Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[BrightShinyGirl]

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Two versions of Jane, take your pick but don't take the mick
( ETA I know most of the words to the Doris Day version - 'Whip-crack-away' being a favourite )

Can I pick both? Real-life frontier bad-ass AND sassy lesbian songbird. They'd makes a great team.

 

[v_indigo]

Can I pick both? Real-life frontier bad-ass AND sassy lesbian songbird. They'd makes a great team.

Stop flirting with me!

 

[van_delay]

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[RoryN]

"Men are awful," said the woman cheating on her husband, and who won't give the time of day to any man no matter how kind and articulate if he isn't tall, handsome, and hung.

Your pathetic ass had to hide behind a decade-old alt with 15 total posts to say this out loud.

Whatever you ladies are doing in here, keep it up.

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

Well, I'm pissed off again. Yes, I understand that I need to develop a thicker skin for interaction here on Lit. But...why do men think that they know better how to write my stories????

 

[silky52]

I am there... sometimes. There are girls who post pics of themselves in their profiles after being cut and bruised physically by men. Some even do it to themselves. I guess it is hot for people into it.

I just want to hug and cry with these girls and get them some counseling.

I am on that site too, but I have never seen such pictures. I have seen weird things, yes, but never that bad!

 

[RachelWalsh]

I am on that site too, but I have never seen such pictures. I have seen weird things, yes, but never that bad!

It is really sad. I hate that some girl think they WANT this.

I wanna cry.

 

[silky52]

I'm Lynn. My husband, Gary, is usually on here, but I come on sometimes to chat or answer questions. I saw this thread and wanted to comment. Almost all of my experiences with men have been good with one exception. When I was in college, I had a lot of sex. I was having sex with a guy I had been dating. He pulled out of my pussy and rammed his cock into my ass. No lube. No warning. It hurt like hell! I screamed and managed to push him away. I don't consider it rape since our sex was consensual, but it has affected me ever since.

Same thing happened to me when I was young and stupid! Put me off of anal for life.

 

[gtnlynn]

Same thing happened to me when I was young and stupid! Put me off of anal for life.

No anal for me since that night.

 

[silky52]

I feel like this is in no way a safe space …. Some men ruin everything

Only if you let them!

 

[silky52]

Well, I'm pissed off again. Yes, I understand that I need to develop a thicker skin for interaction here on Lit. But...why do men think that they know better how to write my stories????

I was accused of being a man for my stories lol. Stupid twats!

 

[lil_jenni]

It is really sad. I hate that some girl think they WANT this.

I wanna cry.

You realize that this is infringing on the agency of people who do like bruising and other type of similar fetishes, right? And your prior posts assumes someone who does must be in need of a counselor rather than maybe already having one and that needing to do it with boundaries has been discussed.

So, full disclosure, I like rough sex. And when I'm in the right mood, I like the bruising that sometimes comes with it. Hell, I like it a lot more than my husband does. And it's my fucking prerogative to like it. I don't need patronizing, belittling pity that assumes I'm a fucking victim who doesn't know any fucking better. I get enough of that bullshit from the white knight misogynist hell bent on saving fallen women from themselves.

Maybe it's not just the men making this a not so safe space for us women who don't think the right way. Fuck!

 

[silky52]

I've read through most of the posts here, and I just wanted to add that I am an older woman, I don't post pictures. I would be mortified if my kids saw them. So, I posted a real picture of me. I've been pretty lucky with most of the men I've either chatted with or had posts with on the forums. One thing that I did do early on when I first started lit was put a full profile in. So, the twats that make stupid remarks, and by the way I find that they are mostly younger men, I just say, please read my profile! Of course there are the idiots who put rude remarks. Someone asked me the other day what I 'what kind of sex I am looking for'. So I answered honestly friendship and intelligent discussions... that gets rid of them usually. Mostly I'm too far away to meet up with anyone, although I did meet up with two guys, one of whom is still my friend. I also have an online FWB, I doubt I would ever meet anyone again, but one never knows. I didn't know that life could have sex in it when one is older. I also didn't know that men could lose their taste for sex when they get older, nor did I know about the prostrate, which my husband suffers from. I believed the idiotic rumour that men can go on till they're 90!! Thanks for the thread ladies. It would be nice if we could keep the men out of here, but that's not going to happen. I believe though that ignoring their stupid selves is far better than answering them. If no one answers you then you can have nothing to say!! Just saying of course.

 

[RachelWalsh]

You realize that this is infringing on the agency of people woh do like bruising and other type of similar fetishes, right? And your prior posts assumes someone who does must be in need of a counselor rather than maybe already having one and that needing to do it with boundaries has been discussed.

So, full disclosure, I like rough sex. And when I'm in the right mood, I like the bruising that sometimes comes with it. Hell, I like it a lot more than my husband does. And it's my fucking prerogative to like it. I don't need patronizing, belittling pity that assumes I'm a fucking victim who doesn't know any fucking better. I get enough of that bullshit from the white knight misogynist hell bent on saving fallen women from themselves.

Maybe it's not just the men making this a not so safe space for us women who don't think the right way. Fuck!

I don't think this occurred to me and am definitely not trying to hurt or insult anybody.

 

[v_indigo]

oh for fucks sake. lmao

oh for fucks sake. lmao

Why are you here?

 

[v_indigo]

You ok? Sounds like she's just not giving the time of day to you.

Why are you here?

 

[v_indigo]

Still pretty creepy IMHO. The fact that she knew them before they turned 19 is what bugs me. A middle-aged mom hooking up with a hot young stranger is one of my favorite fantasies.

Don’t mind this dirty old broad looking for strange young women to have passionate hookups with

 

[v_indigo]

It is easy to forget how wonderful the Ignore button is
Contented sigh

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I feel like this is in no way a safe space …. Some men ruin everything

Don't let these last few pages take away from the beauty in the rest of this thread. Some men can ruin a lot of things, yes, but there's still pages here of women sharing their unfortunate, unsettling encounters on Lit and those shared experiences have created a type of fellowship. Plus, I'd argue that for multiple women to speak up to all these male toddlers interrupting & throwing temper tantrums, it's a reflection of having a sense of community within this thread. Most women will not speak up in a male dominated thread lest she get deemed the naggy, outspoken bitch. So, I don't give gnats that much credit to say they've flown in here and irrevocably damaged anything.
It's annoying as fuck, but such is the trait of willfully ignorant assholes. Some women have expressed genuine comfort in seeing other women share here and offer advice. That's what this thread is.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Story time, ladies: today I had the pleasure of being given the ultimatum by a lovely gentleman on here to either entertain the possibility of us having an irl relationship in the future or I can leave. So, I did one better and blocked him.
I made it quite clear without any faltering that our interactions would be purely online. Yet, he somehow wove it into an issue of him being worthy of a chance and that he won't back down from his viewpoint.
Uh, fucking what?!
Buddy, if you walk into a store wanting boots & they tell you they only sell sneakers, then you better boot scoot your way on down to another store; not berate the sneaker store for simply honestly stating the way things are.
Heaven forbid I have boundaries and express, enforce, & stick by them .

 

[Zrosey]

Don't let these last few pages take away from the beauty in the rest of this thread. Some men can ruin a lot of things, yes, but there's still pages here of women sharing their unfortunate, unsettling encounters on Lit and those shared experiences have created a type of fellowship.

 

[lil_jenni]

I apologize to the thread for my last post being really bitchy. I don't apologize for what I wrote, just the way I wrote it.

About the past week or so, I've been dealing with one of the oddest stalkers I've ever had on Lit. He, through a variety of alts, has been PMing me that I need to behave more like a woman should, that my husband is an asshole and a predator for indulging me in rough and degrading sex, that he'd beat the shit out of my husband if he ever met him (which I doubt would be the result of that meeting ), that he'd treat me like I "deserve," never make me do anything against my "true nature" as a woman, and worship me as a goddess since I am pregnant. It's all put me really on edge and feeling like I need to justify my own desires and wants (and defend Hubby for indulging me).

 

[v_indigo]

I apologize to the thread for my last post being really bitchy. I don't apologize for what I wrote, just the way I wrote it.

About the past week or so, I've been dealing with one of the oddest stalkers I've ever had on Lit. He, through a variety of alts, has been PMing me that I need to behave more like a woman should, that my husband is an asshole and a predator for indulging me in rough and degrading sex, that he'd beat the shit out of my husband if he ever met him (which I doubt would be the result of that meeting ), that he'd treat me like I "deserve," never make me do anything against my "true nature" as a woman, and worship me as a goddess since I am pregnant. It's all put me really on edge and feeling like I need to justify my own desires and wants (and defend Hubby for indulging me).

But “boys will be boys” and “you have to be more modest” and “if you didn’t want this kind of attention then…”

 

[lil_jenni]

But “boys will be boys” and “you have to be more modest” and “if you didn’t want this kind of attention then…”

Yeppers. White Knight misogyny... "protect," repress, and shame women for their own "good" because we are "natural victims" (yep, he wrote that) unless we behave properly. Fucking asshole.

 

[lil_jenni]

Yeppers. White Knight misogyny... "protect," repress, and shame women for their own "good" because we are "natural victims" (yep, he wrote that) unless we behave properly. Fucking asshole.

Oh, he also wrote that by swearing and wearing tight/revealing clothing I debase my true self and become more "animalistic," prompting men to treat me like an animal and use me for their pleasure. If I talk and dress more "befitting my sex", then I will gain "respect and admiration" instead of luring men to "act out their bestial lust."

It's all pushed me right out of my normal anxiety into seething anger, and that's not a good place for me to be. I've worked hard to be able to understand and work with anxiety. I'm not good with dealing with persistent anger. And it's not healthy for me or the babies either.