What if your wife found out you suck cocks

[SweetErika]

What if your "discovered" sexuality was that you didn't like to have sex more than 4 times a year? It wasn't.

What if your man wasn't afraid to admit that he knows a nice cock when he sees one, and you berated him for it?I didn't, and I haven't.

What if he had yet to act on the impulse, but was exploring his options just to have SOME sex in his life? He'd still be lying to me.

Your post assumes too much, my dear. From the sounds of it, your husband wouldn't have any need to go behind your back, but not all women are so open to communication. My post assumes NOTHING. I'm not answering for your, nor anyone else's, wife, I'm answering the threadstarter's question for myself. My husband and I have talked about this very scenario on multiple occasions, so I'm responding based on my own history and knowledge.

It is your post that assumes too much.

The female perspective on sex always amazes me. "Someone who truly loved me wouldn't knowingly hurt me like that", you said. Yeah, it's not the "female perspective," it's MY perspective.

Some men could just as easily say: "Someone who truly loved me wouldn't make me spend the last 50 years of my life trying to remember what a blow-job feels like." My husband gets plenty of blowjobs. I'd suggest talking with your wife if you're that unhappy, and perhaps counseling could help break the resentment cycle. If not, maybe you're not with the right person.

The only way a guy would keep it a secret is if he knew that his wife would freak out. Any guy would prefer to have 2 people involved rather than just one. A lot of ladies out there are sabotaging their own fantasy of being with 2 men by stomping out their husband's curiosity.

As I alluded to before, I haven't acted upon my desires. But she has. She has been with at least one woman that I know of, and I'm sure she wants to do it again. I fervently support her in this, because I know that it is a desire that I am unable to satisfy. "At least one...that I know of"? Yikes. I'd even think that the only way a girl would keep it a secret is if she knew that her husband would freak out! With your fervent support of her, don't you trust that she'd tell you?

Alas.... she can't see past the societal taboo. A taboo that has only grown for us men with the increasingly broad acceptance of bisexual women.

"It's okay for girls to do it.... that's hot. But two guys? Ewww!"

I can't tell you how many times I've heard a sentence like that. And I'm in my thirties. Seeing two men doesn't do anything for me, but that's just personal preference. Just as an FYI, there are plenty of men who will/would not accept their wife's bisexuality, too. Hopefully with the popularization of gay culture, the taboo will lessen.

And then you come to a site like this, and it is rife with straight guys who just want to know what it's like to suck a cock. Is it really that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things? No, I don't think it is that big of a deal to be curious or bi.

Considering the fact that it seems like porn stars are the only women sucking cock anymore, I would have thought you ladies would be thankfull that someone else was willing to step up.A little bitter? Have you looked around this site? I have yet to hear a woman say she doesn't like giving oral or do it regularly. Granted, we're not representative of the general population, but clearly a good chunk of women enjoy it. Surely you'd object if I stereotyped you like that.

Sorry if I sound antagonistic, I'm really a very nice guy. I'm just frustrated. I think it is completely unfair that being honest about one's sexual fantasies with your partner can backfire so painfully. As long as they don't involve children or animals, I think sexual fantasies are a marvelous and wonderful thing. Made even better if you get lucky enough to find someone willing to help you realize them.I guess for me this comes down to preferring to be in no relationship than a bad one. If my husband didn't know and trust me enough to be certain I'd roll with this kind of thing, our marriage would be in very serious trouble. We wouldn't have much without honesty and trust. I'd rather know sooner that he felt that way so we could deal with it or move apart. I suspect he'd want out at that point, too.

Whatever happened to "if it feels good...... do it." ? I can't imagine it'd truly feel good to cheat on someone they loved, but then I'm projecting my own feelings onto that.

~Rant over~

I'm sorry you're having a tough go at it, and hope you work out something that will be satisfactory to both of you in the long run.

 

[katiebaby]

What an awesome response, Sweet Erika.

My husband told me he was bi from the very beginning, and while I'm sure other women would run away, I didn't. I admire him immensely for being brave enough to tell me who he really is, as I find that terribly sexy.

I also like seeing him with another man, just as he likes seeing me with another woman.

I also love to suck dick and he probably averages about 300 blow jobs a year, every year, for the last 5. And it didn't slow down or stop when we got married.

 

[PredatorSmile]

What an awesome response, Sweet Erika.

My husband told me he was bi from the very beginning, and while I'm sure other women would run away, I didn't. I admire him immensely for being brave enough to tell me who he really is, as I find that terribly sexy.

I also like seeing him with another man, just as he likes seeing me with another woman.

I also love to suck dick and he probably averages about 300 blow jobs a year, every year, for the last 5. And it didn't slow down or stop when we got married.

Your guy is bi and you're cool with that. I'm in a similar situation. It still bothers me when he checks out other women, though.

 

[robbie_boy1]

Your guy is bi and you're cool with that. I'm in a similar situation. It still bothers me when he checks out other women, though.

Sweetest,

call me dad if you like, I have a kid your age. I look at women and men....lol. I always check out women and imagine how they would look in a threesome or a hersome with my young mrs.........and I ... CUM.............lol

 

[vanelane]

I'm a wife and I think it's hot. I totally get that my chances of fulfilling the whole two cocks at the same time fantasy are waay better if he can get a little cock action, too. Unfortunately, he seems to be keeping it in the realm of fantasy for now, sigh...

 

[bimori]

whoo hoo~does this mean you are single???

For you love I could be anything you wanted . Over and over again .

 

[jwolff]

Fortunately I don’t have to deal with this problem, as my wife suggested and coaxed me to have a sexual experience with another guy in the first place. But, like potato chips, one sexual experience has led to many more. However, in previous relationships I am certain that had I admitted an interest in or experience with sucking cocks, it would not have gone well.

 

[wantonthoughts]

For you love I could be anything you wanted . Over and over again .

Sigh.....if I only lived closer....

 

[deluxe3000]

Gavionn,

You are so spot on in your 'rant'. It's not a rant if it's the damn truth and you are definitely calling it like it is.

It's odd that society accepts women expolring their bi-sexual side but can't allow men to have the same freedom.

Also, if a wife isn't sharing sexual pleasure with her man then it's time to let him go and find it on his own. I know. Masturbation has been my only sexual outlet except for her and I having sex twice this year...and we're in August!

When I mentioned that I had bi-curious feelings you'd have thought I said I killed her mother... and I was just expressing to her my feelings. Just being honest and up front. THAT didn't get me anywhere but into 'bad vibe land' for a long time.

 

[Ladyluvs]

Different problem

My problem is that during a mmf adventure i made my husband suck cock, i loved it - he didn't - I want more - he doesn't. I guess life is like that.

 

[Retrieval]

If a man is going to suck another mans cock then why is he even married to a woman in the first place?
If its something he discovered after marriage then isnt it time to get a divorce?

 

[tightnstiff]

Solved

that is why I am not married

What do you think would happen if your wife found out that you suck cocks? Do you think that she might have suspected this all along? Would she encourage you to continue, or just totally freak out? Has anyone had this happen?

 

[WildchildSC1]

If a man is going to suck another mans cock then why is he even married to a woman in the first place?
If its something he discovered after marriage then isnt it time to get a divorce?

Not very open minded. Your answer the way I see it? Because he wants the cake and the frosting.

 

[robbie_boy1]

I am married, wife loves watching and joining in. She fed me my first cock. Our marriage is solid as the day we did the I do's. I happen to like her body very much...she is very sexual and I get to explore her always and find new things all the time.

Male sex for me is raw sex. Sex with my wife can get raw but is always sensual. Hope that makes sense to you.

If a man is going to suck another mans cock then why is he even married to a woman in the first place?
If its something he discovered after marriage then isnt it time to get a divorce?

 

[rjp44]

For me it's satisfaction on different levels. I don't ever think I would feel romantically about a man as I do a woman, but the lust is something special

 

[vanelane]

If a man is going to suck another mans cock then why is he even married to a woman in the first place?
If its something he discovered after marriage then isnt it time to get a divorce?

Because people are sexual beings? Because he loves his wife and children? Because good communication can lead to wondrous sexual adventures along with family life? Sure he wants the cake and the frosting; so do I.

 

[webber1998]

When I was married, I was not open about my feelings or desires for being with a man at all. But since I was married, I was always faithful to her.

After my divorce, I was open with my next partner about my sexual desires from the beginning. She was not very open minded in the beginning, but that changed later on. For the better.

I know my ex wife would not have been open to the idea and she would have kicked my ass out of the house.

 

[wantonthoughts]

Wow webber..if that's you any woman would be stupid to let you go! I just got back from 12 days in Ocean City and Baltimore..sigh....where were all the bi men hiding?

 

[satchx]

My problem is that during a mmf adventure i made my husband suck cock, i loved it - he didn't - I want more - he doesn't.

Ha! I wish ... that would solve my particular issue if wife would take the lead! I expressed interest early in relationship and got "why would I want to see two sweaty men ... (blah, blah)".

 

[Curious_Red]

I'm wanting to try and ready, and she is all for it. We just can't seem to ever get anything worked out. She's bi; so that's where we started. She eventually told me she'd like to do stuff with one of her friends and I said go for it. Then of course, it came into "would you ever do it" type thing and I said sure. She's done me with dildos so many times I honestly don't know that there'd be a difference if it was a guy other than it would be better.

Great topic!

 

[webber1998]

Wow webber..if that's you any woman would be stupid to let you go! I just got back from 12 days in Ocean City and Baltimore..sigh....where were all the bi men hiding?

Thanks. And that is me.

After our divorce, I had another GF who was a little more open, but honestly, I always liked guys better. Pretty much into guys only now.

 

[DAZZED48]

wife

I just told the wife Id like to try sucking cock. She said "try it, I love to so I dont see any reason that you wouldnt".Couldnt have hoped for a better response. dazzed

 

[boi6969]

The truth of the matter is my wife discovered my love of sucking cocks when she walked in on her son and myself 69ing on our dorm floor. She was not shocked at all. The first thing she asked was if I was bi or strictly gay. I'm bi so we became "friends" and married 6 months later. My wife is only about 20 years older than me and is still a very sexy physically fit woman. My new step-son and I are the same age (25) and he lives at home with his mom and me. I get the best of both worlds with her blessings.

 

[noonenew]

cheating is cheating.

I'd be pissed if I found out my wife was eating pussy behind my back.. and I think any sane woman would be just as pissed about finding out that her husband has been sucking extra-marital dicks.

edit: I mean, I don't see this as an issue of sexuality as it is an issue of fidelity.

 

[hotncmom]

I don't see this as an issue of sexuality as it is an issue of fidelity.

I think this is where I struggle as well. I have come a long way to be where and who I am now. If they can't deal with that fact, then I am more than happy to stay as a single woman.

However, being married before, for 20 yrs, I shelved my bi-tendencies. I do not cheat.

After we divorced, I too started exploring that side again, but when I talked about the subject with my bf he didn't care to discuss it. It drove me nuts cuz I wanted to be honest with him but we broke up anyway.

My current honey was introduced to the bi-male ways when he was in the Navy. For him, sucking or having his cock sucked by a guy was only an interim thing.

Anytime he was in a relationship with a woman, he was never interested in men. Besides, he is a faithful husband and bf to the women in his life. No one knows about his bi life other than me the guys he has been with of course.

Now...we have met actually as a result of a naughty sex sight AFF. I actually pursured him cuz I knew he was bi and that turned me on. So we have been totally open from the beginning regarding our past and current desires.
Funny thing though, is now that he is with me even he is not interested in being with a guy and I have encouraged him to do so