SpicyBean99
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Thank you for the amount of detail you placed here!Hey Dopabean,
Thanks for your original post, you have highlighted something that I hadnāt thought about, yet had been impacting my experience on Lit the last few weeks. I reply to this post because youāve really evidenced the difference in how your posts have been engaged with, in order to make your point. And it shows.
I find my habits have changed recently when interacting on here. I used to try to actively engage in threads, especially chain threads or threads that are newer with intellectual or creative ideas, now I do that less. I only really share my personality in PMs now.
Iāve tried a couple of times recently. One a newer, Christmas-related thread which I just excused myself from after an unpleasant exchange and another chain game that led to a pleasant PM conversation which kept me there.
Maybe itās just where I am in my Lit ājourneyā and Iāve been on here long enough to know who I am likely to get on with and who Iām not. Thankfully, youāre in the formerwhich means that Iām more interested in talking to you and others in PMs rather than on the threads because you know me and my personality.
The red flag game was a good example of a great attempt by you to widen the depth of the thread but my immediate thought was: Iām not sure that I want people knowing those things about me. Thatās on me, not you.
I donāt want the nature of Lit to change such that all we get is content you (and others) occasionally throw up when youāre in the mood - which will likely decrease over time as Lit becomes less engaging for you - because it loses a lot of what makes Lit great. As I say, I love the intellectual conversations, including when those are sex-themed in some way, Iāve probably been relying on PMs a little too much for real connection. Iām sure others are the same - and it lowers the overall quality of threads.
Iāll stop my rambling now and summarise:
Youāve highlighted an important point which Iām both a cause of and impacted by, so I will look to increase my attention on threads moving forward because I really donāt want threads like these to become one-note or worse, die away.
LW
I totally agree with it being easier to talk openly and discus things that would be otherwise kept discreet, within the dms, but when most of the interesting conversation lives there, the threads start to feel empty. In saying that, though, I donāt want mine or anyoneās thread to become a feed you scroll when youāre bored and a PM box you retreat to when you actually want connection. The most interesting threads, to me anyway, are the ones where people think out loud, flirt with ideas, share stories with one and other and arenāt afraid to talk about the things that they donāt discuss elsewhere!
Have some balance hahaha.
But enough of that I feel as though Iāve made my point too many times here today
The red flags, were meant to be more casual than I think most assumed I intended them to be! It was supposed to be light hearted. I did in fact receive many dms where in which people were very open and also mentioned they werenāt comfortable sharing them! Of course, each individual has a line, and choosing not to cross it publicly isnāt disengagement, itās a choice and I canāt force anyoneās hand! It was meant to be lighthearted
Super respect that youāve noticed your own change in usage rather than just agreeing in theory!
Glad to be in the āpeople Iād actually talk toā category. Thanks for saying this so well.
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