….pick up younger woman at a bar, what makes older men attractive to younger woman

[honeyandfur]

My attraction to older men is dependent on these things:

• He treats me like a grown woman (I'm into being dominated in the bedroom, not condescended during conversation)
• His eloquence (Is he well-read? Well-spoken? A confident communicator?)
• Open-mindedness (He's open to hearing new perspectives, is inquisitive, curious)
• Grooming! Does he take care of his skin? Hair? Does he make a similar effort that I do in self-care and personal hygiene?

Upon getting to know him further:

• Emotional intelligence (is he introspective? How does he cope with strong emotions?)
• And, of course, sexual experience, sexual compatibility, and sexual stamina.

Though that goes for men closer to my age, too

 

[stargame]

My attraction to older men is dependent on these things:

• He treats me like a grown woman (I'm into being dominated in the bedroom, not condescended during conversation)
• His eloquence (Is he well-read? Well-spoken? A confident communicator?)
• Open-mindedness (He's open to hearing new perspectives, is inquisitive, curious)
• Grooming! Does he take care of his skin? Hair? Does he make a similar effort that I do in self-care and personal hygiene?

Upon getting to know him further:

• Emotional intelligence (is he introspective? How does he cope with strong emotions?)
• And, of course, sexual experience, sexual compatibility, and sexual stamina.

Though that goes for men closer to my age, too

I love your style ️

 

[Badguy4u]

I love your style ️

I would think also a guy that shows an interest in learning about you and your interests.

 

[Pabiporffor]

The money thing is a myth generated by guys who can't get pussy. The truth is if a guy picks you up in a bar he's looking for a night of fun, not a relationship. Wealthy guys settle down with wealthy women.

An older man isn't looking for practice pussy. He already knows where the clitoris is and doesn't need to pop into the bathroom for a quick check on his phone. He goes down on you because he wants to and not as a recap of female anatomy.

An older man doesn't bounce around the bar from girl to girl regurgitating a pickup line he found on Google. You feel he wants you not just settling for you after a dozen rejections.

Going off with a guy you don't know is inherently risky. Older men carry an air of maturity that suggests you'll be safe and he's not going to pull some weird shit he's seen in porn. You feel you'll get treated with respect and not be just a cumdump to stroke his ego or have to deal with a childish strop. Young women fantasize about being made love to by a real man. That's someone comfortable in his own skin with an air of dominance and older. It's about being taken by a man who's in control of himself.

Young women are still transitioning into adult life. You're just being allowed into bars and permitted to buy alcoholic drinks. Shopkeepers don't give you that "whatcha doing in my store" look but you're still being pushed for ID. Sex is an adult thing to do, if an older guy in a bar approaches you it feels like you're being accepted into that adult world. Providing he's decent-looking, and isn't acting creepy or giving off serial killer vibes a girl can be tempted to think "Why not."

 

[Badguy4u]

The money thing is a myth generated by guys who can't get pussy. The truth is if a guy picks you up in a bar he's looking for a night of fun, not a relationship. Wealthy guys settle down with wealthy women.

An older man isn't looking for practice pussy. He already knows where the clitoris is and doesn't need to pop into the bathroom for a quick check on his phone. He goes down on you because he wants to and not as a recap of female anatomy.

An older man doesn't bounce around the bar from girl to girl regurgitating a pickup line he found on Google. You feel he wants you not just settling for you after a dozen rejections.

Going off with a guy you don't know is inherently risky. Older men carry an air of maturity that suggests you'll be safe and he's not going to pull some weird shit he's seen in porn. You feel you'll get treated with respect and not be just a cumdump to stroke his ego or have to deal with a childish strop. Young women fantasize about being made love to by a real man. That's someone comfortable in his own skin with an air of dominance and older. It's about being taken by a man who's in control of himself.

Young women are still transitioning into adult life. You're just being allowed into bars and permitted to buy alcoholic drinks. Shopkeepers don't give you that "whatcha doing in my store" look but you're still being pushed for ID. Sex is an adult thing to do, if an older guy in a bar approaches you it feels like you're being accepted into that adult world. Providing he's decent-looking, and isn't acting creepy or giving off serial killer vibes a girl can be tempted to think "Why not."

Well said and appreciated by an older guy

 

[cowboyup6977]

$$$$$$

 

[Mike130]

The money thing is a myth generated by guys who can't get pussy. The truth is if a guy picks you up in a bar he's looking for a night of fun, not a relationship. Wealthy guys settle down with wealthy women.

An older man isn't looking for practice pussy. He already knows where the clitoris is and doesn't need to pop into the bathroom for a quick check on his phone. He goes down on you because he wants to and not as a recap of female anatomy.

An older man doesn't bounce around the bar from girl to girl regurgitating a pickup line he found on Google. You feel he wants you not just settling for you after a dozen rejections.

Going off with a guy you don't know is inherently risky. Older men carry an air of maturity that suggests you'll be safe and he's not going to pull some weird shit he's seen in porn. You feel you'll get treated with respect and not be just a cumdump to stroke his ego or have to deal with a childish strop. Young women fantasize about being made love to by a real man. That's someone comfortable in his own skin with an air of dominance and older. It's about being taken by a man who's in control of himself.

Young women are still transitioning into adult life. You're just being allowed into bars and permitted to buy alcoholic drinks. Shopkeepers don't give you that "whatcha doing in my store" look but you're still being pushed for ID. Sex is an adult thing to do, if an older guy in a bar approaches you it feels like you're being accepted into that adult world. Providing he's decent-looking, and isn't acting creepy or giving off serial killer vibes a girl can be tempted to think "Why not."

Interesting take on the situation. As an older guy myself, I never really saw it that way. Thought the younger girls were just looking for young guys with 6 pack abs. But those guys are probably more into themselves. As a guy gets older, it becomes more about the woman’s orgasm than his own, at least that’s what it’s about with my relationship with my wife. I get satisfaction when she’s satisfied.

 

[Teo1984]

Hi!
I've always had a thing for older men (neither daddy issues or gold digger vibes either as someone stated) and been picked up by older guys a fair bit through the years. When I was younger (like 20) I assumed the 40 year old man was just the pinnacle... I'm 40 now myself and find myself drawn to men a lot older.

As for the pick up... confidence is key, not cockiness just a quiet understated confidence. You have been around the block, you know how everything works, you are experienced and expert... for initial conversation I'd start light, buy a drink, ask her questions about her life, touch her - but not in a creepy way, just let your leg touch hers or touch her arm as you laugh at something she says. Touch is a great way to test if there is a spark! If you are getting good vibes then push a little further, tell her she smells great, tell her she's beautiful...

A lot of women love a silver fox!

You're 100% right

 

[JBoy1952]

Hi!
I've always had a thing for older men (neither daddy issues or gold digger vibes either as someone stated) and been picked up by older guys a fair bit through the years. When I was younger (like 20) I assumed the 40 year old man was just the pinnacle... I'm 40 now myself and find myself drawn to men a lot older.

As for the pick up... confidence is key, not cockiness just a quiet understated confidence. You have been around the block, you know how everything works, you are experienced and expert... for initial conversation I'd start light, buy a drink, ask her questions about her life, touch her - but not in a creepy way, just let your leg touch hers or touch her arm as you laugh at something she says. Touch is a great way to test if there is a spark! If you are getting good vibes then push a little further, tell her she smells great, tell her she's beautiful...

A lot of women love a silver fox!

Hmmmmm....it's amazing how good memories from the past become invoked by others. I really wasn't having any pick-up thoughts one karaoke night of nearly 10 years ago. I was 62 at the time, and ended up going home with a mid-thirties woman, whereby meeting was prompted after I sang one of my signature karaoke songs at her. It turned her on to me!

 

[JBoy1952]

Hi!
I've always had a thing for older men (neither daddy issues or gold digger vibes either as someone stated) and been picked up by older guys a fair bit through the years. When I was younger (like 20) I assumed the 40 year old man was just the pinnacle... I'm 40 now myself and find myself drawn to men a lot older.

As for the pick up... confidence is key, not cockiness just a quiet understated confidence. You have been around the block, you know how everything works, you are experienced and expert... for initial conversation I'd start light, buy a drink, ask her questions about her life, touch her - but not in a creepy way, just let your leg touch hers or touch her arm as you laugh at something she says. Touch is a great way to test if there is a spark! If you are getting good vibes then push a little further, tell her she smells great, tell her she's beautiful...

A lot of women love a silver fox!

BTW.....I commend you on excellent advice to any guy on the hunt---regardless of age difference.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Right on. Like the old song said: There ain't no romance without finance.

That's BS, partly. Sure there are girls who follow the money but thre are plenty enough of us who are attracted to the other assets older men have.

The thing that really does it for me? Confidence (not arrogance). Younger guys are all about the ego. If in your head you know that you've spent 40 odd years practicing your bedroom skills to enable you to give me the best night of my life, that's hot.

Oh and don't dress like a slob.