A Conversation of Need

[MzChrista]

Re: Re: Embarrassment

Of course I have a comment..did You ever have a doubt ? ~~~grin~~~

Once the submissive truly understands that the Dominant is not looking at their needs or kinks with judgement but with acceptance and delight the embarrassment seems to filter unnoticed into the recesses of yesterday.

When they have tasted encouragement..and felt approval they become braver and less self judgemental as well.

Damn Im glad you said that because I couldnt figure out the words to say it. Good deal, SD

 

[morninggirl5]

Re: Re: Embarrassment

Of course I have a comment..did You ever have a doubt ? ~~~grin~~~

Once the submissive truly understands that the Dominant is not looking at their needs or kinks with judgement but with acceptance and delight the embarrassment seems to filter unnoticed into the recesses of yesterday.

When they have tasted encouragement..and felt approval they become braver and less self judgemental as well.

Shadowsdream, that is so true for me. My experience is clouded by what's happened since then, but in that moment, there was no embarrassment. Once i realized that he accepted me as me, all of me, just as i was, there was nothing at all embarrassing or even uncomfortable about anything for me.

It was truly a wondrous moment.

 

[Desdemona]

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Shadowsdream, that is so true for me. My experience is clouded by what's happened since then, but in that moment, there was no embarrassment. Once i realized that he accepted me as me, all of me, just as i was, there was nothing at all embarrassing or even uncomfortable about anything for me.

It was truly a wondrous moment.

Its part of the magic. I, for one, plan on having it again and again.

 

[subtledecadence]

Toys NEED to be played with...they NEED to be controlled...they NEED to be disciplined...they NEED to be trained...they NEED to serve...they NEED to obey...they NEED to know when they have been good...they NEED to know when they have been bad...they NEED to be encouraged...they NEED to give up responsibility...they NEED to worship...they NEED to feel safe..they NEED to trust...they NEED honesty...


agree? disagree? opinions?

A new conversation begins!

I agree w/ everything You stated Shadowsdream!
I believe that I as a submissive NEED to be respected in my submission.
I NEED to know that when I am at His feet He is proud of who I am, of the fact that as He chose me, so did I too, choose Him.
I NEED to know that He is in tune w/ my feelings, emotional and physical.
I NEED Him to touch me with cruelty and kindness, for His own pleasure, through which I receive mine.
I NEED Him to KNOW that I am His, to take from me all that I am offering to Him, even those things I did not know I had to give.
I NEED Him to help guide me, with a firm hand, to the person I am scared to be... myself.
I NEED Him to mold me into the perfect *one* for Him, so that when He looks upon me, He also sees Himself, mirrored in my soul.
I NEED His disappointment when I am lacking, and His praise when I am not.
I NEED Him to take control. Knowing that when I let go He is still holding on.
I NEED... Him.

subtledecadence

 

[morninggirl5]

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Its part of the magic. I, for one, plan on having it again and again.

I'm there with you Des. I'm talking to new people.

 

[Desdemona]

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I'm there with you Des. I'm talking to new people.

Me too. We shall definitely have to compare notes in Atlanta.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Whoop, there it is..

I opened an embarrassment thread.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

This same mistake is often made by Dominants who do not see the lessons that can be learnt from the lips of a submissive of the sex they are not seeking to Dominate.

Off of the soap box arghhhhh!

That is very true. I am not bi or a male, but I find that I can learn from all flavors of Dom/mes, subs, and switches. We are all human beings aren't we?

Eb

 

[Shadowsdream]

Re: Re: Re: Embarrassment

Damn Im glad you said that because I couldnt figure out the words to say it. Good deal, SD

Thank You

MzChrista You often take the words right out of My mouth...perhaps this time I simply pushed send before You formulated Our response! ~~grin~~

 

[Shadowsdream]

Re: Re: Re: Embarrassment

Shadowsdream, that is so true for me. My experience is clouded by what's happened since then, but in that moment, there was no embarrassment. Once i realized that he accepted me as me, all of me, just as i was, there was nothing at all embarrassing or even uncomfortable about anything for me.

It was truly a wondrous moment.

Never let the clouds obscure your vision of what you have seen. you have tasted freedom and now you know another side or two of reality. you cannot lose if you remember what you have gained.

 

[Shadowsdream]

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Its part of the magic. I, for one, plan on having it again and again.

I like your style des....chutzpah..how in the hell do you spell that word anyways?

 

[Shadowsdream]

Re: Re: A Conversation of Need

I agree w/ everything You stated Shadowsdream!
I believe that I as a submissive NEED to be respected in my submission.
I NEED to know that when I am at His feet He is proud of who I am, of the fact that as He chose me, so did I too, choose Him.
I NEED to know that He is in tune w/ my feelings, emotional and physical.
I NEED Him to touch me with cruelty and kindness, for His own pleasure, through which I receive mine.
I NEED Him to KNOW that I am His, to take from me all that I am offering to Him, even those things I did not know I had to give.
I NEED Him to help guide me, with a firm hand, to the person I am scared to be... myself.
I NEED Him to mold me into the perfect *one* for Him, so that when He looks upon me, He also sees Himself, mirrored in my soul.
I NEED His disappointment when I am lacking, and His praise when I am not.
I NEED Him to take control. Knowing that when I let go He is still holding on.
I NEED... Him.

subtledecadence

your words belong on a web site for all to see it from the subs own heart and soul.
Beautifully articulated in a personal way. Thank you for sharing your reality.

 

[Desdemona]

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I like your style des....chutzpah..how in the hell do you spell that word anyways?

Thank you, Shadows. I like to think I've got a bit of that in me but I don't know how its spelled. LOL

 

[Shadowsdream]

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Thank you, Shadows. I like to think I've got a bit of that in me but I don't know how its spelled. LOL

Damn! I thought I had found a way around spell check...I even had a new name for it! *subbie check*

 

[Desdemona]

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Damn! I thought I had found a way around spell check...I even had a new name for it! *subbie check*

ROTFL

 

[CarolineOh]

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Never let the clouds obscure your vision of what you have seen. you have tasted freedom and now you know another side or two of reality. you cannot lose if you remember what you have gained.

I just wanted to emphasize these wonderful, eloquent words. Shadowsdream, you both guide and inspire. Thank you for your presence here.

 

[Shadowsdream]

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I just wanted to emphasize these wonderful, eloquent words. Shadowsdream, you both guide and inspire. Thank you for your presence here.

I must admit in all honesty Caroline I receive much more than I give here in Lit. Each of you who share your conversations with Me are a constant source of inspiration. The pleasure is all Mine in fact!

 

[CarolineOh]

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I must admit in all honesty Caroline I receive much more than I give here in Lit. Each of you who share your conversations with Me are a constant source of inspiration. The pleasure is all Mine in fact!

I believe that most of us feel the same way. This forum certainly exceeds the sum of it's individual parts.

 

[Shadowsdream]

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I believe that most of us feel the same way. This forum certainly exceeds the sum of it's individual parts.

A fortunate bunch W/we are no doubt!

 

[morninggirl5]

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Never let the clouds obscure your vision of what you have seen. you have tasted freedom and now you know another side or two of reality. you cannot lose if you remember what you have gained.

I'm working very hard to focus on the positives. Thank you for all your encouragement.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Bump? An oldie, but good thread...a little reminiscent...and by a lady I do believe is one of the few who has more experience and knowledge than most, with a whole lot of class to boot. Hope she drops by again at some point at least.

Catalina

 

[madetotakeit]

Excellent choice to bump Catalina...

These entries particularly stood out for me.

Toys NEED to be played with...they NEED to be controlled...they NEED to be disciplined...they NEED to be trained...they NEED to serve...they NEED to obey...they NEED to know when they have been good...they NEED to know when they have been bad...they NEED to be encouraged...they NEED to give up responsibility...they NEED to worship...they NEED to feel safe..they NEED to trust...they NEED honesty...

Perfectly said. These are many of the things I need.

I would rather have a hard and hurtful Truth then to be told platitudes or lies...and i cant handle hearing "I don't want to tell you because it would hurt you." hearing that is what hurts the most, because it seems to tell me that i am not strong enough to handle comunication, or that i am not important enough to deserve it.

I have heard that phrase before and had the exact same reaction. It undermines any assumption that what came before contained any honesty.

Once the submissive truly understands that the Dominant is not looking at their needs or kinks with judgement but with acceptance and delight the embarrassment seems to filter unnoticed into the recesses of yesterday.

When they have tasted encouragement..and felt approval they become braver and less self judgemental as well.

So much about our experiences are about accepting ourself. That is easier to do when you look into the eyes of someone who accepts you as you are.

I believe that I as a submissive NEED to be respected in my submission.
I NEED to know that when I am at His feet He is proud of who I am, of the fact that as He chose me, so did I too, choose Him.
I NEED to know that He is in tune w/ my feelings, emotional and physical.
I NEED Him to touch me with cruelty and kindness, for His own pleasure, through which I receive mine.
I NEED Him to KNOW that I am His, to take from me all that I am offering to Him, even those things I did not know I had to give.
I NEED Him to help guide me, with a firm hand, to the person I am scared to be... myself.
I NEED Him to mold me into the perfect *one* for Him, so that when He looks upon me, He also sees Himself, mirrored in my soul.
I NEED His disappointment when I am lacking, and His praise when I am not.
I NEED Him to take control. Knowing that when I let go He is still holding on.
I NEED... Him.

I have no doubts that "Him" is out there for me. I have patience and I have faith. I know at times I will have to remind myself of this, but I am a firm believer that only things worth having are worth waiting for.

For me, need means that something is necessary for life. I may physically live and exist without having those needs met, but my soul withers and dies.

This sums things up quite accurately.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

This need is the plasma running though My veins... This need to Dominate...

 

[Homburg]

Too many people confuse "need" with "want badly". And it is never more endemic than in matters sexual.

I'm not at all disagreeing with the sentiment of the thread, but just pointing out that "need" is a powerful word, and "want" is often far more accurate.

And, no, this is not a comment on, or reply to, anyone that has posted on this thread.

 

[Netzach]

Too many people confuse "need" with "want badly". And it is never more endemic than in matters sexual.

I'm not at all disagreeing with the sentiment of the thread, but just pointing out that "need" is a powerful word, and "want" is often far more accurate.

And, no, this is not a comment on, or reply to, anyone that has posted on this thread.

I have to kind of concur. My *needs* are very vague in a lot of ways, and don't pertain much to the specifics of the power exchange. I need to be on top in my interpersonal romantic relationships. What shape that takes is fine-tuning.