Why are you with your current partner?
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That part sounds hot.
Sounds like you two have a great friendship. Why would it have to end if either of you dated another person? It sounds like you have a friendship that could be maintainable.
AnnyMouse28
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That part sounds hot.
Sounds like you two have a great friendship. Why would it have to end if either of you dated another person? It sounds like you have a friendship that could be maintainable.
I meant the situationship would end if either of dated someone else. We could possibly maintain the friendship but it wouldn't be the same and I don't know that it would be maintained long term.
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I actually kind of misunderstood what you wrote. I thought you meant that you were not getting naked.
MissMarie32
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Mo partner here
AnnyMouse28
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Oh no, we still get naked together. But there is more to things than just that. We are even planning on going a mini-vacation sometime early next year.
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Mo partner Mo problemsMo partner here
TiedbyChris
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The whole “relationship” concept is something I’m trying to work through myself for various reasons, not least because I’m definitely single atm! My conditioning always pushed me toward the traditional model of a partner with 2.2 kids and half a Labrador but I was never comfortable with that concept. Was married and have had a series of relationships which have ranged from “comfortable for company” to “dreamworld but doomed to failure”. I think (hope) we find something which works for both people but doesn’t need to follow anyone else’s pattern. We’re all unique people so there are endless possibilities
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MickieMinxf
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Because he is an great, loving and funny guy who I enjoy being around, is a great dad and amazing cook. Bloody good cook. Hence my size lol
Ssbbw4u1974
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I'm not physically with anyone anymore, my husband passed almost 5 years ago.
I don't want any one physically either, but over a year ago, a man who had been on lit forums very briefly asked me a polite question....
And it's been an "us" pretty much since.
He's attentive, and caring.. He's intelligent and I'm very inquisitive... He answers my questions about things I want to learn.. With patience..
He's sexy and He's just perfect... For what and who I need in a partner
I don't want any one physically either, but over a year ago, a man who had been on lit forums very briefly asked me a polite question....
And it's been an "us" pretty much since.
He's attentive, and caring.. He's intelligent and I'm very inquisitive... He answers my questions about things I want to learn.. With patience..
He's sexy and He's just perfect... For what and who I need in a partner
dreamysub
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I’m with him because we have a daughter together and because I still love him. He takes care of my other two daughters as if they were his own, and that means the world to me. We’re no longer that close, and for years we haven’t shared the same bedroom. We haven’t slept together in years, and even warm hugs have somehow faded away. At least his hugs, I still give him mine when he let me. It’s the way I am, I love as easily as I breath. When we go on a family trip, you might not even notice that we’re basically just living together and raising our girls.
It’s strange to be with someone and yet feel alone all the time — alone in two. He doesn’t seek out my company, and I decided I would stop pushing myself on him. His computer, the TV, and knowing that I exist are obviously enough for him. He doesn’t miss sex, intimacy, or affection.
For years I tried to fix it — to talk about it, to beg, to make things better between us — until I realized that for something to work, it takes two people, and above all a willingness to talk. And that’s something he refuses. So I pulled back. I’m tired now. I no longer beg him for love, for a touch, or for him to want to spend his free time with me. If he wants to go on a trip with us, we go. If he doesn’t, I go without him.
I found a dominant who filled the huge emptiness I had inside me, and I give him everything he allows me to — everything my partner rejected or didn’t want, and never even bothered to explain why, or what I had done to push him away. I still care about my partner, and I don’t think I’ll ever leave him. It just hurts that I apparently wasn’t good enough for him to want to sleep with me, cuddle me, hold me, and desire my company. He simply prefers to be alone, and that suits him. When I don’t bother him with “me,” he’s fine with it. So I don’t bother him anymore.
If he wants to go out, we go out. If he doesn’t, I go alone. Either way, I’ve found someone who longs for my company and is proud to walk beside me down the street, holding my hand. He likes falling asleep next to me and waking up beside me. It just makes me sad that I always believed I would have all of this in my relationship with my partner — not somewhere on the side, in secret. I never wanted this, and yet here we are. And now somehow I love both of them. Life sometimes has a strange sense of humor.
It’s strange to be with someone and yet feel alone all the time — alone in two. He doesn’t seek out my company, and I decided I would stop pushing myself on him. His computer, the TV, and knowing that I exist are obviously enough for him. He doesn’t miss sex, intimacy, or affection.
For years I tried to fix it — to talk about it, to beg, to make things better between us — until I realized that for something to work, it takes two people, and above all a willingness to talk. And that’s something he refuses. So I pulled back. I’m tired now. I no longer beg him for love, for a touch, or for him to want to spend his free time with me. If he wants to go on a trip with us, we go. If he doesn’t, I go without him.
I found a dominant who filled the huge emptiness I had inside me, and I give him everything he allows me to — everything my partner rejected or didn’t want, and never even bothered to explain why, or what I had done to push him away. I still care about my partner, and I don’t think I’ll ever leave him. It just hurts that I apparently wasn’t good enough for him to want to sleep with me, cuddle me, hold me, and desire my company. He simply prefers to be alone, and that suits him. When I don’t bother him with “me,” he’s fine with it. So I don’t bother him anymore.
If he wants to go out, we go out. If he doesn’t, I go alone. Either way, I’ve found someone who longs for my company and is proud to walk beside me down the street, holding my hand. He likes falling asleep next to me and waking up beside me. It just makes me sad that I always believed I would have all of this in my relationship with my partner — not somewhere on the side, in secret. I never wanted this, and yet here we are. And now somehow I love both of them. Life sometimes has a strange sense of humor.
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Breaking_Dawn_Fantasy
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Next to my father, he is the best man I have ever known.
JessForFun37
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Thought for 6 m prior to cumming across this. Came to the realization….. Nothing, after many years.
Dumped her some time ago.
Dumped her some time ago.
jsilvers
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Well, I actually have two partners. Why am I with them? Because it all just works for all of us. And it has for quite a while now. I'm actually writing stories about how we got started.
The thing I find interesting about society in general is that we are usually pushed into the idea that we have to find that "someone" (emphasis on the "one"), and that "someone" has to be basically everything to us. They have to be a lover, a co-parent, a friend, a roommate, a business partner, everything. And that's ridiculously hard to find in a person.
The crazier thing is that society tells us that we have to find that "one perfect person" early in our lives (by our mid 20's, usually). And if we don't, then what's wrong with us?
It's even crazier than that when you consider that society just assumes that we know how to do this automatically. No instructions, no rules, no training. Just grow up, find the perfect partner, settle down and be happy! Easy, right?
I tried it. I thought I had it figured out. I met the person, dated, fell in love (or so we thought), got married, bought a house, settled down, and then 10 years later, she left me for someone else. Fortunately, we didn't have any children to be damaged in the fallout of that mess.
Fortunately for me, I eventually stumbled into a relationship with someone who wanted to communicate and talk about how it all can work. Who wasn't afraid to make mistakes and have to step back and correct them. And who wasn't terrified of it not working out. And then, before we even had ourselves really settled into any sort of a routine, we met another person who just clicked with us. She matched us with energy, goals, and motivation. She also wasn't afraid of putting in the effort to try to figure out what it was all about.
I've been writing the stories about us and publishing them here. And as I have gone back through my memories, talking with my partners, recalling stories and events, it is just crazy that things have worked out so well. I'm truly happy because we were able to build a relationship on our terms the way we wanted it to be. And as I look back on my life, I can't imagine it turning out better than it is.
I love them both. And I use that word carefully. The word "love" can mean different things to different people. But to me, it means that I genuinely care about their well-being and happiness. I actively want to spend time with them doing things. I am affected by how they feel (good or bad). I will go out of my way to help or protect them. I value their trust and work hard to maintain it. And I feel that my life would be lessened greatly if I were to lose either one of them.
And now, I'm going to go upstairs and give them both a hug because thinking about them reminds me of how important they are to me.
The thing I find interesting about society in general is that we are usually pushed into the idea that we have to find that "someone" (emphasis on the "one"), and that "someone" has to be basically everything to us. They have to be a lover, a co-parent, a friend, a roommate, a business partner, everything. And that's ridiculously hard to find in a person.
The crazier thing is that society tells us that we have to find that "one perfect person" early in our lives (by our mid 20's, usually). And if we don't, then what's wrong with us?
It's even crazier than that when you consider that society just assumes that we know how to do this automatically. No instructions, no rules, no training. Just grow up, find the perfect partner, settle down and be happy! Easy, right?
I tried it. I thought I had it figured out. I met the person, dated, fell in love (or so we thought), got married, bought a house, settled down, and then 10 years later, she left me for someone else. Fortunately, we didn't have any children to be damaged in the fallout of that mess.
Fortunately for me, I eventually stumbled into a relationship with someone who wanted to communicate and talk about how it all can work. Who wasn't afraid to make mistakes and have to step back and correct them. And who wasn't terrified of it not working out. And then, before we even had ourselves really settled into any sort of a routine, we met another person who just clicked with us. She matched us with energy, goals, and motivation. She also wasn't afraid of putting in the effort to try to figure out what it was all about.
I've been writing the stories about us and publishing them here. And as I have gone back through my memories, talking with my partners, recalling stories and events, it is just crazy that things have worked out so well. I'm truly happy because we were able to build a relationship on our terms the way we wanted it to be. And as I look back on my life, I can't imagine it turning out better than it is.
I love them both. And I use that word carefully. The word "love" can mean different things to different people. But to me, it means that I genuinely care about their well-being and happiness. I actively want to spend time with them doing things. I am affected by how they feel (good or bad). I will go out of my way to help or protect them. I value their trust and work hard to maintain it. And I feel that my life would be lessened greatly if I were to lose either one of them.
And now, I'm going to go upstairs and give them both a hug because thinking about them reminds me of how important they are to me.
