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[midwestyankee]

I have some of the same questions, I know some people can be brought into a role, dominant or submissive, but I've always been curious to those that "taught" the roles to their partners.

What does the group think, would it be harder to get some one to be a real dominant or someone to be truly submissive?

To be honest, this seems a little bit like asking which is longer: a piece of fishing line or the uncut version of Inna Gadda Davida. We all live along a continuum of preference for dominant or submissive behavior, so theoretically it's possible for two people to live equally far from one or the other end of the continuum. In that case, it would be equally easy or difficult to get both of them to move a certain distance toward one end of the continuum or the other. But we're all individuals and this - our place on the continuum at the moment - is only one of them.

It's an unanswerable question unless you're asking about two specific people under very specific conditions. Any other answer will be determined by our biases and suspicions about what it means to be a real dominant or truly submissive, to use your terms.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Slow, sensual... strapon! Really nicely done.
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5842f5c25de96

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hey, dropping in I love new digs. Hopefully this turns into a good place, we need more of them.

Seems like a good time to drop in and say hello. I usually find these little havens sooner than this so I apologize for the late arrival. Conversation is always good, and the kinky sortbis always better. Cheers!

Welcome, fellas!

 

[bluekitty69]

Giveing up on the search...

Hi all just saying hi...Im kinda discourage in looking for a D/s relationship, I know its not easy for many people in that search, but Im feeling its impossible for me , and I think I'll just drop it and hope to meet a nice vanilla guy and live with out my need for a kinky and submissive man.
Been burned to often and cried to many tears, its not worth it at this point, sorry for being a downer must be that time of year, thanks for listening...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

bluekitty

I think most of us have been there. 'Fuck it, i quit!'

I've unsubscribed from several threads that seemed to trigger my feelings of loss and hopelessness. I think it's good to take a break and focus in other directions and allow your heart room to recover.

 

[KamaKamaSutra]

Hi all just saying hi...Im kinda discourage in looking for a D/s relationship, I know its not easy for many people in that search, but Im feeling its impossible for me , and I think I'll just drop it and hope to meet a nice vanilla guy and live with out my need for a kinky and submissive man.
Been burned to often and cried to many tears, its not worth it at this point, sorry for being a downer must be that time of year, thanks for listening...

I'm sorry hon, online D/s anything can be difficult. Finding a true submissive can be difficult in life also. But don't give up, if you try to live without something that is important to you, you will find that your always missing it. From experience trust me, it just eats at the foundation of a relationship.

 

[bluekitty69]

Thanks all, Im just feeling my age and the new year in a few days does'ent help, it's just taken me so long to get to the point I could name what I was looking for, and yes I know being in a non D/s relationship would be unsatisfactory, but its familiar and feels safe, ( and I know any relationship does'ent come with a guarantee).
Im not usually a pessimist, but I had my confidence rattled, and I'm trying to avoid my usual go to fix of food!
I'm just glad to have people on lit who understand, and I dont have to pretend...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

To some capacity or another; I get there every year.

That would make sense, that it's cyclical.

 

[diaperedtiffany]

Dropping by to say hello.

 

[bluekitty69]

Hi tiff! Hope you have a good New Year!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Happy Holidays everyone!

 

[midwestyankee]

Time to open Chapter 2019. I've got nothing, but I'm sure someone does.

 

[diaperedtiffany]

Hi tiff! Hope you have a good New Year!

Thank you very much! I wish you the same.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm looking for a story! LOL!!

I don't read randomly, so i know it was written by someone i've crossed paths with, i just can't remember who.

The story is about a young guy in an office setting who has a crush on the HR gal, i think. She's older, conservative, you know the drill. He doesn't show up to work one day and she tracks him down at this kink club, chained to his ex gf, who is very bad news.

Ring any bells, anyone?




Edit: nm, found it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

That sounds like an interesting story

It was. Is.

It's funny, being a switch, and being able to relate to some degree with both of the main characters.

Want a link?
https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=88876926&postcount=287

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Kinda hot, even in spite of not being able to relate to either character.

I guess sometimes being switch means you miss twice.

LOL!! Awww.

Nothing in the whole story pushed any of your buttons?

 

[KamaKamaSutra]

Its a fun read so far Honey

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Its a fun read so far Honey

Glad you're enjoying it.

 

[DominaLuna]

Ah, a starting place.
If I may ask a question. What are some resources you found insightful? I know what I like and what past partners have enjoyed but for a broader idea, what would you recommend?

 

[Stevew0073]

Ah, a starting place.
If I may ask a question. What are some resources you found insightful? I know what I like and what past partners have enjoyed but for a broader idea, what would you recommend?

I think it all depends on what you are looking for Ma’am. I think asking questions here or chatting with others has provided the most insightful information. There are how to chats and great stories as well that might provide inspiration.

 

[cookiecat]

Ah, a starting place.
If I may ask a question. What are some resources you found insightful? I know what I like and what past partners have enjoyed but for a broader idea, what would you recommend?

Fet Life is a good place for resources.

Here is a thread in the Talk section that might be helpful to look through

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1389900

Orrrr - you could start a thread of your own and ask? Could be interesting!!

 

[Helenavixen]

Fet Life is a good place for resources.

Here is a thread in the Talk section that might be helpful to look through

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1389900

Orrrr - you could start a thread of your own and ask? Could be interesting!!

I agree. Fetlife might have its issues but its a unlimited pot of information and resources.

 

[CuckVoyager]

Wow! Stumbled onto this thread. Gentle, sensual FemDom is totally my cup of tea. No one gets it and finding like minds is tough. I'm subscribing! lol

In my experience, women don't appreciate the men into this. We're mostly scene as whimps or weak. I'm actually a tough, strong, straight male. I don't want extremes like pegging or forced bi-sexual play. I simply prefer a sexually dominant woman that enjoys oral service and worship. I do enjoy what I soft 'cuckold' type play, in that I like seeing my lover pursue other males or be dominated by bulls or just enjoy bulls on occasion. For me, it's like watching the most amazing real-life adult porn film featuring my favorite female porn star! What's not to love?!

Anyway....hello all. lol

 

[whenagain]

Wow! Stumbled onto this thread. Gentle, sensual FemDom is totally my cup of tea. No one gets it and finding like minds is tough. I'm subscribing! lol

In my experience, women don't appreciate the men into this. We're mostly scene as whimps or weak. I'm actually a tough, strong, straight male. I don't want extremes like pegging or forced bi-sexual play. I simply prefer a sexually dominant woman that enjoys oral service and worship. I do enjoy what I soft 'cuckold' type play, in that I like seeing my lover pursue other males or be dominated by bulls or just enjoy bulls on occasion. For me, it's like watching the most amazing real-life adult porn film featuring my favorite female porn star! What's not to love?!

Anyway....hello all. lol

I think you’ll find there are more women into GFD than you would think. Also, you can be submissive and still strong, capable, etc. it doesn’t have to be a full binary.

 

[cookiecat]

Wow! Stumbled onto this thread. Gentle, sensual FemDom is totally my cup of tea. No one gets it and finding like minds is tough. I'm subscribing! lol

In my experience, women don't appreciate the men into this. We're mostly scene as whimps or weak. I'm actually a tough, strong, straight male. I don't want extremes like pegging or forced bi-sexual play. I simply prefer a sexually dominant woman that enjoys oral service and worship. I do enjoy what I soft 'cuckold' type play, in that I like seeing my lover pursue other males or be dominated by bulls or just enjoy bulls on occasion. For me, it's like watching the most amazing real-life adult porn film featuring my favorite female porn star! What's not to love?!

Anyway....hello all. lol

This was a good thread in the Talk section about men looking / acting dominant but are submissive - worth a read.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1499415


I will say I have a difficult time wrapping my head around watching a partner being fucked by someone else. Jealousy, maybe?? I think it's great you have that open mind outlook!

As to the idea women think submissive men are wimps - I think that's a stereotype in itself and untrue. That being said, doesn't the whole setup in the scene you describe, where you're called a "cuck" and the person fucking your wife is a "bull" - that plays in to that stereotype? I understand that's what it's called and some things need common terms. But geez. That just lends itself to a cuck being the sad, impotent player and the bull being the only one able to satisfy.