What Have You Learned About Yourself Recently??

[Matt12191982]

That I’m kind of obsessed with dim sims

I ate them for months in Australia never got sick of them

 

[MrEd63]

People see me as an inspiration after my significant weight loss.
I'm quite humbled by that

 

[LikeableMe]

Being real is not something learned but what is. On a site where so much unreal shit happens, realness comes off as a wildflower smelling waterfall of goodness of which some genuinely appreciates.

Thank you I’ve often been called ‘real’ in daily life also, I just try to be honest and straightforward. I don’t like drama and misunderstandings and miscommunications. I like everyone to know where they stand and what to expect.

I apply that to everything I do, it’s only when anxiety hits (usually from bottling something up) that I fail to do that, as I then become a wreck of raw emotion, and lose my usual common sense!

 

[LoveBeginsAgain]

Thank you I’ve often been called ‘real’ in daily life also, I just try to be honest and straightforward. I don’t like drama and misunderstandings and miscommunications. I like everyone to know where they stand and what to expect.

I apply that to everything I do, it’s only when anxiety hits (usually from bottling something up) that I fail to do that, as I then become a wreck of raw emotion, and lose my usual common sense!

True, very true....This weekend has been one of those, where when out of no where, these old feelings and anxieties popped up....luckily its the weekend to deal with them.

I've learned that i sometimes get alarmed when these old feelings pop up, but that its ok to feel it, be ok with it for a while to understand them. Not to push them away, but to understand and learn from them.

 

[Destinys_Desire]

I have learned that I had a horrific anger streak when people I barely knew could push my buttons. I was always an easy going, mild tempered person. Now that I got all that bottled up anger expressed, I can go back to being....just me. It's a wonderful thing to finally see and release some very old, bottled up feelings. I do owe a sincere apology to a couple of people that allowed me to use them as my metaphoric punching bags. They undoubtedly know who they are, please accept my sincere apologies.

 

[LikeableMe]

True, very true....This weekend has been one of those, where when out of no where, these old feelings and anxieties popped up....luckily its the weekend to deal with them.

I've learned that i sometimes get alarmed when these old feelings pop up, but that its ok to feel it, be ok with it for a while to understand them. Not to push them away, but to understand and learn from them.

That’s what happened to me too. I think my medical appointment yesterday triggered it, and the fact that I’m supposed to decide whether or not to get surgery, and it’s left me feeling pretty stressed! Unfortunately I work weekends, and started my shift with a few panic attacks today.

Anxiety definitely teaches you a lot! The only thing that gets me, is when others don’t take the time to realise or understand. I need to get better at recognising when I’m bottling things up, and take a time out to regroup!

 

[LoveBeginsAgain]

That’s what happened to me too. I think my medical appointment yesterday triggered it, and the fact that I’m supposed to decide whether or not to get surgery, and it’s left me feeling pretty stressed! Unfortunately I work weekends, and started my shift with a few panic attacks today.

Anxiety definitely teaches you a lot! The only thing that gets me, is when others don’t take the time to realise or understand. I need to get better at recognising when I’m bottling things up, and take a time out to regroup!

Exactly! That felt good just reading what you wrote. I sometimes get fearful of the anxiety, instead of understanding it. I finally told someone at work about this anxiety I was having, and it felt so good. At least now there is an understanding.

I am taking a time out this weekend, not doing much at all, but trying to reboot, relax and stay calm.

Good luck with the decision!

 

[LikeableMe]

Exactly! That felt good just reading what you wrote. I sometimes get fearful of the anxiety, instead of understanding it. I finally told someone at work about this anxiety I was having, and it felt so good. At least now there is an understanding.

I am taking a time out this weekend, not doing much at all, but trying to reboot, relax and stay calm.

Good luck with the decision!

My work know I suffer with anxiety, but also that it takes a lot to get to that point. So when I walked in today and said I wasn’t okay, visibly trying to control my breathing and tears, they knew immediately that I’d been bottling something up. I got taken aside, and encouraged to talk and cry, and then I was allowed to plan a surprise for a colleague who was leaving, as they saw it was making me happy. That kind of understanding is priceless. With anxiety, you very often criticise yourself, and worry others will think you got so upset over one small thing, rather than that one thing being the final straw that toppled everything. I’m so lucky that they’ve seen me handle a lot, so recognise that I’ve pushed myself too far.

My anxiety gets better all the time. To anyone who doesn’t know me, or only sees what I’m saying when anxious, they would doubt that. But I’ve gone from someone who was too anxious to speak to a close friend who was beside me in public, to someone who is managing three departments at work. From someone who used to back away and find a completely different way to go, if something was in my way, to someone who will pick it up and say “sorry, needed to move it!” It’s a complete turn around. I understand my anxiety better and better. I look forward to the day I fully conquer it!

So hang in there. I’m proof it’s possible, even though I’m going through a lot at the moment, and may not seem it to those not in the know!

 

[Xerxes82]

That I'm much better off when I click 'log out.'

 

[LoveBeginsAgain]

My work know I suffer with anxiety, but also that it takes a lot to get to that point. So when I walked in today and said I wasn’t okay, visibly trying to control my breathing and tears, they knew immediately that I’d been bottling something up. I got taken aside, and encouraged to talk and cry, and then I was allowed to plan a surprise for a colleague who was leaving, as they saw it was making me happy. That kind of understanding is priceless. With anxiety, you very often criticise yourself, and worry others will think you got so upset over one small thing, rather than that one thing being the final straw that toppled everything. I’m so lucky that they’ve seen me handle a lot, so recognise that I’ve pushed myself too far.

My anxiety gets better all the time. To anyone who doesn’t know me, or only sees what I’m saying when anxious, they would doubt that. But I’ve gone from someone who was too anxious to speak to a close friend who was beside me in public, to someone who is managing three departments at work. From someone who used to back away and find a completely different way to go, if something was in my way, to someone who will pick it up and say “sorry, needed to move it!” It’s a complete turn around. I understand my anxiety better and better. I look forward to the day I fully conquer it!

So hang in there. I’m proof it’s possible, even though I’m going through a lot at the moment, and may not seem it to those not in the know!

Beautiful

So true, one person's anxiety may be someone else's strengths...that's the beauty in life.

 

[KarenB59]

I let things bother me that shouldn't. If i don't hear from someone in awhile it's it really the end of the world? Not at all.

 

[Misshotndeep]

That I should have ignored everyone opinion and kick a certain person out of my life years ago. They are toxic to everyone they know. I am much happier and doing fucking stellar in life since the change.

 

[LikeableMe]

That on days of high anxiety, I lose all common sense, and need a sounding board. That’s how I messed up the best thing to ever come into my life, and ironically, messing that up is precisely why my anxiety is so high today.

Everything that I’ve been working on for the past year is finally falling into place, but I don’t even want any of it anymore.

I’m not okay today. I need to learn to say that more, my inability to make such a simple statement is the one thing preventing me from being able to say everything is going great right now. It would be, if I hadn’t fucked up the only thing I cared about.

 

[Shi_One81]

Maybe some things are better left keeping to myself

 

[LikeableMe]

Maybe some things are better left keeping to myself

Sometimes I think that too, but recently bottling everything up and then it blowing up at the absolute last person I’d ever want to hurt has taught me that’s not good either. Things are always better out than in, just depends where and how they come out.

I think. Lol

 

[lacandy]

That I don’t have to be everything to everyone...some people can be those things for me

 

[Misshotndeep]

I have gotten very socially awkward over the years. How the hell did that happen? Or even better, how do I fix it?

 

[Violetvixen1]

That I’m a whole lot more into fire play than I thought.

 

[Jada59]

I can expand ky aura.

 

[beachbaby179]

That I'm worth it.

 

[KarenB59]

I still get crushes.

 

[Trouble_maker]

I’m no longer as shy as I used to be. Enough to post on the AM pic boards.

 

[Shi_One81]

I give too much

 

[Richard_C]

I can be very ambitious!

 

[Femi91]

I’m over cautious