What do you do??

[cookiecat]

What do you do when you feel bleh? Down? Yukky. Melancholy. Sad. How do you get out of it?

I'm not talking depression - that's a whole 'nother topic to tackle. I believe there's a thread in Talk about it. I'm wondering about a momentary case of the sads or the blues. Whatever you want to call it.

Just curious.

 

[Azuldrgon]

What do you do when you feel bleh? Down? Yukky. Melancholy. Sad. How do you get out of it?

I'm not talking depression - that's a whole 'nother topic to tackle. I believe there's a thread in Talk about it. I'm wondering about a momentary case of the sads or the blues. Whatever you want to call it.

Just curious.

I stay busy......hard to stay down when my brain is occupied.

*hugs* help too.

 

[Porkwarrior]

What do you do when you feel bleh? Down? Yukky. Melancholy. Sad. How do you get out of it?

I'm not talking depression - that's a whole 'nother topic to tackle. I believe there's a thread in Talk about it. I'm wondering about a momentary case of the sads or the blues. Whatever you want to call it.

Just curious.

When the woman I truly desire, the one that leaves bruises on my body I call 'badges', when she is out of reach...

I troll Lit and think about all I SHOULD be doing to her right now,

 

[cookiecat]

I stay busy......hard to stay down when my brain is occupied.

*hugs* help too.

Yeah - I keep my brain busy. I've noticed I don't have a lot of quiet moments - too afraid of the quiet. Not sure if that's always good?

((hugs))

Well.... Ordinarily I either come here or dive into a computer game. But computer is still not fixed so... Prozac? (That Is what I'm doing presently, not an endorsement)

Binge watch Netflix?

Clearly I'm not an expert on the subject.

Me either! That's why I asked. Getting used to a new med can be uncomfortable. Like an itchy sweater.

(My dirty secret is I binge CSI Miami. I love the saturated colors. It's so mindless. This is when I cannot sleep - it tends to put me to sleep)

When the woman I truly desire, the one that leaves bruises on my body I call 'badges', when she is out of reach...

I troll Lit and think about all I SHOULD be doing to her right now,

I knew someone would keep it dirty! Clearly, you're a good porkwarrior.

 

[cookiecat]

To be honest, if I'm not up to my eyeballs in escapism from the sads, I'm prone to wallowing in it.

Not always in the self pitying kinda way... I don't really indulge in self pity all that often actually. More like drumming up nostalgia to focus on.

I'm a wallower. Momentary though. I've learned if I don't let the yuk feelings do their thing and instead, hide them away, I'll explode in some other way. The wallow feels like cement.

 

[Porkwarrior]

To be honest, if I'm not up to my eyeballs in escapism from the sads, I'm prone to wallowing in it.

Not always in the self pitying kinda way... I don't really indulge in self pity all that often actually. More like drumming up nostalgia to focus on.

What's the trick to not wallowing in the sads?

I'm a wallower. Momentary though. I've learned if I don't let the yuk feelings do their thing and instead, hide them away, I'll explode in some other way. The wallow feels like cement.

I make someone else smile. No trick, no cross, no bedroom with ropes and silk ties.

Just making them smile.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[SissySalina]

How does a sissy un-bleh

sissy will work a jigsaw puzzle, it is great to occupy a mind from other things. :cathappy

 

[Iamsubmissive]

When I worked in a service deli I would handle panic attacks by by shutting myself in the walk in freezer (where no one can hear you) and screaming for one full breath. Which is about as long as you can handle a walk in freezer. Shivering seemed to snap me out of it nice & fast.

Ha! I used to do the same thing when I got stressed. I even told my employees to do that when they got upset from a mean customer...it was our instant therapy.

Generally, if I'm sad I try to do something outside...walk along the shore of the beach looking for shells, go for a scenic drive, or even just tend to the flower garden. If the weather is bad I usually curl up with a comfy blanket and a book and a yummy snack...or sleep.

 

[Sweetsweatymango]

Masturbation of course.

 

[LucianaGrace]

I'm aware that this may sound a little weird...but I choose to see joy within the sadness.

I came to see that light (joy) exists most strongly in the darkness (sadness). In some kind of weird way, my thinking flips to a sort of gratitude for being sad. I recognise what the sadness stems from, most often it comes from being drained or neglecting my own needs. Then I go on a joy-hunt. It started off simple at first with self-care; a hot shower, a glass of wine, a sleep-in. As I practised it, the more joy I saw beyond self-care rituals, and the easier it became. Does it take away the sadness? No. But it brightens it.

 

[TheOldWidow]

Sometimes;

We need to sit with our sadness in the quiet. The sadness always comes from a reason and then; there is the introspection. Can I control or improve the sadness. If that is not possible; then what must change is the way I respond.

I am in control of how I respond. Do I want the outcome of (A)...or (B). Do I want, do I want, do I want.

Yes I want the comfort of false reality. Wrong answer. Chose an answer in reality. It's always the hardest one. That's how you know it's the correct one. It will teach you to be strong.

 

[Azuldrgon]

It's funny how effective all the different methods are.

Sadness has a purpose. Just like all of the other emotions do. The one thing that made me sad this week was the realization that it's almost June. I have a couple sad things going on in June, but I am looking forward to letting them run their course.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Music, mostly

 

[twister947]

I'm at my most vulnerable when I'm not well rested, so when I'm blue, I try to get some sleep.

 

[hotoldrguy]

What do you do when you feel bleh? Down? Yukky. Melancholy. Sad. How do you get out of it?

I'm not talking depression - that's a whole 'nother topic to tackle. I believe there's a thread in Talk about it. I'm wondering about a momentary case of the sads or the blues. Whatever you want to call it.

Just curious.

I get up off my ass (a real struggle when I have the blues) and DO something. Hopefully something that brings some sense of accomplishment.

 

[pete]

What do you do when you feel bleh? Down? Yukky. Melancholy. Sad. How do you get out of it?

I'm not talking depression - that's a whole 'nother topic to tackle. I believe there's a thread in Talk about it. I'm wondering about a momentary case of the sads or the blues. Whatever you want to call it.

Just curious.

browse my favorite used book store.

or my second favorite one.

or that other one that isn't as good but will do in a pinch.

 

[JimFromOhio]

I always try stay positive. Do things that are positive. I prefer to be alone when I feel that way.

What do you do when you feel bleh? Down? Yukky. Melancholy. Sad. How do you get out of it?

I'm not talking depression - that's a whole 'nother topic to tackle. I believe there's a thread in Talk about it. I'm wondering about a momentary case of the sads or the blues. Whatever you want to call it.

Just curious.

 

[yossi]

If it's the appropriate temperature, a swim in the ocean can revive me. Otherwise, I try to head outside or talk to someone about how I'm feeling and ask for a hug. Human touching and interaction can draw me out of a slump as long as it's an interaction where I don't expend my own energy stores. I need building up at that point.

 

[JimFromOhio]

Non-sexual human touch is always good and positive. Even if there's no talking.

If it's the appropriate temperature, a swim in the ocean can revive me. Otherwise, I try to head outside or talk to someone about how I'm feeling and ask for a hug. Human touching and interaction can draw me out of a slump as long as it's an interaction where I don't expend my own energy stores. I need building up at that point.

 

[PapaRomantic]

Just being able to identify the "dark days" is a huge relief to me - I know they are going to happen, and so I adjust my focus accordingly, which includes notifying those around me that a dark day is happening.

Molly mentioned music. Well, this is kind of odd, but I head to church and crank up the big pipe organ and fill the sanctuary with just loud music. I call it my "therapy" session, and often I find that without knowing it, I've spent two hours working out the problems with the help of my friend Bach and others.

 

[cookiecat]

<snip>
I make someone else smile. No trick, no cross, no bedroom with ropes and silk ties.

Just making them smile.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uyTVyCp7xrw

Every time it says jump, jump. If you cannot jump ( not because you feel half hearted but because you physically cannot) throw your arms in the air. If that is out of your reach make your eyebrows jump.
Sing along. Get endorphins going.

Self care, ( non sexual , baths, body moisturising etc) power of scent ( orange or orange blossom oil is great) .

Counting blessings. There are always more than we see at first glance.

I enjoy my yoga practice. A couple of mudras feel useful at times. I particularly hold tension in my hands, so many these are useful in the way other physical activity can be too.

Knowing that without the hollow drag of melancholy, contentment would be less sweet on the days it visits. Both are quiet feelings usually, and so easy to dismiss.

Physical activity can jolt me out of the blahs sometimes. Even change of temperature, change of place. Just change instead of feeling stuck.

I've been working on the "quiet" more -- part of that submissive side mentioned in the Talk thread.

sissy will work a jigsaw puzzle, it is great to occupy a mind from other things. :cathappy

My mom does this! She has a puzzle table. Sometimes I play candy crush. Or browse tumblr. Filling up my head with other than sad thoughts.

 

[cookiecat]

<snip>
Generally, if I'm sad I try to do something outside...walk along the shore of the beach looking for shells, go for a scenic drive, or even just tend to the flower garden. If the weather is bad I usually curl up with a comfy blanket and a book and a yummy snack...or sleep.

Going outside is helpful. Sometimes if I get under a comfy blanket, that sad feeling can cover me up along with the blanket...

Masturbation of course.

Oh sweet sweaty mango. Of course.

I'm aware that this may sound a little weird...but I choose to see joy within the sadness.

I came to see that light (joy) exists most strongly in the darkness (sadness). In some kind of weird way, my thinking flips to a sort of gratitude for being sad. I recognise what the sadness stems from, most often it comes from being drained or neglecting my own needs. Then I go on a joy-hunt. It started off simple at first with self-care; a hot shower, a glass of wine, a sleep-in. As I practised it, the more joy I saw beyond self-care rituals, and the easier it became. Does it take away the sadness? No. But it brightens it.

It is a weird way to think. Maybe just different thinking? i've been learning just to sit with the sadness and acknowledge it's just a feeling. Doesn't have to be good or bad, it just is. I like how you recognize from where it stems - then dealing with those issues.

I like the thought of "joy hunting." Self care is super important.

 

[cookiecat]

Sometimes;

We need to sit with our sadness in the quiet. The sadness always comes from a reason and then; there is the introspection. Can I control or improve the sadness. If that is not possible; then what must change is the way I respond.

I am in control of how I respond. Do I want the outcome of (A)...or (B). Do I want, do I want, do I want.

Yes I want the comfort of false reality. Wrong answer. Chose an answer in reality. It's always the hardest one. That's how you know it's the correct one. It will teach you to be strong.

In my past (and even a bit now), that false reality was my real reality. Oh man, it led me to lots of poor choices and crazy consequences, which then led to deeper sad.

I like that you used the word "control." Sometimes, in the things we cannot control - illness, other people being shitty, loss of job etc - the ability to control our choices is comforting.

It's funny how effective all the different methods are.

Sadness has a purpose. Just like all of the other emotions do. The one thing that made me sad this week was the realization that it's almost June. I have a couple sad things going on in June, but I am looking forward to letting them run their course.

That's got to be a weird feeling - knowing you have upcoming things that will create these feelings. Glad to hear you're able to look at it clearly.

I'm at my most vulnerable when I'm not well rested, so when I'm blue, I try to get some sleep.

It's only been recently I've come to know the value of consistent, good sleep. Those power naps, too! They're the best.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]