What if your wife found out you suck cocks

[bobbelleville]

she did

She hates the fact that I have went with a man sucking and riding a cock.

she feels she made me gay even after I explained I was bi before we were married.

AVOID THIS FROM HAPPENING

 

[biforgood]

Well I've told my gf of 14 yrs a few yrs back and she is ok with it but preferes that i dont playaround As I do try not to all the time i get the urge a few times a yr, She would rather have me play with the guys and not the gals as she says that's what we have special between us I have tried haveing a 3 sm with her w/guys and gals but wont budge on the issue as i would rather it involve her as she dose like guys playing together. and she is slightly bi her self she has had a bi experiance back when she was a teenager.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Well I've told my gf of 14 yrs a few yrs back and she is ok with it but preferes that i dont playaround As I do try not to all the time i get the urge a few times a yr, She would rather have me play with the guys and not the gals as she says that's what we have special between us I have tried haveing a 3 sm with her w/guys and gals but wont budge on the issue as i would rather it involve her as she dose like guys playing together. and she is slightly bi her self she has had a bi experiance back when she was a teenager.

I understand where she's coming from. My BF is bisexual and is mostly into men. He'd never been with a woman before he met me. I've been with a few girls and one other man, who is also bi and a friend of ours. I'd rather Aaron go around (safely, and discreetly, of course) with a man that we both know than some random guys or, lord forbid, a woman. I don't want him to do other girls. Somehow, it bothers me. We're monogamous, and he occasionally goes for a man, which I understand and accept. You see, when he meets other men, it's usually for casual sex. Another woman might try to steal him or wreck our relationship and home. And I can't have that.

 

[amBIguous]

What do you think would happen if your wife found out that you suck cocks? Do you think that she might have suspected this all along? Would she encourage you to continue, or just totally freak out? Has anyone had this happen?

I told my wife fairly early on in our relationship. I think we were going out for about a month when I told her that I was bisexual. I had been out for quite some time at that point and didn't see much reason to hide it. She was bound to find out anyway. I had spent several years in the closet from my family and work (military) that when I came out I did it with a bang.

She reacted rather well. She kept it cool and we just talked about it. She later confessed that she left my apartment that night and freaked out a little, but I can understand that considering that she had never run across that before (that she knew of anyway).

I don't suck cocks anymore since I'm married and we are very monogamous. But she indulges me in other ways to keep my appetite sated. We're sitting down tonight to order our first strap-on . WOO HOO!

 

[nhtongues4u]

More frustration...

What do you think would happen if your wife found out that you suck cocks? Do you think that she might have suspected this all along? Would she encourage you to continue, or just totally freak out? Has anyone had this happen?

I have been married for several years now and assume that I have the average "marriage" sex life...far and few between. I have been trying to find ways to get things moving in that department and figured that possibly I could get my wife to open up more about what her fantasies are. So...I tried telling her mine, to break the ice a bit....not a good idea. I told her about my bi-curiousity and she was not impressed. Actually, she made me feel really uncomfortable. I haven't acted on my curiousity, but now know that I would have to do it secretly if I ever want to have that experience. I don't want to end my marriage...and I don't want to cheat. Not a very cool situation.

I've tried to express my need for at least some fantasy talk or play and she doesn't even want to try. She keeps saying that things are just fine for her the way they are...that scares me. Our sex life is going to be boring forever? I'm to damn young for that.

 

[LoboBoy]

My feeling is that if that's how you swing, then you should give your partner the benefit of knowing how you feel and what you want, rather than just going out and cheating.

If she found you were cheating she'd have every right to tell you to fuck off. Being Bi doesn't give anyone the right to lie and cheat. If you love your wife too much to risk that, then don't do it.

I'm in a gay relationship (was married to a woman) and love sucking cock. Can I use that as an excuse when I go away on business and hook up with guys? What about the fact that there's not enough sex in my relationship...does that make it ok to just go out and suck other guys?

Aaah what if I decided I wanted to go down on women and set up meetings....how ever you cut it, it's cheating. Either tell your wife you want to do it and face the consequences (good or bad) or just leave it alone.

If you cheat then you clearly don't want the relationship as it is anyway, so make a choice and be done with it. Lying and cheating makes you a shit as well as hurting the person who thinks they are in a monogamous relationship with you.

 

[LoboBoy]

Not very open minded. Your answer the way I see it? Because he wants the cake and the frosting.

I don't see that as open minded. I see it as selfish. I have been there. Ended my marriage for it. My wanting the cake and the frosting as you put it, hurt everyone around me.

If your wife is into it, then great but at least give her the heads up. If she's not into it, then you have a choice to make as a man. Leave or forget the idea.