What Was Your Sexual Timeline?

[omniavincet]

That's not fair. But, it's your timeline, so you can do what you want with it. If you want to keep some poor soul from finding out an answer to their problems, That's up to you. I just hop you can sleep at night.

Yeah, if I can tell everyone about my bizarro stepmother then you can tell us something!

BTW - I have never managed to find anyone to tell about that IRL - isn't that the whole point of this virtual space!!??

I, for one, refuse to give anyone either a disgusted or pitying reaction in response to their sexual awakening and I would bet $100 the same goes for 99.9% of everyone on lit.

OV

 

[DVS]

Bah, no one listen anyway. They just keep asking the same question believing themselves to be different.

Spoken like a true pessimist.

 

[DVS]

Yeah, if I can tell everyone about my bizarro stepmother then you can tell us something!

BTW - I have never managed to find anyone to tell about that IRL - isn't that the whole point of this virtual space!!??

I, for one, refuse to give anyone either a disgusted or pitying reaction in response to their sexual awakening and I would bet $100 the same goes for 99.9% of everyone on lit.

OV

Did you mean to quote my post? I'm confused, if you are talking to me.

 

[DVS]

Interesting thread idea, DVS... I need to think a bit about what my timeline is, and how much I'm willing to share about it...

So what you're saying is that I should think of discussing my sexual timeline in terms of being an act of public service?

(not quite to the point of laughing, but your argument did make me smile...)

First, I thought you were going to tell us your timeline. But, this last post seems more like you're making fun of the idea. And, yes, the masturbation fodder statement was just my dry humor.

What's the problem? It's not like anybody really knows you on these forums. You do show your real face (I don't know...I'm guessing that's really you), but other than that, what does it matter if we read how you found out about sex? Isn't this an interesting thread idea any more? Oooooh, I see, now. It's interesting when you can read how others learned about sex, but to reciprocate? Not a chance. Right?

How are we to know if you're telling the truth? You could lie and say you grew up in Hollywood and lost your virginity to the neighbor next door in a kinky sex party. And, the neighbor just happened to be a guy by the name of Marion Morrison.

You could say he introduced you to your husband and although your marriage didn't work out you stayed friends with Marion until his death in 1979, when he left you a little cash in his will, in remembrance of your times together.

And, to this day, you could say you visit his grave and reminisce over the kinky fun you and he had back in the '60s. How would we know any of what you tell us is not true? Only you would know the truth. Well, you and Marion.

 

[DVS]

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[CutieMouse]

I wasn't making fun of the idea.

I recognized you were being humorous.

It was up for a couple of hours last night, somewhat detailed, and I pulled the post because I decided it was more personal than I was comfortable with.

Deal with it.

 

[LadyAria]

First, I thought you were going to tell us your timeline. But, this last post seems more like you're making fun of the idea. And, yes, the masturbation fodder statement was just my dry humor.

What's the problem? It's not like anybody really knows you on these forums. You do show your real face (I don't know...I'm guessing that's really you), but other than that, what does it matter if we read how you found out about sex? Isn't this an interesting thread idea any more? Oooooh, I see, now. It's interesting when you can read how others learned about sex, but to reciprocate? Not a chance. Right?

How are we to know if you're telling the truth? You could lie and say you grew up in Hollywood and lost your virginity to the neighbor next door in a kinky sex party. And, the neighbor just happened to be a guy by the name of Marion Morrison.

You could say he introduced you to your husband and although your marriage didn't work out you stayed friends with Marion until his death in 1979, when he left you a little cash in his will, in remembrance of your times together.

And, to this day, you could say you visit his grave and reminisce over the kinky fun you and he had back in the '60s. How would we know any of what you tell us is not true? Only you would know the truth. Well, you and Marion.

She posted it last night and then withdrew it. I read it while it was up.

 

[LadyAria]

Spoken like a true pessimist.

Lit has a way of doing that to me.

 

[omniavincet]

Did you mean to quote my post? I'm confused, if you are talking to me.

Sorry for my unclear quotesmanship. No, I was speaking to LadyAria and any others who are worried about the reactions they might get posting their timelines.

I was trying to be encouraging - I think this is a great place to post personal things - I have always had very positive responses from folks here.

I can totally understand not wanting to post certain things anyway, though...no pressure on CutieMouse or others...just curious!

OV

 

[LadyAria]

Yeah, if I can tell everyone about my bizarro stepmother then you can tell us something!

BTW - I have never managed to find anyone to tell about that IRL - isn't that the whole point of this virtual space!!??

I, for one, refuse to give anyone either a disgusted or pitying reaction in response to their sexual awakening and I would bet $100 the same goes for 99.9% of everyone on lit.

OV

My journey wasn't a sexual awakening more like a sexual bludgeoning.

 

[DVS]

No pressure from me either, but CutieMouse and LadyAria are two lovely ladies I'd really enjoy (maybe I should rephrase that?) I mean...appreciate hearing about their learning experiences. I think it would give this thread great credibility.

Another I wanted to hear from was FurryFury, but she had the guts....I mean she was aware of how her posting would be beneficial to others and took that to heart.

So, we have the "Deal with it" Cutie and the Lady "pessimist" living among us. It's a sad, sad world.

 

[DVS]

She posted it last night and then withdrew it. I read it while it was up.

Well, do you think it was too personal? Be honest.

 

[HottieMama]

This thread has been great to read...

i have very little memories of childhood up till about age 11...so i guess i'll start there...

11--First real "making -out" with a boy in my class. i remember thinking what's the big deal...discovered masturbation...became the way i fell asleep at night.

Up until 16.5 did "everything but" Lost my virginity to my first serious boyfriend. It sucked and we broke up shorty afterwards..

Enter slutty nikki...had sex with as many guys as i could. i especially had a thing for MUCH older men. All 'nilla though. Always knew i kinda liked girls too...but didn't act on it...till

9 days before my 19th birthday...kissed and had sex with a girl for the first time both in one night. She became my girlfriend for the next two years...a lot of "rough sex..." but never any labels and wasn't a D/s relationship. We broke up, and i dated/fucked random women for the next yr...pretty much convinced i was a lesbian...denying that i was kinky...and that i still liked men. Got horribly drunk one night, and fucked a guy...lots of shame and embarrassment...still trying to deny that i liked both genders...

23~~met my next serious girlfriend. VERY vanilla relationship as she wasn't even out of the closet at all...The relationship became abusive after the first yr, and to this day i feel like she took her guilt about being gay out on me...Left her after two years and moved in with my current girlfriend.

25~~Refused to deny who i was anymore...kinky, (still didn't give myself the "sub" label) bisexual, non-monogamous... the beginning of the relationship with my current gf was great...rough sex, very open and comfortable...then i got pregnant...4 times in 4 years...and the kink kinda fell by the wayside...as did my sex drive...

Currently...31 and a half...7 months since i had my son and the sex drive is back full swing. Finally admitted to myself that i want/need a D/s relationship...and that i am indeed submissive. STILL struggle with my sexuality, and perhaps it is only because of my current situation, but i don't see myself ever seriously getting involved with a woman again if my current gf and i split for good, and certainly never submitting to one. Have one horribly failed D/s relationship behind me...which taught me a lot both about myself and about the dynamic in general. Finding that i LOVE the D/g dynamic and that it nurtures a part of me that hasn't been in WAY too long. Relationship with the girlfriend is a sinking ship...and i have come to an odd sort of acceptance about that, however it doesn't make the bullshit any easier to deal with.

Ugh..i think that's it...the generalized overview at least...

 

[WriterDom]

It was 1996 when I spanked the nurse. I didn't get permission, I just did it. She liked it though. A redhead. Her pussy smelled like fried chicken.

I still had never heard of bdsm. But I started asking women on aol if they liked to get spanked. It didn't take long before I found a grad student at UGA who did. She'd come about twice a month for spankings and sex.

Then I stumbled on a bdsm website and created WriterDom. I started posting stories on aol. I didn't have much of a clue what I was writing about, but at that time there were very few people writing about bdsm. At least on the aol boards. I came to lit after they shut down the boards. I didn't intend to post on the forums here. I just wanted a place to put stories up.

A small band of us started a bdsm thread in "how to." Which gave birth to the bdsm forum after a year or so.

Anyway, that's my story.

 

[DVS]

Very interesting. I will never understand why women feel embarrassed about liking each other. I guess I understand, but there is a greater stigma to gay males than there is to lesbians. At least I think there is. Shit, a lot of hetro men would love to sit and watch two women kiss. Are women that way about gay men?

What do you mean by D/g towards the bottom of your post? Is that just a typo or did I miss something?

Thanks for posting.

 

[DVS]

Wow, to spank a red headed nurse and even have her like it. I think I'd be in heaven.

 

[HottieMama]

Very interesting. I will never understand why women feel embarrassed about liking each other. I guess I understand, but there is a greater stigma to gay males than there is to lesbians. At least I think there is. Shit, a lot of hetro men would love to sit and watch two women kiss. Are women that way about gay men?

What do you mean by D/g towards the bottom of your post? Is that just a typo or did I miss something?

Thanks for posting.

Daddy/(little)girl....

i was never embarrassed about liking women after that first kiss. i was embarrassed that i still liked men. (Lots of lesbian women "look down" on us "switch-hitters," it seems.)

 

[skittles_lm]

Daddy/(little)girl....

i was never embarrassed about liking women after that first kiss. i was embarrassed that i still liked men. (Lots of lesbian women "look down" on us "switch-hitters," it seems.)

yup. I hear that! How dare we like men too? *giggle*

I'm sorry, but especially when i was young, I figured 'why cut your chances of getting laid in half just by choosing not to sleep with one gender?'

 

[CutieMouse]

No pressure from me either, but CutieMouse and LadyAria are two lovely ladies I'd really enjoy (maybe I should rephrase that?) I mean...appreciate hearing about their learning experiences. I think it would give this thread great credibility.

Another I wanted to hear from was FurryFury, but she had the guts....I mean she was aware of how her posting would be beneficial to others and took that to heart.

So, we have the "Deal with it" Cutie and the Lady "pessimist" living among us. It's a sad, sad world.

Well, do you think it was too personal? Be honest.

DVS, hon, I'm in a really fucking bad mood today. I know you're being witty and shit, and if I was in a better mood I'd blow it off, but I'm not.

It doesn't matter a fig's fuck if Lady Aria or anyone else who read my "timeline" thought it was "too personal"; I thought it was too personal.

Yay for everyone else; it really is an interesting thread; y'all all post timelines to your heart's content, 'kay?

 

[HottieMama]

Since posting..i can understand why Cutie thinks hers was too personal. i really feel a bit out of my comfort zone right now...

 

[skittles_lm]

Since posting..i can understand why Cutie thinks hers was too personal. i really feel a bit out of my comfort zone right now...

That's good though. being out of your comfort zone is one of the things being submissive is all about. You never learn and grow if you always stay with what you've always known.

Personally, i am proud of you for posting! I know mine didn't even go into the detail yours did, so you go girl!

 

[FurryFury]

Or you can change it. Any time you want.

Just ask if someone happened to quote you to edit the quote out.

 

[HottieMama]

That's good though. being out of your comfort zone is one of the things being submissive is all about. You never learn and grow if you always stay with what you've always known.

Personally, i am proud of you for posting! I know mine didn't even go into the detail yours did, so you go girl!

Ahhhh...it's all about that learning and growing isn't it?? i'm keeping it the way it is...even though it's making me cringe a bit.

 

[skittles_lm]

Ahhhh...it's all about that learning and growing isn't it?? i'm keeping it the way it is...even though it's making me cringe a bit.

you know you're cute when you're cringing!


If i had posted the unabridged version of my timeline, it woud have taken up 2 pages...

and no one would ever talk to me again!

 

[FurryFury]

Ahhhh...it's all about that learning and growing isn't it?? i'm keeping it the way it is...even though it's making me cringe a bit.

Two steps forward and all that.

It's okay to go backwards sometimes.

Truly.