky to have more than one at a time. And, to have one standing in the wings, waiting? Then, maybe I'm more demanding in my desires...more picky. I don't know.

I'm just rambling now, but I don't even begin to question your motives, because I could never act like your Dom did. Once with me, always with me, unless we both agree to the change.

Now, to receive such a present on valentine's day...where your ass would be mine for as long as I wanted...those ropes would remain just where they were for a while. Oh, except for that one knot at your asshole. Something else would take that spot...over and over again.

 

[DarkestNyte]

Now, to receive such a present on valentine's day...where your ass would be mine for as long as I wanted...those ropes would remain just where they were for a while. Oh, except for that one knot at your asshole. Something else would take that spot...over and over again.

The ropes did stay in place for some time, some were cut loose throughout the night and by the end most were on the floor in various pieces and lengths.

I have actually been surprised myself by the reaction to my story. I've already tried to explain the relationship between Him and I which I'll admit pushed the boundaries but I guess I'm either not doing it well or those who have commented negatively are either the monogamous type by nature (which I find as confounding as they find my nature) or they simply can't get past the fact that another Master bound me, though it was really not what made my Master angry.

In the end we separated because we confused each other too much. However it was 4 years of almost total bliss for me and I believe for him as well, though I admit at times I caused him headaches. I moved thousands of miles away and I still feel is pull. I'll always be thankful for what he taught me about myself...which again is more than most people figure out about themselves in their entire lifetime.

Communication was never a problem in our relationship, IMO. We knew each other inside out.

to each Master their own....

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

The ropes did stay in place for some time, some were cut loose throughout the night and by the end most were on the floor in various pieces and lengths.

I have actually been surprised myself by the reaction to my story. I've already tried to explain the relationship between Him and I which I'll admit pushed the boundaries but I guess I'm either not doing it well or those who have commented negatively are either the monogamous type by nature (which I find as confounding as they find my nature) or they simply can't get past the fact that another Master bound me, though it was really not what made my Master angry.

In the end we separated because we confused each other too much. However it was 4 years of almost total bliss for me and I believe for him as well, though I admit at times I caused him headaches. I moved thousands of miles away and I still feel is pull. I'll always be thankful for what he taught me about myself...which again is more than most people figure out about themselves in their entire lifetime.

Communication was never a problem in our relationship, IMO. We knew each other inside out.

to each Master their own....

If you're not into monogamy then why did you care so much that your Master had another girl?

 

[the captians wench]

If you're not into monogamy then why did you care so much that your Master had another girl?

Obviously I'm not the OP, but I might be able to shed a little light on this.

Some times it's not the fact that your partner has another, it's who that other is. When we here talk about healthy polly relationships, we usually refer to an order that is much like a natural house hold where all of the subs are on equal playing field. From what this poster says, it sounds like she had the kind of relationship where if you're the top sub, then you get top everything (the most time spent together, rewards, sex, so on and so on) and as you dwindle down to the bottem the benifits start to dwendle as well. This causes a very competitive atmosphere. This guy obviously liked being faught over, so raised his subs to do just that, fight for his attention.

So if she found that her attention was slowly dwindling because of another girl, then the compition starts and she finds ways to win back her spot on top.

Been there, done that, hated every minute. It's not the type of polly relationship that I enjoyed in the slightest, tho I still very much think I'm a mono girl at heart so that might add to why it didn't work for me.

 

[JMohegan]

I don't understand some of the posts in response to your valentine's bondage date. I'm coming from the "without a partner" category. And I would never go out on a submissive of mine, so this sort of thing would never happen to me. I'm just one of those devoted people, I guess.

And by saying that, I'm not saying someone who doesn't approve or your actions isn't within their rights to say so. Everyone has their own opinion of such actions. It just goes to show that everybody is not the same.

Maybe someone who is in a relationship and has been for a long time can't fully understand someone who has been without for a long time (and visa-versa). To say they'd dismiss a submissive for such action...to me that seems pretty harsh. A bird in the hand is just that, and she seems to have wanted to remain there.

Dismiss her, and you are both without. And who knows when that next bird will come around and for how long will she be there? And will she be as compatible and willing as you desire? I've never been so lucky to have more than one at a time. And, to have one standing in the wings, waiting? Then, maybe I'm more demanding in my desires...more picky. I don't know.

I'm just rambling now, but I don't even begin to question your motives, because I could never act like your Dom did. Once with me, always with me, unless we both agree to the change.

Now, to receive such a present on valentine's day...where your ass would be mine for as long as I wanted...those ropes would remain just where they were for a while. Oh, except for that one knot at your asshole. Something else would take that spot...over and over again.

Hey, DVS. You say you don't understand my response, so I'll endeavor to explain.

The question I've bolded gets to the heart of things, right there. It's all about compatibility, and what turns me off vs. what turns me on.

Disrespect and manipulation are not compatible behaviors, in a relationship with me. I find straightforward personalities very attractive; the reverse I don't find desirable at all.

Of course, as you say, everyone's different. Surely the protagonists in the OP's tale were well-matched.

 

[intothewoods]

Different people feel differently when they see their partner with someone else. If I had played with someone else without discussing it with my partner first, and then taped it and showed him the tape, he would never speak to me again and would wish me a slow and painful death. Seriously. Knowing how he feels about trust and "sharing" me, if I were to do that it would just be so mean-spirited. As for me, I wouldn't necessarily be so upset if he were to tie someone up, but I would be really hurt if we didn't talk about it first. I can't imagine getting over it.

Some people in relationships really get off on one-upping their partner. I don't mean this as a criticism. Some people just like to fuck with the other person's head and get off on all of those emotional highs and lows. On some level, I can understand the thrill that might be, I really can. But it's like playing with fire. Not something that can be maintained over a long period of time. It's too exhausting.