wifes lesbian fantasy

[saddlesore57]

My wife has sliped a few time she wanted to make love to a woman. I would love to see this and hope i mgiht get to participate in this fantasy in some way. problem is how do I get her to commit and how do we find a willing partner without coming acrossed as deviets. I know she must pick the partner so how do I softly ese her along to fulfilling this fantasy.

 

[infinity706]

Well, I obviously don't know your wife, but I'd think it's a possiblity that she'd like to have permission to explore the world of women without you. It might not apply to her, but a lot of women that would like to explore with a woman, that I know, won't even tell their husband. They don't want to be a sideshow attraction, especially since they tend to have other fantasies that they assume he wouldn't do for them.

 

[coastal-boy]

her fantasy...not yours.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Talk to her about it for a while. Find out exactly what her fantasy includes. Is it one-on-one play or a threesome with you? How would you feel if she wants to do it one-on-one without an audience? What if she wanted a regular girlfriend in addition, but separate, to you?

 

[saddlesore57]

wifes fantasy

I understand it is her fantasy not mine. I want it to be for her and about her not me i just comented it would be nice to have a part.I would be very happy to just hear about the encounter than be there as she isnt informed of my encounters.

 

[fuckmeat]

You have to let her decide whether to act on this and then let her explore bisexuality on her own terms. Plenty of people have hot fantasies that they have no intention of acting upon and this may be one of them. Also, whether or not you get to 'play a part' of any kind depends as much on the preferences of the women your wife chooses to be with than anything else. Many lesbian women would rather be circumcised with a rusty spoon than perform for a guy.

Also, if she 'is not informed of your encounters' surely it's down to her to decide if you're 'informed' about this? You can't have everything your own way and you can't 'ease' a grown woman into anything she has reservations about doing.

 

[cowslinger64]

Well, I obviously don't know your wife, but I'd think it's a possiblity that she'd like to have permission to explore the world of women without you. It might not apply to her, but a lot of women that would like to explore with a woman, that I know, won't even tell their husband. They don't want to be a sideshow attraction, especially since they tend to have other fantasies that they assume he wouldn't do for them.

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That would be grounds for dumping her right there. IMO, that is a betrayal of the trust we have. If a woman told me that she had cheated on me like that, I'd be just as bad as her being with another man.

I wouldn't have a problem with my partner wanting to explore that...I think it's exceptionally hot, myself. But, I'd have to be involved...if nothing else, to watch. Otherwise, it's a dealbreaker.

 

[subwannabe]

You need to talk about it openly instead of trying to push her in that direction. If you both decide to go in that direction she probably needs approval more than anything else. Only help her if she wants help. Remember that in the end this could possibly fall into the category of "Be careful what you wish for".