When is it appropriate?

[Disgustipated]

You have a pretty face for a fat girl is not a compliment. You have a pretty face for your age isn't either.

I do understand that some people are uncomfortable giving compliments but to deliberately add a backhand to it is gross.

To me, those are straight up insults and dude should immediately be punched in the neck.

But then again, gentlemen like myself never surf those waves, yo.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

You have a pretty face for a fat girl is not a compliment. You have a pretty face for your age isn't either.

I do understand that some people are uncomfortable giving compliments but to deliberately add a backhand to it is gross.

My grandmother (Cherokee) said to my new wife, YOU AINT BAD LOOKIN FOR A WHITE GIRL.

 

[Wings]

To me, those are straight up insults and dude should immediately be punched in the neck.

But then again, gentlemen like myself never surf those waves, yo.

That's because your game is strong, my friend.


I think people should practice giving compliments. They're free.

 

[Aglaopheme]

Telling a woman she has beautiful hair is fine, nice actually. Heck, I have more woman compliment my hair than men. Just don't touch it while delivering said compliment.

 

[Saint Peter]

"I love your look" is one of the least douchey things I've ever heard. It wasn't threatening, it wasn't leering, it wasn't uncomfortable. Backhanded compliments are the absolute worst. You want the lovely lady to feel good about herself, not shitty. And they are ONLY ever appropriate if you have an established relationship already.

"I love your tits. Look. I love your look."

 

[Lancecastor]

Bwahahahaah! so. punchline?

Sobeys parking lot blowjob, of course.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Backhanded compliments are never a good idea.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Maybe the guy is a barista and could make her a nice cup of joe in the back of his windowless delivery van.

Or Molly juice.

*chuckle*

*chuckle at the chuckle*

 

[pointless]

i once had a friend who owned a rape van. it smelled of semen. there was a reason for this that was actually grosser than rape. i didn't take rides with him very often.

 

[Lancecastor]

i once had a friend who owned a rape van. it smelled of semen. there was a reason for this that was actually grosser than rape. i didn't take rides with him very often.

...Only when you needed some back door action.

 

[pointless]

well, he was gay, but also very, very hairy. not my bag, yo.

 

[Saint Peter]

I love how your tits look.

 

[Saint Peter]

Not you.

Put those fuckers away.

 

[Garnate]

Not you.

Put those fuckers away.

I will not!

 

[pink]

You have a pretty face for a fat girl is not a compliment.

I guess I should stop saying that about myself then.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I guess I should stop saying that about myself then.

Fat girls are not ugly by default, so yes, you should.

"I've got a pretty face."

That's all you need to say.

 

[pink]

Fat girls are not ugly by default, so yes, you should.

"I've got a pretty face."

That's all you need to say.

Gotcha.

 

[Lancecastor]

well, he was gay, but also very, very hairy. not my bag, yo.

Whether your bag is hairy or not is neither a here nor there.

Garnate...now there's someone with a hairy bag.

 

[QuidProQuo77]

Busted!

Also, your bio says 49, but your post says mid 50's?

Whoopsie!

"It wasn't a lie, it was just...bullshit." - Elwood Blues

 

[pointless]

he called himself a hedgehog. because he was tiny and hairy. instead of big and hairy like a bear. i still have no idea if that's a gay thing or just some bullshit he made up. i'm just not into hairy dudes that need to shave their damned necks.

 

[lovetoread]

backhanded compliments are just a lower form of negging. only assholes do that to someone they dont know.

I am of the opinion that unless I ask, dont come up to me and tell me anything about the way I look, unless my skirt is caught in my backpack and I am flashing everyone.

This dude at work stopped me in the hallway to tell me he liked my dress and that it made me look really nice. I had no idea who this dude was and honestly didn't know how to act, since this was a frigging workplace. I mumbled something about how these laptops were heavy and left as fast as I could.

 

[QuidProQuo77]

Point taken

backhanded compliments are just a lower form of negging. only assholes do that to someone they dont know.

I am of the opinion that unless I ask, dont come up to me and tell me anything about the way I look, unless my skirt is caught in my backpack and I am flashing everyone.

This dude at work stopped me in the hallway to tell me he liked my dress and that it made me look really nice. I had no idea who this dude was and honestly didn't know how to act, since this was a frigging workplace. I mumbled something about how these laptops were heavy and left as fast as I could.

Unless I find myself single again and on the prowl I will refrain. My takeaway lesson: hot older women shop at Michael's...

 

[Sean]

You have a pretty face for a fat girl is not a compliment. You have a pretty face for your age isn't either.

I do understand that some people are uncomfortable giving compliments but to deliberately add a backhand to it is gross.

"You don't sweat much for a fat lass."

 

[Noor]

Also, your bio says 49, but your post says mid 50's?

Whoopsie!

He must have fallen prey to the LIT virus that causes people to not be able to count or stay consistent in their persona.

Off with his head!​

 

[Noor]

The only time it is appropriate is when someone asks "How to do I look?"
To which one answers either "great!" or " It looks fine, but maybe "X' would work better for [the event/occasion]"