Vasectomy anyone??

[Eilan]

My wonderful lady wants me to do this. She is 43 and I tell her the chance of getting preggo at that age is very slim. Am I wrong? What are the chances?

A woman's fertility starts gradually declining at around age 35. However, it's still quite possible, though less likely, for her to get pregnant as she gets older. Before they're born, women are equipped with all the eggs they'll ever have, and as they age, so do their eggs. Women who get pregnant in their 40's are classed as high-risk because of the possibility of complications; they're also more likely to give birth to babies with chromosomal abmormalities.

Lots of women don't hit menopause until their early 50's. Theoretically, they're still fertile until that point, though for lots of women, their cycles get increasingly irregular.

I guess it all boils down to how strongly the two of you would feel about being parents.

 

[BTK51]

What are the pros and cons of this procedure? We just had our second and last child and we have talked about me going under the knife. My wife wants to know if i will be different afterwards. Anyone care to enlighten me a little?

I had mine 18 years ago. The only dowside is that you can no longer have kids. We discussed it before even trying for our last child. We said that we would try & get pregnant for a month (unprotected sex at least once a day) and then decide what we wanted to do. At the end of the month we continued but very shortly found out she was pregnant. We had decided that this was going to be our last hurrah and that regardless of the results, I would get the snip within 3-6 months. Even though it was POSSIBLE to reverse, I wanted us both to be sure before doing it. It took me another 2 years before I went through with it.

My suggestion is to discuss this with each other and then discuss it with the doctor. You can tell your wife that there will be no negative performance or experience effects. I was using condoms before the procedure so the difference afterwards (when I was certified swimmer free) was freedom and much more spontineity for us both. The labido certainly increased as well.

My doctor's policy was that they would test whenever I wanted. All I had to do was bring in a specimen. He even gave me a container. I'm sure that the procedure has been perfected over the years, but back then I was told that it could reverse itself (regenerate) in a very small percentage of the cases. If that were to happen, it was almost always within the first year. I must have taken a specimen back every 6 weeks for the first year.

 

[hillblazer]

A woman's fertility starts gradually declining at around age 35. However, it's still quite possible, though less likely, for her to get pregnant as she gets older. Before they're born, women are equipped with all the eggs they'll ever have, and as they age, so do their eggs. Women who get pregnant in their 40's are classed as high-risk because of the possibility of complications; they're also more likely to give birth to babies with chromosomal abmormalities.

Lots of women don't hit menopause until their early 50's. Theoretically, they're still fertile until that point, though for lots of women, their cycles get increasingly irregular.

I guess it all boils down to how strongly the two of you would feel about being parents.

Thanks for the info. Maybe I should do what she says.

 

[nikki3791]

Hubby had it done after our second child 3 years ago. No difference I can see.

 

[redfunguy]

update

well im done...didnt really hurt that bad except for the 25 times he gave me a shot to numb me, i already knew this but he told me that red heads need more anesthesia for some reason, oh and pulling the tape off from where my pecker was taped to my stomach, that really hurt

so for anyone who is looking through lit about this subject...its not so bad, get yourself some frozen peas to put on you for a day or so and you will be fine
oh and heres a few pics, sorry they are blurry but with the drugs i was on i thought they were clear when they were taken

 

[Exoman]

I'm shooting blanks too. The biggest concern is being sure that you do not want to father any more children and that's totally dependent on your situation. Reversals are not guarenteed.

There are absolutely no differences in the mechanics. They say your ejaculate volume might be a tiny bit less, but my volume varies a lot anyway, so who can tell?

It does relieve the accidental pregnacy anxiety, and not worrying about birth control is a big plus.

 

[Pyro Paul]

well, im not sure if any one told you this but,

Be Aware of having sex for the Next 1 to 2 months. the vas dernis still has lots of sperm inside it and you can still get some one pregnet with that little bit, after all it only takes 1 after 1 to 2 months the sperm will 'die' and be reabsorbed into the body.

just gotta say, your not shooting blanks yet buddy. so be careful.

lets see, one of my co-workers is litteraly a 'mistake' because they docter didnt tell her parents about that little detail and next thing you know, she was popping out another kid.

it realy isnt easy on her either, its kinda mean when some one can look at you and littraly say, You are a Mistake, Your Not supposed to of happened.

 

[redfunguy]

well, im not sure if any one told you this but,

Be Aware of having sex for the Next 1 to 2 months. the vas dernis still has lots of sperm inside it and you can still get some one pregnet with that little bit, after all it only takes 1 after 1 to 2 months the sperm will 'die' and be reabsorbed into the body.

just gotta say, your not shooting blanks yet buddy. so be careful.

lets see, one of my co-workers is litteraly a 'mistake' because they docter didnt tell her parents about that little detail and next thing you know, she was popping out another kid.

it realy isnt easy on her either, its kinda mean when some one can look at you and littraly say, You are a Mistake, Your Not supposed to of happened.

yea that sucks...im not messing around and the Dr told me not to do anything without protection for at least 6 weeks when i have to take them a sample back in

 

[Arachnofreak]

I recently turned 50, and being a widower with a teenage daughter, I gave myself a present of a vasectomy. To me, it was a no-brainer. I'm done having kids, period. I was having sex 2 1/2 days after the procedure with no discomfort. I can't tell any difference in orgasms, semen, etc.

 

[yoshimitsu]

I wish it was more reliably reversable. Being 25 with no kids (Thank God, or whoever's in charge of that) i'm not prepared to have any for a good while. B controll kills my girlfriends sex drive and I hate the fact that she has to take it.
I can't believe we are not more technologically advanced in this area. Of all the different kinds of birth controll they are just a couple different active components mixed in different forms. For men especially here in the US there isn't a whole lot we can do especially if we want to have kids in the future. I have thought about baking my nuts at high temps for an hour a night but I just don't think I have what it takes to keep up on it. I also imagine the temps would be a little higer than I would consider pleasurable.
I always wondered about the theory I have heard that weed seeds lower sperm count. I know this wouldn't be a very "safe" or practical method in this day and age but I wonder if it would work if you ate a couple OZ a day or something.

 

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[Pyro Paul]

I wish it was more reliably reversable. Being 25 with no kids (Thank God, or whoever's in charge of that) i'm not prepared to have any for a good while. B controll kills my girlfriends sex drive and I hate the fact that she has to take it.
I can't believe we are not more technologically advanced in this area. Of all the different kinds of birth controll they are just a couple different active components mixed in different forms. For men especially here in the US there isn't a whole lot we can do especially if we want to have kids in the future. I have thought about baking my nuts at high temps for an hour a night but I just don't think I have what it takes to keep up on it. I also imagine the temps would be a little higer than I would consider pleasurable.
I always wondered about the theory I have heard that weed seeds lower sperm count. I know this wouldn't be a very "safe" or practical method in this day and age but I wonder if it would work if you ate a couple OZ a day or something.

what you want a list of 'unnattural birth control' methods?
note these are not even 50% effective.

Drink Mountin Dew, the high caffine kills sperm,
Drink any Diet Soda, the chemicals inside it to make it 'diet' is almost like a poison to the body.
now, there was a clinical study shown that if you heat your nut sack up to 120 degrees that you littraly kill sperm, That isnt fully truthful because the clinical study wasnt done by the full extent of the human reproductivity studies it was rather done as in private corperation studies.

it basicly says, at 110 degrees your sperm dies, but in truth, (by normal science) sperm can not be made at the tempture of 98.2 (body temp) hence why it is produced in a ball sack hanging from the body, the myth of wearing tighty whities will lower sperm count is also partly true, but rather, the closer you get to body temp the more 'random' your sperm will become as they will start to be created with deformities and or inabilities, (instead of going in a straight line, they go in circles) again, this is 100% effective.

an odd one, was acctualy take female birthcontrol, you fill your body with a female hormone and that kinda screws up your sexual production, making sperm like that stated above.

as a note, it takes 3 weeks to make sperm which can 'live' for 72 days inside the body, or 1 day outside the body. so if you start wearing tighty whites drinking gallons of Dew, and are popping female Birth control, dont expect any changes for 3 weeks atleast.

 

[steve_cod]

Had mine done in June this year!
Had a slight complication! surgen let my tube slip back in my sac, BEFORE he had cut it! took him 10 mins to get it back out!
Bollox were the size of large eggs and everything went black for a couple of weeks,
But now im fine, it feels and looks exactly the same!! I even cum more! (strange!)

 

[Quoll]

My wonderful lady wants me to do this. She is 43 and I tell her the chance of getting preggo at that age is very slim. Am I wrong? What are the chances?

Not sure about the odds, but it does happen (that's why I'm here) but like Eilan said it all depends on how keen you are to not be parents.
(edit:This is interesting. Compared to our grandmothers’ generation, today’s thirty and forty-somethings look and feel so young and healthy that, it is difficult to remember that their reproductive life-span is just as short as it was one hundred or one thousand years ago. 30 years ago, the average age of new mothers was 26.
Now it is 30 and climbing rapidly.

The problem is that postponing parenthood has its risks. Unfortunately, human beings, as a species, are not very fertile:
Even young couples with normal fertility (and trying quite hard) have only a 25 – 30% chance of establishing a pregnancy each month they try.
When a woman reaches her mid-30’s, this monthly chance drops to 10 – 15%
By her early 40’s it is less than 5% a month AND she is facing a 40% chance of miscarriage even if she can achieve a positive pregnancy test.
If there are other factors influencing a couples’ chance of success such as irregular ovulation or poor sperm parameters, the chance is even lower. In addition, the risk of chromosome abnormalities such as Down’s syndrome increases very rapidly from 37 years onwards.

Since fertility is to a large extent genetically inherited, a woman can get a good idea of her likely reproductive prospects by finding out about her mother’s experience. If her mother had difficulty getting pregnant after her late twenties and had a relatively early menopause (younger than 45 – 50years) there is a chance that her daughter may experience similar problems. Women whose mothers and grandmothers had babies effortlessly in their late thirties or early forties may be reassured that they will probably be able to do the same.)




naliE, tsuj tahw tros fo lamosomorhc egamad era ouy gnirefni ?

 

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[Quoll]

LOL


Can't find abmormality in the dictionary though.

You need a better dictionary

1:As in and pertaining to Mormons.

2:Retardation sufficient to fall outside the mormal range of intelligence

3:Marked strangeness as a consequence of being abmormal

4:Behaviour that breaches the rule or etiquette or custom or mormality

 

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[Eilan]

nailE, tsuj tahw tros fo lamosomorhc egamad era ouy gnirefni?

Can't find abmormality in the dictionary though.

Apparently my spelling ability sucks almost as much as my reading comprehension skills.

as a note, it takes 3 weeks to make sperm which can 'live' for 72 days inside the body, or 1 day outside the body.

Did you mean 72 hours? Actually, sperm can live for about five days, which is why having unprotected sex during a woman's period isn't a reliable method of BC.

 

[phoenix1224]

It does relieve the accidental pregnacy anxiety, and not worrying about birth control is a big plus.

I really hate to burst your bubble, but...

Vasectomies (just like any other form of birth control) aren't 100%.

I've heard of many cases in which a guy gets the old "snippity-do-dah" and has all the unprotected sex with his woman that he wants, only to wind up with a VERY unexpected baby on the way.

I saw a story on one of those daytime talk shows once (I think that it was on Montell Williams)... There was a guy who found himself in this very situation and swore up and down that the child couldn't be his... That his wife HAD to have been cheating on him... They did a paternity test and, sure enough, the child WAS his.

Then, they had a doctor come on to explain this and she said that something like 1-3% of vasectomies wind up reversing themselves... A small amount, I know... But, it's still a risk... So, it's always a good idea to use a backup form of contraception.

 

[Quoll]

Thanks for the help.

I'm curious, you use some cool avs, do you create them yourself?

Nah, unfortunately I am just a putterer of pilfered pics.

 

[Eilan]

The only dowside is that you can no longer have kids.

Why else would one opt for surgical sterilization?

We said that we would try & get pregnant for a month (unprotected sex at least once a day) and then decide what we wanted to do. At the end of the month we continued but very shortly found out she was pregnant.

Apologies in advance because I realize that this is off-topic, but I just noticed this post.

When it comes to planning a pregnancy, couples can have unprotected sex until the cows come home, and while that might be a lot of fun, unless the woman is ovulating (or about to ovulate), it's not going to do any good. Once a woman ovulates, there's a narrow time frame in which fertilization must occur. Eggs are viable for only about 24 hours or so, while sperm can survive for much longer than that. In other words, unprotected sex a week after ovulation won't result in conception; several days beforehand, it might--if the sperm live long enough to reach the egg.

Sure, there are exceptions, but most couples don't conceive the first month/cycle that they try; some of them take several months to achieve success, even if they don't have any documented history of infertility.

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[Quoll]

Why else would one opt for surgical sterilization?

Apologies in advance because I realize that this is off-topic, but I just noticed this post.

When it comes to planning a pregnancy, couples can have unprotected sex until the cows come home, and while that might be a lot of fun, unless the woman is ovulating (or about to ovulate), it's not going to do any good. Once a woman ovulates, there's a narrow time frame in which fertilization must occur. Eggs are viable for only about 24 hours or so, while sperm can survive for much longer than that. In other words, unprotected sex a week after ovulation won't result in conception; several days beforehand, it might--if the sperm live long enough to reach the egg.

Sure, there are exceptions, but most couples don't conceive the first month/cycle that they try; some of them take several months to achieve success, even if they don't have any documented history of infertility.

[/hijack]

Too true, our first was conceived after 8 years including ivf...blah blah method this method that... interestingly he was conceived after a HOT bath, alcohol, and all the things you shouldn't do. Second one took 4 years and no:3 probably wont happen.

 

[Eilan]

Our first child was conceived after about 6 months of trying, second child after about 18 months, and our third child while we were using condoms for birth control. Go figure.

When my husband and I decided to conceive our now-three-year-old, we knew that we might have problems based on his history of infertility. I already had two children from my first marriage, and I got pregnant with them quite easily! However, we fully expected to try for at least six months and then seek medical help. Imagine our surprise when I got pregnant on the first cycle that we made a serious effort!

 

[Eilan]

Too true, our first was conceived after 8 years including ivf...blah blah method this method that... interestingly he was conceived after a HOT bath, alcohol, and all the things you shouldn't do. Second one took 4 years and no:3 probably wont happen.

My husband and his ex tried unsuccessfully for six years (the first two years without medical intervention). Both of them have documented problems that contributed to their lack of success.

However, my husband went on to have two children with me. His ex, after roughly 14 years of not being able to conceive with any partner, told her GYN that she didn't see a point in his writing her a prescription for BC. She and her husband are having a baby this fall.