Re: Re: Re: my girlfriends
<blush> Thank you for the compliment; I just naturally try to help people be happier and more successful.
Nobody ever said falling in love again would be easy, and I doubt anyone ever would. Actually, FALLING in love isn't too difficult, but STAYING in love, maintaining a loving relationship is hard.
I see three main options for you:
1) Divorce the wife you do not love, accept the cultural stigma, and both move on to hopefully happier, more successful relationships,
2) Stay married, but continue having affairs while she remains faithful (and presumably increasingly unhappy and bitter),
or 3) Focus on rebuilding your marriage into the happy and sexually satisfying relationship it ideally represents.
It is possible (though not necessarily likely) that after resuming a happy, sexually satisfying relationship together, your wife will be open to including other people-- either through threesomes/group sex or through an open marriage. I would not bet on it though. And definitely, when you are rebuilding the relationship with your wife, you MUST stop all affairs and not even mention the idea of including other people in your sexual relationship; keep the focus entirely on the two of you.
When you seriously decide to pursue rebuilding your relationship with you wife, I seriously recommend that you seek couples counseling. The counselor will help you both process your feelings, identify what caused your relationship to fade, and how to make things better.
I wish you the best of luck!
thrity said:thank you so much!
you are a professional marriage consultant!
<blush> Thank you for the compliment; I just naturally try to help people be happier and more successful.
Nobody ever said falling in love again would be easy, and I doubt anyone ever would. Actually, FALLING in love isn't too difficult, but STAYING in love, maintaining a loving relationship is hard.
I see three main options for you:
1) Divorce the wife you do not love, accept the cultural stigma, and both move on to hopefully happier, more successful relationships,
2) Stay married, but continue having affairs while she remains faithful (and presumably increasingly unhappy and bitter),
or 3) Focus on rebuilding your marriage into the happy and sexually satisfying relationship it ideally represents.
It is possible (though not necessarily likely) that after resuming a happy, sexually satisfying relationship together, your wife will be open to including other people-- either through threesomes/group sex or through an open marriage. I would not bet on it though. And definitely, when you are rebuilding the relationship with your wife, you MUST stop all affairs and not even mention the idea of including other people in your sexual relationship; keep the focus entirely on the two of you.
When you seriously decide to pursue rebuilding your relationship with you wife, I seriously recommend that you seek couples counseling. The counselor will help you both process your feelings, identify what caused your relationship to fade, and how to make things better.
I wish you the best of luck!
