What Turns you on? (Fetishes)

[Sayyid]

What about the painful part of it?

 

[CurlyKat]

What about the painful part of it?

Done right, and as long as the girl's got the proper anatomy to allow it, it doesn't really hurt. The part that hurts (at least in my experience) is withdrawing the hand afterwards if you let the girl tighten up too much first.

 

[Sayyid]

I can't see it not hurting (in a bad way) without lots of preparation and caution.

 

[CurlyKat]

I can't see it not hurting (in a bad way) without lots of preparation and caution.

It does take a fair amount of preparation (called foreplay), and lots of lubricant. When it starts to hurt in a bad way, you just stop for a little bit, wait for the hurt to stop (in other words, wait for her to adjust more), then keep going.

Same caution as normal play. Keep your hands clean, nails trimmed, all that kind of good stuff.

Other than that, you're good to go. It's not like you're actually punching into her. Start slowly, and work more in little at a time. If you're not trying to force too much too fast, it won't hurt.

 

[Sayyid]

No I don't mean foreplay but stretching.

 

[CurlyKat]

No I don't mean foreplay but stretching.

No prior stretching needed. Afterwards she'll go right back to where she was before. The muscles in that region are amazingly elastic and can stretch and recover in a very short period of time.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

No prior stretching needed. Afterwards she'll go right back to where she was before. The muscles in that region are amazingly elastic and can stretch and recover in a very short period of time.

I'm trying to think of some sort of smartassy quip about stretching, childbirth, and such, but it's late Sunday and my not functioning so well.

Though, I'm tending to think that some work with the musles, ie kegels, over a bit of time beforehand would lead to even better orgasms through fisting?

Y/N?

 

[Bran_Hopewell]

I've found during fisting that if the woman is a fist virgin, you need to carefully and slowly stretch her; if she's so tight she can only take two fingers, you need to work her up slowly.

But once she's there, as long as she's wet and willing, it's on! Or maybe that should be in...

 

[operationorgasm]

Fisting
Red heads
public nudity
her not wearing bra or panties
me not wearing underwear
sex in public
Red heads
Twins
Hot moms with hot daughters
object insertions
light food play
light domination
taking pictures
flashing
red heads
Asian girls with UK Accents.
erotic tattoos
red heads

How on earth could I forget red heads? I love red heads.

 

[Sayyid]

The anecdotal wisdom about women becoming "loose" doesn't seem all accurate.

Although it obviously can happen with time (and childbirth) or else Kegel exercises wouldn't be necessary.

 

[fenghuang]

...if she's so tight she can only take two fingers...

Is anyone really that tight? Surely you couldn't even have penetrative sex? Or there's been absolutely no foreplay whatsoever? (And I speak as somone "smaller than average".)

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

The anecdotal wisdom about women becoming "loose" doesn't seem all accurate.

Although it obviously can happen with time (and childbirth) or else Kegel exercises wouldn't be necessary.

I wasn't thinking they were necessarily necessary, but more, added to the fun.

 

[butters]

Creativity

Seriously

watching an artist, or a writer create something astounding makes me horny. and knowing something I've written on request had the desired effect.

of course there's lots other stuff too, but they're far more run of the mill

 

[Kelli_Kanyon]

It's Magic!

What's the appeal of fisting anyway?

For me, fisting is very intimate with my husband/anal slave. I like doing it becuz of the closeness, I use it as a reward for him when he has been good. I can bury my arm deep inside him and it leaves my other hand free to gently rub his butt and back and watch him squirm for me. Plus it is so easy to make him shoot this way, I can make him cum anytime I see fit

I just love how it feels when his hole pulses around my forearm as i pump in and out while he is cumming for me. All my friends love to cum over and watch, they think it is funny how easily I can control his orgasms.

Ladies, try it with you men, you'll be surprised how hard they will get and shoot for you without their little dicks ever being touched

 

[sadangel]

Turn Ons:
Fisting
Anal
Oral
Pussy spanking
Spanking
Flogging
Crop
Facials (Cum on face)
Toys
Clothes Pins
Nipple Clamps
Clit clamp
The way my Sir tells me to "CUM--NOW"
Being Dominated by Him
When He calls me , "His slave, sub, bitch, cum bucket, fuck toy, dirty little girl, whore"
When He tells me "I own You."
When He reminds me that I am His to be taken any time, anywhere and any how He chooses.
His Hard cock rubbed against my clit/pussy
The way His words can get me into subspace so quickly.
Nipples being bitten
His cock between my tits
His controlling when I orgasm, how often.
His denying me orgasm for discipline or just because.
His kisses

Most of all. The biggest turn on is when He says "I love You"

 

[cisb]

Hi everyone. I prefer to communicate by PMs but am prepared to stick my head up for this one. I am a virgin, but I am very much turned on by the prospect of:

Being at the whim of a shapely Domme (young, middle aged or old)
Being tied up (and tied down)
Being immersed in leather/latex/rubber
Being on display for a group of Dommes
Being denied orgasm
Being tortured post-orgasm
Being probed with a butt plug or anal dildo
Being given an enema (and forced to retain it)
Being probed with a sounds set or catheter
Being told it's for my own good
Being told I'm recieving this because she loves me and only wants what's best for me

Anyone interested in conversing about this further can drop me a line. I know this isn't the Personals section, but I've put this request here just in case.

 

[OldGuy1026]

So many threads, okay well if you read my stories you can see the possibilities of what I'm curious about. So let's see, what turns me on?

Spankings, giving or receiving. OTK, or any other position. Love it/hate it when being well punished.
Sex, duh... oh I'm Bi, so yes that too
Anal Sex, yes, but first a good enema. Also the feel of a man's balls bouncing on my ass
Chastity Belts, big turn on, never wore one or even seen one for real, but such control or loss of it.
Forced to watch others play, deep humiliation, and not being able to touch myself during.
Spanked while fucking a partner, wow, try it pain and pleasure both at once.
Butt-plugs, yes please,
Watching a sub smile as she forces a large butt-plug up her ass.
Being tied up/down, shiver, such loss of control.
Gags, Wet panties, Humiliation
Oral sex, vaginal, anel, a man's cock, yes I'll swallow
Asking to cum, such loss of control,
No underwear after a hot spanking on a cold winter's day
Going to bed with nothing on from the waist down and not touching yourself there as your Dom definitely can.
Curious about Diaper Domination, received some interesting answers
Imagination........
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=433011
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=436169

More to come, imagine being 18 again in a cloned body that is better, prettier, healthier, and because you talk on websites like this recruited to a Galactic Brothel.

 

[WCHSP]

Is anyone really that tight? Surely you couldn't even have penetrative sex? Or there's been absolutely no foreplay whatsoever? (And I speak as somone "smaller than average".)

Girls who are new to sex are like this relatively often, especially if they're small. Doing a combination of stretching and kegels to get ready for sex if it's a problem is a good idea... it's a very frustrating experience for a girl to decide she's finally ready and wants to do it with her boyfriend, but then he won't fit. I know girls this has happened to.

Never had it happen that a girl couldn't fit me, but it's definitely been close a few times, had to work it in really slowly... eat her first to get her ready and then work on just getting the head in and making really shallow thrusts until I could get in further. It's taken ~5 minutes just to get fully inserted, but then it's always been fine. If my cock were any larger though, that might not have worked.

This is part of why virgins aren't better in bed than experienced women... another being that they're often too shy to do much touching, and if they do touch you they probably don't know how to do it well. My last two girlfriends were virgins (or almost -- current one had sex once before only) before I got with them, and there was a definite learning curve... both are much better in bed now!

 

[SimonBrooke]

For the receiver: The feeling of being that stretched out, and the amount of time and attention in that area to get that way is a huge turn on. It just feels good. To be fisted, you have to give up that control to the one fisting, so for a submissive, obviously a turn on. Feeling that full.... wow good. And yes, as nh said, humongous orgasms.

For the giver: Power, control, knowing you can inspire that kind of pleasure in someone.

It's probably not everyone's thing, but those are the main reasons for the appeal.

OK, there's two things in this, for me. The idea fascinates me - it sounds like a real high. But, a man's fist is probably the biggest thing that's going to go through a woman's vagina short of a baby's skull, and the idea of having my plaything all stretched and loose really doesn't appeal. I have very small hands for a man my size, but still... So it does fascinate me, and the idea is a big turn on, but I've never tried it.

I've always thought of it as a thing a woman might do to a woman, because of smaller hands and wrists (and because, for gay women, vaginal tightness is probably less of a big deal).

So - people who have done this (on both sides of the equation), is stretching and tearing a risk? I'm not afraid of causing a bit of pain (provided I cause a sufficient recompense in pleasure), but I don't want to do damage. And I don't want to lessen the pleasure of future sex!

 

[CurlyKat]

OK, there's two things in this, for me. The idea fascinates me - it sounds like a real high. But, a man's fist is probably the biggest thing that's going to go through a woman's vagina short of a baby's skull, and the idea of having my plaything all stretched and loose really doesn't appeal. I have very small hands for a man my size, but still... So it does fascinate me, and the idea is a big turn on, but I've never tried it.

I've always thought of it as a thing a woman might do to a woman, because of smaller hands and wrists (and because, for gay women, vaginal tightness is probably less of a big deal).

So - people who have done this (on both sides of the equation), is stretching and tearing a risk? I'm not afraid of causing a bit of pain (provided I cause a sufficient recompense in pleasure), but I don't want to do damage. And I don't want to lessen the pleasure of future sex!

Your entire fist isn't going in all at once. Little by little you will ease your way in, stretching her slowly as you go. You form your fist after you're inside her, if that's what you want to do. You could also just fit your whole hand in her and call it a day, whatever your preference is and what feels good.

Stretching... duh, it happens all the time. You know when you enter her with anything else? Yep, stretching just happened. It's normal. It's natural. It's supposed to happen.

Tearing is another story. If you push too fast, and don't give her body time to respond, yes you will tear her. That will hurt, and so not in the good way. That could cause damage, major, depending on the extent. So take it slow and communicate while doing it.

Permanent stretching.... nope. She'll tighten right back up. Again, normal, natural process. Women who have had children don't stay that stretched out, they can get back to normal just fine. Yes, their bodies remember the experience and can return to it quicker the next time, but they don't automatically drop to that extension.

If you do it properly, then fisting will not diminish the pleasure of sex for either of you in the future. Key word: properly. Communicate with her. Find out where her limits are. Work slowly.

 

[OldGuy1026]

I'd have to agree with Curlkat there, the vagina, and probably the anus will grow back to normal size, natural healing.

Nothing more interesting than having a Mistress who does you once every other month, she has that virgin smile of pain/pleasure as she lowers herself on me with a very sore bum. I think she uses tampons simply because they are uncomfotable.

 

[SimonBrooke]

Permanent stretching.... nope. She'll tighten right back up. Again, normal, natural process. Women who have had children don't stay that stretched out, they can get back to normal just fine. Yes, their bodies remember the experience and can return to it quicker the next time, but they don't automatically drop to that extension.

If you do it properly, then fisting will not diminish the pleasure of sex for either of you in the future. Key word: properly. Communicate with her. Find out where her limits are. Work slowly.

Thanks, appreciated. I'll bear it in mind!

 

[ineedpain2getthere]

I Am Not Sorry

I Love Be Whipped.i Love It When My Partner Bite Me In Oral Sex Too

 

[smallgirl]

the thought of being tied up, strapped down, blindfolded and fucked in every way without mercy....it gets be every time. hopefully will get to do this someday.

 

[OldGuy1026]

the thought of being tied up, strapped down, blindfolded and fucked in every way without mercy....it gets be every time. hopefully will get to do this someday.

know the feeling, my partner is very vanillia too