Women. Would you be put off dating a guy if things were going well, then...

[SweetDommes]

actually, this is something that we have run across in our search. One boy likes to cd on occation, but does not need it as a part of every scene/playtime - and so we don't care. Crossdressing does not do anything for either Holly or myself, but as long as the boy does not need it to be able to get off, we don't mind if he does it occationally. If it became something that he needed more and more often, we would have problems with it, because - as I said before - it just doesn't do anything for us. We aren't against it, and have multiple friends who crossdress to one extent or another, our boys crossdressing doesn't really bother us, but for it to be something that he NEEDS ... that would be a problem.

 

[tronada]

finally!!

Finally!! After days and days of reading threads, I find what I came here looking for!
I am new here on the board but have been reading the stories for years.
A couple of months ago, my husband admitted to being a crossdresser since he was 16. We have been married for 15 years and have 2 wonderful kids. While I can't say I was totally shocked by the admission, I was shocked to find out the extent to which he went to hide it from me all these years. Occasionally, he had worn my panties, but I didn't think much of that, just play.
But now, to find out that he has been lying and hiding all these years, I really am at a loss. It's been a very hurtful experience. And scary too.
I consider myself openminded and even experimental, sexually, but THIS. I think I would rather hear that he had been cheating on me or gay or something. And I don't even know why I feel that way. Except that it just doesn't do anything for me sexually at all. And I don't think I am wrong to feel that way.
But now.....WHAT TO DO??
Any helpful advice would be appreciated. Any bashing would not.
Thank you
tronada

 

[bluntforcemama]

Re: Re: Women. Would you be put off dating a guy if things were going well, then...

This is going to sound terrible but I would struggle to cope with it. Never thought I would and had always thought I was open minded. A friend has a partner who needs to do this regularly, He subscribes to particulr sites and cannot have sex or play out fantasies unless dressed in this way. So please feel free to levy all/any critical comments at me, I do not have issues with anyone else who does dress up, (have met her partner he is a nice man) but would not feel comfortable about dating someone who cross-dressed. *Hangs head for being honest and waits for comments about being narrow minded*

It's how you feel, and no one is going to make you feel differently. I'm impressed that you're so honest. I don't care if other men dress up in women's clothing, but I like my man to be as manly as possible, because I want to feel petite and feminine, and it's not easy to feel that way if my mate wore women's clothing. However, if I was head over heels in love with a man and he revealed that he dressed in feminine clothing, I wouldn't break up with him or call it off. Love changes things like that.

 

[niteshade]

Well, narrow minded I am certain I am, but I would (and did) have a problem with my guy cross dressing. I need my man to be a man, look like a man, smell like a man, and so on. Now, if he wants to do it on his own time, when I don't have to see it or deal with it, then I would probably be ok with that, but honestly I doubt I would be able to look at him the way I would need to.

 

[Betticus]

As far as I'm concerned. Clothes cover me up so that I won't get arrested. But what I choose to wear I choose for comfort first, style second.

I really wouldn't mind at all if my woman decided to dress like a man. It's not my thing though to dress in womens clothing. Besides, it would look funny. I would fee uncomfortable. Hell, I only shave when it starts to itch. Or I am going out.

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Well, tronada, as I mentioned in the How To forum, I can give you a dom/me's perspective on this. It's simple; gather up all his femmy stuff and take control of his fetish. From then on, he has to earn - from you - the privilege of indulging it. And misbehaving means a longer delay before he can again.

This is, I think, the best way to handle kinks and fetishes you don't share with a sub, unless it's something that absolutely repulses you. For example, I'm not into watersports, but I can handle it on an occasional basis. Scat is completely out of the question though.

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

I like men.. I like women.. I like to idea of dressing "manly" myself.. So is it conceivable?.. Yes.. reality? No bloody clue. The thing for me is.. I consider myself ready.. by takeing a shower, brush the teeth, Run a brush threw the hair, and ponytail it. .. Oh and clothes.. clean preferably.. but if I'm gonna be out with the critters I really don't care. I don't think I could handle a guy that takes an hour or more "primping".. I'de throw a shoe eventually.. or a boot...

 

[Bloody Heart]

after several weeks he told you he occasionally wore make-up and skirts?

God no! Even if he did look better than me in them! That would be so incredibly hot.

 

[Kait!]

It depends..

If I have to share my closet space, or make up, then no.

But hey, if he wants to dress up; I'd take him out for a night on the town.