Why should I have anal sex?!

[Crystal]

To be honest I am a bit uncertain about taking penetrative sex that step further. I'm not even that convinced about vaginal sex. There have been a couple of occasions when the possibility of anal sex has arisen and I have always refused. I am of the belief that one should try everything but there is something about anal sex that seems degrading and painful!
Should I give it a try and if so how can I make it the most comfortable?

 

[Rodrigo]

If you're uncomfortable with vaginal sex, why would you even consider anal sex? My advice would be wait until you actually enjoy vaginal sex before you start experiment with anal. But (no pun intended) if you really want to try anal, do it with a person who knows what they're doing, otherwise things are going to painful and messy. Take it slow and use lots of lube.

 

[Guest]

So far i agree with all the advice. I would like to add that if your toungues your asshole and inserts a finger or a small dildo gradually getting bigger, you should find it much easier to enjoy. Again, you can never use too much lube.

 

[Hullo_nurse]

Some chicks really like anal sex. It's the nasty about it that turns them on. If you do indulge I agree with the above stated..start with a well lubed finger, move to 2 fingers, then a dildo & then do it only with a guy that has done it before. Be sure to go to the bathroom before you do it. Otherwise it can hurt. If the guy uses lots of lube (water based, of course) it will work in easier. I also suggest that he wear a condom becuase he does not anything in your arse getting into his urethra. Anal sex can be very erotic, believe it or not. You can enjoy it almost as much as he does if he goes slow & takes his time. Some women actually climax just from anal penetration. I persopnally never have, but if you add some cliteral stimulation it is a rockin' time. Be prepared to have to go to the bathroom after he shoots his wad the first few times. This is a normal reaction that your body has. It likes to evacuate whatever is in there. Once you become satisfied with vaginal sex & you & your partner agree that anal is something you want to try--give it a shot!!

 

[Matt]

I myself enjoy anal stimulation when I masturbate! Believe it or not, that really can improve your sex drive! I started off with a small pen, went on to fingers and candels and nowadays I can almost fist myself! =) I can get four fingers up to my knuckels, but five fingers won't go in just yet... But as everyone has said here, use a lot of lube when/if doing it. I started off by using just regular butter, but then got the courage to go and by some real water proof lubricants from a sex-shop down the street. Without the lube, it won't work. Well, it doesn't work for me anyway.

Remember, nothing is forbidden when it comes to what you do with youeself! =)

 

[Dakota]

personally my ass has an exit sign only but whatever makes you happy This also brings up personal hygiene.... Let alone the pain!! If you are uncomfortable with having anul sex then don't do it.

 

[Slutgirl]

I recently got married for the second time. My first husband tried anal once but was so rough and it hurt so much, I said never again ! But the man I'm with now, he started very slowly and though I was leery at first, he has taken it quite slow (months) and only just a couple of weeks ago did we actually "do it". I found it alot easier this time, he was alot more patient and took it alot more slowly than my ex. Also, I was able to relax my body which helped alot, too. But I haven't been able to cum yet, I'm hoping to be able to get to that point and soon! I love the way he makes me feel!

 

[Spicy1]

I agree with everyone else who has posted... If you don't want to to anal don't. It's not for everyone. But if you do decide to take it slow.

 

[Marco]

seems like a lot of discussion over a very basic situation. If it brings you pleasure, do it...make it safe and fun, but do it. If it doesn;t bring you pleasure, don't do it. There are enough things in life that you will LOVE, without enduring something you don't love. Hey, a lot can go wrong with anal...bacteria, tissue tear, etc. why risk it if you're not crazy about the good side?
Now, maybe if you begin with oral anal, you'll warm to the erogenous side of your ass.

 

[Satiana]

i use to think that anal sex was disgusting and dirty. i didn't like vaginal sex much either, but thanks to my husband i enjoy it all. i agree with everybody go slow, use lots of lube. it hurts at first but when you get use to it it is very erotic. it worked best for me to get an anal plug, small at first it helps to stretch out the muscles and gets you use to it, when it gets comfortable, move up to the next size. I have an orgasm every time my husband and I have anal sex. The biggest orgasm i ever had was when he was in the vaginal position, and the Dildo was anal. Do it with someone you can trust!

 

[Michael]

"...there is something about anal sex that seems degrading and painful!

Should I give it a try..."

Hmm...is there a "should" about anything in sex?

I have heard of some guys who like to taste their own semen, but I can't ever imagine doing such a thing without puking my guts out. Sure hope nobody tells me I "should" try it.

Some women love anal, as we've seen from some of the comments on the board, and there are ways to...umm..."work into it" gradually, it seems.

Maybe some of those ways will work for you, Crystal!

 

[Miranda]

What I'm REALLY curious about is exactly how old Crystal is... If you're uncomfortable with anal why even think about it? Why do something you find degrading and painful? Unless .... of course you're into the whole slave thing and get off on degradation...

 

[Guest]

Gentlemen,when a woman tells you she loves anal sex she is lying and when a man tells you he likes anal sex you are in the wrong bar

 

[Michael]

Well gosh, I guess we've been set straight! I haven't done anal much myself, but ladies, please keep telling us such pleasant lies anyway, because it will keep our hopes up, among other things.

 

[Jenne64]

Gentlemen,when a woman tells you she loves anal sex she is lying and when a man tells you he likes anal sex you are in the wrong bar!!!

Well I'm a woman and I'm stating for the world to see that I love anal sex. It's a strange feeling at first as Southern pointed out but if you're partner good and gentle after the initial opening of the orifice it's wonderful. My take on life, sex and love is don't knock it till you've tried it!! If you don't like it don't go there again, if on the other hand you do just do it, then do it again and just to make sure you really did like it again and again and again!!!

If it makes you happy, go for it. If it makes you sad don't

Regards
Jenne

 

[Guest]

Any sex is like any other kind of sex, it's not for everyone. Yes, even vaginal sex isn't for everyone.

If you're seriously interested in try anal sex, here are some words of advice from someone's who's had anal sex.

The most important thing is that it is the WOMAN (or person being penetrated) who moves. Even if its being done for his pleasure, if should be the woman who's doing the movin'. Yeah, she can take advice and suggestions from her partner (and should, as part of healthy, communicative sex), but ultimately it should be her who call the movements.

Second, condom is pretty essential. Even within a married, monogomous (sp) couple, the man's penis shouldn't be exposed to all that, well, bad stuff that's associated with that regoion of the body.

Third, LUBE, DUDE!!! I'm sorry, but the ass just isn't equipped to be self lubricated, so you'll have to provide for yourself.

As a male, I've had some really, really good anal sex. Of course, most of that was the thrill of actually having it. I found that anal sex with my female partner facing me to be the most enjoyable, actually. Practically sititng up atop my pelvis.

As for the fact that you're not even sure about vaginal sex, you may want pursue some self-exploration, both of your body and your psyche, so that you are more in-tune with your wants and needs, as well as your personal boundires.

 

[Southernhelle]

ok, this is kind of out of the ordinary...I really really like anal sex. I didn't particularly like much about the guy I first tried it with, but he was like Mr. Kama Sutra in bed..he knew how to do everything right. We lay there talking and he was gently fingering me, everywhere, and all of a sudden I was massively turned on, needing to feel him in every orifice..first entrance hurt like a bitch and I got up and stood facing the wall, tears in my eyes..it's a weird pain. After it went away I wanted to try again, so he went slowly, got it in, and it didn't hurt at all. We used a lot of lube of course, and he tried to be gentle, go slow...after realizing it doesn't hurt once in, it felt fucking awesome. I told him to fuck me hard, fast, anything he wanted. Hearing his pleasure and feeling this new sensation was extremely erotic; he grabbed my hips and thrust hard, leaning over to bite all over my back (pleasantly of course). Listening to him reach his orgasm almost did it for me. I think with the right person anal sex can be a very good change from the norm. If they push for it, it probably won't be as enjoyable as if they work you up to the point where you want to feel them there without them even mentioning it.

 

[Butterfly]

I agree with southern and jenne some like some don't. I didn't at first but now I do,as Jenne said go slow and if you enjoy it try again, again and again.
The biggest thing is please remember to use lube and be clean. Also not wise to go from Anal and then back to the pussy, could pass bad bacteria and become really sore. The vagina doesn't clean it self so you will pass on the bacteria from the anal area.

Hey I just became a member with the last post glad to join the member status now.

Again just go slow and enjoy....

 

[Mrhappy]

Congratulations Butterfly on your member status!
It seems as though there's a consenses of opinion here: Go slow, use lots of lube,go slow, do it with someone you trust, go slow, relax and did I mention??...go slow.
With my ex-wife(#3), the trigger for her orgasm was a digit in her ass. When she was ready to cum, she'd request my thumb be inserted in her ass. If I wasn't quick enough with the requested insertion, I usually heard something like, "I said get your thumb in my ass NOW! I'm ready to cum dammit!" I assumed early in our relationship that if she liked having her asshole fingered, then she must like anal sex too. Boy, how wrong can one man be??(3 times at least, judging by the number of x wives). One of the times that she was really worked up and was responding quite well to my anal administrations, I decided to put the 'original mr. happy' up the old wazoo instead of my dull old thumb. Well, mrhappy was about 2 inches in when Ms. 'Give it to me I need it bad', clamps down on poor mrhappy's throat with her sphincter and is simultaneously yelling for me to get my dick out of her ass, "Now!" and trying to cut off the blood supply to poor mrhappy's head.
Needless to say, I didn't try that again! In fact if I even got mrhappy close to her butthole, he'd do his little turtle imitation and wasn't easily coaxed back out.

On the other hand...the first woman I had anal sex with actually sprung it on me without my knowing. Hey!, I was really young ok? We were in the old missionary position and she wanted to get up on her hands and knees. She flipped over, reached between her legs and guided me to what I thought was her pussy. I slipped in just as easily as can be and she started going wild. I thought I'd give her a little more stimulation, so I reached around to play with her clit. Lo and behold!! I found another hole! Remember, I'm young at this time and never even knew about anal sex then. Even in my dimwittedness, it only took me 8 or 10 strokes to figure it out. After talking with her about it later, she said she actually preferred anal to vaginal sex. Her first boyfriend introduced her to it as a way for them to have sex and prevent pregnancy. (Now I'm dating myself...this was before the 'pill')

Anyway...some do & some don't and my advice is don't try to do the one's that don't. I'm sure mr happy will back me up on that!

 

[sallybaby]

To be honest I am a bit uncertain about taking penetrative sex that step further. I'm not even that convinced about vaginal sex. There have been a couple of occasions when the possibility of anal sex has arisen and I have always refused. I am of the belief that one should try everything but there is something about anal sex that seems degrading and painful!
Should I give it a try and if so how can I make it the most comfortable?

" I'm not that convinced about vaginal sex." I would take one step at a time.

 

[NippleMuncher]

" I'm not that convinced about vaginal sex." I would take one step at a time.

Wow!!! Did you really need to dredge up a 10 year old thread?

 

[Berwyn]

wonder if the op ever made up her mind?

 

[clutch1]

wonder if the op ever made up her mind?

She's probably doing anal movies with Lexington Steele by now.