Why do we like being submissive?

[JamieJ424]

My take

I’ll preface this by saying, I’m a dominant. And this is less about the feel than it is about the why, at least in my opinion.

So how can a strong woman give control over herself, her life, her sexuality, to me or any man? What kind of woman allows anyone to control her? How can she willingly give away her own hard won power to choose? Aren't we all taught to seize control, decide our own destiny, steer our own course whenever we can? So where does submission fit into that?

This will seem random so bear with me.

I hate to fly. I absolutely detest it. I squirm in my seat and fuss and complain the whole flight. During takeoff and landing, I white knuckle the arm rests. I would much rather drive for seven hours than fly for one. The idea of trusting the pilots is beyond me and I can't let go of my need for control. I just can't. It terrifies me.

The difference between me and a hypothetical submissive has nothing to do with being self possessed or fiesty or strong or anything else...it is exactly this: she CAN let go. She can sit down, buckle her belt and just...place her trust in another to see her safely through to the other side.

It's an act of strength and trust that's beautiful to behold and even more so to be a part of.

 

[Payne_Hall]

Because making someone happy feels like holding a baby chinchilla or feeding a Glaceon in Pokémon Sword so they get that cute red heart over their head.

 

[BadAmy]

Leetypes:

I like pleasing. It gets me off

This. 100%.

 

[SKitten17]

Well said, thank you

I’ll preface this by saying, I’m a dominant. And this is less about the feel than it is about the why, at least in my opinion.

So how can a strong woman give control over herself, her life, her sexuality, to me or any man? What kind of woman allows anyone to control her? How can she willingly give away her own hard won power to choose? Aren't we all taught to seize control, decide our own destiny, steer our own course whenever we can? So where does submission fit into that?

This will seem random so bear with me.

I hate to fly. I absolutely detest it. I squirm in my seat and fuss and complain the whole flight. During takeoff and landing, I white knuckle the arm rests. I would much rather drive for seven hours than fly for one. The idea of trusting the pilots is beyond me and I can't let go of my need for control. I just can't. It terrifies me.

The difference between me and a hypothetical submissive has nothing to do with being self possessed or fiesty or strong or anything else...it is exactly this: she CAN let go. She can sit down, buckle her belt and just...place her trust in another to see her safely through to the other side.

It's an act of strength and trust that's beautiful to behold and even more so to be a part of.

 

[Marty Fisher]

I LOVE being a submissive because I'm the polar opposite in my "normal" life. It gives me a sense of balance!

 

[AnaJ70]

I LOVE being a submissive because I'm the polar opposite in my "normal" life. It gives me a sense of balance!

YES! I feel like in my day to day, I am looked at and expected to be someone who is always in control and has her shit together. Being submissive gives me the opportunity to relax and I love the way I feel when I get to be submissive. The best way to describe it is slowly sinking into a pool on a hot day.

 

[sterculius]

Because it allows me to do what I really want to do without bearing any of the responsibility. I can always say "He made me do it. It's not my fault" I must obey him and do whatever he orders me to do. And, by the way, I can offer you a great deal on this bridge in Brooklyn!

 

[Bohemian_Dream83]

I never been a submissive before, but I do get excited anytime I read an erotica story or see photos online. I'll never know the excitement it brings people, I never experienced it, but it does seem to take over my mind to the point where I can barely think straight anymore. Thats how much it excites me. Maybe one day I'll fully experience it.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I never been a submissive before, but I do get excited anytime I read an erotica story or see photos online. I'll never know the excitement it brings people, I never experienced it, but it does seem to take over my mind to the point where I can barely think straight anymore. Thats how much it excites me. Maybe one day I'll fully experience it.

Welcome to Lit! I hope your search gets fulfilled...

 

[Bohemian_Dream83]

Welcome to Lit! I hope your search gets fulfilled...

Thank you. Its nice to meet you!!

 

[aluzion]

Thank you for all the replies

 

[gng73]

I make decisions all day and take care of everyone. Being submissive for me is letting go and letting someone else make the choices.
It’s been a while since I’ve had that kind of arrangement but in the past when my ex-partner took control I felt secure, sexy, and desired. I loved it when he praised me. I loved it even more when he just used me. I felt complete.

 

[melimelissa]

I never been a submissive before, but I do get excited anytime I read an erotica story or see photos online. I'll never know the excitement it brings people, I never experienced it, but it does seem to take over my mind to the point where I can barely think straight anymore. Thats how much it excites me. Maybe one day I'll fully experience it.

He takes my mind when I am taking stock
Of the way my body can shock
Him into action
As he sees attraction
While I simply want a hard cock

*moustique*

 

[Sass84]

I can't explain why or how, I've always just felt a tingling sensation whenever someone with confidence took over , even in school to have someone take the lead and explain things I already knew made me feel vulnerable and in a way sort of aroused, as I grew older that feeling became stronger, my first experience sexually with an older dominant woman finally made me aware of how good it feels to submit to those feelings. I still can't explain why but I love that feeling of submitting to my partners wishes.

 

[Nikhil66]

the sensation of being submissive is so hard to describe, quite a contradiction of sensations, to be honest. It delights me, empowers me in a way, I stand taller after i've been used, the feeling of being proud that I have pleased someone, that I have been found satisfying, and praised for that...this fills me up...

 

[CuriousJInLA]

I’m a guy and maybe I’m lucky in the sense that I can easily switch between dom and sub, but in the case of submitting it’s just so hot to be at the mercy of someone else. I find them equally erotic

 

[lavender6789]

It's giving up control though I can't totally give it up but I like to do what's told or asked of me. It turns me on. It's a good feeling though giving up control. Then again I am sub only in sexual matters. Maybe I am just wired this way.

 

[sissyboy26]

I just love the feeling of someone controlling me and not having to worry about anything

 

[Landon_1980]

I can relate to this completely…. the ability to just let go is intoxicating

 

[MissMandy86]

I wonder why all the time.... what happed and exactly when???

I wish all the time I could just be normal

 

[Lost_Writer01]

I wonder why all the time.... what happed and exactly when???

I wish all the time I could just be normal

Every step takes you further down the path, knowing you can never turn back.

You won’t recognise normal if you were that.

 

[Roughscrewu]

Every step takes you further down the path, knowing you can never turn back.

You won’t recognise normal if you were that.

Normal would bore you after discovering your Submissive side!

 

[Babe04]

I make decisions all day and take care of everyone. Being submissive for me is letting go and letting someone else make the choices.
It’s been a while since I’ve had that kind of arrangement but in the past when my ex-partner took control I felt secure, sexy, and desired. I loved it when he praised me. I loved it even more when he just used me. I felt complete.

Absolutely the same feeling <3