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Chillygirl said:
Not quite. Snowed all day, little windy. We’ll see how tomorrow goes!

The forecast keeps changing. Now it says Sunday night through Tuesday a mixture of snow and rain, mixture of warming and freezing temps, winds 35mph…so it sounds like the roads will be ice rinks. Our newest overpass still doesn’t have guardrails on one side…
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Time to go in hibernation then? :D
I would suggest ice skates if you go out in that weather! Or a tank! :cool:
 
“Find someone who you feel safe being a burden too.”

Goes on to say not that you plan on being a burden but for whatever reasons sometimes you suck.

🤯

I can’t imagine feeling that safe.
 
Chillygirl said:
“Find someone who you feel safe being a burden too.”

Goes on to say not that you plan on being a burden but for whatever reasons sometimes you suck.

🤯

I can’t imagine feeling that safe.
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Due to circumstances beyonds someone’s control Some people will find that person . But cannot feel that safe with them .
 
Chillygirl said:
“Find someone who you feel safe being a burden too.”

Goes on to say not that you plan on being a burden but for whatever reasons sometimes you suck.

🤯

I can’t imagine feeling that safe.
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In ANY relationship, you're going to burden the other person, and them to you. The fun part lies in how each party reacts to the other. It's a really honest way to know the intentions of the other
 
deefalttwunnyfor said:
In ANY relationship, you're going to burden the other person, and them to you. The fun part lies in how each party reacts to the other. It's a really honest way to know the intentions of the other
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I think that’s the issue…I’d have to trust the other person.

My ex really did a number on me. Over the years. Any “weakness” I showed became a weapon against me.

The messed up part is I don’t look at my people as a burden. I don’t hesitate to help. I want them to feel safe with me.
 
Chillygirl said:
I think that’s the issue…I’d have to trust the other person.

My ex really did a number on me. Over the years. Any “weakness” I showed became a weapon against me.

The messed up part is I don’t look at my people as a burden. I don’t hesitate to help. I want them to feel safe with me.
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I can’t relate to thus wholeheartedly
 
I can only speak from my perspective, but my late wife in her last few years always felt like a burden despite how many times in how many ways I tried to reassure her that wasn’t the case. She felt safe in that I wasn’t going to abandon her, but still felt like a burden. I think it was her selflessness at odds with what her body was no longer able to do that made her feel this way. Feeling 100% truly safe burdening someone you love seems like an impossible task to me. Unless you don’t truly love them, or are selfish. 🤷‍♂️
 
deefalttwunnyfor said:
You shouldn't! Don't get me wrong, that's not the point. It's that we all need help sometimes and a real friend reacts a certain way
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I think that’s my point. I don’t give myself the same grace I give others. If I don’t look at my people as burdens why do I assume they’d look at me as a burden?
 
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Chillygirl said:
I think that’s my point. I don’t give myself the sane grace I give others. If I don’t look at my people as burdens why do I assume they’d look at me as a burden?
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I struggle with this so much. I think it’s because I hold myself to an impossible standard. I’m the type that would rather endure the pain myself if it meant someone I cared about doesn’t have to.
 
Mr_Soup said:
I can only speak from my perspective, but my late wife in her last few years always felt like a burden despite how many times in how many ways I tried to reassure her that wasn’t the case. She felt safe in that I wasn’t going to abandon her, but still felt like a burden. I think it was her selflessness at odds with what her body was no longer able to do that made her feel this way. Feeling 100% truly safe burdening someone you love seems like an impossible task to me. Unless you don’t truly love them, or are selfish. 🤷‍♂️
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Maybe it’s just me, but I think that a person could feel 100% safe having to completely rely on someone they love without being an unloving or selfish person. To me, feeling safe doesn’t mean that the person feels fine about the fact that a loved one has to do almost everything for them.

For example, my husband lost over 75% of his vision this past year. He’s now relying on me for a lot of things. He’s expressed many times how bad he feels about this… that he feels weak and guilty for putting more work on my shoulders. When I have tried to reassure him that it’s all good and that I am not going anywhere, he says that he knows that I am always going to be there for him, but that he feels bad that I have to go through that. Maybe I am wrong, but I think that means that he feels safe with burdening me, although he feels shitty about it.
 
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AngelicaS1780 said:
Maybe it’s just me, but I think that a person could feel 100% safe having to completely rely someone they love without being an unloving or selfish person. To me, feeling safe doesn’t mean that the person feels fine about the fact that a loved one has to do almost everything for them.

For example, my husband lost over 75% of his vision this past year. He’s now relying on me for a lot of things. He’s expressed many times how bad he feels about this… that he feels weak and guilty for putting more work on my shoulders. When I have tried to reassure him that it’s all good and that I am not going anywhere, he says that he knows that I am always going to be there for him, but that he feels bad that I have to go through that. Maybe I am wrong, but I think that means that he feels safe with burdening me, although he feels shitty about it.
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I think your situation is the way it should be. Or one of the ways it should be. He feels safe with you. He can lean on you. You don’t punish him for it or hold it against him.
 
Chillygirl said:
I think that’s the issue…I’d have to trust the other person.

My ex really did a number on me. Over the years. Any “weakness” I showed became a weapon against me.
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That’s an absolutely terrible thing to do to another person. I can understand and respect why it would be difficult to trust people.
 
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