What makes someone a good lover

[Bandit58]

Okay.....I've had 3 lovers since my marriage ended. All 3 (men) have said that I'm a wonderful lover. I'm a little confused, because I really haven't had that much experience, it's only been just over a year since I had sex with anyone but my ex husband. One guy told me it is because I'm open-minded and not afraid to try different things. Another said it's the way I touch him, I just have an instinct for what feels good. Any other ideas out there? Just curious.....

 

[burrish]

I think they are a good lover if they are totally into you. they do things that you like and please you. soft touch of the hand against bare flesh. gental kisses against the neck as they walk by on their way out the door, to the bathroom where ever. they may leave little postits on the frig or mirror about what they love about you. they call you at work for no reason other than to say i love you or what would you like for dinner tonight. a nice foot massage or back rub. i love it when my hubby washes my hair or takes a shower with me and washes my back. a good lover does things to please you and that goes for other things besides the bedroom

 

[SkyyAngel]

a good lover does things to please you and that goes for other things besides the bedroom

Hear hear!! I couldn't have said it better myself and I agree with you 100%!!!

 

[Bobmi357]

Attitude.

When it comes to sex, people have some funny ideas. A good lover is one that participates in the act of making love. Someone that enjoys giving pleasure as much as they enjoy recieving it.

In order to be a good lover you basically have to be comfortable with who and what you are before you can be comfortable with your partner.

PARTNERSHIP.

Far too often sex tends to be one sided because one or more of the people involved don't realize that a partner must participate. If you ask a group of married men, they'd tell you the last thing they want is a wife that just lies there. A couple must be partners in the truest sense of the word.

SNUGGLER.

As much as we'd like to be having sex 24/7 it just isn't possible (at least not for me at least). You need to be capable of getting intimate with your partner even when the ultimate goal isn't sex. Intimacy for the sake of just being there, its critical to a good relationship. Whether is the cuddling that occurs after sex, or just giving your partner a hug, or holding them when they aren't feeling well. Its a level of intimacy that transcends sex. Sex is very intimate, but those casual touches convey a depth of feeling that even sex doesn't convey.

 

[Lust Engine]

A good lover is someone who knows how to touch you physically. A great lover is someone who knows how to touch you emotionally.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

well said Lust ITA

 

[Lust Engine]

well said Lust ITA

Thanks! I keep this up I might end up writing fortune cookies or something!

 

[GeorgeWBush]

I think they are a good lover if they are totally into you. they do things that you like and please you. soft touch of the hand against bare flesh. gental kisses against the neck as they walk by on their way out the door, to the bathroom where ever. they may leave little postits on the frig or mirror about what they love about you. they call you at work for no reason other than to say i love you or what would you like for dinner tonight. a nice foot massage or back rub. i love it when my hubby washes my hair or takes a shower with me and washes my back. a good lover does things to please you and that goes for other things besides the bedroom

Right i find it works very well to do little things all the time i would walk up from behind and put my arms around her and kiss her neck and a ear.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

The greatness of a lover is totally dependent on the amount of unselfish love and attention that they are willing to show you.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Lust Engine]

Re: I feel it is a combination of the Above

I am sure I have left out many other important aspects. Not everything is done everytime.

It's a damn good start with this list though!

 

[sheath]

Communication!

Becoming a good lover takes being willing to listen, being willing to talk about everything and anything. An open mind, a desire to try new things, and an understanding of the fact that being a great lover takes time.

If two people are willing to communicate about everything both in and out of the bedroom, I firmly believe that their sex life will be tender, loving, complete...and possibly as explosive as TNT hit by lightning.

S.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Lust Engine]

If two people are willing to communicate about everything both in and out of the bedroom, I firmly believe that their sex life will be tender, loving, complete...and possibly as explosive as TNT hit by lightning.

S.

Well I know you & your man have already built that lightning rod already sheath!

(those of us in the bunker)

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[sheath]

Well I know you & your man have already built that lightning rod already sheath!

(those of us in the bunker)

It's amazing that those lightning strikes haven't killed us by now.

S.

 

[sheath]

Rechargable batteries.

LMAO!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Tchalla]

I think that a good lover is someone who is open to different ideas and who is enthusiastic in sexually. A woman who shows that she really likes sex is a better lover than someone who just knows techniques.

 

[Mstrskey]

a good lover...

well it's been said a time or two but it bears repeating. A good lover is someone who can excite me sexually without fear of repercussion or anger at suggestion to change or enhance a technique. Not only that but a good lover is someone who can excite me outside of a sexual situation. A person who knows how to hold me when I need to be held and not expect anything in return, or who knows how to talk or listen. It's a peron who encompasses the " total package" as lover and friend.

 

[tendril]

Well, some men...

can have the mistaken idea that it's the man who 'makes love' to the woman.

Confronted with a woman who wants to undress him, stroke, caress, fondle and revel in the delight of his body, well, can be a real eye opener for some men.

 

[Ladybird]

Re: Well, some men...

can have the mistaken idea that it's the man who 'makes love' to the woman.

Confronted with a woman who wants to undress him, stroke, caress, fondle and revel in the delight of his body, well, can be a real eye opener for some men.

I think you are very right with this. There are also a lot of women who expect the man to make love to them... and lay there and wait for it to happen.

Whatever the case, I think a woman who's not afraid to be an aggressive and active partner, while still being considerate and sensitive, will always be considered a good lover.

Be yourself, relax and enjoy. That's all it takes.

 

[Tchalla]

Re: Re: Well, some men...

Whatever the case, I think a woman who's not afraid to be an aggressive and active partner, while still being considerate and sensitive, will always be considered a good lover.

Well put.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Imagination!

Whatever that devious little brain can come up with. I just love it when my lover walks around muttering, looking up at the ceiling, overhearing snippets like "swings", "roof joists", "load bearing". hehehe I can hardly wait to see what he'll come up with next!

 

[Lust Engine]

Rechargable batteries.

Or one long extension cord.

Need help plugging it in, m'dear??