What Was Your Sexual Timeline?

[DVS]

The last thing I want to do is piss anybody off. And, I'm sorry, if I have. I've removed any quote I thought someone could possibly seem too personal. And, if someone finds another post I've quoted that they would like for me to remove, just let me know.

And, please don't quote someone's timeline post, so if they want to come back and edit it later, they can. Thank you.
Then, as FurryFury has said, all you have to do is edit your own timeline post, if you feel differently about it.

I really enjoy reading how we all found out about our sexual selves. I think a lot of it involved the nind and how it works given various stimuli at different times. It amases me how some of us found out about our kinky selves by hapenstance, or without outside input. And it's equally amazing how some others were introduced through a sexual encounter with another. I think that would be a very interesting thing to have happen. Talk about a rush of emotions and senses..

So, please continue to post your timelines. I do think we all enjoy reading the different ways we all found out about sex and BDSM.

 

[CutieMouse]

DVS, I don't want anyone else to stop posting their thoughts and such, and am not even really pissed- because I know you well enough to know how you tease.

I really do think it's a fascinating thread idea; I just can't participate. Not with all the other stuff going on in my world right now... there's vulnerable, and then there's vulnerable.



Y'all carry on, 'kay?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... and no one would ever talk to me again!

I bet I would!

 

[DVS]

CutieMouse, don't even worry about it. I just don't want you, LadyAria or anyone else to feel bad or self conscious because of something I said, even if I was just kidding. And, I’m not trying to force you to post anything at all. You are your own person. You know what's best.

 

[LadyAria]

Very interesting. I will never understand why women feel embarrassed about liking each other. I guess I understand, but there is a greater stigma to gay males than there is to lesbians. At least I think there is. Shit, a lot of hetro men would love to sit and watch two women kiss. Are women that way about gay men?

What do you mean by D/g towards the bottom of your post? Is that just a typo or did I miss something?

Thanks for posting.

I use to watch queer as folk for that very reason. Attractive people in any gender pairing is nice to watch.

 

[katteon]

You folks posting are experienced and I am new ...very new....but reading your stories and the different experiences has helped me to understand myself to a greater extent....I am posting mine to actually help me to better understand what I have been experiencing and because I know there are others out there that may be going through the same experiences as myself....

I am a 49 year old woman and below is my sexual journey to date...

Adolescent years...

I remember having "switch wars" (cutting green thin limbs from a tree, stripping the bark then swatting each other) I usually won (last person to stay in the circle)...that stopped shortly after we learned how to effectively use a switch and was leaving marks on our arms and legs...our mothers intervened...

I remember 2 sisters who I would sleep with while our parents played cards...playing doctor...touching my bottom...always wanting them to touch my bottom and telling them to do things to it...

I remember loving backyard football with the neighborhood boys...they were rough...tackling...and smacking me on my bottom...grabbing "feels" when I was in the pile...that stopped because I was the only "girl"...

I remember making up stories for girls at "pajama parties" that always involved a man sneaking in and ravaging a girl against her will...horror stories...told at night with the lights out...

Teenage years...

Had "vanilla" intercourse with 20+ men/boys...I never had an orgasm and I always wanted more...

Twenties, Thirties, and early Forty's...

Married (at 18): vanilla sex and still never had an orgasm...I always, always warm left wanting more...became disinterested in any type of sex at all...

8 years ago... My husband and I stopped at an adult store and he picked out a vibrator for me...On the way home I had my first orgasm around age 43...Still never had an orgasm during vanilla sex with him, only with the vibrator

5 years ago

(Now separated from husband) I heard about the egg at a high school class reunion...wasn't sure what to do with it so I called a friend that enjoys the company of other women...and she exolained the g-spot and the clitoris orgasms to me....shortly after I began having dual orgasms about once a month...

2 years ago

I discovered a very good use for clothespins...I would pleasure myself about once a month...with clothespins, vibrator, and the egg

3 weeks ago...

I stumbled upon a story that literally changed my life. I go on the Literotica site to read erotic stories and have infrequently done so for several years. I saw the bulletin board link on the page and thought what the heck...I had never read or posted on a board before. As I was wading my way through the threads and postings, I saw one called BDSM Cafe'. I really wasn't sure what BDSM was, but Cafe' sounded nice so I opened the thread and began reading the different posts. One particular post caught my eye. It struck me as well written, intelligent and witty. At the bottom of the post there was a link entitled "Is Raw Anal Lust a desire of yours?"...I was curious, so I clicked the link and began to read the post.

Reading "Raw Anal Lust" woke something in me that I did not even know existed. Pleasure and thoughts of pain coexisting and rolling together. I had several orgasms followed by a massive orgasm just from the words alone...it was as if a young sleeping dragon in me opened her eyes and began to soar, roaring flame as she flew.

I contacted the author of the post and he has been teaching me and helping me to understand what is happening in this new area of sexuality for me...

The feelings of raw lust, passion, of wanting to be conquered, punished, forced into submission increased...I wanted a man to overpower me...to contol me...To harness this passion within me....For the first two weeks I could barely function because of the mental thoughts I was having of being bound and begging to be
taken in the ass. Scenarios running through my mind, inspired by the author writing to me, initiated orgasm after orgasm. Today, I still feel as if my clit is standing at attention ready and willing to serve at a moments notice. lol

My sense of touch has become heightened...a shower causes me to orgasm, a charm on a chain about my neck brushing the rise of my breasts...erotic...putting lotion on my arms and legs...erotic...

The last three weeks I have had multiple orgasms daily. Until 3 days ago, I felt the lust and passion was roaring in me and I was being drug behind getting backlashed and beat up in the process. My common sense left me...went out the door...But after a few stupid events this past weekend thru Monday, that put me in unsafe situations, I have started to learn how to ride this passionate beast in me and not feel like I have am getting the heck beaten out of me from being drug behind.

The author I have been corresponding with has helped me to understand and explore this new area of sexuality and been patient in explaining these new
feelings and needs I have which I believe are submissive. I feel my need for a Dom is inherent, natural, and comforting....At this point I have realized the Dom - sub relationship is one based on trust. Submission is given as a gift to one who will cherish and keep the sub safe.

I have not been with a man for 5 years and have never even had an orgasm brought on by a man let alone experienced BDSM activities...but I hope there will come a day that I will meet a man (in real life) that I will ask to be my Dom and...

...until then ...hmmmm....I am going to take it one day at a time and try to focus on being SAFE...

 

[skittles_lm]

I bet I would!

you know... somehow i don't doubt that at all. Ask me some time if you're really interested.

i left a lot out, looking back. for my own safety, of course! lol

 

[DVS]

You folks posting are experienced and I am new ...

An interesting beginning. LOL. Have we let loose a monster?

 

[skittles_lm]

An interesting beginning. LOL. Have we let loose a monster?

We only create what we already are*nods sagely*

 

[Sir_Roger]

...until then ...hmmmm....I am going to take it one day at a time and try to focus on being SAFE...

What a superbly beautiful post this is katteon.

I wish you my dear, everything that one would wish for oneself.
Be well, and be happy
R

 

[ecstaticsub]

My sexual history is way too personal and confused for me to share but I have found this thread interesting.

...and a little scary since I am the mom of a 10 yo and a 12 year old. Even though I know what I was thinking and doing at that age as a mom I want to think of my children as innocent and never thinking of sex. Of course I know that is not the reality but the thought that my daughter(or son) having BDSM fantasies of any sort is a little jarring.

 

[WriterDom]

k was my first that I saw with any regularity. After the grad student. She was a bbw who wasn't good at cock sucking, and only tolerated me fucking her ass. But given my limited Dom powers at the time, we still had a lot of fun. And still stay in touch once a month or so after 10 years. She is married and happy now.

She had a huge vagina and the biggest clit I ever saw. I'm not saying it was bad. It always got me off. She was the zucchini girl by the way. Once I tied her to the bed and began putting clothes pins on her pussy lips. As many as I could fit. She claimed she didn't enjoy it. But I never saw her get as wet as she did that day.

 

[firefly03k64]

- You know it's not that I knew these things WHEN I was five. It is looking back from adulthood I see that this has always been a part of who I am and part of what I enjoy in life.

So been thinking alot and remembered a song my mom sang to me that I sing to my kids. And I can see where it too has a dominant submissive message....maybe I'm reading too much into it.

The song goes

There once was a farmer who took a young miss, in back of the barn just to give her a_______________?

LECTURE on horses and cattle and eggs. And said that she really had beautiful_________?


MANNERS, for such a young girl, of such charm. A girl he would just like to take in his________?

WASHING and ironing and then if she did, they could get married and raise lots of_________? (I would always say Pigs and giggle...they were on a farm

SWEET VIOLETS, sweeter than all the roses. Covered all over, from head to toe, covered all over in sweet violets.

Now maybe it sounds creepy here but it's the cutest little song and maybe it's just me projecting a bdsm slant...but, it makes me laugh this is a song I grew up hearing a lot.

 

[firefly03k64]

Thought you might like this song EG.

Seems I remember you needing yard work done or something?

 

[omniavincet]

My sexual history is way too personal and confused for me to share but I have found this thread interesting.

...and a little scary since I am the mom of a 10 yo and a 12 year old. Even though I know what I was thinking and doing at that age as a mom I want to think of my children as innocent and never thinking of sex. Of course I know that is not the reality but the thought that my daughter(or son) having BDSM fantasies of any sort is a little jarring.

I hear you there - realizing how meaningful my young feelings were I know that my own kids (8-10-12) are all probably starting to feel things that they have no idea what they mean, but that mean a lot about who they will be as adults. I am just now getting remotely comfortable with the sex thing - but my 12 yr old boy has a girlfriend already and it's just a matter of time now...moving too fast! Of course, I first met my wife when we were 12, so who am I to tell him not to be interested!

OV

 

[DVS]

Looks like this thread has pretty much died, too. But, a bump for it, too...just because.

 

[neonflux]

DVS, I loved this thread - was on vacation when you started it - thank you for the bump. Promise to answer soon. Neon

 

[jedihibbler]

Not much:

Early age(not sure):I have a vague memory of being in the bathroom while my sister was taking a bath.(So...younger than 5. I think.) I was taking a pee and had the bizarre idea of peeing in her pee hole, though I was not sure where that was at the time. Parents ran into the room and said never to do that.

10/11:Had sex explained to me. Started masturbating shortly thereafter. Had a slight fascination with Femdom, but never really got into it.

14:First time making out with a friend. We fooled around for a few while(just making out and breast feeling). Stopped becuase she was jealous that I still liked another girl.

16:First handjob by the girl listed above. Didn't come. Parents and sister were in the other room.

18:
February:Got a friend's sister's car stuck in a snow bank.... Well, we had to keep warm somehow. So, the house was less than a half mile away? It was cold. Blowjob and first time going down on a girl. First time fingering a girl. Later that month she told be that she enjoyed being spanked so we toyed with that a bit. At this point I found out that I really enjoy the power from Dom and we talked about that for a while, though we didn't do anything seriously D/s. Did not come while playing.

March:Lost virginity while drunk in a bathtub with same girl. She was rather wasted too. Little bit of pain play. Didn't come while playing.

April:We went to an Anime Convention(yes, I am a nerd) with some friends. They went home early and we had fun during the last night alone together. Didn't come while playing.

May:I played out a rape fantasy for her, though I only did cunnilingus. Red wings at some point later in the month. Finally came during mutual masturbation. She moved out of state.

June:Went to visit her for the month. Red chin and a fair amout of sex/other activities. Some pain play(wooden spoons and ice cubes) and other things(Mike's Hard Lemonade actually can be tasted in juices after being used as a makeshift dildo ). Tried age play, Father/daughter, but she was too silly and we were cut short of time. Came regularly.

July/August:Online D/s regularly. She will be coming down again in a week before leaving for international studies for a year. Hopefully I will be able to visit/live with her next summer if all works out. After that, who knows?

 

[SheDevilShay]

Good lord, DVS… so many years to remember… LOL!

I know I started spanking available female bottoms pre-school. Got the belt to my rear for that a few times. Seems my mother didn’t approve of me having my little girl friends droppin’ their britches so I could spank them.

Kept that up through elementary and junior high, but a lot fewer bare bottoms and more “spur of the moment” kind of stuff… just a swat here and there. <Sigh>

Early high school years (14), got into my first knowingly sexual consensual spanking relationship. It started out with a punishment spanking, because she pissed me off about something – we weren’t even dating or going out. When it was all over, she left for home turning every 5th step or so to cuss me out with every word she knew. A week or so later as I walked by her house, she was on the porch and asked me if I wanted to come in for a drink (Coke, etc. – no booze ). I cautiously said yes and went inside. We were hardly inside the door before she asked if I remembered what I’d done to her the week before. I looked around to see if she had a big brother or boyfriend hiding behind the door before I answered yes… and my jaw hit the floor when she said, “Wanna do it again?” Her shorts hit the floor, her tummy plopped across my thighs, and we had a great summer, doing “everything but” with spanking as an integral part of every meeting… unfortunately, at the end of the summer, she moved away, and I was partnerless.

I knew then that I liked spanking bottoms – preferably bare bottoms – and other similar things, including bringing a compliant female to orgasm after orgasm until she was gasping for breath and begging me to stop… and then bringing a few more. However, I didn’t find a partner that liked “that sort of thing” for another seven years – my first wife. She wasn’t really submissive, but she loved getting a broad leather belt across her ass, and would cum as soon as she was touched or penetrated, vaginally or anally after being spanked with it, and multiple times thereafter. For other reasons, we split after ten years.

So basically, I’ve always been into spanking a nice round female bottom to a glorious bright pink or red in association with sexual activities – and have merely refined my interests to include toys and tears and trembling…

You just made me horny as hell picturing this and I am seriosuly going to be asking my husband to spank me tonight... guh... thanks alot.

 

[Homburg]

Started late. Simply didn't have time for women until after I was out of high school, a sI'd had too many friends get visciously fucked up by heading too deeply into emotional territory when they weren't prepared for it. Felt the same way about drugs and alcohol, so never got into those either.

My early fantasies were similar to most peoples, though I tended to draw my wank material, not having access to much good stuff on my own. Luckily I wasn't half-bad with a pencil.

Had a relationship or two going through high school, but refused to get deeply involved. Fell for a girl for the first time as a sophomore in college. We played around, but never fucked. She was on a variety of painkillers due to a medical condition, and would always wants sex when she was high on whatever it was. This bothere dme, as she didn't want it and said she was glad I wasn't pushy when she was straight. I was always noble, and refused to do anything serious when she was obviously chemically messed up. These days I feel a bit stupid about it, but it was important to me then to do the right thing, period.

Met "v" while this relationship was winding down. "v" and I hit it off instantly, and I feel deeply and madly in love with her. Dumped Little Ms Painkiller very quickly. "v" and I started slow, and did a lot of oral for quite a while. We eventually built up to penetration. Didn't come the first few times. When I did, it was the first time I'd ever come as a result of vaginal sex. "v" was surpised when I told her that years later. *shrug* Like I said, late bloomer, and I have trust issues. I don't come easily in the best of circumstances, and I won't come at all if I distrust the person I'm with. As a result, I only get intimate with people that I really trust and have a deep emotional connection with.

While we occassionally played around with handcuffs, scarves, and blindfolds, nothing really serious happened until, maybe ten years into our relationship, "v" did the bravest thing I've ever seen - she came out of the kink closet and asked me to be her Dom.

She'd had urges ever since she could remember, and was attracted to me because, as I have been described by other submissives, I "reek of Dominance". I took to it with some interest, as she was obviously VERY hot for it. Unfortunately, at the time I wasn't really feeling my power. Life was not being kind to your old uncle Homburg, and I just wasn't feeling Dominant. So we just sort of stopped playing. This was a few years ago, maybe 3-5. Dunno exactly.

In walks "w". Bang, instant attraction, and then we're falling in love. Wildly compatible with me, amazing person, submissive, etc. It reawakens the dom in me, and things go crazy sexually speaking. "v" takes some time adjusting, but loves the emotional awakening I've undergone, and "w" is enjoying herself too. I'm back to feeling Dominant and being Dominant, and "v" and I are happy once again.

These days, I can't think of sexual contact with a D/s vibe to it. I can't make a sexual move without some sort of D/s emotion underlying it. even doing things 'nilla style only happens after I've acknowledged that it is happening that way because I want it that way.

WriterDom made a post a while back about many Dominant men not coming into their as a Dom until their mid-30's. Wow, do I ever agree with that concept.

Not an entertaining timeline, but, hey, it's mine.

 

[saw_man1]

Intriguing thread

I am not at all surprised by the reticence of some people to go into detail in regards to their sexual timeline. I find myself in that camp as well.

 

[A Desert Rose]

My timeline is just boring as hell... well, if I could remember it, I know for sure it would be.