Wife Wants a Boob Job... Thoughts?

[NotHisLady]

In light of the OP's update, does it change anyone's view of the original question?

If his wife had gotten implants before the other surgeries would that not have made detecting any sort of lump or tumor much more difficult? If so, she would have been putting her life at risk to change her appearance.
Also, if she had learned what she did after having gotten cosmetic surgery then all of the pain of it would have been for just the short time between that first surgery and the discovery. Afterwards she would have had to go through even more, possibly worse pain.

Having read most of the entries here I've seen many very well thought out ideas as well as many that made me shake my head. This is not a subject that I have a firm idea about. Generally it's too dependent on circumstance and individuals.
By and large I suppose I'm not much in favor of artificially changing our bodies in ways that carries such great risk. If it is purely for her then a wife risking her life to change her appearance is a little selfish when she has a husband who loves her (entirely MY OPINION a generalization.) It is true for the same reason it would be selfish of a husband to ask it of a wife who has no desire to change.

I only wonder if anyone would like to revisit the advice they offered in light of the new information.

 

[Luv_2_RP_Guy]

Honestly the chance of her having breast cancer was in the back of my mind in addition to all of the other issues. But really what I/we were wresting with where the safety issues, perceptions, and the expense of it all. I tried many times over the years to steer her away from it but in the end the conversation always came back up.

When the BRCA thing came up she lost all care or concern for boobs. She was ready to be flat chested and move on. She just wanted to be alive for her kids... At that point mind you she did not have cancer... she just knew that she was at a much high probability/risk.

Now she has cut her risk to just 3% and if she does have a lump it will not be easier to detect and will more than likely only involve a lumpectomy. She did get a boob job out of it but its hardly a reward for all that she has gone through.... But it does help.

So for her being the one that wanted a boob job... I dont thing she would say it was worth it... She is happy to be alive and no fear.

 

[adventrkupl]

... She is happy to be alive and no fear.

There's something to be said for being alive that's for sure. It's a tough thing to understand until you are staring at the possibility of the opposite scenario in the face. As you mentioned, concern for boobs at that point don't even register. So once again, congratulations to both of you and your family. She looks fantastic by the way.