When did you first realize you were submissive or dominant? (No underage content!)

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thanks. While it's a shame that that's a factor in the context of a thread of personal histories, I realize that's something mods have to worry about that wouldn't occur to me.

Maybe from here forward posters should use euphemisms. I nominate chores.

I remember the first time I found out how fun it was to clean my room. I had no idea there was such a thing as room-cleaning at that point.

*snicker*

 

[Jerseyshore]

My fist gay experience was with an older man at summer camp and I enjoyed him taking charge. After several years a gay man I realized I preferred being a bottom and there is nothing more enjoyable than relaxing with a big, strong man and letting him take the lead. With the right man I feel secure and safe in his arms with him in me, using my body for both of our pleasure.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Thanks. While it's a shame that that's a factor in the context of a thread of personal histories, I realize that's something mods have to worry about that wouldn't occur to me.

Maybe from here forward posters should use euphemisms. I nominate chores.

I remember the first time I found out how fun it was to clean my room. I had no idea there was such a thing as room-cleaning at that point.

Perfect.

I knew I loved vacuuming from an early age!

 

[Cakecups]

Perfect.

I knew I loved vacuuming from an early age!

Hehehhe vacuuming

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I was 17 the first time I realized how badly I craved - needed - to dominate the fuck out of a dirty garage.

When I had willed it clean and it was glistening in the afternoon light I had this sense of warm well-being, as if I had helped the garage to be that which it needed to be, but could only truly be with my guidance. The garage was content and quiet, its tidy shelves radiating rapt appreciation. I thought, "Fuck. Yes. This. I am most myself when telling garages what to do and knowing they do it. For me. And I fucking crave being adored by them."

I just love garages that cry out for cleaning.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[EmpressJosephine]

Switch

I was 18 when my boyfriend (a man who is again, now, one of my lovers) tied me up and my desires became increasingly submissive toward him.

About a year later, when we had our first threesome, and I began teaching submission to our new partner, I suddenly found myself with dominant desires toward her.

 

[Cakecups]

I was probably 16/17 ish when I started thinking differently about authority figures, teachers etc. I wanted them to teach the shit out me. Correct all my mistakes, come down hard on me and mold me into the best human being I could be. Through like assignments and stuff, extra credit you know, art projects? Umm detention?

 

[EmpressJosephine]

I was probably 16/17 ish when I started thinking differently about authority figures, teachers etc. I wanted them to teach the shit out me. Correct all my mistakes, come down hard on me and mold me into the best human being I could be. Through like assignments and stuff, extra credit you know, art projects? Umm detention?

You know... I'm a teacher....

 

[shewantsmore]

I was young when i realised i was more comfortable being a follower and not a leader,and as i got older was always more attracted to those who were more dominate ,i always thought everyone thought the way and it was normal

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Upwards of half a dozen agri barns here, big 'uns, crying out for sorting , cleaning and appriciating. What a shame we're only friends. . You could have had fun cleaning them out.

( I am totally ignoring the euphemism, I really would love help sorting my junk in my barns)

You try to save Lit from a big webcop crackdown, and before you know it your inbox is full of requests from subs with barn issues.

 

[barefootgirl69]

You try to save Lit from a big webcop crackdown, and before you know it your inbox is full of requests from subs with barn issues.

*quietly deletes mine before hitting 'submit'* (oh how I love that word, sigh)

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I was just going to message DGE about a big garage project I have going, then I read the phrase "big webcop crackdown!?!!"

I'll just handle this garage all by myself...

 

[DemiAngora]

I became a Domme at 18 to protect myself from extremely abusive Dom. He was keen to the idea of switching himself to a sub for a change and realised he loved it, so the Domme in me was born. I was also very lucky, because he did all the right set up for me. He traveled a lot to get the best equipment there was and I was simply there for the ride. I kept most of the equipment and stil have my tailored high quality leather outfits in my wardrobe. All 28 of them;-)

 

[MrTwisted04]

It was the first time I had sex. I was timid when I was younger but I realized I didn't have to be. I got it in my head that I was gonna make that woman cum multiple times and I did. It felt great and she loved it. From that moment on I was hooked. I had to be the giver of orgasms and take control of any sexual situation.

 

[PaxNurgle]

It really got sparked for me when I saw some documentary on TV about some house of bondage (I think in New York) where about 4 or 5 professionals worked. I was sexually inexperienced at the time and a bit shy around girls- not so much as far as talking to them, but when it comes to moving beyond talk- I always have been afraid to make the first move. But seeing these woman use, abuse and degrade these men- seeing their power, sexuality and beauty in action, really struck a deep nerve in me. I started fantasizing about girls I know, tying me up, putting me in compromising positions, and doing to me some of the things these woman did to their clients- and it made me more aroused than I had ever been. I was in my mid to late 20's then, I think.

About a year later, I had a really disturbing dream related to female domination, bondage and humiliation involving a young girl who I had met briefly a couple years back. Which I wont share, but it made me realize I realized deep down I had this weird, kinky craving for femdom. It bothered me, actually. It made me feel really dirty, like a total creep. I tried to hide it, and deny these feelings; some times I still do. Because obviously I don't want to screw up a vanilla relationship with a wonderful and loving person simply because I have what I consider to be perverted kinks. It is a relief to see there are like-minded people on here, but yet I still don't want to come off as some sub-frenzied newbie who posts things like "I get turned on by a girl doing this or that to me..." if you know what I mean.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It really got sparked for me when I saw some documentary on TV about some house of bondage (I think in New York) where about 4 or 5 professionals worked. I was sexually inexperienced at the time and a bit shy around girls- not so much as far as talking to them, but when it comes to moving beyond talk- I always have been afraid to make the first move. But seeing these woman use, abuse and degrade these men- seeing their power, sexuality and beauty in action, really struck a deep nerve in me. I started fantasizing about girls I know, tying me up, putting me in compromising positions, and doing to me some of the things these woman did to their clients- and it made me more aroused than I had ever been. I was in my mid to late 20's then, I think.

About a year later, I had a really disturbing dream related to female domination, bondage and humiliation involving a young girl who I had met briefly a couple years back. Which I wont share, but it made me realize I realized deep down I had this weird, kinky craving for femdom. It bothered me, actually. It made me feel really dirty, like a total creep. I tried to hide it, and deny these feelings; some times I still do. Because obviously I don't want to screw up a vanilla relationship with a wonderful and loving person simply because I have what I consider to be perverted kinks. It is a relief to see there are like-minded people on here, but yet I still don't want to come off as some sub-frenzied newbie who posts things like "I get turned on by a girl doing this or that to me..." if you know what I mean.

Welcome to Literotica!

 

[SalvDali]

Wow.. I wish I had discovered this side of me at a younger age but here I am 39 and just now discovering how much I like to be in control in the bedroom. This all started because my wife hinted towards interests in me being rougher in the bedroom. That eventually led me to these forums and here I am still exploring and excited about what we will discover next.

 

[betabrad]

I feel like I've just always known that I tended to be submissive.

 

[Farawyn]

It really got sparked for me when I saw some documentary on TV about some house of bondage (I think in New York) where about 4 or 5 professionals worked. I was sexually inexperienced at the time and a bit shy around girls- not so much as far as talking to them, but when it comes to moving beyond talk- I always have been afraid to make the first move. But seeing these woman use, abuse and degrade these men- seeing their power, sexuality and beauty in action, really struck a deep nerve in me. I started fantasizing about girls I know, tying me up, putting me in compromising positions, and doing to me some of the things these woman did to their clients- and it made me more aroused than I had ever been. I was in my mid to late 20's then, I think.

About a year later, I had a really disturbing dream related to female domination, bondage and humiliation involving a young girl who I had met briefly a couple years back. Which I wont share, but it made me realize I realized deep down I had this weird, kinky craving for femdom. It bothered me, actually. It made me feel really dirty, like a total creep. I tried to hide it, and deny these feelings; some times I still do. Because obviously I don't want to screw up a vanilla relationship with a wonderful and loving person simply because I have what I consider to be perverted kinks. It is a relief to see there are like-minded people on here, but yet I still don't want to come off as some sub-frenzied newbie who posts things like "I get turned on by a girl doing this or that to me..." if you know what I mean.

Post what you want. Unless you are trolling others it is all good. Welcome.

 

[gamermaster29]

When I was 19 I discovered porn, yep I was pretty old when I discovered porn. In the process, I found BDSM. There really is not much of a story. When I went to look for someone to explore it with, there was no question what my position would be. I had to be a dominate/master; I like being in control.

 

[Collared_Mel]

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[Paul_Chance]

I found out back in the pre-internet days. Hell, it was close to the pre-VHS days, LOL.

I've always been an alpha personality and my early life experiences as an adult (in the military, then in law enforcement) made me a forceful physical person. But, most of my relationships were what I would now call ordinary - good to great sex but no leaning one way or the other.

Through incident and accident I met a woman (another cop) who was, unknown to me, the third and sub in a triad relationship with an older couple. One night after work she asked me out for a drink and we stopped by their house. We had a cocktail or two and she went to take a shower. I honestly really didn't think too much of it.

A short time later the wife got up and went back toward the shower. Again, I didn't think much of it, I was just relaxed and having a nice conversation with the husband when the wife came back out and told me that the woman wanted me to come back so she could ask me something. I thought "that's a little strange" but headed on back.

She was tied to a shower rail, naked and dripping wet. She begged me to fuck her and let the other couple watch. Ah, the power of lust. I did. That started me down a long path that led me here.

 

[9to5]

I have to say it started when I was younger. I had found one of my dads porn books. and it had a part in the story of a women being made to ride a wooden pony.
I used to masturbate reading that part.
then I had a male friend that used to like taking control and playing with my cock.
so since then I have like to read story's and things being done to the male slave.

but still enjoy things with the female slave.
I wish the internet was around when I first found out how much I enjoy this

 

[rawsilk]

I realized I was a submissive when my virginity was broken. He was gentle but he had a massive cock and he tore me open. I loved the pain which lasted a full week and made walking difficult. He lived in a different part of the country and we only saw each other occasionally but each time I delighted in submitting to the pain. Pain and sex is my pleasure and I love men who like to dominate, therefore I believe I am a true submissive.

However I have discovered if I wear a black corset and very high heel black shoes I become a Domme, a strong, dominating and frightening creature. Not a pretty sight. It is not a place I choose to go very often and it is not for my own sexual gratification, I enjoy controlling a man's ecstasy.