What reason has someone given you to end an online relationship?

[Luk]

That's it? End of your story together?

There are people out there with more heart...

One either leaves or takes a break from the online world, throws themselves into their career, a new hobby, a volunteer project, anything that they enjoy - and one day they realize they're all good with everything. And then they never get into an online relationship again.

 

[jezzilee]

"Sometimes love is not enough."

- Very true too. Unless you live close enough to each other or one of you is willing to move, it isn't enough.

Love the new av.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Love the new av.

Thank you. As much as I love my red shoes, I felt it was time for something else.

Maybe I should have taken a photo of me in my wellies, pajama shorts and tank top trying to hunt down the asshole cat that escaped to the farm behind me. #hotmess

 

[PaulieJay]

To PaulieJay:

Thank you for the welcome!!

That was both sarcasm & sincerity at the same time, hope you enjoy your time here & don't get turned off (that happens here a lot - & yes I'm also talking about myself)

 

[RascalConte]

Lust and Love are a tricky pair at the best of times.
Throw in the Online to Real Life shift, along with some Geography, and things can get scary.
Fight or Flight? people usually flee.
It’s just human nature, don’t let it prevent you from loving again.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Lust and Love are a tricky pair at the best of times.
Throw in the Online to Real Life shift, along with some Geography, and things can get scary.
Fight or Flight? people usually flee.
It’s just human nature, don’t let it prevent you from loving again.

I became my worst self with that tricky balance of online and real life. It hurt like a motherfucker when things ended but I have to admit, to paraphrase a bit of Alice in Wonderland, I had lost my muchiness. I am much more me now.

Some can thrive in that sort of relationship while others wilt under the pressures of watching someone’s life simply from a far with only interspersed moments to sustain you.

But I am speaking of an online/real life relationship where both individuals did not have spouses or partners. There are many here who seek someone to fill a void their spouse or partner either cannot or will not fill. As someone who has not been in that situation, I can’t speak to the resiliency of those sort of relationships, but I would think you would have to go into them knowing it’s never going to be more than what it is.

 

[RascalConte]

I became my worst self with that tricky balance of online and real life. It hurt like a motherfucker when things ended but I have to admit, to paraphrase a bit of Alice in Wonderland, I had lost my muchiness. I am much more me now.

Some can thrive in that sort of relationship while others wilt under the pressures of watching someone’s life simply from a far with only interspersed moments to sustain you.

But I am speaking of an online/real life relationship where both individuals did not have spouses or partners. There are many here who seek someone to fill a void their spouse or partner either cannot or will not fill. As someone who has not been in that situation, I can’t speak to the resiliency of those sort of relationships, but I would think you would have to go into them knowing it’s never going to be more than what it is.

I think there's lots about the development of feelings online that needs to be properly researched. Some feelings are real, some are self induced, some are mutually reflected; there are probably several other permutations.

Or maybe someone just needs to write a good practical field guide to online romance.

I have found in my personal experience there is more opportunity online to disappoint and be disappointed; this would include long distance romances that started online.

So, the whole perspective of the OP's subject line, what reason has someone given you, is, I think, backward to where we ought to be in order to navigate the open sharing of feelings online.

I think it best to have stewardship over your own feelings as the prime directive.

 

[Noor]

To Noor

I was in a conversation with a compelling man. A very compelling man. Are you serious about "dumping" him because he asked a question that I felt comfortable responding to? No. That decision is up to each one of us.

I don't think that it had anything to do with potential size or shape. I honestly think that he would have enjoyed whatever I had to offer but something about my description due to tiredness and fumbling around for words just seemed to set off alarm bells with him.

I've also never heard of verification in order to talk/chat. But then again, I've been living in a cave until just recently. I guess social interactions have changed quite a bit.

Thank you, Noor, for your feedback.

I would have dumped him because it is what I consider a fembot question and not any sort of relationship material. You are of course free to do whatever you wish.
You may have been comfortable answering, but you were not prepared to. This man have been compelling, but either he didn't accept you or your answer was what not what he wanted to hear. Not very patient It is also possible that he did not know how to translate French bra sizes to US or some such nonsense. An 85D french is about a 32D US.

One either leaves or takes a break from the online world, throws themselves into their career, a new hobby, a volunteer project, anything that they enjoy - and one day they realize they're all good with everything. And then they never get into an online relationship again.

I look at online as just another place, not different than a bar or shopping center with nice people and creeps everywhere. As Penn Jillette once said the best thing about people online, is that you don't have to smell them. I am fairly sure that this board is doused in various scents.

 

[raindancer]

I never get a reason. I get the ghost.

 

[SudaStoleHer]

[Flaming and political posts prohibited per Lounge rules and our forum guidelines.] - Last Warning

 

[7inchglory]

Here are my reasons based my experiences from this website:

1. Arguments: One girl flipped her lid when she surprised me that she was in town and didn't tell me until the night before and I already had plans so I couldn't meet her. She knew she was coming to Canada for months. Another girl accused me of shooting models in lingerie to fuck them, and said my shoots were just sex shoots -- which they were not. I never kissed or sexually touched any models I've shot with, and when she saw my portfolio and that it wasn't tasteless, she pedaled backwards... but the damage was done and I ended it.

2. Caught feelings: One girl caught feelings and was depressed she couldn't have me because we were too far away... so I had to end it. It was a shame because she was gorgeous. Other cases they ended it themselves.

3. Boyfriends: A lot of the people that I talk to who take it to the next step, usually end up talking to me for a while. Long enough for boys to come into their life and it has to end because of that. There are a few who we become just platonic friends and chat normally here and there, and then there are the others who can't see friendship happening and they end it.

4. Life: It just get's in the way for all of us

 

[TWB]

Sometimes theres nothing to say. Like when her theretofore nonexistent husband walked in on our camsex.

 

[Bookishleigh]

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/53/af/df/53afdf8e2efa000785d6d9019997d4bd.gif

 

[CleverCowardice]

She lived in New Jersey. And I'd rather cut off my big toe and eat it than have to move to Jersey.

I stand by that reason.

 

[IG_88]

Never had a real online relationship unless you count a few chats on tindr/bumble/etc.
Those are mostly stopped by either of use getting bored with the other or meeting, fucking and moving on with our lives. Reasons aren't needed or expected.
In real life I've been given many reasons, some legit, some not. Usually it's cuz I'm an asshole and can't really argue with that one.

 

[Todger65]

I’ve been ghosted several times on line, not necessarily from ladies on Lit. All except for one appeared to stop all online activity so something changed in their life. The other one continued her online activity but just ignored me. Never a reason.

On the other hand, I’ve had a few mutual separations. We either came to the end of the activity we were engaged in, or decided other real life factors were getting in the way.

I would always prefer an explanation why it is ending, and on those I have decided to end it, I have always given a reason and left it open for discussion.

I do realise that sometimes sudden things happen in real life that doesn’t allow time for explanations, but it is always nice and courteous to give a reason.

 

[thør]

I never get a reason. I get the ghost.

I do have a few Kasper's in the family. Ask if they have relatives in Alaska.

 

[Bookishleigh]

The shenanigans of a not-so-friendly ghost.

I’m sorry - I just thought you would find me sexy in my white sheet:

 

[thør]

I’m sorry - I just thought you would find me sexy in my white sheet:

Maybe on the white sheet.

 

[GothgurlF]

I'm getting married tomorrow, sorry we can't be more.

 

[thør]

I'm getting married tomorrow, sorry we can't be more.

One last fling?

 

[Bookishleigh]

Maybe on the white sheet.

That comes after she pulls it off my naked body. Duh.

 

[thør]

That comes after she pulls it off my naked body. Duh.

I'm just watching.

 

[Que]

I'm getting married tomorrow, sorry we can't be more.

We will always have Paris.

You wore blue, the Germans wore grey. . .

 

[Que]

I would have dumped him because it is what I consider a fembot question and not any sort of relationship material. You are of course free to do whatever you wish.
You may have been comfortable answering, but you were not prepared to. This man have been compelling, but either he didn't accept you or your answer was what not what he wanted to hear. Not very patient It is also possible that he did not know how to translate French bra sizes to US or some such nonsense. An 85D french is about a 32D US.



I look at online as just another place, not different than a bar or shopping center with nice people and creeps everywhere. As Penn Jillette once said the best thing about people online, is that you don't have to smell them. I am fairly sure that this board is doused in various scents.

Can you imagine an 85 INCH band-size?