What's your safe word?

[subish2009]

Officially, it's red and yellow, though I think I might be one of those subs who wouldn't remember there was such thing as a safeword if I really needed one. Luckily, my husband responds very well to my tapping out or just flat-out telling him something needs to stop. There's a definite tone of voice change on my part, I think.

 

[RaineDrops]

I don't have one...

*waves to Lora*

 

[the captians wench]

Colors-
Green means go!
Yellow means slow down or shift course.
Red means stop.

Simple, multi-leveled and easy to remember.

This is how I was originally trained. Jounar did not recognize it though so the first time he asked me "how you doin?" in the middle of a scene I, very zoney, said "green". He was like "What?" It took me a minute to focas and explain to him what I ment. That's one reason I've always liked the stop light system, it just seems to come out naturally for me.

I only got laughed at the time i screamed out "MOTHERFUCKER". It was for this evil little blue singletail, and I swear he hit harder after that.

Yup, that's usually what happens with me too. I got hit hard enough once that I broke position and screamed out "goddamnit mother fucking sonofabitch!". When I looked up the wheilder of the object that caused this just gave me an "excuse me?" kind of look and I quickly got back in positon and was given my final swats. And I NEVER break position so this was one major leage swing.

But Jounar and I have gotten away from safe words. He likes to check in on me to see where my head is, and me with my need to please just can't hide anything from him. I still have moments when I'm so spacey I can't think of how to answer him, and then the colors come into play. I also have my "juice" safeword which means "hey, my sugar is dropping I need a booster, can I get some oj?". but as I've explained before, I use this in totally nilla situations as well.

 

[chy_girl]

Officially, we use the stoplight colors.

I, unfortunately, hate them. There's something about calling red that's too much like losing. So, since Mistress was kind enough to get me a dropsy for when I go non-verbal, I've discovered the usefulness of calling out "ball, Ball, BALL, BALL!!!" while shoving said dropsy ball toward the person who needs to stop.

None of us realized how useful that would be when it's two topping one. Happy coincidence that.