Which is 'inappropriate'?

[SweetSam42]

I don't find any of these actions to be inappropriate. I suppose flirting via PM could be borderline for me.

I wouldn't mind my spouse talking about his sexual experiences with me online, as long as no one know us personally. It's all anonymous, so no one would have any idea who he was talking about.

As for posting erotic photos? I just don't see how that's a violation of a relationship. I mean, if it stays just posting, and it doesn't become inappropriate relationships with others of a more personal nature, I don't see the problem. It's my body. It's my sexuality. Those things don't belong to anyone but me.

Again, as long as you're not exchanging personal photos or striking up intimate relationships with any of your admirers, it's not cheating in my book.

 

[yellow_rose71]

Once I joined LIT it became something that was inappropriate for me to be doing so I can't judge anything that my SO might do.

I wish I had a relationship where we share everything including my interest in LIT but that ship has sailed.

Even the choice of non sexual postings is not acceptable because I'm sure we all came here looking for something more than non sexual enjoyment.

But I only speak for myself.

 

[DallasDonna]

If you turn it around, and ask "Would I be upset if I found out my SO was doing _______ on a sex forum site, and I had no idea..."

 

[RickTango]

Voted and now felling guilt ridden thanks a lot Donna.

 

[yellow_rose71]

Voted and now felling guilt ridden thanks a lot Donna.

Wanna be bad together in a dark corner of LIT???

 

[RickTango]

Wanna be bad together in a dark corner of LIT???

I've already been in that corner, somebody turned the light on

 

[yellow_rose71]

I've already been in that corner, somebody turned the light on

Okay, I will now return the thread to its original purpose.

 

[shaved7]

Voted none

 

[ozrod]

Voted

And hit the top three.

Although I was voting as 'What do I think is inappropriate for me?' Not sure it would be the same if it was me finding her doing it.

 

[Kitty]

Fuck the choices. Being on here period. I don't mind if my partner did join. But behind my back, nothing is appropriate.

 

[Kat73]

I voted NOTA.

My husband is on Lit and is very aware of what I do here. If he or I were here and hiding that fact it would be inappropriate. The idea of an affair is exciting, the reality not so much.

 

[DallasDonna]

I voted NOTA.

My husband is on Lit and is very aware of what I do here. If he or I were here and hiding that fact it would be inappropriate. The idea of an affair is exciting, the reality not so much.

Then that makes your vote interesting

 

[funluvinaj]

I don't have a significant other... When I was married we were both here (I intriduced him to it) and all relationships since have been aware. One had a problem with it so I left. If you have to hide what you are doing it's inappropriate. If you are okay with that then that's your right as a grown up with your own moral compass. Just don't get pissed at your spouse if you discover them doing the same thing. That always irritates me.

 

[help_me_Rhonda]

Flirting via PM; posting personal erotic photos

 

[vibes]

If you turn it around, and ask "Would I be upset if I found out my SO was doing _______ on a sex forum site, and I had no idea..."

That was my criterium exactly

 

[DallasDonna]

So, out of 46 voters, only one person feels that posting fictional erotic stories without their SO knowing about it is inappropriate.

Interesting!

 

[DallasDonna]

BTW, I've done each of these while in a relationship, so I am not judging.

 

[RideOmylife]

Voted.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

voted

 

[dfw713]

Voted.. I think there are many things and many intentions that make something inappropriate, it's the difference between openly flirting and just being nice (in person) what is the end game you are playing, if any?

I have done all things on this list, in relationships and out of relationships. I had a SO who was on here and I found her posts before she told me about it... I had some fun flirting and playing, made both of us much more amorous.

This is a great outlet if you are in a rut or between relationships, imho

 

[SlutAddicted]

The only one that struck me as a potential violation was posting pic of myself. I'm not even sure that is a violation in that I don't feel obliged to make sure nobody ever sees me naked. It's just that it might lead to some awkward situation for her or I and she may be irritated by my lack of discretion.

In general she knows I come online to look at porn or comment in chat rooms etc., though it isn't something we talk about a lot. She knows when I go to a strip bar too. We think it is ok to have private thoughts. There are limitations that are clearly understood but we don't feel compelled to police each other or entitled to know the other's every private thought.

Flirting could cross the line but it is a matter of degrees. We all flirt from time to time in real life so I don't see why it would be a big problem here.

 

[screwher]

Non of the above. I would totally encourage my wife to go nuts on here.

 

[ToysAreUs]

Voted / posting personal photos would be my only concern.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Voted

 

[LWulf]

I think what everyone is missing is the phrase "without your knowledge."

While in a relationship with a woman (and I can't stand using the obligatory "SO"), the only thing I find "inappropriate" would be if she were to post pictures of herself or if she were flirting via PM. In contrast, if she were already posting pictures of herself on Lit before she met me, then it's not a matter of "inappropriate," but just a matter of "how soon" that she fill me in on her exhibitionism. I'd think it would be inappropriate if she never tell me or wait until I found out, which is essentially the same thing.

For reference, I've dated strippers (two, not at the same time) before. Read that as "dated" and I was not their "sugar daddy." I didn't meet them in a strip joint. So the whole "flirting with other guys" "letting other people see her naked" should be obvious that I didn't have a problem with it when I was aware of it.

In regard to Tolyk's aside question of "what if (she) went to a nude beach?" That is contextual. Someone who goes to a nude beach is looking for an all over tan, not seeking to fulfill someone's desires.

edit: Posting personal erotic stories, would only bother me if she mentioned me by name in her stories