Where does it feeel?

...there are different levels of orgasm and this was a level I never experienced before (or since 🄲). If I were to try to explain the physical differences between a ā€œnormalā€ orgasm vs this one… it was like my body completely took over and I was forced to experience it.

It's like this for men, too, or at least for me... though probably not with quite as many "levels," nor are they any easier than yours to explain. But all orgasms are most certainly NOT created equal.

I vividly recall a particularly powerful one where it felt just as you describe it: it felt as though something reached in and literally pulled it out of me, as if by force. There was a definite feeling that my body took over and my mind had to follow.

Interesting!
 
Also, in the vast majority of stories, our two heroes get it on for a bit until she cums and then since the man did his job satisfying her, he can now cum too. I assume that it's because he is such a perfect performer. Certainly this is possible but hardly how it always works out. It is totally okay to cum before she does.
That or "orgasm is always simultaneous".

-Annie
 
I had a boyfriend once who was amazing at preforming oral sex and I remember I had an orgasm so absolutely new to me that I started laughing and crying at the same time. It wasn’t the first orgasm he had given me, but it was so starkly different that he questioned me basically immediately.

I will cry sometimes, yes. My eyes will get all wet. Not always. To cry in front of someone is a very vulnerable thing so it heightens the intimacy. It can be very emotional.
 
Ab-so-lute-ly 100% true. Your girl WILL vary. Might even vary a lot.

I have something similar. Spanking. Lots of people are into it, giving or receiving. I'm not. At all. It seems juvenile and pointless. I'm not saying that it is juvenile or pointless, it's just how it seems to me for whatever reason and that seems to turn me off. So when I read a story and there is a spank or two I just do my best to ignore it, and if the spanking persists I get bored real fast.

But others really love it. Everyone varies, and our bodies and minds vary too, sometimes greatly. So a very important skill is to be attentive. Pay attention to the reactions of your partner verbal and non-verbal to figure out what works and what doesn't.

I had a roleplay once where this guy agreed no anal. Then mid play he sticks it in my ass. I get bored, he fucks my ass harder, I say "ow, stop that," he keeps fucking my ass harder and harder. Eventually he drops out of character and asks me, "why aren't you cumming?" This was beyond unsexy. His question was a far bigger turn off than the anal itself despite the fact that I totally hate anal. I had told him out of character no anal, he agreed and then in character I roleplayed hating it and he STILL thought he was being amazing. He was so inattentive to my desires that I was like, "just fuck off right now and don't ever message me again." But he started to argue with me that I wasn't giving anal a chance!!! What a total clueless loser. The whole point of sex is to enjoy each other's bodies and intimacy. I wasn't enjoying it and he didn't care at all. It was so unsexy. But ... But ... He had a big cock! :rolleyes:

Pay attention to what your partner likes and doesn't like because everyone is different.

If she gets uncomfortable or says stop when you squeeze her nipples, just stop and try something else. For many women, just the simple fact that you care enough to stop can be a turn on in itself.
"Pay attention to the reactions of your partner verbal and non-verbal to figure out what works and what doesn't." This would make a good thread. Two questions: Are you shy about telling your partner, in detail what turns you on. Can you tell us what turns you (or a character you imagine) on?
 
"Pay attention to the reactions of your partner verbal and non-verbal to figure out what works and what doesn't." This would make a good thread. Two questions: Are you shy about telling your partner, in detail what turns you on. Can you tell us what turns you (or a character you imagine) on?

You will probably get all kinds of different answers here and I can only speak for me. When I was younger, yes I was shy about it. Now, not really. but like I said above, I have a thing for guys who can figure me out. If a guy does something that I like, I'll give him clues, like give him an extra squeeze here or a scratch there or an extra sigh in the ear, you know. I'm getting a little personal now. (blush) If he can pick up the clue that that means yes, continue, that is really hot. If I just tell him, then I can't get that feeling. It doesn't mean that I never talk.

Why is that sexy? Probably because it proves to me that he cares about my pleasure. It proves that he is clever and attentive.

I can compare this to chat plays. I don't chat play like I used to but I have quite a bit of experience. The number one thing that I have to put up with in finding chat plays is guys who will ask you EVERYTHING that you want and yet won't tell you a damn thing of what they want. I call the stupid game 'never say no' because the guy will ask you what you want and never say no to it, and when you ask him he just refuses to tell you anything that you can say no to, which means he tells you vague bullshit at best. And I've figured out why they do this. They just want me to type naughty for them. They do not care at all what I'm into or what turns me on. They are just avoiding no. I learned this very quickly in my first few weeks in chat. It goes something lik this.

HIM: what are you into?

(now bear in mind that for many years I had a massive profile telling all the things that I was into and not into - the profile actually hit the character limit, which is like unheard of in chat)

ME: i'm looking for A B and C.

HIM: great :) i like it too

ME: do those ideas inspire you in any way?

HIM: yes

ME: in what way?

HIM: it's hot

(d'uh)

ME: well what are you into, what kind of play do you want?

HIM: i'm open ( <-- the classic line, dead giveaway for a bad player who does not care about the scene )

ME: well, i guess there is nothing here for me to say no to, so we're all set to start

So we start playing and he either cut/pastes what I told him in the first couple of lines and waits for me to get on my knees and blow him (and talk dirty with my mouth full of cock) or push him down and mount on - or he ignores it all completely and goes straight for the unicorn porn scene that hits a bunch of my listed offs. Aside from the fact that that the elements (or lack thereof) in the play do not align with my tastes, the fact alone that he does not care for my pleasure could not be more unsexy. Even though I straight up TOLD him everything!

Now, I don't want a lapdog. I actually don't like being worshipped. The whole pedestal thing bores me. But if he truly cares about my desires and my pleasure, he'll figure some of it out on his own and that is sooooo sexy! If I can drop some breadcrumbs and he is actually able to pick a couple of them up, it puts me in a mode where I just have to give him all of my affection. It's so sweet and it's so hot. Sometimes I even feel guilty that I can't return enough.

At the same time it's not all about me either. He has wants too and if he takes them from me that can be really hot too (so long as they don't cross into my no-nos, like say anal). For instance, I love being handled. If he pins me down, or flips me over, or folds my leg a certain way, he is being assertive and taking me how he wants me, and therefore I must be quite desirable for him to just go for it without asking and that is such a rush. It's great. Super hot. So I admit, yea I can be kinda complicated.
 
Well, since we're being so chatty and detailed, I'll ask whether any of you women have ever had this experience?

At age 76 I had a vivid fantasy that was accompanied by dramatic spasms in the large muscles of my thighs and/or abdomen. Not my vagina. The spasms were erotically charged. (Whatever that hormone is that makes orgasms pleasurable was flowing). I had the fantasy repeatedly and the spasms always accompanied it. Poking around in Reddit I happened upon a video of a "prostate orgasm." That was exactly my experience. Over the next couple of years I had similar fantasies, with similar experiences, but in decreasing intensity.

This isn't much help to the OP, because I can't imagine how a man could have triggered this experience.

But has anyone else had this experience? A couple of people on Reddit said that I was experiencing a "hormonal storm," and should talk to my PCP. I did tell her about it, but she didn't think any further action was warranted.
 
This isn't much help to the OP, because I can't imagine how a man could have triggered this experience.

But has anyone else had this experience? A couple of people on Reddit said that I was experiencing a "hormonal storm," and should talk to my PCP. I did tell her about it, but she didn't think any further action was warranted.
It can't be prostrate prostate related though, because women don't have a prostrate prostate.

(Edit: acknowledging my own misspelling!)
 
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No kidding. It's real simple. It's all about the dick.
Let's give guys a break here for a minute. Men can have different kinds of orgasms and they can really enjoy sex without penetrating someone with their dick...if they learn how and have a partner who encourages it/insists on it. Think about the nonsense in the thought: 'He's a great looking, hunky guy, with a good job, who likes to do fun things but all he wants to do is bang me until I hurt. But I don't dare tell him I hate it or else I might lose him." What? There are plenty of guys out there who love kissing, stroking, teasing, hugging, talking and listening. And dirty/clean little secret....they love when you play with other parts of their bodies than their penises. (No, I don't mean that.) Say what pleases you to a guy. It doesn't make you a slut. If he can't get next to that...ditch him. And I guess hidden in my original post is: Before you date a guy do you have a feeling for what pleases you? (And in the physical feeling department...lord are there a boatload of toys available to help you find your groove...so to speak.)
 
You will probably get all kinds of different answers here and I can only speak for me. When I was younger, yes I was shy about it. Now, not really. but like I said above, I have a thing for guys who can figure me out. If a guy does something that I like, I'll give him clues, like give him an extra squeeze here or a scratch there or an extra sigh in the ear, you know. I'm getting a little personal now. (blush) If he can pick up the clue that that means yes, continue, that is really hot. If I just tell him, then I can't get that feeling. It doesn't mean that I never talk.

Why is that sexy? Probably because it proves to me that he cares about my pleasure. It proves that he is clever and attentive.

I can compare this to chat plays. I don't chat play like I used to but I have quite a bit of experience. The number one thing that I have to put up with in finding chat plays is guys who will ask you EVERYTHING that you want and yet won't tell you a damn thing of what they want. I call the stupid game 'never say no' because the guy will ask you what you want and never say no to it, and when you ask him he just refuses to tell you anything that you can say no to, which means he tells you vague bullshit at best. And I've figured out why they do this. They just want me to type naughty for them. They do not care at all what I'm into or what turns me on. They are just avoiding no. I learned this very quickly in my first few weeks in chat. It goes something lik this.

HIM: what are you into?

(now bear in mind that for many years I had a massive profile telling all the things that I was into and not into - the profile actually hit the character limit, which is like unheard of in chat)

ME: i'm looking for A B and C.

HIM: great :) i like it too

ME: do those ideas inspire you in any way?

HIM: yes

ME: in what way?

HIM: it's hot

(d'uh)

ME: well what are you into, what kind of play do you want?

HIM: i'm open ( <-- the classic line, dead giveaway for a bad player who does not care about the scene )

ME: well, i guess there is nothing here for me to say no to, so we're all set to start

So we start playing and he either cut/pastes what I told him in the first couple of lines and waits for me to get on my knees and blow him (and talk dirty with my mouth full of cock) or push him down and mount on - or he ignores it all completely and goes straight for the unicorn porn scene that hits a bunch of my listed offs. Aside from the fact that that the elements (or lack thereof) in the play do not align with my tastes, the fact alone that he does not care for my pleasure could not be more unsexy. Even though I straight up TOLD him everything!

Now, I don't want a lapdog. I actually don't like being worshipped. The whole pedestal thing bores me. But if he truly cares about my desires and my pleasure, he'll figure some of it out on his own and that is sooooo sexy! If I can drop some breadcrumbs and he is actually able to pick a couple of them up, it puts me in a mode where I just have to give him all of my affection. It's so sweet and it's so hot. Sometimes I even feel guilty that I can't return enough.

At the same time it's not all about me either. He has wants too and if he takes them from me that can be really hot too (so long as they don't cross into my no-nos, like say anal). For instance, I love being handled. If he pins me down, or flips me over, or folds my leg a certain way, he is being assertive and taking me how he wants me, and therefore I must be quite desirable for him to just go for it without asking and that is such a rush. It's great. Super hot. So I admit, yea I can be kinda complicated.
I'm confused. I never sext, but in this age of sexting why wouldn't a guy be into trying to turn you on by trying out in words the different ways he might play with your A? This is a lit erotica site. You'd figure people into verbal sex would...use words.
 
First let's talk about nipples because it sets up the rest. If you pinch a nipple it feels nice but it is often really like an itch that you can't scratch because knowing just how good a nipple can feel if squeezed properly, you long for that and you're not getting it. So a better way to please the nipple is to twist it, roll it between your fingers. The shape that it makes like wringing a towel forces the tissue to crush in on itself, it cannot displace outward or upward and that is sooo good. The best way to do it is to take your finger and thumb tips and shape them like a rooftop /\ and take the top of the nipple and squeeze in as if the roof is collapsing onto the nipple if that makes sense, pretend the dash is the top of the nipple /-\ . Squeeze the tip inward and downward onto itself and then you can also press down from there. Do this right, it's absolutely heavenly. It does take a little practice so if you are not getting good results, a nice twist is right up there. The trick is to not let any of the nipple bulge outward or upward. Crush it into itself so that the tissue has nowhere to go but to squeeze together into itself.

Now this next thing may vary from woman to woman but I know a couple of other women tell me they experience same or similar. All of the "hot spots" on a woman's body have some sort of nerve connection to each other. If you tweak a nipple well enough, a lovely little jolt of tingle will run down through your navel and to your clitoris and/or gee. A good one might make her shiver or quiver. Sometimes it shoots over to the other nipple and sometimes when it's really good (usually means that it's being worked for several minutes) I feel it spread inside my hips which I am guessing is my ovaries. The jolt is fairly quick and it subsides, at least for me. So if you squeeze the nipple for a few seconds and then let go and regrip and re-squeeze you can get a new jolt. If you are twisting, twist one way, hold for maybe 10 seconds, then let go and twist the other way. Uhhhhh-ohhhhh yea.

Why I start with nipple technique is because it makes clit technique easier to understand, although the actual technique is different. Now a lot of women prefer a rapid stimulation, back and forth back and forth rapidly. Do not press hard when you do this. This is always nice but personally I prefer a pressure squeeze much like a nipple but not an actual pinch or twist. The clit is too sensitive for that (mine is anyways). The clitoris runs on the same principle though. If you can crush it into itself it has nowhere to go but blissville. However, most of the clitoris is inside the body. The little nub is only the tip. The root is in and around the walls of the vagina. So if you can stuff the vagina with something hard (use your imagination guys) and then rub the clit at the same time, it is pressure from both directions and the clit gets squeezed.

If you are purely stimulating the clit externally, the gentle rapid rub is good but another that I quite enjoy, especially mixed in between rapid rubs is to just stop and press it over to one side and then maybe back to the other, or sometimes maybe a little bit upwards or downwards. Just use the end of you thumb and push the nub over to one side and hold it for 5 or 10 seconds. This stretches it out inside her. Then rapid rub for 10 or 20 seconds, then side stretch, repeat repeat. It works for me.

Some girls are gee girls. Some are clit girls. I'm sure some are equally happy with either or both. I'm more of a clit girl and it is pure heaven if I can get clit pressure from the outside during coitus because there is nowhere for my clit to go but into itself. This is why you will see her hand scoot down to touch herself when it starts getting good. This is common in porn because proper mish obscures the action and she can't get her grind on, so she uses her fingers. My fave is mish (jeez I'm getting personal, so NO CREEPY PMs guys >:/ waves finger) and he grinds into me and his pelvic bone passes back and forth over my clit. Do that for five mins or so and I'll probably get there. Another is to be taken from behind and then have him reach under my tummy and work my clit with his hand. The drawback to this is that it is less intimate. I can't reward him with kisses or ass gropes or back scratches or anything.

Some girls prefer a pounding to a grinding. I would guess that's because it gives more gee action. Gee girls, please chime in. I like the grind because my clit gives me better results. I know a fair bit but hardly everything as women's preferences vary. Obviously I know myself well but although girls do talk, we don't talk as much as you think.

When you watch porn, you probably see the girl in cowgirl bouncing herself up and down the shaft. That can be nice but it's really just a visual for you. Usually in real life she will rock her hips back and forth on you and grind, or at the very least mix both techniques - a bit of this, a bit of that. Porn doesn't like that because it hides the action from the lens (and Idunno maybe you guys need to see the pump action and the ass cheeks jiggle?) so you don't see the rock much and always get the bounce. When she does this, she is grinding her clit on your pelvic bone (or really anything else that she can find down there). So if you can replicate some of that when YOU are fucking HER ... (hint hint) ; ) Not all the time but add it to your arsenal.

As for going down, most girls will tell you (but perhaps there are different tastes) don't bother sticking out the tip of your tongue and twiddling the hood and poking it inside the slit. Just lay your tongue flat over the whole clit area and lap it up. Lick flat strokes as if you were licking the melted ice cream clean from your plate after a la mode pie. You can suck the nub into your mouth and bat it around a little (just be careful of your teeth), then resume licking - nice big flat licks - and stick a finger or two inside for a stuffing sensation (more back pressure on clit) or to add some gee. For the gee itself, a gentle 'come hither' finger curl is all you usually need, so long as you hit the spot. Again different girls vary. Sometimes you can just flap your fingers quickly and and give it a batting. If your mouth gets tired or you need fresh air, stick your finger(s) inside and work the clit with your thumb. And of course it's never a bad idea to keep things nice and wet, whether that's saliva, her juices or lube (a good lube should be non-toxic, some are even flavored so you can still go down after lube - if it's okay in her pussy it'll be okay in your mouth).

What does the orgasm feel like? It's this buildup that lets go in a sweet overflow of bliss from your clit and vagina that spreads out up your tummy and down your thighs. It might even come back up into your navel and nipples. Really good ones will gives a ripple sensation for the first few seconds and often make most or all of my skin subtly tingly in a very soothing way. It's difficult to put into words but it is calming, soothing and yet not sleepy at all (not for me anyways), very alive, mellow but exciting at the same time. It's wonderfully satisfying and personally I always get an irresistible and tremendous urge to cuddle immediately afterwards or even during. The better the climax the more I need to cuddle. The urge is for ME to do the cuddling, although getting cuddles back is certainly welcome. I just get very clingy for a few minutes until it gradually dissipates. This is very significant since I am one of the less touchy huggy people that you will meet. But if he gets up to go to the toilet within 2 or 3 minutes after, I actually feel kinda hurt that he doesn't want my cuddles. I know this is pretty personal but for me it seems to be a very important part of the climax experience, or even good sex without climax. Maybe I am rewarding him. He did me good and now he deserves my best affection.
Thank you for the courage. communication is so key in everything and yet it seems so rare that this kind of communication ever happens. And to be able to tell what's going on without her telling you is very much like just throwing things out there and hoping. Yeah, after a lot of experience with a particular woman I can tell where things are going and such, but every woman is different so you can't necessarily replicate positive results from one relationship to another. Every new lover is a new trial and error exercise.
 
Look into the skene's glands.
The function of the glands is still a matter of debate...

Holy cow. It's 2025 and science still doesn't know what a pair of glands in the vulva do...

And women dare call us out for having trouble finding the clit.
Justice for the guys! :p
 
The function of the glands is still a matter of debate...

Holy cow. It's 2025 and science still doesn't know what a pair of glands in the vulva do...

And women dare call us out for having trouble finding the clit.
Justice for the guys! :p

'Cause most studies concerning sexual health and wellness are done on men for the benefit of men. But there are a few odd brave souls who study women from time to time. Besides there's rarely a need to study us because all doctors are aware that any ailments a woman has is easily cured by exercise of some sort, whether for weight loss (even at an already healthy weight) or for anxiety reduction.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/24089-skenes-gland
 
I'm confused. I never sext, but in this age of sexting why wouldn't a guy be into trying to turn you on by trying out in words the different ways he might play with your A? This is a lit erotica site. You'd figure people into verbal sex would...use words.

There are two kinds of people in chat roleplays, those who want to seriously use their imagination and create a hot scene, and those who click on girls' names like they are porn thumbs or cam girls and hope that they will find a dirty talking whore for free. The former is about 10% tops, the other 90% are porn addicts too cheap to pay a camgirl. However, the 5 or 10% are worth it when every couple weeks you score a good play with a decent partner.

Now roleplays in chat are only a small fraction of chat. Most of the rooms are defined by kink. You into office sex, find the office sex room and find a partner to private chat about the topic, etc. However, chat is fairly literate. Probably at least 25-30% of chatters are reading our stories and giving us votes. If you talk to some of them you will know what they are looking to read. It is fairly common for someone to list on their profile, "been reading for years, then I realized there was a chat."
 
'Cause most studies concerning sexual health and wellness are done on men for the benefit of men. But there are a few odd brave souls who study women from time to time. Besides there's rarely a need to study us because all doctors are aware that any ailments a woman has is easily cured by exercise of some sort, whether for weight loss (even at an already healthy weight) or for anxiety reduction.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/24089-skenes-gland
Kind of a puzzle, if you think about it. There are two whole medical fields, obstetrics and gynecology that deal exclusively with women's reproductive organs. Perhaps the problem is, though, that medicine is focused on diseases, not keeping people healthy and happy. It would be a rare gynecologist who would answer frankly if you asked, "My vulva is very dry when I masturbate. I can use lube, of course, but my bestie just has all this good natural lubrication coming from her, what are they called, Bartholin gland's. I don't have a cyst or anything, so how can I 'rev that up'? A few sex therapists/Vedic teachers might really know their anatomy. They should.
 
It's like this for men, too, or at least for me... though probably not with quite as many "levels," nor are they any easier than yours to explain. But all orgasms are most certainly NOT created equal.

I vividly recall a particularly powerful one where it felt just as you describe it: it felt as though something reached in and literally pulled it out of me, as if by force. There was a definite feeling that my body took over and my mind had to follow.

Interesting!
Voboy, are you willing to 'go there' often to get that 'losing yourself' orgasm? It seems lots of women are afraid to let their bodies take over. If you look at the women on beautifulagony.com or ifeelmyself.com there seems to be a 'holding back' and 'being quiet' as though mom or the kids are in the next room. Rarely do hips really get into it. Funny thing, women probably get their groove on more on the dance floor than in bed. There's a thought. How many women put on their favorite sounds and 'dance' to an orgasm?
 
Voboy, are you willing to 'go there' often to get that 'losing yourself' orgasm? It seems lots of women are afraid to let their bodies take over. If you look at the women on beautifulagony.com or ifeelmyself.com there seems to be a 'holding back' and 'being quiet' as though mom or the kids are in the next room. Rarely do hips really get into it. Funny thing, women probably get their groove on more on the dance floor than in bed. There's a thought. How many women put on their favorite sounds and 'dance' to an orgasm?

I'm not familiar with those sites, and random womens' orgasms aren't something to which I give much thought. Speaking for myself? It's not about being "willing." It's not a choice. If it was, they'd all be that good.

I think you missed the essence of what I wrote. The thing takes on its own momentum; it is not controllable. It happens (or doesn't happen) regardless of my will.

There are probably a hundred variables that go into every orgasm everyone ever has. I doubt any of us is aware of them all; we surely cannot quantify them. So we can't predict when it may or may not happen.
 
It can't be prostrate prostate related though, because women don't have a prostrate prostate.

(Edit: acknowledging my own misspelling!)
But women do have testosterone. I figure I had an age-related breakdown in whatever balances hormones, and got a flood of testosterone. Or some other male related hormone.

But I do consider it a gift!!
 
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My wife is a clit gal. Stimulating her g-spot causes what I think of as a hot-spot, where she squirms more than with clit stimulation, but for getting the job done most every time when she masturbates, she uses the vibrator on her clit. I think it might be possible that her g-spot is over sensitive. Many years ago, I used a variation of missionary that helped me concentrate on her clit. After penetration, I moved my legs over hers so that hers were held together between mine while it allowed me to grind on her. I think the few times I used that she had the blended clitoral/vaginal orgasms.
 
I thought the idea of clitoral versus vaginal orgasms had pretty much died out. The clitoris is much larger than the little nubbin at the apex of the vagina. It has arms which wrap around the vaginal opening and they can be stimulated with penetrative activities. Rubbing the so-called G-spot is merely rubbing the clitoral tissue from the inside. And just like there are men who like penile stimulation one way and others like it another way, various females enjoy and climax from different forms of genital/clitoral stimulation. I would encourage all who write here to be familiar some basic information about this whole topic.

An interesting photo of a clitoral model superimposed on the female pelvis can be found here:

file:///C:/Users/repti/OneDrive/Desktop/33a02752a156d1ec0b59f52e7484317e.avif

Another image is found here:

https://www.cliterate.com.au/model

A video from Cliterate is found here"

 
There are two kinds of people in chat roleplays, those who want to seriously use their imagination and create a hot scene, and those who click on girls' names like they are porn thumbs or cam girls and hope that they will find a dirty talking whore for free. The former is about 10% tops, the other 90% are porn addicts too cheap to pay a camgirl. However, the 5 or 10% are worth it when every couple weeks you score a good play with a decent partner.

Now roleplays in chat are only a small fraction of chat. Most of the rooms are defined by kink. You into office sex, find the office sex room and find a partner to private chat about the topic, etc. However, chat is fairly literate. Probably at least 25-30% of chatters are reading our stories and giving us votes. If you talk to some of them you will know what they are looking to read. It is fairly common for someone to list on their profile, "been reading for years, then I realized there was a chat."
I wonder what percentage of straight men seeking sexy chat are chatting with other men 'in drag'.
 
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