wild/adventurous women?
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SweetErika
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I can identify with this...my hubby used to be very, very "vanilla" (for lack of a better word). Throughout our relationship, I had actually become LESS adventurous to match his level. Then I found Lit, and I started talking to him about all of these ideas. We already had several toys, but I began asking what he thought about different ways to use them, and everything else under the sun. We read some posts and stories together, and after a few months, I think he started to realize he could push the limits of his current definition of sex. We also talked about things we'd never do but that other people enjoyed (e.g. extreme pain, watersports, etc.), and I believe he came to understand we could go pretty far exploring before he was doing something "weird" or "abnormal".
Along with the talk came gradual experimentation. I gave him lots of encouragement, praise, and support when he'd share an idea or try something new. For example, he never talked dirty, but I told him I really enjoyed it. He tried, and we talked about it after, and I told him how it took sex to a whole new level. You get the idea, but I think it just takes a lot of time, love, and communication. Good luck!
Along with the talk came gradual experimentation. I gave him lots of encouragement, praise, and support when he'd share an idea or try something new. For example, he never talked dirty, but I told him I really enjoyed it. He tried, and we talked about it after, and I told him how it took sex to a whole new level. You get the idea, but I think it just takes a lot of time, love, and communication. Good luck!
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Th ebig buzzword when it comes to ANY relationship- whether it be platonic or wild & freaky sexually is....
COMMUNICATION!
Good luck!
COMMUNICATION!
Good luck!
Tell her. You have to tell her that you want that, but you ALSO have to make VERY sure you are comfortable with what you might unleash in her. Make sure you are very very secure in your relationship with her. I imagine her worst fear (it was mine) is that you will judge her or think of her poorly if she does become a freak. Maks sure she's secure in your mutual respect and admiration for each other and you are home free, guy.
Just a little advice from someone who has been so "unlocked" by a wonderful, loving relationship.
hausfrau
Just a little advice from someone who has been so "unlocked" by a wonderful, loving relationship.
hausfrau
