Writing about intimacy

[simplyfemme1]

I don't know if it's common. I am just an amateur. But writing about the build up is much easier than writing intimate acts which you performed in real life.

Are there any resources? Thank you.

Ash

 

[FromManyOne]

I don't know if it's common. I am just an amateur. But writing about the build up is much easier than writing intimate acts which you performed in real life.

Are there any resources? Thank you.

Ash

As you wrote this, it seems that you want resources on performing intimate acts.

 

[big_cane_sugar]

I would never write about "intimate acts" that I performed in real life, but of course you can if you want to.

Either way, maybe you're thinking of "intimate acts" too specifically. Write the aspect of them that you want to share. Maybe focus more on the emotion and less on the physicality, or vice-versa.

 

[SmilingLez]

I don't know if it's common. I am just an amateur. But writing about the build up is much easier than writing intimate acts which you performed in real life.

Are there any resources? Thank you.

Ash

Agree 100%. My 750 word story Her Orgasm, is just that. It tipped into real life which was uncomfortable. I did question submitting it, but since this is an anonymous online for profit porn platform, I figured what the hell, and clicked submit. YMMV

 

[Voboy]

I find it's about forty or fifty times easier to write about sex stuff I've never done.

Imagination is fun. Memoir is work.

 

[JohnBJohn]

You can try the non-Erotic category. Some writers will often leave writing tips and essays on how to make your story succeed in Lit.

 

[deathlynx]

Kind of like method acting, you can utilize things you've done IRL while writing fiction. Alternately, you can use IRL fantasies as the basis for your fiction.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with focusing on the build-up itself.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Are there any resources? Thank you.

Read stories here that are aligned with your kinks. Or the kinks you want to write about. Give us some clues about at least category and I’m sure we could make some recommendations.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I don't know if it's common. I am just an amateur. But writing about the build up is much easier than writing intimate acts which you performed in real life.

Are there any resources? Thank you.

Ash

You are your own best resource. Writing about sex is one thing, but can be mechanical - what we often refer to as IKEA sex, screw A into slot B, that kind of thing. To write about intimacy, all you have to do is write about the people involved, their emotions, desires, feelings. A book of resources? Not really needed, if you write about your own experiences and fantasies.

 

[onehitwanda]

Imagination is fun. Memoir is work.

And memento mori is a nudge that Necromancy is lawful evil.

 

[Andreas_Kreuz]

Reading always helps with writing. And here you are at the largest source in the universe for samples of written intimate acts.

 

[Erozetta]

And memento mori is a nudge that Necromancy is lawful evil.

I mean... Is it though?


I'd argue it could just as easily be chaotic good. Like... What if you're not reanimating the dead for evil reasons but just because you want to play a 4+ person board game and have no living friends?

Or if the reanimating the dead is about keeping an owner with its pet until the pet dies as well? I wouldn't class that as evil. Misguided maybe, but not evil.

 

[BenjaminCarlisle]

I mean... Is it though?


I'd argue it could just as easily be chaotic good. Like... What if you're not reanimating the dead for evil reasons but just because you want to play a 4+ person board game and have no living friends?

Or if the reanimating the dead is about keeping an owner with its pet until the pet dies as well? I wouldn't class that as evil. Misguided maybe, but not evil.

Necromancy can be lawful good, see Pushing Daisies.

 

[Erozetta]

Necromancy can be lawful good, see Pushing Daisies.

Yeah, but I'm rarely lawful.

 

[BenjaminCarlisle]

Yeah, but I'm rarely lawful.

But always very good.

 

[Erozetta]

But always very good.

Debatable.

 

[StillStunned]

Or if the reanimating the dead is about keeping an owner with its pet until the pet dies as well? I wouldn't class that as evil. Misguided maybe, but not evil.

Necromancer (casts Speak with Dead): "Ask your questions."
Bereaved: "What did you do with that letter from the council? I can't find the damn thing anywhere. And what temperature do I wash the bedding on? Oh - and what do you want doing with your Literotica stories?"

 

[onehitwanda]

Necromancer (casts Speak with Dead): "Ask your questions."
Bereaved: "What did you do with that letter from the council? I can't find the damn thing anywhere. And what temperature do I wash the bedding on? Oh - and what do you want doing with your Literotica stories?"

A certain scene from "Good Omens" comes to mind.

 

[StillStunned]

Another use for necromancy is after the polar bear comes along and mauls us all to death.

 

[SimonDoom]

None of my stories are autobiographical, but I draw upon real life experience with intimacy in writing intimate scenes. I think about how it felt, and I think about things that in real life turned me on -- the sculpture of a woman's legs, the scent of her hair, the swell of her breast under a blouse as I cupped it for the first time.

 

[Erozetta]

On intimacy:

I have a bit of a cheat with this. I have an incredibly vivid ability to recall the sensation of when someone has touched me. Or how they smelled, or how it felt to touch them. I can recall the pressure applied by different people, the texture of their hands and lips, the weight of their body.

The density of sparseness of their hair the warmth or coolness of their skin and breath. The sound of their moans and breaths. Their gasps and pleas.

I can recall it in great detail and I add those experiences to my writing.

I also have a great imagination and seeing someone gives me the ability to experience them, if I want to, even if I never have physically. I can get lost in those fantasies and thoughts, especially when writing.

 

[WeShallUnclench]

I'd second what others have said - rather than strictly writing about what is going on, physically, focus how the characters, and how you, feel about it. What excites them. What they are just DYING to touch, stroke, insert.
What it feels like, to be penetrated or caressed. Pressure, closeness, friction. And desire, of course. Even as the sex is already happening, what aspects and actions your characters are looking forward to. The struggle to get an orgasm, if that's what you're building up to, chasing after those waves of pleasure (that part, I personally find the most difficult, how do describe those sensations? Waves, tickles, shocks? It's grasping at straws)

While you obviously don't have to go autobiographical (and I am a bit sceptical about authors who claim that's all they do, "honest!"), it can help to remember what you are yearning for yourself. What you want to do, or have someone do.

 

[onehitwanda]

Another use for necromancy is after the polar bear comes along and mauls us all to death.

 

[deathlynx]

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I almost want to this since there isn't a "groan" reaction!

 

[onehitwanda]

On intimacy:

I have a bit of a cheat with this. I have an incredibly vivid ability to recall the sensation of when someone has touched me. Or how they smelled, or how it felt to touch them. I can recall the pressure applied by different people, the texture of their hands and lips, the weight of their body.

The density of sparseness of their hair the warmth or coolness of their skin and breath. The sound of their moans and breaths. Their gasps and pleas.

I can recall it in great detail and I add those experiences to my writing.

I also have a great imagination and seeing someone gives me the ability to experience them, if I want to, even if I never have physically. I can get lost in those fantasies and thoughts, especially when writing.

There is a particular kiss I remember, and that I will go to my grave remembering.

She was a close friend who I'd always assumed was straight as a rail, judging by her string of boyfriends. We were sitting side by side outside her front door, waiting for a third friend to arrive before we went off to do something. And in the gap between one conversation ending and another starting, I looked at her, and she looked back at me, and she leaned in, and so did I, and my heart was in my throat and going absolutely crackers, and at least one of us let out that little desperate moan that you let out when you realise how much you've wanted something...

She was tall, and strong. She rowed. She was loud, and brash, and an incurable tomboy except when she wore "Come here often" teeshirts to parties, with the letters placed gratuitously over her adequate and perfectly shaped boobs. But beneath all that, she had a heart a million miles wide and she loved her friends with a single-minded conviction that made me feel grey and broken sometimes. She didn't often cry, but she felt safe enough to cry with me. Her hair was short and tightly-curled and her eyes were blue as the skies of heaven.

I can still remember the little "wow" she let out afterwards.

God, how I adored her. She could make the worst of my days better with a simple "Hello" and a smile.

But I was immature (shock, horror, quelle surprise) and looking for something she couldn't offer me. We lost touch. Last I heard, she was in Canada, with kids, and she was content. I hope she's had the life she deserved.

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