Widows and widowers 2

[Lilianna23]

I occasionally go down this path - skipping meals, etc. To counteract that, I keep Nuun tablets (electrolyte adds for water) around, and focus most of my diet on proteins. Keep a lot of eggs on hand, simple-to-cook meats/fish.

My failure though is my passion for salty, fried potatoes....

I've been trying to drink the protein shakes I have too many cases of! At least I get some protein this way. I do love eggs, also. My dog will eat what I can't.

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

I've been trying to drink the protein shakes I have too many cases of! At least I get some protein this way. I do love eggs, also. My dog will eat what I can't.

For the first 3 months, I ordered frozen fully cooked meals for diabetics as I could not cook at all. It is not surprising you and LitCh3 are not interested in cooking or eating.

 

[Strixaluco]

For the first 3 months, I ordered frozen fully cooked meals for diabetics as I could not cook at all. It is not surprising you and LitCh3 are not interested in cooking or eating.

Readymade meals saved me the first year, too!

I didn't really get back into cooking and eating before I rehauled my life. First moving back to town, then meeting my current partner, later my chosen daughter...

And I still don't have that great appetite when alone. Probably an autism issue, I barely even feel hungry. I still have protein shakes in my cupboard to save the day, and other easy food.

 

[someplace]

I have stopped cooking and really only eat because I start to feel faint if I don't but it's such a chore. In the beginning I invited close friends out to dinner with me -- something to fill the void. Very little reciprocity phased me out of that. I tried ordering a week's worth of ready-made meals and found I wasn't eating them all, so I stopped that. hahahaha it's such a pain. The protein shakes are a good idea. I keep dried soup packets next to my electric kettle and often just have a cup of soup. I look at all the kitchen pots, pans, baking stuff that just doesn't get used anymore and wonder who'd like to have it.

 

[Lilianna23]

I have stopped cooking and really only eat because I start to feel faint if I don't but it's such a chore. In the beginning I invited close friends out to dinner with me -- something to fill the void. Very little reciprocity phased me out of that. I tried ordering a week's worth of ready-made meals and found I wasn't eating them all, so I stopped that. hahahaha it's such a pain. The protein shakes are a good idea. I keep dried soup packets next to my electric kettle and often just have a cup of soup. I look at all the kitchen pots, pans, baking stuff that just doesn't get used anymore and wonder who'd like to have it.

Don't get rid of your cooking things just yet. You may find you'll want them later.

I found a person on Instagram who has created a booklet of recipes that are high protein and low calorie. Her name is Tamika Gentiles. The booklet is free. I'm struggling to get enough protein in but delighted I'm losing weight. However, it's not a good way to do so.

I did just purchase a Ninja blender. I've wanted one for a while. It really blends up those protein shakes!

 

[lit_ch3]

I have stopped cooking and really only eat because I start to feel faint if I don't but it's such a chore. In the beginning I invited close friends out to dinner with me -- something to fill the void. Very little reciprocity phased me out of that. I tried ordering a week's worth of ready-made meals and found I wasn't eating them all, so I stopped that. hahahaha it's such a pain. The protein shakes are a good idea. I keep dried soup packets next to my electric kettle and often just have a cup of soup. I look at all the kitchen pots, pans, baking stuff that just doesn't get used anymore and wonder who'd like to have it.

Been down the lack of reciprocity road, then a week or so ago was completely stood up by a long-term buddy. What the fuck dude?

That kind of thing only gives me resolve to take on this rest-of-my-life journey without laying down. That, plus I have two big dogs that need attention....

I skipped too much food yday. It happens, apparently more than I thought reading this thread. But I still keep quick things around - peanut butter, yogurt, eggs, cheese. And some days that's all I dip into.

But you (we all, really) are in a tough situation, at least in varying degrees. I know it's hard, but ya gotta eat. Don't make things worse for yourself. And at least for me, I feel better in more ways than one when I put in the effort. And I'm a guy, minimum effort is a key part of anything I do in the kitchen!

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

Been down the lack of reciprocity road, then a week or so ago was completely stood up by a long-term buddy. What the fuck dude?

That kind of thing only gives me resolve to take on this rest-of-my-life journey without laying down. That, plus I have two big dogs that need attention....

I skipped too much food yday. It happens, apparently more than I thought reading this thread. But I still keep quick things around - peanut butter, yogurt, eggs, cheese. And some days that's all I dip into.

But you (we all, really) are in a tough situation, at least in varying degrees. I know it's hard, but ya gotta eat. Don't make things worse for yourself. And at least for me, I feel better in more ways than one when I put in the effort. And I'm a guy, minimum effort is a key part of anything I do in the kitchen!

I also keep protein rich quick to make stuff around like peanut butter, eggs, tuna fish, yogurt, cottage cheese, sliced cheese. Some frozen dinners are good to have around. It took me about year to get my cooking/ baking interest back. I’m always surprised how much we have in common!

 

[lit_ch3]

I also keep protein rich quick to make stuff around like peanut butter, eggs, tuna fish, yogurt, cottage cheese, sliced cheese. Some frozen dinners are good to have around. It took me about year to get my cooking/ baking interest back. I’m always surprised how much we have in common!

Not sure how I left tuna off the list!

 

[Lilianna23]

Not sure how I left tuna off the list!

I was going to make something tuna tonight for dinner. While I was rootling around in the freezer, I found some chicken in wine and sour cream sauce I made a while ago. (Some) of that was dinner tonight. There's probably enough left over for 2-3 more nights.

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

I learned that my PSA number is climbing so now I need to schedule an MRI. I am beginning to miss my late wife more and more. I just read her anniversary notes and Valentine’s Day cards. I know how she would help me when feeling scared of the scan. We both had scan anxiety with her scans. I know you are all feeling your loved ones loss. Mine is amplified now that I face my own health condition alone.

 

[lit_ch3]

I learned that my PSA number is climbing so now I need to schedule an MRI. I am beginning to miss my late wife more and more. I just read her anniversary notes and Valentine’s Day cards. I know how she would help me when feeling scared of the scan. We both had scan anxiety with her scans. I know you are all feeling your loved ones loss. Mine is amplified now that I face my own health condition alone.

Best of luck....

 

[Strixaluco]

I learned that my PSA number is climbing so now I need to schedule an MRI. I am beginning to miss my late wife more and more. I just read her anniversary notes and Valentine’s Day cards. I know how she would help me when feeling scared of the scan. We both had scan anxiety with her scans. I know you are all feeling your loved ones loss. Mine is amplified now that I face my own health condition alone.

I understand your fear more than well

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm going to send a message to my Mil tomorrow wishing her well.
My late husband always was famous for making the mashed potatoes for Thanksgiving. I'm going to attempt it this year.

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

The holidays can be triggers of emotions for those of us who lost our partners. After 2 and a half years, I am fortunate that I feel fondness for the memories with no tears. I am hosting a friends giving with others who also lost their partners. For Christmas, I will focus on my grand children.

I wish you peace during this difficult period of Holidays .

 

[Strixaluco]

We have independence day on December 5th. I used to celebrate it with my husband. Now with my new partner I have created habits that are as strong but different enough that old memories don't disturb me.

And Xmas is something very different (We already had "mini-xmas" last weekend at his parents - in a month will have 2 different kinds celebrations...)

 

[lit_ch3]

It's been a little over a year now. Single-life's not been bad. I never wondered what's next on the relationship front. Till very recently.

How many are familiar with Neil Young's 'Harvest Moon' song? Well, there's a fantastic cover by The Comatose Brothers out there, if you need to refresh your memory.

Related, how many here have had a 'Harvest Moon' person in their life? Maybe your spouse, maybe not. Not necessarily the one that got away, but the one you never forgot, maybe never even lost touch with.

Welp, my 'Harvest Moon' girl finally answered an email I'd sent a month or so ago. Not unusual in our correspondence reply times on both sides. This time though, she included her number, call me.

After maybe 12hrs on the phone over a handful of days, meeting her a cpl hours away for lunch tomorrow. And all of a sudden, after years of caregiving and whatnot, finally feeling like that part of my life is moving into the past. And not looking back feeling guilty, or bad, or sad or mad. Looking forward.

 

[B2fromA2looking4U]

It's been a little over a year now. Single-life's not been bad. I never wondered what's next on the relationship front. Till very recently.

How many are familiar with Neil Young's 'Harvest Moon' song? Well, there's a fantastic cover by The Comatose Brothers out there, if you need to refresh your memory.

Related, how many here have had a 'Harvest Moon' person in their life? Maybe your spouse, maybe not. Not necessarily the one that got away, but the one you never forgot, maybe never even lost touch with.

Welp, my 'Harvest Moon' girl finally answered an email I'd sent a month or so ago. Not unusual in our correspondence reply times on both sides. This time though, she included her number, call me.

After maybe 12hrs on the phone over a handful of days, meeting her a cpl hours away for lunch tomorrow. And all of a sudden, after years of caregiving and whatnot, finally feeling like that part of my life is moving into the past. And not looking back feeling guilty, or bad, or sad or mad. Looking forward.

You are on the path of healing. Remember to always be aware of red flags. I ignored a few on my first round of dating and it was not a pleasant ending. I wish you the very best and hope it blossoms into a loving relationship!

 

[lit_ch3]

You are on the path of healing. Remember to always be aware of red flags. I ignored a few on my first round of dating and it was not a pleasant ending. I wish you the very best and hope it blossoms into a loving relationship!

Thanks. We've known each other over 50yrs, and have never been shy about telling the other when they're fucking up. Only dated a few months, but we never lost touch. Gawd I hope no red flags pop up, even if nothing comes of it.