watching wife with another guy...

[rheltman1]

watching....

Watching can be a good exerience, but you MUST be secure in your relationship with your partner. You must also choose carefully the extra player(s). Friends can be tricky, strangers even trickier. Also, your partner must want to do this themselves and not feel as if they are being pushed into it....i.e., doing it to make partner happy, as this will lead to trouble. My ex and I really enjoyed this, and it opened new doors for us sexually. Ultimately, the decision is between you and your partner, and remember, once it is done, it cannot be undone.

 

[damnewc]

Holy Crap! This is the thread for me!!!!

I am so glad to find this thread! How exciting, I have the biggest hardon after reading everyone's comments.....

First let me echo what Lorri and others have said, the key is a secure relationship with your spouse. My wife and I have been married 13 years and are more deeply in love and committed to each other than when we wed. She is the only one who is capable of having my heart, and I hers. There has never been any jealousy issues in our play. Your emotional commitment to your spouse must be paramount. If you have a rocky and insecure marriage, swinging will end that marriage. No doubt about that. If you are secure and committed, emotionally and practically, it can be alot of fun. Agree on boundries, talk and communicate openly. Anything one hides from one's spouse, in sexual adventure or normal vanilla life, is a potential disaster waiting to happen. One big no-no...... never tell anyone things you will not share with your spouse. If you start confiding in someone else, it is emotional infidelity... and the marriage is already over.

All that being said..... I absolutely love watching her fuck! I also love it when she comes home to me after having fucked. We have swung together, with other couples and both an extra man and an extra woman. My favorite experience was watching her with my cousin! He and I are very close and I love him... he he, and so does my wife! She has license to do him in any way at any time. She will probably be sexually active with him forever, at least I certainly hope so.

Some fantasies I have still to be fufilled is to have her call me while I am at work or away from the house while she is fucking another man, I also would love to watch her with a black man, maybe swing with a black couple..... and there are still others....

I am a lucky man. My wife and I have done things most men only dream of. She loves it as much as I. What an exciting thread. Explore y'all! Share your fantasies with your spouses, enjoy life! Then come back and share your experiences here with all of us!

 

[socalrider]

Thanks everyone for all the words of wisdom! They've all echoed my own concerns pretty well. Sounds like the over riding issue is that we need to be completely secure and confident with each other. I can say that after starting to open up completely to each other the past couple years we've reached a new level of intimacy that has made this whole idea possible. And even though the thought is a tremendous turn on for me, we're definitely not rushing into anything....it's got to be the right person/place/time/etc!

...and thanks to those who offered to help ;-)