why do some lesbians hate men so much?

[Luna_Wolf72]

thanks Q and moon doggy. great responses. i've heard the ultra-feminist theory that men are an aberration before. it's always chilled my soul. it's so fascistic and evil hearted especially when you're the one considered to be inherently bad and even useless by some. some women have even mentioned it like it was joke before. it isn't funny.

Yea I comprehend where you are coming from. It's kinda twilight zonish now (at least most of the time) the way my brain worked. Especially when one realizes that I (as a bi-racial, bi-sexual type) should have known better. After all, that type of feeling is what kept black, white, yellow and red seperate for so long.

I understand it (on both sides of the fence) I just wish that (for the most part) it wasn't a reality.

 

[Harrowborg]

Personally I think if your talking about people as sexual identities your kinda loosing out already. What I mean is, I just tend to look at people as people, not a gay or lesbian or a straight person. I no this might be simplistic but it also means that if two women are kissing and have a go at me (seem's to be the general gyst on here that random people just go around attacking people?) I wouldn't view them as lesbian attacking just two people attacking me.
Its the same as race. We got to the point where if a black person attacked me it wouldn't be a black person attacking me, it would be a person attacking me. I guess some people have anger inside them and will hide behind their sexuallity as some sort of protective blanket to attack others. Just seem's a bit silly to use sexuallity to attack people.

 

[Samuelx]

Lesbians who hate Men ? wow ! I dont have anything against gays or lesbians. I am a bisexual male, after all. I do hate MISANDRISTS ( total man-haters) and I dont care who these misandrists sleep with.

There's too much anti-male bias in our culture thanks to their venomous input.

I have joined www.safe4all.org to help Men who are victims of domestic violence perpetrated against them by women. I am also a Men's Rights activist. A man's sexuality has nothing to do with manhood in general.
Misandry should be a concern for all men.


Misandry is as nasty and evil as misogyny. Both hurt both sexes.


Women who hate men are....sick, pathetic and pitiable.

peace.

 

[Officer_262]

I don't hate men, but i suppose i could

When i was little i was molested by five different men and boys. I suppose most would think that would give me a reason to hate men. I don't hate em but i don't trust em very much either. I think a person should be judged on an individual basis. I try not to let biases enter into it. I think that by holding the sins of a few against the rest limits you too much. If i hated all men i'd miss some really great friends. But then that's just my own twisted view

 

[nodtveidt]

No matter where you are and what you do, there's always going to be a hater or a bunch of haters. The key to success is to never let these haters get the best of you. I've fought off my fair share of misandrists in my life, and their nature allows me the opportunity to treat them as I would treat anyone who would try to harm me...as a real threat. Where I used to live...these are the women who will use the words "strong" and "victim" in the same breath...sorry, but it doesn't work that way! Many of these people are neither "strong" nor "victims"...they've jumped on the bandwagon because it's what their cooler friends are doing. It's peer pressure, just like we had in high school. Only thing is...we should be grown-ups now, and past high school mentalities. And in any event, one who is strong cannot be a victim, and one who is a victim was not strong when it counted. Neither is their fault, it's simply the way things were at the time. You can become strong after being victimized, but there is no such thing as a "strong victim" like they like to make themselves out to be (especially when most of them are only victims of their own ego). Also, many of these people do nothing but run their mouths...they are incapable of actually causing you any real problems. They have a way of making you fear them...don't give in to it. Be the "strong" kind of person they wish they were.

When one allows themselves to be consumed by hate, one chooses to destroy their own happiness. Taking out their anger on other people gives them satisfaction but it doesn't make them happy, so they have to keep doing it in the hopes that some day, it may make them happy. Of course, they'll never find that happiness that way. The only way to find happiness (and I found this out myself when dealing with my own troubled past) is to put those demons to sleep and learn to ignore those who would bring you down again. Nowadays...I simply laugh at misandrists, because I know that they hold the key to their own happiness, and yet they ignore it. It's funny in a way, hence I laugh at their futile attempts of making me feel as miserable as them, but at the same time, I can't help but feel a little sad...

Bottom line: haters suck.

 

[Harrowborg]

Yeah, haters suck!

 

[Ladydyke69]

As a lesbian I do not hate men, some of my best friends are straight men as well as gay men. I have many lesbian friends that feel as I do. I am sure there are a minority who do feel this way. However, as a whole, I feel that the lesbian community do not.

I have found that there are some men that feel that if a lesbian found the “right man” that is all it would to “change” them. This of course is not true. I have been with men and I am sorry to say that statement is just too funny. I live in a small town that I hate to say has many “redneck” males with this notion. I know not all men feel this way but the ones that do stand out just as those lesbian that state that they hate men.

 

[Zergplex]

As a lesbian I do not hate men, some of my best friends are straight men as well as gay men. I have many lesbian friends that feel as I do. I am sure there are a minority who do feel this way. However, as a whole, I feel that the lesbian community do not.

I have found that there are some men that feel that if a lesbian found the “right man” that is all it would to “change” them. This of course is not true. I have been with men and I am sorry to say that statement is just too funny. I live in a small town that I hate to say has many “redneck” males with this notion. I know not all men feel this way but the ones that do stand out just as those lesbian that state that they hate men.

Mmmmm, you know the men who say that just need to find the right man. That'll straighten them out ^_~

-Zergplex

 

[nodtveidt]

I think the reason that some men think that "lesbians just haven't found the right man" are still stuck to the archaic notion that men should be with women and no other possibility is acceptable. I've found that this way of thinking is more prevalent in deeply religious areas, such as Tennessee and Louisianna...

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

I think the reason that some men think that "lesbians just haven't found the right man" are still stuck to the archaic notion that men should be with women and no other possibility is acceptable. I've found that this way of thinking is more prevalent in deeply religious areas, such as Tennessee and Louisianna...

Indeed, they are the kind of people who feel that homosexuals are just 'fooling' themselves and are just dating the same sex because you had some difficulty with the opposite sex. Ignorence is bliss they say... and if thats true then these people must be on cloud 9....

-Zergplex

 

[Xtacy]

My personal opinion is that if a lesbian really wants to hate men then cudos for her. But worries me is when people are lesbians because they hate men. That's as silly as me saying that I'm straight because I hate men. I have a girlfriend because I love that girl, not because I dislike men. Though that's why I believe bi-sexuals are the only true people. They can fall in love with the person because of who they are, regardless of their sex.

(oh btw I'm male)

 

[Zergplex]

My personal opinion is that if a lesbian really wants to hate men then cudos for her. But worries me is when people are lesbians because they hate men. That's as silly as me saying that I'm straight because I hate men. I have a girlfriend because I love that girl, not because I dislike men. Though that's why I believe bi-sexuals are the only true people. They can fall in love with the person because of who they are, regardless of their sex.

(oh btw I'm male)

That is exactly why I am bisexual. If I find someone I connect with and care for then it shouldn't matter what their sex is.

-Zergplex

 

[Quint]

I don't know if I've ever had any definitive experiences with gays hating the entire opposite gender. I know a gay male who dislikes women who don't act, for want of a better term, like fag hags. Anyone who doesn't flock around him and think he's fabulous, he treats with coldness, almost hostility. But I'd classify that more as a personality conflict than an anatomical one.

Love me, love my pussy.

 

[John Doe]

I don't know if I've ever had any definitive experiences with gays hating the entire opposite gender. I know a gay male who dislikes women who don't act, for want of a better term, like fag hags. Anyone who doesn't flock around him and think he's fabulous, he treats with coldness, almost hostility. But I'd classify that more as a personality conflict than an anatomical one.

Love me, love my pussy.

You have a cat?

 

[Etoile]

You have a cat?

I do! (Seven, at the moment.)
MEOW! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/cat.gif

 

[Lightning]

I do! (Seven, at the moment.)
MEOW! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/cat.gif

Jeez... we only have 2, males. But we used them as replacements for kids until we were ready for our own. I can't imagine 7 terrorizing our house. But then again, we don't let ours outside.

But I'll bet you have great pussy.

 

[DarkAurora]

I'm a gay man who you can say sort of dislikes straight men. I don't dislike them per say but I always feel like I'm going to be judged in a bad way when I'm around straight men I don't really know. Maybe I just still have some growing up to do(I'm only 20). I do however have some very good friends who are straight men and I trust them dearly.

 

[Iced_Cherry]

seriously. it's something i've noticed in rl and online. some lesbians seem to hate men more than they love women. it's disturbing.

i'm not saying the majority of them do, but a sizable minority seems to. do you feel there is something similar in the male homosexual community? is this just paranoia on my part? have you noticed anything similar? if so, do you feel it is bad or just natural?

so many questions, so little time.

In my experience, there are gay men who hate women. They call us "Fish" and say it with disgust.

Some of the lesbian women though, aren't as lesbian as they seem, and often man-hating is an act to fit in. Sort of competitive "I can be nastier than you" type of silliness.

 

[Etoile]

Re: Re: why do some lesbians hate men so much?

Some of the lesbian women though, aren't as lesbian as they seem, and often man-hating is an act to fit in. Sort of competitive "I can be nastier than you" type of silliness.

Ooooh, good insight. I'm inclined to agree.

 

[killallhippies]

damn poseurs.

 

[John Doe]

I do! (Seven, at the moment.)
MEOW! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/cat.gif

Well, apparently you really like pussy...cats.

 

[Betticus]

Sorry I didn't mean you. I'm talking about the sort of morons who go into lesbian clubs and hit on women, and stuff like that.

I do that all the time but then I also flirt with everyone. I mean everyone! I love to flirt with the ladies but I won't flirt with the ones that don't know me. Once they know I'm not trying to go home with them then we just have a blast. I even get good feedback on my flirting techniques.

I'm so going to get a shirt that says "Trained by Lesbians" on it. Then for laughs I'm going to get a collar and leash and wear it to a lesbian bar and I'm gonna go with a group of my ladies and have one of them hold my leash. That should get the gay dudes up in arms anyway. I just want to get tipsy and dance.

 

[Slut_loves_pain]

because

even though normally you'd find me in the BDSM forum and my name sure is a little sus my only post in ages is here coming out and i get an IM like this???

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Would help the 'poor misunderstood guys' alot if they stopped acting like asses half the time.

Nah seriously not all men are bad and I dont hate men. Dont trust them but I do like them
In fact I'd rather be friends with a man than a woman. Better conversation, lol. They've got more to talk about than why they cant get a man