What the hell…Chilly’s little spot on lit

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

Today in therapy we talked about how the body holds onto trauma. How your fight or flight gets burned out. Dangerous situations no longer trigger anything but emotions, love…that sends me running. My recent dream where I realized he didn’t care that I was there, that the only time he looked me in the eye was when I said goodbye, he looked at me and asked if I found everything I needed. Yes, I think I did. There’s not going to be any explanations or apologies.

Today I was reminded that healing isn’t linear. It’s waves and today I was drowning. Now the water is calm. I’m ok.

 

[Neanderthal247]

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Love blinds us, we see only their best qualities during the blindfold of love. Love masks all the other traits they have, we ignore the signs because we can't see.

 

[Chillygirl]

Love blinds us, we see only their best qualities during the blindfold of love. Love masks all the other traits they have, we ignore the signs because we can't see.

I fall for the potential…

 

[Neanderthal247]

I fall for the potential…

Smacks your hands


Stop that shit !


Only actions matter

I know, it's easier said than done.

 

[Chillygirl]

Smacks your hands


Stop that shit !


Only actions matter

I know, it's easier said than done.

I know, I know.

Just call me Bob the Builder…I think I can fix everything!

I’m done with that though. Just concentrating on myself.

And the next guy…his actions better match his words and he’d better be ready for some high expectations. I’m not settling again or taking less.

 

[Chillygirl]

Something I read recently:

How would you feel if someone said they can tell how much you love yourself by the partner that you’ve chosen? Would that be a compliment or insult? Would you be proud of the love you had chosen and the treatment you accepted?

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

I know…Lit is NOT a dating site but let’s be honest. We meet people, start some sort of relationship, maybe even love. Some last for years and others just days. It’s still a relationship, it’s still hard to navigate.

 

[TXRafe]

I know…Lit is NOT a dating site but let’s be honest. We meet people, start some sort of relationship, maybe even love. Some last for years and others just days. It’s still a relationship, it’s still hard to navigate.

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it's almost worse, it's like dating in warp speed...a week feels like a month...i'd read about it in the threads, but it certainly isn't for the faint of heart...just keep being you and being true to yourself...everything else will work itself out.

 

[Chillygirl]

OMG this is life!!! 32oz sugar free redbull with sugar free pomegranate syrup and a breakfast Burrito that someone actually knew how to make!

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[barefootgirl69]

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Except if you're under 5' and he's 6'5". My head wasn't even heart level.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I know…Lit is NOT a dating site but let’s be honest. We meet people, start some sort of relationship, maybe even love. Some last for years and others just days. It’s still a relationship, it’s still hard to navigate.

And still worth it, in my opinion.

We are never guaranteed forever in our friendships or relationships. People come and go in our lives...maybe more frequently in mine, because I grew up in a military family and married into one. You get used to the ebb and flow???

But, someone once told me to remember the good times and smile.

Or I'm just weird, I haven't determined that yet!!!

 

[Chillygirl]

And still worth it, in my opinion.

We are never guaranteed forever in our friendships or relationships. People come and go in our lives...maybe more frequently in mine, because I grew up in a military family and married into one. You get used to the ebb and flow???

But, someone once told me to remember the good times and smile.

Or I'm just weird, I haven't determined that yet!!!

Not saying it’s not worth it. Just saying it’s hard.

I grew up military and married into it too (twice lol I’m such a glutton for punishment) and maybe that’s why I crave permanence, stability.

I agree with remember the good times but sometimes it takes a minute to work through all the hurt before you can do that.

Maybe you’re weird, maybe you’re determined, maybe you’re lucky. It’s fun watching you and OC and I’m sure people think “I wish I had that.”

Right now I just want to learn from my past, heal all my trauma from all the physical and mental abuse, learn to be ok on my own and maybe even like it. I don’t know if I’ll ever let myself trust anyone fully again. I don’t know if I’ll ever allow myself to fully love someone again. And that’s ok too.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Not saying it’s not worth it. Just saying it’s hard.

Right now I just want to learn from my past, heal all my trauma from all the physical and mental abuse, learn to be ok on my own and maybe even like it. I don’t know if I’ll ever let myself trust anyone fully again. I don’t know if I’ll ever allow myself to fully love someone again. And that’s ok too.

I wasn't trying to push anything on anyone, I hope it didn't come across like that!

We ALL deal with things differently and we all probably have some type of wall built up. I know I did. I've been hurt here and had some wonderful litships in the far past, and my post was about how I handle it.



ps... I also refuse to let my ex dictate my future by keeping me "hostage". Our relationship is over and I've healed. What happens now is up to me!

Pss...You're a soft hearted badass! You are doing great at getting your ducks in a row and I love watching you succeed!

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[ccs29745]

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you killed mufasa!?!

 

[Chillygirl]

 

[sallysparrow23]