Watching guy jerk off

[dumbgirl]

I can understand not enjoying watching him masturbate, but try to get past feeling any resentment or distress regarding his masturbation. It's perfectly normal for men (&women!) to masturbate even with a healthy sex life. In fact, and I hate to state this without stating the source, but years ago I read a statistic that there is often a direct correlation between masturbation and a healthy sex life.

At your age, I would probably have felt uncomfortable watching my bf jack off and may have even felt jealous or inadequate. But now (and I'm with the same guy as I was back then) I think it's crazy hot to watch him. AND we have learned quite a lot about pleasing each other by watching each other masturbate.

I know it's silly to get upset over it, but I still feel terrible when he does it.

Yeah, maybe we will end up getting more comfortable with watching each other masturbate later on, but right now he said that it's boring watching me, and I just get upset if I watch him. Although I have learned a lot about giving better handjobs and blowjobs from him telling me how he masturbates. P:

 

[In Anticipation]

I know it's silly to get upset over it, but I still feel terrible when he does it.

Yeah, maybe we will end up getting more comfortable with watching each other masturbate later on, but right now he said that it's boring watching me, and I just get upset if I watch him. Although I have learned a lot about giving better handjobs and blowjobs from him telling me how he masturbates. P:

Boring to watch you? I've never watched a woman masturbate (in person) and it is something I'd love to see!

 

[1Wheels111]

I love watching a man jerk off. The look of his face and the wonderful moans and groans emanating from his throat is such a turn-on. While he is stroking his cock I enjoy talking dirty to him.

 

[NikkiBastion]

If he *doesn't* masturbate for me, we probably won't last long.

One of THE sexiest guys I've ever hooked up with went about it perfectly - and I say perfectly because he wasn't a silly ass about it.

We'd gone out, had a great time, and went for one of "those" drives...ended up out by the lake, gorgeous night. Got in the back of his truck after he made a little cushiony bed. We had great sex and got off a couple times. Chilled awhile, talked, and then he got up on his knees between my legs, facing me and quite easily and naturally started stroking himself. It was the first time any guy did that so after my initial I was so turned on by it I moved to go down on him but he stopped me, told me to lay back and just watch, and tell him what I was thinking.

I was thinking

get real!

After him, I realized I couldn't enjoy a guy with hangups. I relished his ability to have grown up sex and not act like a dipshit or take a high dive off the side of the bed if he got cum on his stomach or something retarded. That was the late 80s or possibly 1990 but after him, I paid very close attention to how a guy acted during the mating dance and if he showed even one indication of being a 13 year old in a mansuit, he did not get any of this.

That may tend to sound uppity and all but that decision has spared me major drama in my life and my sex life, and there's no law that says I have to put up with stuff that doesn't appeal to me in order to not hurt a guy's feelings. I wasn't mean about it, just opted to pass him by. Don't regret it one bit...and I also knew, as a female, there were millions more where any one of them came from, not like it was an endangered species


Women love watching a guy do that as much as guys love watching us do it. But this only applies when we think he's hot and sexy. Any other guy, (though we'll totally still watch for a few more minutes cause it's still hot), he's a creepy pervert and we throw a fit ;-p

 

[1Wheels111]

If he *doesn't* masturbate for me, we probably won't last long.

One of THE sexiest guys I've ever hooked up with went about it perfectly - and I say perfectly because he wasn't a silly ass about it.

We'd gone out, had a great time, and went for one of "those" drives...ended up out by the lake, gorgeous night. Got in the back of his truck after he made a little cushiony bed. We had great sex and got off a couple times. Chilled awhile, talked, and then he got up on his knees between my legs, facing me and quite easily and naturally started stroking himself. It was the first time any guy did that so after my initial I was so turned on by it I moved to go down on him but he stopped me, told me to lay back and just watch, and tell him what I was thinking.

I was thinking

get real!

After him, I realized I couldn't enjoy a guy with hangups. I relished his ability to have grown up sex and not act like a dipshit or take a high dive off the side of the bed if he got cum on his stomach or something retarded. That was the late 80s or possibly 1990 but after him, I paid very close attention to how a guy acted during the mating dance and if he showed even one indication of being a 13 year old in a mansuit, he did not get any of this.

That may tend to sound uppity and all but that decision has spared me major drama in my life and my sex life, and there's no law that says I have to put up with stuff that doesn't appeal to me in order to not hurt a guy's feelings. I wasn't mean about it, just opted to pass him by. Don't regret it one bit...and I also knew, as a female, there were millions more where any one of them came from, not like it was an endangered species


Women love watching a guy do that as much as guys love watching us do it. But this only applies when we think he's hot and sexy. Any other guy, (though we'll totally still watch for a few more minutes cause it's still hot), he's a creepy pervert and we throw a fit ;-p

You are so correct Nikki. Why should we compromise our standards for emotionally immature men. I don't think that sounds uppity, you know what you want and need. I applaud you.

 

[PaulBlart]

If he *doesn't* masturbate for me, we probably won't last long.

One of THE sexiest guys I've ever hooked up with went about it perfectly - and I say perfectly because he wasn't a silly ass about it.

We'd gone out, had a great time, and went for one of "those" drives...ended up out by the lake, gorgeous night. Got in the back of his truck after he made a little cushiony bed. We had great sex and got off a couple times. Chilled awhile, talked, and then he got up on his knees between my legs, facing me and quite easily and naturally started stroking himself. It was the first time any guy did that so after my initial I was so turned on by it I moved to go down on him but he stopped me, told me to lay back and just watch, and tell him what I was thinking.

I was thinking

get real!

After him, I realized I couldn't enjoy a guy with hangups. I relished his ability to have grown up sex and not act like a dipshit or take a high dive off the side of the bed if he got cum on his stomach or something retarded. That was the late 80s or possibly 1990 but after him, I paid very close attention to how a guy acted during the mating dance and if he showed even one indication of being a 13 year old in a mansuit, he did not get any of this.

That may tend to sound uppity and all but that decision has spared me major drama in my life and my sex life, and there's no law that says I have to put up with stuff that doesn't appeal to me in order to not hurt a guy's feelings. I wasn't mean about it, just opted to pass him by. Don't regret it one bit...and I also knew, as a female, there were millions more where any one of them came from, not like it was an endangered species


Women love watching a guy do that as much as guys love watching us do it. But this only applies when we think he's hot and sexy. Any other guy, (though we'll totally still watch for a few more minutes cause it's still hot), he's a creepy pervert and we throw a fit ;-p

I love doing this, but, at 47, my hotness factor is significantly lower now. I suppose I'm just a perv at this point

 

[NikkiBastion]

Ahh, 47 isn't old unless the one looking is 19.

I'm 48, been there, done that, came on the tshirt, and even have my "old guy phobia" that I bump up every time I have a new birthday. I don't think it's the age though. It's more to do with the eye of the beholder (and age applies then if it's relevant to them).

We like watching - but we only like it if we find the guy appealing. What makes that sexy to us underneath it all isn't penis envy, it's this display of a man being a raw, primal animal...he can work his cock the way he likes it, he's confident enough to enjoy his own pleasure and, in the words of Germaine Greer, he's quite conscious of his body as an object of delight...he's not goofy, he's not giggling, he's not cracking jokes, he's not naming body parts, he's not running off at the mouth....it's sensual, erotic, slow groove hotness when he doesn't have to talk, he's plugged in to a situation to have assessed it's not bad timing, it's not inappropriate...he wraps his hand around his shaft and goes with it, letting it build up.

Some guy whacking away like a rabid chipmonk isn't sexy.

(but we'll totally still watch)

Which is sexier to most guys - a woman who can look him in the eye, grin, take control over the situation, indulge openly and experience pleasure for its own sake....or...a woman of any age who can't fuck with the lights on, giggles and indulges you in farting contests, makes a face when you touch yourself, makes a face when (or IF) her tongue makes contact with your dick, refuses to get around it until she makes you sanitize it with Lysol, and leaps off the bed to run shower after sex as if you've just contaminated her with Leprosy, and god forbid you cum on her, she's freaking out whipping through the phone book looking up the CDC hotline.

Get yourself one of those and it really doesn't matter if she's built like a porn star...she's too hung up and juvenile to comprehend pleasure in a mature fashion. Guys act that way too...that's why I don't go there. Let them make some dippy chick's life a nightmare...I'm only putting out for a guy who makes it worth it

But penis envy still applies cause we'll still stop and watch as long as we can get away with it

 

[PaulBlart]

Well I assume there are those who have a fetish for farting contests, but I'll take A. please.

My favorite method is to slowly build to the edge of climax and back off, time after time. After a few rounds of this, I'm completely lost in it, writhing like a snake and moaning. At that point, looking a woman directly in the eye as she takes in what I'm doing is something otherworldly. It is primal and I'm completely open to her.

Question Nikki. Not to be a smart ass or anything, but exactly how do rabid chipmunks masturbate? I just imagine high pitched squealing and knashing of little buck teeth

 

[NikkiBastion]

I don't know...but I imagine it to be something of a little critter hunched over and everything is sort of a blur at that point!

I knew when I wrote that on contests (on Lit) that I'd probably catch hell from the fetishists out there but those aren't who I was addressing...it was in context of immaturity and thinking that's even remotely sexy to most lucid women. It's pathetic when a female actually accepts that kind of thing and runs with it because it's funny. It has a time and place (13 y/o sleepovers is about it though)...and it's definitely not something that needs to be going on in a sultry, erotic sexual encounter. Well, least not in mine

But yeah, chipmonk masturbation - little paws all in a blur.

 

[PaulBlart]

I'm hearing Captain and Tennille music. Oh wait, that's muskrat, not chipmunk.