what do i do during sex from behind?

[groban]

help for me having sex from behind?
my fella is the first sexual partner i've ever had although he has more experience. well the thing is he expressed an interest in sex from behind...and i really wanted to try it too.

we tried several times but just couldn't get him into me. he was wanting me to help guide him but if im honest it's like the blind leading the blind because i'm of no help whatsoever. we always ended up giving up and sticking with what we know.

well last night...we were both really wanting each other badly. it'd been a while since we'd got the opp. to be alone and make love and we were going through every position we could. and both of us badly wanted from behind.
so i lay flat on the bed with my ass in the air and with several attempts he was able to enter me. he thrust for a while that way and it felt so good but as he went to lift me up slightly i always seemed to pull away too fast and hed slide out. and we'd have to start again.

this happened 3 or 4 times and by that stage we were so frustrated that we just rolled over and carried on that way.
but it really annoys me, that i dont seem to know what to do after he's entered me from behind.

i know he's been successful with others in this position so it does worry me slightly.

can anyone give me tips on what i do or what shape i should put myself into once he's entered me from behind??

 

[Ezzy]

Try and keep thrusting yourself backwards.

As he pushes forwards push back against him, as he pulls back thrust towards him more then move forward just before he starts the next thrust.

Then hold still and push back again.

 

[ewopper]

help for me having sex from behind?
my fella is the first sexual partner i've ever had although he has more experience. well the thing is he expressed an interest in sex from behind...and i really wanted to try it too.

we tried several times but just couldn't get him into me. he was wanting me to help guide him but if im honest it's like the blind leading the blind because i'm of no help whatsoever. we always ended up giving up and sticking with what we know.

well last night...we were both really wanting each other badly. it'd been a while since we'd got the opp. to be alone and make love and we were going through every position we could. and both of us badly wanted from behind.
so i lay flat on the bed with my ass in the air and with several attempts he was able to enter me. he thrust for a while that way and it felt so good but as he went to lift me up slightly i always seemed to pull away too fast and hed slide out. and we'd have to start again.

this happened 3 or 4 times and by that stage we were so frustrated that we just rolled over and carried on that way.
but it really annoys me, that i dont seem to know what to do after he's entered me from behind.

i know he's been successful with others in this position so it does worry me slightly.

can anyone give me tips on what i do or what shape i should put myself into once he's entered me from behind??

try letting him lay down and you sit on top of him and bounce up and down on him from behind, and as you get used to him being in you that way set a rhythm you're comfy with and as you progress with it you'll become creative in ways to keep him inside you with the traditional doggy style, also try contracting your vaginal walls to keep him inside you.

 

[christian1971]

There going to be times when a position just can't be done? It's no one's fault its just that in that one position your bodies just can seem to get together. Just try to find a different way and make it work?

 

[BarnabySchmidt]

get on your knees, lean forward so your back is straight, and rest on your hands or elbows. This is called doggiestyle. Then, you sit there, and let him fuck you and smack your ass.

If his cock comes out, give him time and he will learn how to thrust properly so it doesn't come out. He may not be as experienced as you think, so just don't put him under any pressure and let him learn. It takes time.

I wouldn't thrust back into him. When girls have done that with me, it completely throws my rhythm off. If you want, do it, but first let him get the hang of doing all the work. Just enjoy yourself; I am sure you deserve it.

 

[lizaveta]

There going to be times when a position just can't be done? It's no one's fault its just that in that one position your bodies just can seem to get together. Just try to find a different way and make it work?

True, that - my husband and I are more than a foot apart in height, so some positions require "props" and others are too damn difficult to do, so we don't bother trying anymore.

Rear-entry we tend to do with me kneeling on the edge of the bed (in the guest room, we can't use the one in our room because it's the wrong height) and him standing behind me.

Creativity, not experience, might be what you need here.

 

[Guest]

Love this topic!

Hmmm - I tend to arch my back and rest on my chest rather than my arms, which can be somewhat uncomfortable on the chest and face, but it does change the angle somewhat again - and allows deeper access
There's the key - adjusting the angles, and someone earlier suggested letting him do the work - for now until you get used to it, probably a good suggestion - work on using your internal muscles and you might have more fun (I do!) and your partner will appreciate it. Also - patience and practice..always
Have fun!!!

 

[LadyJeanne]

Try placing a pillow under your hips when you are lying on your stomach - changes the angle for both of you. If the problem is him slipping out, don't move until he gets into a rhythm then rock backwards slowly if you feel like it.

He's got the 'view' when he's from behind, so he should be able to look and see where he's aiming! He might be pulling out too far - he might want to try keeping his movements slower with less 'out'.


Edit to add:

And try this link:

http://www.canal96.com/extra/strange/kamasutra/

 

[gingermango]

You've gotten good advice here on how to make it work. Keep at it and you'll probably both end up enjoying it a great deal. It's possible, however, depending on how your bodies are made, that he may just not be quite long enough, given the size of his belly (if any), your derriere, how your hips are made, etc., to fit in really well in this position. Everyone's different and every combination of partners runs the risk of little snags based on anatomy.

But good luck! I hope you guys figure it out.

 

[steelylook]

doggy style

I agree with a lot of whats been posted so far. I definatly agree with taking pressure off both of you and relaxing, to start with suggest doing it for little while then possibly reverting to a position your both more used to, this takes pressure off a lot, incase its just not working out when u try again.

i would suggest if your both similar in height or he isnt too much taller than you, you throw a dounvet on the floor and kneel on it thighs apart enough to allow him access you will know what feels comfortable. then let him play with you a bit , which is always a lot fun, then simply using his penis to stimulate you teasing you rubbing over your pussy.. then he eases in. stall at that point when hes fully in make sure your both cumfy , adjust if necessary,and let him start a steady rhythm and tell him to put his hands on your hips so can pull you onto him , just get used to eachother and enjoy. pillows are good as a prop... , if hes having truble staying in, try easing thighs further apart a bit, when u get used to him you both will work in unison..

its a great position keep at it....

 

[Vixandra]

I personally pile a couple of pillows up and prop my torso on them. Mainly because I've bad wrists but also because its easier on my part.
And if you have to lend a hand to guide him in, its not the worst thing in the world. Can be fun actually.

From talking with hubby, its a different hip motion, he says, from other possitions. Practice is the key. Which, while we all know its horrid, sexual practice can help a lot

 

[James Bond 007]

Try standing up and bending over the kitchen counter, or a desk, or the dining room table, or the washing machine, or the back of the couch, or the arm rest of the couch, or in the shower and hands on the wall................point is, use your imagination. Change up the angles. Let hm do the "dirty" (wink wink) work for awhile until you all get the hang of it. It's all about having fun!


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[groban]

wow thatnks guys and girls. lots of great tips.

i was talking to him about it today...well more relaying my insecurities that he may get so frustrated about it that he doesnt want me anymore which got him kinda angry
ysee, we laughed about it all...cos it was funny at the time but i overthink everything and today i got all worried. he put that out of me though by telling me not to be silly!!

as for height differences and body shapes...hes tall...im a mere 5'3 while he's 6'1ish and we're both slim...though ive rounded hips which he loves.

i know that even gettin him inside me from that angle was great for both of us.

we did get so frustrated at one point mind you that he lost his erection...got me worried again...but i soon got that rectified..and the outcome was great.

thanks people...i will use your advice...and take anymore you offer!!

 

[TBKahuna123]

yet another issue that someone comes here, asks for help, is told to TALK to their SO about it, and when they do the solution presents itself. Is everyone getting the picture here?

I hope you keep up this kind of communication, becasue it will only get better. I realize that it is tough at times because you are so worried about upsetting your partner, we're all like that. If you are in a good relationship though with someone who wants you to enjoy sex as much as they do, then talking to them about it won't upset them. I htink that while it's true we men ahve fragile egos, women don't give us enough credit at times. We DO care about how you feel and we want you find out what makes you happy. Our egos thoguh often stop us from asking you because we don't want you to feel like we're stupid. I personally think that when the woman initiates this conversation it takes some of the pressure off of us. Of course, I'm stereotyping here.

As for solving your problem, I suggest practice and experimentation. Don't get frustrated, just keep trying adjustments until you find the perfect angle of attack! Practice and experiment, you think you can handle that? I know it's a tall order, and a lot of work. And yes that was sarcasm.

 

[nelbuts5256]

Actually for some reason my wife and I could never get this right although I had done it many times with women before her. Then I thought of this and have not had any problems since.

He stands on the floor and you get on the bed with knees at the edge. You can put your head on the bed if u wish but make sure your ass is in the air. He won't need help getting it in as he will be able to see the total picture like that. So good luck and enjoy.

 

[granola_girl]

Maybe you can make sense out of this:
http://www.kamasutrafree.com/sevsexposofp.html

It is a personal favorite... I prefer being able to see his face. You might stick a pillow under your hip to get you higher, until you both get the hang of it. All you personally can do is lie back and enjoy. There is some less clitoral stimulation, but it is any easy access for either of you.

OK, the illustration might make sense but I'M NOT, so I'm going to shut up now.

 

[thrity]

you may stand beside the bed, then bend forward, put your elbows on the bed, let your fella stands behind you, it's easy for him to stick into you, also easy for you to move your ass, you may move back and forth, or turn around.

I always do that with my wife.

 

[SnoManX]

Another variation.....

Both of you lie on your side, spoon style. It tends to be easier and I think it's more fun because you don't have to concentrate so hard on rhythm and balance plus it leaves everyones hands free to do what they want!!!! Although you don't get as much speed or bang for a hardcore fuck fest but it might be easier to start out with.

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

wow thatnks guys and girls. lots of great tips.

i was talking to him about it today...well more relaying my insecurities that he may get so frustrated about it that he doesnt want me anymore which got him kinda angry
ysee, we laughed about it all...cos it was funny at the time but i overthink everything and today i got all worried. he put that out of me though by telling me not to be silly!!

as for height differences and body shapes...hes tall...im a mere 5'3 while he's 6'1ish and we're both slim...though ive rounded hips which he loves.

i know that even gettin him inside me from that angle was great for both of us.

we did get so frustrated at one point mind you that he lost his erection...got me worried again...but i soon got that rectified..and the outcome was great.

thanks people...i will use your advice...and take anymore you offer!!

you can also have him hold you by your hips and guide you until you both get the hang of it and find the best places that are great feeling for both of you. Oh yeah and the fun of it all is the practice, practice, practice